I am talkative person, but once when i get silent, i can be numb forever. With years i learnt about power of silence, especially in situation when someone hurts you. Before i thought that silent people are weak and fragile, and i underestimated silence as tool of cowards.
Recently one person hurt me. We were close friends, i gave him my trust, loyalty and confidence. He mixed this gifts with toys, and he acted like kids with borrowed dolls, he broke it. We had conflict , lot of insults were in the air, and it finished with silence from my side. I used silence and ignorance as my answer, because it would be endless conflict. Simply, i decided to finish this story with my poker face, while insults dropped as raindrops , i was standing and smiling in the storm of bullets.
I know i won and this is what i said in my silence:
I am busy with my success and i have no time for your frustrations.
I am busy with people who love me, and i don’t have time for people who hate me.
I burnt this bridge, why you still walk on remains?
I am on my throne so high that i can’t see you, so i can’t hear you very well too.
What i got with my silence?
Peace. I don’t think about his insults because i don’t interact with him anymore.
Freedom. I don’t think what he said, so it gives me space for valuable thoughts.
Smile. I know he can fall very low so i turn his insults into bad jokes.
I know this is not the end and he can appear somewhere to continue our conflict. In this case, i have bulletproof wall. It is better to hit knife in open target, than try to break the wall.
Person who can’t say magic words : i am sorry, thanks for being in my life, forgive me is not a gentleman.
This is just narcissist who asks for applause and audience who will obey to him. This is not matter anymore, because i learnt magic power of silence.