Did you ever wonder what’s keep relation alive? Is that harmony, laughter, habit? Or this is something else, what makes your blood run faster?
Now here is the story how conflicts might make relation interesting, painful but also challenging.
Louisa was married but she had problems in her marriage. Her husband was too passive, too sensitive and he liked to judge her accord her past, while she was promiscuous. Every time when they had conflict, he would mention her past, as kind of rock which disturbs on his feelings. “You had relation with this hooligan guy and i hardly digest it. ” Louisa felt as she has plague, and whatever she did in her life was not good enough to get admiration of her husband.
She met man on internet sites. Marco was different character than her husband. He was man who could control his feelings, strong, and promiscuous in his past, as she was before. She attracted him and he wanted to see her in reality. Louisa did not want to met with him, because it would be the end of her marriage.
She spent year in virtual contact with Marco. They had many hot talks, conflicts and meetings at video chat. Louisa was different from any woman Marco met before, and Marco was as whiskey shot to Louisa, she felt alive. She had that butterflies in her stomach, her heart beaten faster when she was talking with him. She felt as woman with him, because he was not so sensitive as her husband. He could call Marco idiot and moron, and next day they would smile together.
One day Louisa saw Marco on page of another woman. That woman was old and different than Louisa. She was traditional , quiet , as kind of classy granny who lost race with time. Helga was her name and she said in public that she is going to meet with Marco. She could be his mother accord her ages, she was at least 15 years older than Marco. Louisa noticed something, Marco spoke different with her. She had kind of respect, because Helga was widow.
In that moment all dreams about perfect lover crushed in Louisa’s mind. She had adrenaline with Marco, but she did not get his appreciation. Even he claimed that he is not interested for Helga, Louisa could not handle this fact, that Marco expressed public respect to another woman.
Meanwhile, Louisa’s husband woke up from his passive dream. He saw his wife is crying without reason many times, he saw her angry after using her smartphone, and he asked her what is happening. Louisa said him part of story. Also Louisa said goodbye to Marco. She got her butterflies, her adrenaline, her doze of passion. Just, Louisa was very proud woman, she could not handle that some old granny will take her spot.
Marco begged Louisa not to break contact with him. But for her, friendship was impossible the same as relation with Marco, cause he humiliated her.
Louisa focused on her husband, to solve problems at home. Still Marco lives in part of her mind, as bitter sweet memory.
What is the point of real love? If we have passion and respect on the same side, we have big chance to stay together very long time. If we ignore partner, he will ask happiness somewhere else. If we want someone, but we give respect around, not to our special person, that person will escape.
Louisa understood that monogamy is hard, but promiscuity is much worse. Cause you can’t never know when you will be replaced. Maybe you will get bored in monogamy, but you will be broken if you stand in someone’s line.
You can always make spice in your marriage with conflict, different attitude and kind of scene. Let’s act like kids. Let’s play games.
Just, when you lose something worthy cause of judgment, or weakness, that is too big defeat. Louisa got lesson on time.