Word goodbye is one of the hardest words. The end is always sad and painful, especially if this is final decision about love story. It will be harder if you are spinning in circle, and someone continuously break up with you, because he is too weak to cut off this bond forever.
How you would react on these situations?
1. You are fired from your work.
2. You got papers for divorce.
3. Your partner want to break up with you.
4. Your friend doesn’t want to hear for you anymore, because you did something unforgivable.
5. Your love is moving in another city or country, so this is goodbye by default.
Sometimes, life will be so bad that you will face it with loss of work and breakup in short time, as one misery doesn’t come alone. This sadness has tail, so when we are so fragile, we are targets for more bad news.
If you think about goodbye as new beginning, as relief, it will be easier.
What are possibilities?
Sometimes, goodbye is blessing. You lost old job? There is chance for new, which is better for you. You will earn more money.
You can set free yourself from poison. This guy made you cry all the time. You are constantly in the stage of coma. Do you want to be dead plant all the time?
Your bad lover is blocking the traffic to new chances. This guy doesn’t love you, but because of him you don’t see someone who is more appropriate for you.
You can’t progress. Maybe you felt comfortable in old situation, but you had emptiness. You were constantly hungry and your donor could not give you what you need. Now, you will progress, because he gone.
Wendy loved her boyfriend Jared, with all her heart. She loved even pain which he gave to her. He was cheating her, she was humiliated as woman and as a person. Accord his words, she was idiot, unable to clean house , to make good meal and to get dress on a way he wanted. In the same time, he did not see her real values. She was business woman and she was earning more than he. She was kind and loyal, even she warned Jared about his friends. She has right, Jared had few bad palls, who were here only when they needed money. Even Wendy was right, he did not want to admit this. One day Jared lost his job and he blamed Wendy, that she had bad influence on him, and that is her fault because he could not focus at work. The main problem was alcohol and hidden bottle under his bed. He was yelling that day on Wendy, they had conflict and he said “goodbye bitch. ” Wendy suffered so much, she was sick from pain. After few months, she got promotion at her work and she met new man at business journey.
Farewell is needle, kind of injection, which we all need from time to time. Today you are crying, but your tears will wash your eyes and heart. Also, your view will be more clear after this sadness gone. When storm vanish, sun is always here, and all looks more beautiful. The problem is, how you deal with storm and can you handle thunder and rain. Maybe you feel as shit in the moment, maybe you will freeze under this cold shower. The point is, don’t be unready for the next chapter.