What makes sex interesting are questions. This sparks will turn on when you don’t know what you will get and how you will get it.
I was always impressed with men who try to gain attention in clubs by their way of clothing or dancing. That was not impression in good meaning, it was more something what gave smirk on my face. Guy who tries to show break dance, which was popular during eighties. Guy who wears shirt with titles ” I am not gynecologist but i can check every vagina. “ Guy who wears trousers with so many holes that you can see his pants through this.
What impressed me the most were guys who love to go in night clubs without shirts, to show their torso in hope that they will get lucky. This summer i was with my husband in night club with dress code, where is not allowed to enter without shirt despite of summer temperatures. They like to keep their rating, so many security guards around watched visitors to make their rules safe.
In the middle of the party i saw guards around guy who undressed himself . He shown his torso with muscles (not bad view) and jump on the wall, that everyone can see him. Guards surrounded him and ordered to get dress. He rejected this and negotiations started. When he saw that he will be kicked out, he took his shirt ( he had elegant white shirt), but he was so drunk that he could not deal with buttons. It was very funny scene, guy was buttoning his shirt (probably he saw double or triple amounts of buttons) and his hands were shaking from nervous breakdown. All the time security guard was standing near him, to be sure that he will finish his work. Finally, guy was dressed and he could back to the party.
I wonder here, what is the point of guys who like striptease in clubs?
They hope to get laid.
Sure, all women will jump on guy without shirt. We can’t wait.
They hope that someone will notice them so they will become famous.
Instagram is not enough, maybe someone can see you and you will earn as model. Yeah, sure.
They try to show how they jump out from crowd.
Hard work in gyms, it has to be exposed. Let everyone see my muscles, i was working hard.
What can happen is far from fairy tale.
Women will think that you are jerk who only wish sex. Really, which girl want to drink with half naked guy ? His intentions are visible from space.
Guards can throw you out. Mostly, clubs which are not purposed as places for half naked people will care for their rating. Also, guards see problems there, who can took out shirt will be ready for fight too.
You can be injured. Someone hits you in naked back , burn cigarette on naked skin, it will not be funny.
Another part of this story are guys which bodies are not so perfect. There is nothing worse for us woman to see old drunker with fat hanging belly without shirt. Red in face and walking with hairy chests around, that is not how woman imagine prince charming. Before all, women run from such men.
No, i am not traditional, just as person who visits parties many years, i think every place has purpose. Parties on the beach in afternoon are full of half naked women and men, and this is normal. Foam party, after party on the beach, that are places for men who like to show their musculature. You will see woman is swimsuit there and she will drink cocktail with you without shame.
Closed night clubs are another story. Guys will say : “What the fuck, nobody will order to me. I will come in pants or naked if i wish. “ Wrong one, cause always is there someone who can get you embarrassed or even worse. In such story, amateur striptease is not welcome.
How this story ends? Guy without shirt is kicked out , collecting his teeth one by one, without women he wanted to seduce and with some scratches if he got lucky. If not, he will visit emergency. In the case he tries to get back again, he will play role of pancake, guards will make punching bag from him, as in cartoon.
Real man doesn’t need this show. He will undress himself in private place, for the woman who wants him. Not every woman needs to see his muscles, chests, tattoo, just to fall down on her knees. The moment when such guys speak loud, you will see with whom you are hanging out.
Curiosity is in human nature. If you see closed box you will try to open it, to find out what is in it. Hidden treasure or bunch of trash? Never mind, but still you want to open it because your fantasy is poking you inside.
The same is about mysterious men. Women will often fall in men mystery. He looks like he hold secret inside, his heart is closed and his distance is so sexy. He is unavailable and this is key of his attraction.
Paul was walking mystery. He was not model, he was too skinny guy with chicken chests and also he was not tall, but women were crazy for him. His sensual lips and green eyes were magnet for women. He had more success in flirting than guys who were more handsome than he was. Also he was not gentle and good man, he was rude, sarcastic and sometimes vulgar. Women were fighting for him, because they saw someone who need love and care. Every woman thought she is the right one , that she hold the key to open this treasure box.
How to approach to Paul and how to keep him? He was jumping from one relation to another. If you are nice with him he will break your heart. If you are rude he will also break your heart. He had friend Betsy . She was observer and she was there to wipe his rage after every broken relation. It was not easy task because part of his frustration were always on her back. He blamed her that she ruined some of his love affairs. In fact he ruined this because he was making love with Betsy after every love failure.
He did not speak with her one month, because Betsy was serious obstacle for another women. She was his shadow, in every corner of his life. At least when he thought that he got rid of her, she was again there, with her devil smile. She was rude, sarcastic and very persistent woman. After he started new relation, Betsy was silent, she waited her time. She knew Paul will not be angry on her for a long time. She called him with excuse and invited him on her birthday party. How he could deny her? The rest was history, they were again in bed and Paul realized why he broke so many hearts around. Betsy opened that box a long time ago, but he was not aware of this.
