Some positive thoughts for my followers

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I wish to all my followers happy Friday.

Here I share some of my positive, inspirational thoughts which helps me in hard moments:

If you wish to survive, you will not afraid of challenge.

The biggest risk is to do nothing.

Don’t call past, there is nothing new to hear.

People who criticize you are kind of injections. Take this needle as motivation for your progress.

Don’t underestimate yourself, that is not your job. Others will try to sabotage you anyway.

Haters are just your followers from other side of mirror.

Never lose your sense for humor. Jokes might help you to survive the day.

 

For the end, this is me. My virtual friend spelled my name wrong, I am Kristina. He made this photo as sign of friendship, but he forgot to  spell it right.

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Fairy tale about drunk lady

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In ancient fairy tale Cinderella is sober girl who came to dance with king,  dressed as queen.  When midnight come, she will lost shoe . As it is predictable, king will try to find awesome girl who lost shoe because she captured his heart. Good girls never get drunk, as moralists say, so she left this place with sober mind.

Nowadays Cinderellas would like to capture man’s heart, but it takes courage and liquor could help to kill shame and to make them braver. Let’s approach him drunk, all chains will fall.

Being woman has an advantage. When my friend celebrated birthday in night club, he was undressed. During party he did striptease on half way, so i broke glass, in the moment of excitement. Really it was nice to see all that pieces of glass on the floor, and i was nervous because of crowd. Other drunk people didn’t want to move from my way, so i broke glass. Bodyguard saw my friend and warned him to wear the shirt. He did not say nothing to me, even i smashed glass. I had only innocent smile and confused face.

 

 

Reasons for being drunk are various:
More self confidence, 

more sex appeal, 

more courage to do things you would not 

or you even dance better with influence of liquor.

 

As in story about Cinderella, when midnight gone, she is again poor ordinary girl. And all that glamorous things went away, just vanish in front of her eyes. And what if she get drunk in this fairy tale? Prince would get sex before marriage and she would be declared as easy girl. It would be story for adult, not for kids without life experiences.

 

The only reminder on previous drunk night is headache. Oh yes terrible headache, and toilet is the best friend. You will only recognize bottle of water near bed, because you will be very thirsty after alcohol kills all vitamins.

 

You will make just one promise “Do not do it again.” Now guy is not important. What is important where is your money, why your clothes is full of stains and did you maybe fall somewhere because you have scratches. If tomorrow is your working day, you will need bunch of coffee to stay awake.

When she is the master of bedroom

 

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Some men still believe that this is man’s world. How does it look like? Women should not work, her place is in the kitchen, she must be virgin or have one partner for a lifetime. This woman is a lady, with pure soul and worthy to be a wife.

 

It is hard to handle that woman can earn money, but it is more harder to handle that woman can use man only for sex and change partners.  This is against nature, as hens are slaves of cock, he can’t be their slave.

Yes, women move the limits. Famous model Carla Bruni confessed that she was promiscuous and that she doesn’t believe in monogamy. She is leader , alpha woman and she needed man who will understand her and support her no matter what she was.

You want to move limits too, to be Super girl in this men world?

Be careful , you can stand on bomb.

What will happen if ordinary woman says that she used man for one night stand?

she can be subject of big gossip

– man can blackmail her with video or naked photos, if she shared this with him

– other women will judge her too, she is not “lady”

– she will be considered as slut

– she can lose job and good reputation

Standards for women and men are not the same. Men will be popular after he had sex with many women, after he broke hearts around. Woman will be dangerous seductress and even men can consider her as potential lesbian, as kind of woman who indeed hates men.

Women also want to enjoy in life on different ways. Sometimes, we will do mistakes, as choose wrong guy for comfort, to forget other guy who hurt us. In this situation we can find “personal bitch” , even this is against ethic and this is indeed cruel. If woman is honest about what she want, man must respect this. It can’t be shock. Real guy can handle this if he is strong enough.
I think this is a test for real man. If man can accept that woman want only sex, if they made a deal, he should respect this without sharing their dirty secrets with others. This is between them, not for publicity. Only spoiled brat and egomaniac will cry and try to make revenge after woman used him.

