In past times knights with swords were heroes, they fought for honor of fragile princesses while they were powerless , waiting for a help. Girl with golden hair, trapped in tower use her long hair for prince who climbed to save her. In such stories, beautiful women used strong weapon – their tears.
If you ask some women now days do they use tears, they will be ashamed to admit this. Crying is sign of weakness and if you cry all the time you will be considered as stupid woman, who need man to lean on him, because she can’t do nothing by herself. They forgot power of crying face, and all protection which they can use in their purposes.
Anita had big problems at work. She was teacher in high school and one of her students, Joe was problematic kid. One day she asked him to turn of his cell phone, and he called her bitchy woman. She lost nerves and slapped him in front of others. Another day, mother of this kid complaint to headmaster. He was older man and he invited Anita in his office. She developed good strategy. First she did not say nothing opposite, she admitted her mistake. Then, she started to talk about her sleepless night because she is single mother and her child is only 3 years old. She went through tough divorce . After this story she started to cry. Headmaster watched her red face and wet eyes, and he felt unpleasant. He offered her handkerchief . Also he gave her few free days until she collect her nerves. When she went back, she did not get punishment. Even opposite, headmaster had serious talk with Joe. He warned him to choose carefully his words.
If you think that tears are not useful in some situations, you are wrong.
They are kind of joker in the pocket. Men like to feel strong and powerful, so nothing is more desirable than fragile, sensitive and helpless woman. If that woman is pretty, her success is guaranteed. As in old times, when knights saved ladies from troubles. Give her hug and help her to get over through tough situation. If that woman is yelling and try to prove her rights, she is not helpless lady anymore. She is monster and men will look at her as equal competition, so she can be defeated.
Why we should not use for our purposes what nature gave to us?
It doesn’t make us weak, it makes us smarter. Save your energy and don’t yell, don’t smash plates if you can use tears to get what you wish. Show your pain without talking too much. Tears don’t lie.
Also, it is very important to pick moment when you can play with this joker. If you will cry all the time, people will think that you are sick or hysterical. Act with dignity, as princess from the castle. You can use fancy handkerchief and blink with your eyes. Heroes are ready.