First impression

 

This elegant lady stands in front of you. What do you think? She is pretentious, cocky, unavailable and if you are not rich you have no chance with her? I see sexy guy , every muscle on his body is tight, so what should i think, that he is playboy and his relations are only for one-two nights?

First impression is very important because it leaves mark. Words which person use at first meeting. Smile, grumpy face, sadness in eyes or firm squeeze when you handshake? How much we trust to our first impression and shall we judge people by first appearance?

Claudia was invited at job interview. She came in tight blouse and short skirt. Her hair was messy and lipstick was red as blood. For sure every brothel would accept her, but she did not get job as nurse. Nobody paid attention on her skills. It was enough that people see her appearance and judge very quick.



What has influence on our first impression?

Stereotypes. 


We expect something from particular person. Blonde sexy woman is stupid. Policeman is aggressive guy. Man in elegant suit is businessman.

Expectations. 


Our vision is created in our mind. We expect someone accord our standards. Today you talked with this guy at internet and you have your imagination about him.

Rumors


Others said what you should expect. Your sources gave you info about person. Accord that, you will have particular impression.

If we want to trust our first impression, we must free our mind from influences inside and outside. Let’s pretend that we don’t think nothing. This  man you will meet for few minutes. Then you will make your conclusions.

If you wish to lean on first impression, let your intuition leads you. What you feel when this person smile to you? Which attitude you have toward his grumpy face?

We can’t judge people by first impression. Sometimes, it will be really bad. We can fight at first moment because this woman has so irritating behavior. Later, maybe is possible to make friendship with her.

Conflict creates sparks. Who is arguing at first sight , there is connection. Why is so important that i should impress this guy and he is so arrogant toward me? Maybe i feel sparks in the air and he interested me. 

When you are going on date , you want to leave good impression. How is it possible?

Guy who wants to leave really good impression to girl will do the best of himself. 

Let’s make girl laugh. 

Tell her good joke, but not filthy or insulting. Something sophisticated can make her laugh.

Let she feels special. 

Use compliments, but with balance. Tell her that she is important, that you feel pleasant with her and you enjoy in her company.

Listen what she says to you. 

Look her into eyes, don’t look into floor. If she ask your opinion, tell her what you think. Don’t yawn and don’t stare around like she is not here.

Don’t look at your cell phone, watch or in TV screen when you sit in coffee bar.

That will say about you more you can imagine. 

Different situations will ask for an adjustment. You can leave great first impression at work, but also your first impression at date can be awful. Use various strategies for various events. Don’t pretend that you are someone you wish to be. Don’t fake it, because every lie will swim out with time. What you said or did first time is your basic stone. 

There is saying, that you can’t make first impression twice. So let it be the best you can.

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