The important step in private life is loss of virginity, this moment when boy become man, and girl become woman. This change brings various reactions, from fascination until regret. Girls were imagined their perfect man and boys expected big testosterone adventure. Movies and magazines fooled them with some fake visions how should it be.
Some reaction of girls i knew:
Vision number one:
“In my fantasy, my first lover was man who made me romantic dinner with slow music. We were dancing in room with fireplace. Then we went into bed and made love until morning.”
“That happened with guy i know for a 3 weeks. We were in his flat, he was with me about 10 minutes, i was bleeding and he went to sleep. He was hairy and i could not watch on his penis, it was too big, first i saw in my life, it was shock to me.”
Vision number two:
“I love him a long time ago and i wish that he is my first lover. I want drink expensive champaigne with him and later i want to show him my best underwear. I want that he say he loves me and look at deep into my eyes.”
“We were in his car, this was so small place, i hurted my back, and i did not know where i will put my legs. So uncomfortable. He said that he is in rush. It was painful, like someone put needle in me. He did not say he loves me.”
Young girl will have own perception about making love. Loss of virginity is something magic or saint for her. She will be real woman finally. Nobody can’t say later she is a little girl, because she made love with man. Girls will compete to catch handsome guy who will be the first, because he will stay in their memories. Some girls have long relations and then is naturally to make love with their boyfriends, after one year of relation. They are prepared on this big event. Others are not so careful, they want to be wild and to taste life. When girl can’t find appropriate guy, she will catch someone to do this cut into her femininity.
Guys have different way and loss of virginity is their initiation. The same as they want to break ice with fists, they will go brave into this unknown world. Later they can tell story about their first sexual experience.
What guys said?
“I was the first lover of my three girlfriends. I made it safe and practical.”
” I did it with older woman. He teached me everything i should know.”
” I made love first time with my friend. She was my school mate, so i practise with her.”
” During summer holidays i met fabulous stranger. She was from Germany. It was my first lady , my blonde woman, it was perfect.“
What indeed happened?
” I did not know when i need to cum.”
“I could not put condom, and i lost desire.”
” I don’t get it when she should have orgasm.”
” She said i am fast as rabbit.”
“She did not bleed. I am not sure is she really a virgin.“
Some stories are created with half truth and half lies. All this is part of experience, so with first sex you will learn also first tricks. Adult man will not have the same expectations, and adult woman will stop dreaming. Average girl will lose virginity in period of 16-21 years old. Boys will also lose their virginity in youth, as teenagers or younger.
What happens when person skip that period and stay virgin? Also, some are virgins with 35 or even 40 years old. When person is still innocent in that period, shame and fear is bigger. Possible partner can say :”What you did until now? Nobody wanted you?”
Some women are dissapointed with their ideas of innocence and virginity. They are not married so they think sex outside of marriage is a sin. Also, some are so selective so they think nobody deserve their body until he did not fit to their standards. They were waiting, and they are still waiting for right one. Later, when they get old, choice is so small that they left alone.
Men will try to solve their lack of experience by watching porno movies, masturbating on magazines, or visiting brothels. Some men will try cyber sex with unknown women on internet. They will collect their knowledge on different way, until real opportunity knocks on their door.
Virginity loss is not only physical act. This is not amateur surgery. You are step forward into your maturity. You shared something private with other person and give someone part of you. Person who never experienced this will miss important lesson. Woman from fairytale will never be equal to real woman, as man from erotic movie is not man from reality.