Even most compatible couples will have conflicts. Small fights and discussions are part of life, especially when you share your space with someone. Who can handle years of life in common without arguments? Every conflict is indeed testing for couples.
Small conflicts are constructive. You will say what is bothering you, he will say his opinion and you can meet it halfway. Also, it can make your relation spicy and more exciting. You are fighting, soon you will kiss and make love with him. Sounds like in the romantic movie.
What are most often subjects of conflicts between couples?
His or her parents. You can’t stand his annoying mother, she brings lunch every time she visits you like you don’t have an idea about cooking. Last time, when she went, you throw her meal into the garbage. He can’t stand your bossy father, this man knows the best about everything, from football until how to paint the wall.
Sex. You have a headache, he is horny. He is busy, and you want to make love. How to find a common language between sheets?
Housework. Who will wash dishes, and who will make lunch? Why your man is so untidy, that you jump over his socks and shirts which are on the floor? Why your woman use the bathroom as space for her makeover? When will she cook something tasty?
Friends. You don’t like her best friend. That woman is barking like a dog. She comes to drink a cup of coffee and you must watch and listen her gossips whole afternoon. You don’t like his pals too. His friends are drinking buddies, they will drag your husband into striptease club and he will back drunk.
Television. Oh, why he must watch this Hustler every time? Why is she hanging on 24 Kitchen? And that stupid programs about baseball and handball? Who is watching this anyway? He can’t stand Oprah.
Kids. If you have children, you will argue about their behavior and education. Who knows the best? You think you must be gentle and soft with children. He thinks that paddle comes out from paradise. Why not yell at your daughter? She needs to learn about respect.
Money. If you both earn money, you will pay your bills together. If you don’t have a job, you are into problems. Every partner will complain after some time. What, I will work for you and your expenses? No way. I paid this phone bill, to whom are you talking so much? Did you call the hotline? I know you called your auntie in Australia. I will not work for your barking on the phone.
Love relation is a big complex, and a lot of things must work out to be successful. This is like an orchestra. All instruments must sound good. If not, you will have incredible noise, and you will get out. You live with your love, and you can’t work on your own. No, you are not alone when you make decisions. Ask your partner for opinion and make a deal. That will be the beautiful melody, you created this together.