It is not easy to fit in new community. Life will give us challenges and sometimes we will move in another place. Work in another city, university far away from home, your love will ask that you go to live with him on his place and so on. This is like you learn how to walk again. Forget all steps which you learnt during your old life. New environment, new people and new experiences are in front of you. Changes are in every area of your life and you feel as angry wasp, how to fly and avoid to smash your head into wall?
Matthew, Celia and Donna had something in common. They all cut their bonds with previous life. Matthew got job in another city. Celia got married and her husband asked her to live in another state with him. Donna started to study in university far away from her home. They were outsiders.
Matthew was real example of limpet. He started on aggressive way. At his office were people who knew each other for a long time. He sit on the same table in business restaurant during their lunch and started to chat with them about his work. They were chewing their meal, but Matthew could not stop to talk.
– I got bunch of files, and already i must go to meeting. That boss is an asshole. He call me even in my lunch pause. Do you hear my cell phone, i set up ringtone on Eminem song “Cleaning up my closet.”
He wanted to be funny, hilarious, but his office partners were not fascinated. Maybe they would have some opinion, but they did not have chance for conversation, because flood of words from Matthew’s mouth was endless. When Matthew’s boss had birthday, he was the first one who suggested to his colleagues to collect money for his gift. So they set him up, they bought gift and invited Matthew to bring this into his office. When boss opened box there were old shoes. Matthew was blushing , he was so embarrassed, but he could not explain how this shoes found place into gift box.
Celia was frighten rabbit. She move in another city with her husband accord his wishes. He was hiding into her flat and nobody heard for her. Short greetings with neighbors in elevator were her only way of communication. She rejected invitation from woman next door to drink morning coffee with her or to play bridge in the evening . Strangers were threat to her, how to associate with that strangers? Maybe they are thieves or killers, who knows. One day Celia was rushing and she swallowed too big piece of bread. She started to choke, her face was red and in that moment someone rung on her door. It was boring neighbor, she bought her cookies. She helped her because by accident, she was nurse. From that moment Celia never missed their coffee. She was grateful as never in her life.
Donna started to study international relations in another city. She was not pushy girl, but also she was not quiet or shy. Simply she was spontaneous. When she was sitting next handsome guy, she simply asked him to borrow her notes, because she missed lecture for a week. That handsome guy saw her innocent smile and her shinny eyes so they started to learn together in the library. Soon Donna expanded her circle of friends, everyone wanted to know that charming girl. She was full of life energy .
What will people think about us? Will they kick me out of circle?
I am social dead man. That are our biggest fears, especially when we change our life and move in another community. Maybe we were popular between our old friends, but what will new people say? Will they consider us as intruders, limpets, cowards or pests? Or they will simple ignore us, like we don’t exist? This book of change has many chapters. Their content depends of us.