When I was a teenager, I had a friend from another city. She visited me in summer and we had the deal to go out to a nightclub for the weekend. When we met, she was wearing the short skirt and high heels, and I was in trousers. Soon, the bunch of kids starts to mock her, and one boy said to her: “You look like the whore.” She was shocked, me too, but it was the small city and people were poisoned with stereotypes and prejudices.
That kid had 13 years then, and for sure he heard such words from his mother or father. She did not have a good time even later, because men were offering her sex or drink in the club, so she was so disappointed. I did not want to be rude, but I said to her that problem is in her clothes. She simply has shown the wrong impression. Indeed, she was the good girl from the decent family, but she wanted to attract attention from one particular guy. He did not appear that night, but she got the bunch of unpleasant offers from other men.
When women fall in love, they think with heart or instincts, and often their strategy is not the right one. Even we live in modern world, where Pamela Anderson had the porn video for publicity, and Miley Cyrus has shown masturbation and tongue out, men will still give labels as “easy slut” or “whore” to some women.
Our behavior and our clothing will talk about us more than our speech. Recently I saw the drunk girl in the nightclub, and the man touched her in front of other people, he put her hand under her shirt, but she almost fainted. That is the cruel world, some men will use the opportunity for easy sex when they noticed some wrong signals.
What women should not do if they want to avoid public disgrace?
Don’t drink too much, because you will do things which you will not remember.
Recently, the British woman was raped in Croatia, by two guys. She was totally drunk and they used the opportunity.
Don’t walk alone in dark alley.
Don’t wear the short skirt and big decolletage if you don’t have male friends around you or boyfriend.
Don’t brag about the number of your sex partners. Every man will think, he is next.
I am far from conservative attitude, but some things will bury women in few moments. It doesn’t matter what someone thinks about you, or gossips you may hear around. What really matters is the expression of your values, what you will show to the world. You are not obligated to justify or to confess about your actions, but choose strategy wisely.
Also, if you want to capture attention from the special guy in the real world, don’t involve his best friend or brother. You will be public property.
Once, when you have the label, it is very hard to get rid of it. You walk around as a diseased person, and others are suspicious about who you really are.
Sometimes, men will see particular women as things on sale, which are available for everyone. All you need to do is to show your price.