The little child tries to walk alone, without help. First steps are painful, the result can be hurting knees and fall on the ground with tears. The child will not give up and this is the first risk in his or her life.
Life is created from risky situations. In this game, we must lean on ourselves. It is nice to have a safety belt or someone you call always in the case of trouble, but sometimes you will stay alone with your desires and wishes. If you can handle your task alone, you are independent.
Ruby wanted to see a new nightclub in her city but her friends were against it. They used to go to old places where all familiar people gathering every Saturday. She called all her girls, but one of them was sick, other had a date with boyfriend and third stayed at home to learn for the difficult exam. Ruby was in a dilemma, to stay at home or to go alone? She wanted to change and her wishes were stronger than her fear. She decided to go alone.
That night was awesome. First, it was little unpleasant, she came too early and take a beer. Men were staring because she was alone. Soon she joined a group of girls who were dancing near her, simply she asked for a cigarette. Girls liked her clothes, so they asked her where she bought a dress. So she started to talk with them and met new friends. Later, when that girl is gone, she noticed the handsome guy with a beer in his hand. They made eye contact and he invited her to his table. They exchanged numbers and next day he called her for a date. When Ruby talked with her friends, all were envious. First, they considered her as nut person who is walking around alone. Then they said that she really had guts. After they regret why they did not join her.
When you take a risk, you are into the unpredictable game. It depends on how you will play. You accept surprises and shocking events.
Here are some tips on how to deal with a risky situation:
Be ready for everything, and create plan B.
Don’t let fear rule over you. Fear is the biggest enemy.
If you face it with obstacles, take a breath and stay calm. Circumstances are not good, but this is temporary.
Don’t let others discourage you. Real friends will support you.
Even if you are nervous, smile and pretend that you are in good mood. Other’s should not see what is happening inside of you.
If you take a risk, sometimes you will get out a winner. Sometimes you will lose and learn something new. What is sure, if you never risk, you will never get progress. Rodney never learned to drive a car. Simply, his fear was too big and he gave up on this. He made his choice.
Fears and doubts are things which will block you inside.
Why you can’t continue?
Maybe you afraid. Do you have reason to afraid?
Fear has big eyes.
Which illusions are based on fear?
People will laugh to me and I will feel bad. So what, let them laugh. You can laugh to them because they are cowards.
I can’t do it. I was not born to do this. You don’t know until you try.
I will be embarrassed and others will talk about me. Maybe you will be clumsy, maybe you will do mistakes. But, every rumor has a short deadline. First people talk, then they forget. After this, you will feel only regret if you did not try.
I will lose the affection for my friends, family and my beloved partner. If they can’t support you, they don’t deserve you.
Once I saw a guy who decided to jump from bungee jumping. His friends clapped their hands, they supported him, but he gave up. They were disappointed, but not so much as he was. He disappointed himself.
When you risk, you jump without a parachute. Nothing is safe. You can lose, and you can feel furious. No matter the result, that feeling is not so bad as a feeling of regret.