Mature man will act like nothing happened, after this they can even drink a coffee together, because they had enjoyment and pleasure. Even this was short and sweet, but this should be a good memory.Man who can’t handle one night stand will also have problems with relations. Rejections are part of life too, and if you accept early that you can’t get all what you want, you will be happier.

This woman was your gift, she was your dominatrix in high heels, and you cannot be her brat, you are her equal partner. She maybe stole your soul, but you got life lesson.

How to recognize drama queen?

 

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Life will punish us with bad experiences on one way or another, but our reactions are not the same. Some of us will keep problems inside, suffer quietly and nobody will know about this. Others will yell and notify world about their “tragedies”, as it is event number one.
If your better half is drama queen, you are victim of emotional flood and every word you say can be understand on wrong way.
“Why you look at me like that? My haircut is bad? Oh i know i look fat in this trousers. But you should tell me this into face. “
 
Clint was in relation with Sandra and he was walking on the ice all the time. Few times she embarrassed him in publicity because she could not hide her moods. She was witch with broomstick and her friend circle was very small.
Drama queen is usually woman, but also some guys are very good in that.  It happens especially if there is connection with their career and promotion. Gordon got new job and his boss was harsh with him first few days. He complaint to Union after few weeks, even he was new in that workplace. He left very bad impression on others, because it was something what people remember. This drama king could not stay quiet even when he changed job.
Internet is great place for drama queens. See what happens when someone is angry and wish to delete page.
“I am sad. Someone piss me off so badly. Sorry people i am going. Forever. Go to hell.”
After this, the same person opens fake page or watch around for reactions. This kind of person wish to die, but also she wants to be notified who will come at her funeral. Wow, so much people. What, nobody care? Bastards and idiots never cared for me.
Drama queen could be easy recognized in 5 characteristics.
Immature person who cries for everything. Bad mark at school, bad day, broken nail.
 
She likes to gossip, because there is seed of possible drama.
 
She is never quiet. If she doesn’t cry, she laughs loudly.
 
If she has boyfriend, everyone knows about this in next 24 hours.
 
She is author of haunt stories. She lives life with full lungs, but also she imagine things and exaggerate with details.
Drama queen never heard for balance. So if you wish to get rid of her, don’t show any reactions. This movie you don’t want to see, and she needs audience.

When you are not his first choice

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Cupid arrows are cruel tools. They will hit us straight into the heart and we will expect to get love back. What happens when sparks come just from one side?

World is full of wrong choices and discarded people. It happens even to the best. It is wrong thinking that you will be rejected because you are ugly, poor, not educated and not so smart. You can be the shiniest star, but still you can suffer because of wrong choice.

Usually, when women reject their fans, they do it gentle. We have fragile heart and we will feel sorry for a guy, but we will say decently “you are not what i need.” Only if guy is really violent and pushy, we will reject him on harsh way, because sometimes kindness is not enough to stop some people.

Men are different. Some men are indeed gentlemen and they will deny women with smile and words “sorry you are wonderful, but i am not interested.”. But, in men nature is that they don’t like too long explanations. Men will act short, with few words. “No, this girl is not for me, i am not into her.”

Problem exist when man is indeed unpleasant and vulgar. Such men don’t respect even own mother. Primitive men will reject women with vulgar words, but that will talk a lot about them, not about rejected women. This is example when guy will spit on love letter he got from some girl, when he will laugh on her poem which was made for him, and also when he will show her photos to his friends  and make bad jokes about them.

You fall in love in wrong guy? Be careful, men world is cruel. Especially now days. Some men will use women only for sex, because they want to fill their desires, but nothing more than that. After that you can expect everything. Video on internet, naked photos, rumors about your skills in bed. Men can even use your female friends against you.

Women will ask, but why he doesn’t want me, and why he is so harsh with me? 