Guys will ask why don’t they have success with women even they are nice, kind, gentle, even they have good salary or fast car.
Even they are handsome, cute, sexy and kind with women. Women are not so fragile and soft as they seems so. We love mysteries, challenges, and we are rivalry. Woman like to beat another woman in the game. You want this guy, but i will have him. I will beat you in this game. He will be mine.
When guy is single a long time, he will stay single because somehow it looks desperate.
Women will think :”Oh, why should i start with this loser, when nobody else was not there?” Say to woman that you are virgin, you will see reaction. There is no fascination with men kindness and innocence as with men rudeness or distance.
Why you involve with this guy when he is married? Why you want to flirt with guy who love another woman? That will be questions, and answers are in woman nature. We think, that we can change someone accord our wishes. I will be the last woman in his bed. He will marry me.
When guy want to capture women heart, he will play role of hard to get if he is wise.
Don’t give her everything on the first sight. You must be challenge, and she will catch you.
As much men are hunters, women also like to play this game. Remember this secret box from the start of his story. What is inside? Maybe is shit inside, but still you want to open this, because that is locked.
Sitting on two chairs is a phrase for infidelity. One person is between two fires , with inability to choose . Simply, person feels comfortable in situation where she can take all the best for herself. Selfish, isn’t it? Roots of such behavior are not always in hunger for sex or mean nature. This person is not always ruthless or egoist. Maybe she is abused as kid and she felt lack of love, so this is her way to complete herself.
Triangles can’t last forever, because sooner or later protagonists will find out what is going on. What will be consequences? Person who was sitting on two chairs will fall on the floor.
Even this sounds out of morality, some triangles are not so dangerous.
Imagine yourself in this situations:
You are teenager and you like two guys. Which one to pick? So you will meet secretly with both.
You are married and you have virtual lover. He is far away from you, in other country, and you will never meet again.
You are bonded to your colleague at work. This is platonic and you are both in marriage, so this relation will never develop.
Many times, opportunity will make thief. I know women who were swearing on their innocence, they were more saint than angels, but their fantasies did not die. As one my friend said : “Yes i love my husband . But i like my boss. He is charming, i feel more relaxed in his presence. Well, what i can do? This is just my imagination. Reality is at home, between bunch of my plates and dirty laundry. ”
Monogamy is connected with discipline. In crucial moment, you need to stop. As when you are crossing road, this red light will tell you that you must stop or car will cross over you.
How long is distance between fantasy and infidelity?
Where are boundaries?
I exchange messages with him but we never met.
I hugged him and i did not kiss him.
I kissed him in cheek.
We drunk coffee and went home separately.
Accord one theory, little, innocent flirts might make your relation or marriage more interesting.
Married couple are often tired from obligations, they forget spontaneous things, bunch of obligations are on their back. Compliments from strangers might give you new energy. This is remainder on your youth. Your butterflies in belly were frozen? Now they woke up and fly with full wings.
Can you control your mind and your heart ? The most important thing is, be honest with your partner. You both have deal, where is red line . This feeling, when you make fool of someone who loves you, is not pleasant. Even cheater gives impression of bad person, that is far from the truth.
Person who cheats can’t sleep well.
This is path of his thoughts.
” I did not want to do this. I was horny. I will never do it again. It can’t happen anymore. I am idiot. I wish to die, seriously. I don’t deserve her love. “
Swan is faithful animal. Once when he lost partner, he is alone till the end of his life. Not many humans can’t say the same.
If you are the one of women who likes younger men, you like challenges. People might stigmatize you as seductress or cougar , because you are going against wind of society. Recently i watched Facebook profile of Croatian model Vlaho Arbulić, who put photos with his girlfriend Tatjana Dragovic. She was married for famous tennis player Goran Ivanišević, and now she is in relation with handsome model Vlaho, who is much younger than she. One woman wrote nasty note under photo : “Young guy and old granny, it doesn’t fit together.”
I wonder, if this was opposite, if man had 50, and woman had 30, would people comment at the same way? Probably, women would say that he is mature man , financial independent and still able to have family, and she is woman who fits accord standards. Once, i heard so called advice from older man, who said to me : “man must be at least 10 years older than woman, because men grow up slow. ” I am the one of women who likes younger men, and all my ex boyfriends were younger, as my husband is also younger than me. So i heard a lot of comments, even one diagnostic sentence as “something is not alright with your personality”. Everything this made me smile, because love picks randomly, and when personalities fit together, there is no moral majority which might stop this.
