It is first date and you want to hear good impression about yourself. Think before speak, and when you speak behave yourself. It is very different situation when you sit in front of person which you don’t know well. You can use profanity if you meet with your best friend because he got used to it. Well, if you say “hello hootie” to girl on first date, you will be labelled as jerk. In this case girl might feel cheap or as your number, and you sound as someone without manners.
Young guys are often not aware that girls are sensitive, and what sounds as joke could be bad echo in their ears, as mocking.
What she doesn’t want to hear?
– you look fat in this skirt
– these boots look cheap
– there is something in your breath, did you eat garlic for dinner?
– you remind me on my ex girl
– can you pay this bill, i have no enough money for tonight
Also, girls sometimes not understand that man is not their therapist, mother or shoulder for crying.
What he doesn’t want to hear?
– I have so painful period, i bleed so much.
– Do you like my makeup?
– What type of car you drive?
– My ex boyfriend is here, i feel so nervous.
– Do you think i am pretty?
This is story from real life.
Sandra and Darren went to date and he took her out of the city. This was small coffee bar with so loud folk music that she did not hear what he is talking. They waited for a waiter for a half hour and they were not alone, because Darren met his best friend with girlfriend so they shared table with them. That girl provoked Sandra that Darren is indeed womanizer and that he will not be faithful to her. She said she was joking, but Sandra felt very unpleasant.
Second date never happened.
If you wish to avoid date from nightmare:
– be alone with your partner
– don’t talk about ex
– try to choose quiet place
– focus on her or him
– don’t look at your cell phone every 10 minutes
– don’t stare in every good looking person around
You want to arrange second date, isn’t it? Think about things you said because first date can be the last if you do many mistakes.
Some people are flexible and they will forgive mistakes, but next time they will look at you with doubts. First impression doesn’t come twice and you can’t fix it. You might learn what you do wrong, so next partner will have more luck.