Sean and Thalia were couple for a two years. Thalia was pretty, smart, sexy, educated and she was popular in her friend’s circle. She was hot tempered, but it was part of her charm. Sean was old fashioned guy, with double moral standards. He let himself to use women around and to treat them as things, but he judged Thalia because she was not virgin when she met him. She was star in every company, hilarious and world woman, she traveled around and enjoyed in new experiences. He was guy who like to spend night in front of television, in circle of his relatives and he built wall against anything new in his life. With time, he got jealous on her, not just because he was insecure that she could cheat him, it was because she got attention anywhere where she appeared, her mind was open and strong. He was as little peasant lost in big city. Some Thalia’s friends even laughed to him and they were so surprised how they ended up together.

When he broke relation, Thalia cried all day. She did everything to make him happy. She spent every moment with him. When his little niece was sick she got free day from work just to be with him as support. She defended him in front of people who did not like him. All was in vain.

As Thalia’s friend said : ” Dear, why you offered him Mercedes, when he like his Mini Morris? He is as Mr Bean, maybe little more handsome.”

So, if you think that successful and pretty women are not unhappy in love, you are wrong. Love will not spare you troubles even if you are Pamela Anderson, Cameron Diaz or Jennifer Anniston. They were also rejected because they were not first choices or for some other’s reasons.

You can offer stars and jewels to your man, but if he will not open you door when you are going out from his car, he is not worthy of efforts.

Some other men would show you the world, just to pay attention to them.

10 ways how to test your trust in people

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It is very easy to get fooled. Someone cheated you, you are misguided? Don’t blame yourself, it could happen to everyone. Difference is in way, how to get out from this and avoid future disappointments.

Naivete is sign of trust, just in extreme form. If you believe in everything, you are naive.

Life would be boring without risks. If you are too cautious, you step into paranoid area. Wow, everyone is against me, i am on black list and for sure this is again my bad luck. On that way, you close yourself into golden cage, and nobody could harm you. How to open your soul to others? Who can make guarantee that you will find treasure, and that you will not stuck in the trap?

Here are the most often traps for naive people, and you are not the only one who will fail. 

1. salesman and his skills 

You bought something what is not necessary and you spent big money, because salesman persuaded you in value of his products? Look at your wardrobe, there are dresses you will never wear. Here is jewelry without values, fake pearls and cheap necklace, but it looks good on first sight.

2. big chance for easy money

Many advertising about earning big money on easy ways fooled many people. Everyone will think “but i will be the one who will really earn.”

3. masters of tarot, black magic, love spells

This woman saw that you will get marry next year? You are still single but you gave her 100 euro? You are not first and not the last.

4. virtual marriage proposal

Your prince charming promised you to get marry and then he disappeared after you lend him money? Call someone who have similar experience.

5. big lottery won, roulette, slot machines

Las Vegas, Monte Carlo, expensive casinos over the world, and everyone dream about jackpot. You think you are the one who will win? But others think about this too.

6. meeting with agent who promised you to make star from you

You want to be famous and this man promised you this? Suddenly you are victim of human trafficking, porno industry or you simply got fooled. You enter into twilight zone.

7. online shopping

Cruel stats and numbers are black evidence, how many people get fooled with online shopping. Empty pockets and wallets are reality.

8. liberty movements, sects

You wish to escape from reality, and spiritual person promised you better world? Suddenly, you are without passport and money, but you are member of sect and they can do with you whatever they want.

9. politicians promises

You are member of political group and they promised you good job, when they win on elections. Nothing for you, still? Keep searching.

10. pills for losing weight

You paid big money to lose your weight, but you are even more fat than before? At least, your wallet is thin.

Everyone who wants success in life must develop sense for reality.

It doesn’t mean that you need to give up from dreams and hopes, but you need info. Numbers don’t lie. If 90% people slip in some area, will you enter into 10% who did not? Maybe your neighbor won on the lottery, but it doesn’t mean that you are next. Your cousin got married for rich man after they know each other 2 months? She got luck, but exceptions doesn’t make rules.

