Women like to say : i am different, i am difficult, i am hard. This might sound as they want to justify their position when something happens to some other women. “It could not happen to me. I would never do that. ” We are able to judge each other cause it is in our nature.
If everyone is different, then we are all again the same. I would say that everyone can be easy target in some life situations. Sometimes you can’t help to yourself, when you expose your weakness.
Imagine situation. You are hard target when you are cold toward guys which are not your type. That guy is for you ugly, boring, you simply don’t want him and it is very easy to be unavailable toward him. Well, if man attracts you, it is not easy to pretend that you don’t want him, it is not easy to control your feelings, even you smell trouble. That is why we will make same mistakes, even we know how story will finish.
When woman is hard target?
If she is not in mood for relation, not in such phase, because she got over hard breakup or she is busy with her job or personal problems.
If she really doesn’t like guy.
If she wants someone else who doesn’t want her.
If her nature is calculated. Simply, she doesn’t want to waste time on temporary adventures or random flirts.
What is with other women, who are emotional, spontaneous, passionate by nature? Are they easy targets or just not cautious as they should be?
Should we judge them if they fail in relations? Should we give them advices ?
I think every woman has her crush and burn period in life. If she learn this , she will watch out and she will not look at men with same eyes. Also, if you are person who likes risk, bigger are chances that you will burn your fingers.
I had friend who lived in golden cage. Her first boyfriend was her neighbor, other boyfriend was also neighbor and she got married for him. She never tasted adventures, because she was afraid of risk . She was saved on some way, but on other way she was limited because at her point she was always judging women who lived different.
It is easy to be closed in golden cage when you know nobody can enter. Nobody can hurt you, but nobody can surprise you either.
When woman says, i am different, i would not sit in his car, i would not show my face on internet, i would not talk with such guy, she is judging others on a way like they are childish or stupid. Like she discovered America, but indeed she build wall. Walls are not so resistant and one day one man can swap her on ground.
When you build bridge, when you open your heart, you are open target. You are not different from others , not easy to get, you are just ready to risk. This is only difference between women who live safely and those who live in troubles.
Curiosity killed the cat, as old proverb said, so you can only learn from your troubles. One day , when you get old, maybe you would regret because you did not live more. Or maybe you will be proud because you expose yourself.
My ex office mate once said : “Why to afraid to talk about sex? When i was young, i got laid in beach and everywhere. So, why to regret?”