Every relation is made of few phases. First, you burn from desire, but after that, you feel saturation, and it is time to take a pause. The heart can’t make 100 percent fire all the time, this is like a petrol, sometimes you need to refill it with a new flame.
Why we need turbulence in relations? As a passionate person, I will easier deal with conflict than with ignorance. Conflict is an open field, you say this, he says that you disagree but after anger pass, the conversation is possible again. With ignorance, you are never sure.
If a person ignores you and you don’t know the reason, you will pass on the experience of pending time. Why he ignores me? When will he stop ignoring me? When he will reply to my message and why he will not answer my call? You are for sure familiar with this questions.
When we are sure that person loves us, we will start to behave as we are on safe ground. Uncertainty is not an obstacle, as he loves us, he will be there for us, he will do everything for us. Just, why are you so sure? What happens then? Some women will act like that is boring. They will start to flirt around, make a million hobbies or even challenge conflict, just to turn back old flame into relation.
How this develops, it will show in this example.
Ken and Maria are 6 months in relation and they send each other messages because this is a relation to distance. They live far from each other. First, he was sending so many messages that she could not breathe. He had insight into every area of her life. She said him few times, don’t call me, I am busy with work. Also, she said to him, I will go out with friends, I have a life here in my city, don’t be sad if I can’t be online when you need me. Maria felt the big burden.
After 48 hours situation suddenly changed. Maria opened cell phone in morning and there was not the usual message “good morning” as she used to. She sent a message to Ken, but he did not reply to her, even he was online. She sent the second message for a half hour and did not get a reply either. Now she started to worry, maybe she was too bitchy when she said to him to be more independent. She did not get Ken’s messages 24 hours. Then she sent a message to him ” you are ignoring me, I will not run for you. ” He did not show any reaction. After this, he replied to her that he is busy with his work, that he has no time to write to her. Ken wanted to teach her lesson, not to take him for granted. Next days Maria felt that she appreciates him more. He took power back, and Maria started to melt. They even dealt with a meeting soon.
I would recommend both sides, don’t let partner drag you for the nose. Don’t wait for his calls and messages all the time, do something useful. If he will not call, don’t force him. If you did something wrong and he will not call, wait until he chills out. If you feel like a redundant person in his life, increase your value. Live your life. Be in the company of people who are thrilled with your messages and calls.
Some guys will test women how much they are firm. Is this woman hysterical, paranoid, calm or crazy? Will this woman check every his step?
I will not blame them. Indeed, when a person builds a wall, this is interesting. Who will jump over this wall? In this case, make your own rules. Why should you wait for someone who let you wait?
When women ask, should I call him if he did not call me, I will say no. If he wanted to call, he would call. Especially if this is the start of relation. In long relations and marriages, things are different. Sometimes you must call him to pay bills, to pick up kids, to cook dinner and invite guests, even you had an argument. Married couples are sometimes forced to talk, by circumstances. Yes, he was an ass yesterday, but today is last day to go to the bank and I must talk with him. Later we will continue to fight.
Pending time is magical when you wait for the statement of love. Does he love me? This is like in game from childhood, where little girl takes the flower and throw petals, and repeat: he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me…
Also, pending time is good foreplay for sex. You had this tense situation, and now is time for passion. Award for your waiting and end of the game.