Big decisions are investments. First you need to study your situations, otherwise you will buy cat in the bag. There is no guarantee that you will protect yourself from bad surprises, but at least don’t jump on first offer. Also, if you did mistake, your knowledge will help you to get out faster from this. If you see cat in the bag, throw this bag and runaway.

Are you just his number?

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Some women are always satisfied with remains of man’s attention. Their legendary statements are: „let he comes home“, „now is all  right between us“ or „other girls are for sex and i will stay with him“ . That is confirmation that woman is pleased with part of love and attention, as someone who waits on the line. It is easier to fool yourself, lie to yourself or having a relationship which exists only in your mind.

We women are emotional species and it is hard for us to fake love with someone who is not our soul match. If you are not gold digger who cares only for money, you will not be with someone you don’t care about.  You can date with him night or two, but later is phase of pretending, acting and feeling of sickness, nuisance and conscience’s guilt because you use someone who doesn’t owe your heart.

Relations with men who are not in your heart or if they are just dear to you are indeed waste of time. You will sit with someone at coffee table and your eyes will be around, for better opportunity. He will introduce you to his handsome friend and you will regret why he sits next to you when he has so attractive buddies.  He will buy you gift, and you would like to throw this into garbage box. Really, relation with someone who can’t swap you on feet or make you to lose your breath is as raping of yourself.  It is dry love, without heart beats.

Men are on different side , they are another story. Indeed some men are sophisticated and they will not go in bed with every woman, or some will reject even beautiful woman because they are in love in someone else, but also many men will accept flirt offer even they don’t like particular woman. Many men will accept offer for one night to please their ego or that society not consider them as cuckolds. As man’s circle would say : „Why you don’t shag her, you don’t have to marry her. „

Here is time to soap opera because not every woman will recognize that she is on the way station. Some women will gain fake hope that they seduced beloved man. Other women will think , yes he slept with me and it means something. They will say, he would not accept to have sex if he did not care. If hot meeting repeats, their beliefs will be even deeper. Such women collect crumbs whole life and if they spent night with attractive man, they will say „at least he was hot guy“ or „it was night to remember. „

How to realize that you were on way station with your man? How to avoid repeating this mistake?

You were author of this meeting. You called him, sent him messages, and he replies after few attempts , after  you bored to him or he is just silent without many question .

You made plans about meeting and all details, maybe you paid expenses too.

He is quiet and he doesn’t call you after you met. You call him but he is busy.

You attacked him but he is silent again and try to get out from situation with short sentences as „forgive me, it would not work out, i am not guy for long relations. „

Woman in love is blind trophy. She is as one eyed cat and she sees only one side of story. His kiss, his gentle hug, few excuses and soft words. Even if it happens only once, she asks for explanations and blame herself because she did not make enough efforts or she could not keep a guy.

When Ellen was so persistent to stalk Andrew in night club and she came there every weekend just to kiss with him in dark corner, her friend Alison was so worried. She has rolling eyes while Ellen talked about hot Andrew who is so good kisser and she warned her that is not good way to be with guy. This was love by force, while Andrew was waiting Helen’s first step , but he never asked her to date. After three weeks Alison decided to talk with Andrew because she was tired of stories of broken heart.  Andrew accepted her call and gave his explanation : „Well, i am not with Ellen. She is with me, but i am not her boyfriend, she just came to me so i don’t want to hurt her. „

Men who use women as way stations are not enough cruel to say them straight into face real truth. They are charming players, they go on sideways, they wait until women realize the point or until it become boring.  They pull women to leave them because they ignore them, provoke them, underestimated them or they just use silence as answer.  Well, this situation has deadline and that is why is easy to define it. You can’t call someone ten times without feedback. You can’t repeat always the same to the guy without his attention or will to even listen to you and fix his mistakes. He simply doesn’t care.

Way stations are not final destinations. These are wrong turn, places before main path , so that is why that places are defined by deadline. If you are woman who was in his life 5 minutes and he doesn’t extend your deadline, say goodbye to him. Go on main destination with smile on your face and warn your female friends that way stations are not comfortable zones.

