If you are the one of women who likes younger men, you like challenges. People might stigmatize you as seductress or cougar , because you are going against wind of society. Recently i watched Facebook profile of Croatian model Vlaho Arbulić, who put photos with his girlfriend Tatjana Dragovic. She was married for famous tennis player Goran Ivanišević, and now she is in relation with handsome model Vlaho, who is much younger than she. One woman wrote nasty note under photo : “Young guy and old granny, it doesn’t fit together.”
I wonder, if this was opposite, if man had 50, and woman had 30, would people comment at the same way? Probably, women would say that he is mature man , financial independent and still able to have family, and she is woman who fits accord standards. Once, i heard so called advice from older man, who said to me : “man must be at least 10 years older than woman, because men grow up slow. ” I am the one of women who likes younger men, and all my ex boyfriends were younger, as my husband is also younger than me. So i heard a lot of comments, even one diagnostic sentence as “something is not alright with your personality”. Everything this made me smile, because love picks randomly, and when personalities fit together, there is no moral majority which might stop this.
If you are woman who likes younger men, your obstacles will be next:
His mother might not like you.
His friends could make nasty comments, as “are you teaching him sex?”
Your female friends could be envious or mock you, if their attitude is traditional.
Younger competition is dangerous, so watch out younger girls who try to catch your man. They will be cruel and say ” you are too old for him, are you his mother maybe?”
You can back off if you are insecure, or you can use your advantages.
You have experience and it makes you interesting for young guy. He will be proud cause he caught woman who still looks sexy . She is not obsessed by her look as some young girls and she can wear it with style.
You know how to pick clothes and makeup. You will not do teenage mistakes in choice of too short skirts, copy others because that is trendy, or to put lipstick which reminds on clown who came into your city.
You have diplomatic skills. You know how to talk with his mother, as woman with woman. Young girls often don’t know how to respect boyfriend’s mother. You can’t tell him that his mother is a witch.
You are financial independent . It means, he will not have problems to travel with you in other country , because you can share travel expenses. If you were 18, you would expect that man must pay you all. Be honest, men are not so fascinated to spend their money on girl who can’t give nothing for return.
You have job and there is no need to call him every moment or to check him.
In this situation, women will face it with moment when they wish to marry. What if he is not ready because he thinks he is too young? Shall you wait for him?
Until you wait decision about marriage, think about next:
Don’t pressure him, it will make you desperate.
Say what you expect from him.
Don’t blackmail him, that you will find someone else. Instead of this, say that is all up to him and that you will respect his decision.
Let’s enter into mind of young man. He wish experience, his life is spinning in front of his eyes when he realize that he must settle down. That is double cross. He must take time, and think, what is more important for him? Bunch of young women who wait to take them into bed, or one special woman , in which he falls in love? Once when he miss that special woman, he could replace her with many others, but maybe he would regret. That is similar as shopping, you see that expensive purse and you wish to see others, but meanwhile someone bought your expensive purse and you can’t find it anymore.
The important is, young man must enter into marriage with clean head and firm attitude. Don’t let others to tell you what to do. For example, Max had many comments about Lana, older girlfriend of his friend Kyle. He said: “You will marry with her, could not you find younger?” When Max found girlfriend, she was younger, but uneducated and not so pretty. Kyle was too decent to comment , but grateful to see his wife, who had successful career and sexy appearance.
When people see something different, they comment from envy and jealousy. Grey person is never interesting, but all will notice something unusual. If you look behind lines, you can almost read: “Oh why her, but not me? She is my ages, and her husband is younger, and mine is older and fat. Lucky bitch. ”