Love is blind, as old proverb said. As much this sounds banal, it has sense. How many time you regret because this fatal hunk did not noticed you? How many times you were envious to lucky girl who got him? Rivarly is old as human species ,but it always has conflict with right on choice. Really, you might be Victoria secret model, winner of Nobel price or Paris Hilton, but if you are not in his heart, you just lose your time and act like masochist who is chasing impossible target. If you talk with your friends in coffee table about this topic, you will just find out simple truth : it takes two for love relation, and you can’t love for both if he has lack of feelings for you.
It is hard to understand this from your side, because heart speaks own truth, and maybe you got some signs that he indeed want you, but be careful, are those signs real or fake? Woman in love can’t see, for which area is she indeed chosen, for sex or relation? Men might fool women with lies as „you are perfect for me, rare diamond, not as other women“, but after hot night this diamond will stay in warehouse, because he only pleased to his wishes. Some women gain hope that this is only first stage, so they will even accept offer for sex but as intro in love story which will never happen.
Lydia fall in love in her neighbor Ted but he was narcissist. He never noticed her even she was pretty, smart and educated. She lost this game even Ted was dating with any kind of women, he was not so picky, he just wanted to increase number of women in his bed. Lydia was quiet because she knew inside of her that even if he asked her for a date, it will not last long. Ted got married with daughter of local entrepreneur.
Cynthia has choice between two guys, her high school sweetheart Ken, and guy from college, Henry. She chose Henry cause he gave her choice, he was not chasing her, even Ken was favorite candidate in her family. Henry gave her bigger freedom.
Rivarly is background for horrible stories, even crimes, because not everyone is able to understand that we can’t force love, and if you got NO answer all you can do is rise from the dust and ask for someone new. You can’t buy right of choice. The worst you can do is beg or threat to someone who rejected you. You will be marked as desperate lady, maniac or stalker if you don’t give up. Don’t play games, don’t gossip or try to set up to someone just to bring back your ex boyfriend. This is not solution, because it is not hard to reveal lies, and you will be bad guy in the end of his soap opera.
See some woman’s tricks to catch guy who is not into them:
Follow guy in social networks, create fake profiles just to talk with him.
Association with his friends, just to be in his circle, to dig useful info about him.
Try to get closer with his mom.
If you are business lady, a boss, you might copy Demi Moore in „Disclosure. „
Changing your outfit, in hope that he will notice your long legs or big boobs if you wear transparent shirt. Maybe you will be in his bed, but not in his heart on this way.
Make gossip about your competition. This is double game, cause your fatal potential boyfriend might reveal traps, and also your friend might leave you, cause you are person without ethic.
If you are blindly focused on guy who doesn’t give you single chance, you are in blind alley. This is elimination of every other man in your area, you can’t see them cause your heart is obstacle on this way. You are driver on road to hell, but if you move on right way, you might see road to paradise. Use your right on free choice, without fear that you will stay alone, because this fatal man doesn’t want you. In relation where just one side is in love, love doesn’t exist indeed. So here is no regrets for you, it doesn’t happen really, just in your fantasies.