How wives deal with husband’s mistresses?

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You love him, but she also love him. Here is the crowd in this love circle, and one of you must get out. Love triangle with one man and two women is filled by pain and tears.
When you know that you share guy with other girl, you should gave up from him. Now , the main question is: “Why should i give up? Let other woman get out and leave him alone.”
This is ungrateful position. Wife and children on right side, mistress on left side. Wife can lose a lot. Stability, financial situation will be worse, children will suffer and divorce is not so good idea. This is not just matter of just one person, if wife has two children, we have three ruined lives, all because of fatal woman , sexy mistress of your husband.

Wise woman will play on this card of women solidarity. Many won this game with ace of solidarity in their pocket. Two women, same gender, we should understand each other.

When Lydia found out that her husband is cheating her with Ingrid, woman from his office, she called her to drink coffee together. Lydia was not furious or rude. She was lady as always, and she said:
Dear, you have no idea what are you doing with my husband. We are married 20 years. Our children are almost adult, and of course we get bored from time to time. This routine can ruin all passion. But, he is not rich man, and if we will divorce, i will took him all money. You will earn money for him. Also, he is boss of department, if his business partners will know for affair, he will fall on low position. Divorce is big trauma and it will affect on his job, and job is his first love. He will hate you. But, if you love him so much you will be poor and happy. Also, do you know he still have sex with me? Think about next time when he will touch you.
Ingrid had just opened mouth and she stayed without words. She expected that Lydia will spill coffee on her or slap her, but really nothing like that happened. Lydia was coldblooded and kind, but her words were cutting her heart as knife. Ingrid was blushing from shame. She started to feel compassion toward children and she could not imagine herself in situation which Lydia described.
As Lydia said:
I don’t know you dear, but if you will be lucky to find husband, one day some women can do this to you. The same you did to me. Think about how would you feel on my place. 
Lydia finally shown to her photos of her children and Ingrid started to cry. She did not feel good and she left from coffee bar.
After this meeting,  with time, Ingrid learnt about women solidarity. She left his lover without explanation, even she asked to be removed from his department.
Sometimes, we must teach men that they are wrong. If you think that your men will never desire another women, you live in illusion. You need to find a way how to stop him, but without force and begging. One of ways is woman solidarity.

You will see on social networks many funny situations.

Men will write that they are married or engaged. Then they will add hot and sexy friends, and their wife will follow them. If you added man who is already taken, and his wife is on Facebook , invite her too and show her that you have no interest for her husband. Yes, i know, nobody can steal guy from computer monitor, especially if guy lives in another country. Just, this is a matter of pride.

Your guy has status in relation, and he is flirting on other walls? Let we kill this bitches. No, very wrong. You can add hot guys too and this game will be never ending. Or you can appeal on women solidarity. Any smart woman will not involve in other relations. It can be only humiliation, imagine you flirt with other husband and he kick you out from his page when he will get what he wanted. His wife can have password too, so if you send hot message, she will read this.

We are women, fragile, sensitive, but very dangerous and jealous when we love. Don’t touch my man, and i will not touch yours too.

Shopping is not cure for broken heart

If you are sad, grumpy or your heart is broken, shopping will be your best friend. Women practice shopping as additional tool to forget all troubles and make yourself beautiful.

Look at your wardrobe. Accords some polls, every woman use only 30% of her closet. For sure you have trousers or skirt you will never wear. They are size 36, and you are size 40 and your strong belief is that it will fit you perfectly one day. Then you sit in McDonald’s to eat hamburger and you can forget about your dream.

Women can be superstitious. That skirt brings me luck, i had that blouse when i met my boyfriend. This shoes are your fetish, you were dancing whole night and you had many fans because you look so good in them.

Lucy was very unhappy after her breakup. Her friends Sally and Brenda invited her to shopping mall. She had Visa and she joined to them. Lucy was not slim so after she realized that she can’t stand in size 40, she became depressed. Then Brenda started to pick clothes to make her happy. Lucy spent a lot of money, because at the end she just took some things randomly, even without testing. 

