The key of happiness is in rejection. Protect your area and your circles. If we will let anybody to enter into our life, then we will have recycle bin.
Human nature is not delicious as sugar cake. People are of all kind, stalkers, pests, desperate losers, maniacs, fools. If we will be available for all, what is left for us? Good example is a person who will always let anyone to poke nose, who will do job for others without complaining. One day such person can sit on toilet and pee with cell phone in her hands, just to please to all wishes.
Probably you have boring neighbor who drinks coffee for hours and always have bunch of gossips for you. Or your phone rings all the time because your mad boss wants that you work overtime. Maybe your best friend again broke up with boyfriend and you must listen about her tragedy, version number 100.
Some situations when is necessary to say no:
Phone call in early morning. If is not emergency, you are not obligated to answer.
Phone call in late night. If your flat is not burning, probably is maniac.
Beggars who asks coins every time you pass in front of him.
Your colleague who asks to stay instead of him after work . If that is third time, say no.
Your ex who wish reunion with you. How many times he said he will change?
Your neighbor who want that you lend him vacuum cleaner, again.
If you have such attitude to say no, you will get attention of people which you want in your life. They will really feel special. Happiness is as virgin, i imagine happiness as innocent woman who save herself for someone special. On that way, she is aware of others.
Saying no to wrong people will be yes to right people. Also, if anyone screw his chance, send him to hell. Trust is a lottery, giving trust means benefits, and if person is not worthy of your trust, then is time to let go. Just don’t let fear from unknown stand on your way.You may live in safe harbor, but if you sail around, you will see much beautiful places. Do not afraid to lose sight of your safe coast, because in this way you will save your time.