Clean mind is half way to successful results. When you need to bring an important decision, your brain should be in chill out position, and your nerves should be calm. Unfortunately, mostly is not like that, so we have bunch of decisions which are made in state of anger, rage, wrath or even hate. Emotions are beautiful part of every human being, but just in a case when we control them or when we use them on right way. When you let your emotions to go wild, results will be unexpected and not as you wanted.
Feelings are as furious dogs. If you let them to rule over you, they will bite you.
So let’s see here what happens when emotions go wild.
Love. When you fall in love in wrong person, you give him power to do with you what he wants. He can manipulate with you because you have no strenght to say no.
Sadness. If you are in deep grief, you will not see people and events around you. Life will pass and you will stay frozen.
Anger. You can beat someone in state of anger and later you will regret, but you could not stop your fists to work faster than brain.
Self pity. You think that you are the most pathetic creature at this world, so you will let others to spit on you too, because it will make you bigger victim.
Condolence. If you feel sorry every person who cry or beg in front of you, you will not have time for yourself.
Guilt. You are hard toward yourself, so you think you deserve all bad things which happens to you, because that is act of karma, in past life you hurt someone so you must pay your debts.
I was many time witness that people who can control their feelings are more successful. For example, Mabel is the main bitch in her neighborhood. She has husband, two adult daughters, successful work and lover. Nobody will not say nothing ugly about Mabel, because she is cold blooded woman with plan. She is travelling because of her work, daughters are already independent, husband is not always at home, and young Paul is lover, in fact plummer who has a lot work to do in their family house. When Alice, woman next door got divorce from husband, she had many visitors, mostly men. Everybody talked about Alice as whore. Nobody pull trigger on Mabel, she is respectable member of this society, because she is silent as real whore, she has poker smile and nobody knows what she is thinking. Alice is noisy, without secrets, she trusts too much and she created many scenes around. Some of her lovers were married..oops. Alice got black eye in fight with angry wife, because of her lover Steven.
Human species is not fair group. Do you think people will love you if you are honest, fair and you play with open cards? You will be as rabbit in forest, and every hunter will shot you very easy.
Some people were born to play cold, others learnt with time, and some will never learn, but this is useful skill.
Let’s see other part of story, how will emotions work for you, when you push them in right direction.
Love. Don’t turn around when you cut off some connections.
Sadness. Wipe your tears and open eyes. Someone will give you hand.
Anger. Take a deep breath before you decide to do some actions.
Self pity. Forget this, you are not perfect, but neither others are masterpiece. You don’t want to be clown, isn’t it?
Condolence. No, you can’t help this beggar who is asking coins every day, you have smarter things to do.
Guilt. You hurt someone? Everyone hurts someone, intentionally or by accident. It happens, shut down this memory.
When you make decision, you can use this pattern. Remember that you don’t have obligations to play fair, you just want your piece of cake in this circus called life.