After one week she was ready to meet new guys . She was almost ready for Saturday evening party , her friends were at the door and suddenly her necklaces drop her. She bowed to pick it and her dress cracked on the back. That evening she was so depressed that she cancelled all her plans.

Shopping is nice thing, but extreme situations are not good. We are so sad that we want to be happy by force. We jump from deep anger to the highest joy. Some fake things can fascinate us and we will not even check is that real solution for our problems. I am so angry that i will spend money on new fashion collection, but my legs pain because shoes are so tight, and this coat is too big or too small for me. 

Every salesman will have good day when shopping addict come into shopping mall.

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That kind of persons are addicted and they are indeed collectors. They will grab things in any part of the day, and full bags will be result of this shopping mania. Later this person will be maybe hungry or full of debts. Also many people spent their money in online internet shopping.

How many people were cheated by shopping online? 1 from 3 online shoppers were fooled by fake websites who offer ideal conditions for shopping.

 

So, if you practice shopping as cure against sadness or depression, take a look into your wallet. Think about how big financial burden you can handle in next shopping season.

Are you typical tender woman ?

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Pink color is for girls, blue is for guys – that is first difference between genders which we noticed in childhood. This statement talks about women more than it seems like. It considers woman as fragile, gentle creature who will cry if you touch her and it gives man obligation to cherish her with attention.

If you are man with such draft, for sure your will consider woman as someone who likes flowers, romantic song and movies, someone who confirm your every word and clap hands when you express your attitude. You will expect that woman should be always kind, nice and with smile on her face. Also, you will not tolerate conflicts because it is not woman’s business to involve in man’s things. As in middle age, woman who was arguing should be exposed on square as bad example.

Some men have no idea about woman’s shades. Women are not black and white, bad and good. Woman is more than pretty hair, cute smile and gentle words. Woman is strong inside more than you think.

Trouble happens when macho man, so called alpha wolf try to deal with blunt woman.

Gerard used to deal with many women. Mostly, they fall on his charm and obeyed to him. He started to get bored, because they were all the same. He did not remember even their names. His strategy was the same : sweet words , flowers, chocolate, dinner with candles, walking by the sea in his city and hot night in hotel. After that, Gerard kept contact with them , but not because he cared, just because to call them again when it will be their turn. He picked women from the same basket. They were about 10-15 years older than he, mostly lonely, divorced or hungry for love.

Then he met Alicia. She was blunt woman, tired of bad experiences but full of life. It was something at her what captured his heart immediately, her strong will and defiance. Even when she slept with him, she did not want to obey. She did all opposite to his wishes, because she heard about his reputation. She left his city without notify him and later send him message that they don’t match together. She saw his cell phone full of naked videos and she decided, not to be part of this. Gerard felt he fall in love first time in his life, and all he could do to wait her to change her mind. Alicia asked for serious relation, and Gerard had dilemma, to say goodbye to her or to his previous life. Meanwhile, one of his mistresses, Helga, called him to arrange meeting. She said, i am in your city and i am coming for half hour. Gerard promised to himself, it will be last time and then i will call Alicia to come back to me. Gerard entered into hotel’s coffee bar to drink coffee with Helga.  Suddenly he felt that someone is watching him. Near this table, woman with black shades smiled to him. It was Alicia, who came back to give him another chance. When she saw Helga, she approached to their table and said : “Enjoy in this coffee, even i think it gets cold already. ” Gerard never saw Alicia again.

To get back on the start of this story, different women need different approach. Some women will be pleased even for crumbs of man’s attention. Other women will never accept to stand in the line and share man with other women. So, we are different. Some of us will more appreciate invitation of football match than rose petals. Some of us will accept to sleep on the floor with right man better than to spend night in expensive hotel . If you are man, and if you use wrong approach for woman you like, think about where you went wrong.

If you love woman, you should start from her nature, not from generalization, that girls are pink, and boys are blue. Some of us are black, violet and red, and you should have guts to stand near our fire.