If you are woman who likes younger men, your obstacles will be next:
His mother might not like you.
His friends could make nasty comments, as “are you teaching him sex?”
Your female friends could be envious or mock you, if their attitude is traditional.
Younger competition is dangerous, so watch out younger girls who try to catch your man. They will be cruel and say ” you are too old for him, are you his mother maybe?”
You can back off if you are insecure, or you can use your advantages.
You have experience and it makes you interesting for young guy. He will be proud cause he caught woman who still looks sexy . She is not obsessed by her look as some young girls and she can wear it with style.
You know how to pick clothes and makeup. You will not do teenage mistakes in choice of too short skirts, copy others because that is trendy, or to put lipstick which reminds on clown who came into your city.
You have diplomatic skills. You know how to talk with his mother, as woman with woman. Young girls often don’t know how to respect boyfriend’s mother. You can’t tell him that his mother is a witch.
You are financial independent . It means, he will not have problems to travel with you in other country , because you can share travel expenses. If you were 18, you would expect that man must pay you all. Be honest, men are not so fascinated to spend their money on girl who can’t give nothing for return.
You have job and there is no need to call him every moment or to check him.
In this situation, women will face it with moment when they wish to marry. What if he is not ready because he thinks he is too young? Shall you wait for him?
Until you wait decision about marriage, think about next:
Don’t pressure him, it will make you desperate.
Say what you expect from him.
Don’t blackmail him, that you will find someone else. Instead of this, say that is all up to him and that you will respect his decision.
Let’s enter into mind of young man. He wish experience, his life is spinning in front of his eyes when he realize that he must settle down. That is double cross. He must take time, and think, what is more important for him? Bunch of young women who wait to take them into bed, or one special woman , in which he falls in love? Once when he miss that special woman, he could replace her with many others, but maybe he would regret. That is similar as shopping, you see that expensive purse and you wish to see others, but meanwhile someone bought your expensive purse and you can’t find it anymore.
The important is, young man must enter into marriage with clean head and firm attitude. Don’t let others to tell you what to do. For example, Max had many comments about Lana, older girlfriend of his friend Kyle. He said: “You will marry with her, could not you find younger?” When Max found girlfriend, she was younger, but uneducated and not so pretty. Kyle was too decent to comment , but grateful to see his wife, who had successful career and sexy appearance.
When people see something different, they comment from envy and jealousy. Grey person is never interesting, but all will notice something unusual. If you look behind lines, you can almost read: “Oh why her, but not me? She is my ages, and her husband is younger, and mine is older and fat. Lucky bitch. ”
Women like to say : i am different, i am difficult, i am hard. This might sound as they want to justify their position when something happens to some other women. “It could not happen to me. I would never do that. ” We are able to judge each other cause it is in our nature.
If everyone is different, then we are all again the same. I would say that everyone can be easy target in some life situations. Sometimes you can’t help to yourself, when you expose your weakness.
Imagine situation. You are hard target when you are cold toward guys which are not your type. That guy is for you ugly, boring, you simply don’t want him and it is very easy to be unavailable toward him. Well, if man attracts you, it is not easy to pretend that you don’t want him, it is not easy to control your feelings, even you smell trouble. That is why we will make same mistakes, even we know how story will finish.
When woman is hard target?
If she is not in mood for relation, not in such phase, because she got over hard breakup or she is busy with her job or personal problems.
If she really doesn’t like guy.
If she wants someone else who doesn’t want her.
If her nature is calculated. Simply, she doesn’t want to waste time on temporary adventures or random flirts.
What is with other women, who are emotional, spontaneous, passionate by nature? Are they easy targets or just not cautious as they should be?
Should we judge them if they fail in relations? Should we give them advices ?
I think every woman has her crush and burn period in life. If she learn this , she will watch out and she will not look at men with same eyes. Also, if you are person who likes risk, bigger are chances that you will burn your fingers.
I had friend who lived in golden cage. Her first boyfriend was her neighbor, other boyfriend was also neighbor and she got married for him. She never tasted adventures, because she was afraid of risk . She was saved on some way, but on other way she was limited because at her point she was always judging women who lived different.
It is easy to be closed in golden cage when you know nobody can enter. Nobody can hurt you, but nobody can surprise you either.
When woman says, i am different, i would not sit in his car, i would not show my face on internet, i would not talk with such guy, she is judging others on a way like they are childish or stupid. Like she discovered America, but indeed she build wall. Walls are not so resistant and one day one man can swap her on ground.
When you build bridge, when you open your heart, you are open target. You are not different from others , not easy to get, you are just ready to risk. This is only difference between women who live safely and those who live in troubles.
Curiosity killed the cat, as old proverb said, so you can only learn from your troubles. One day , when you get old, maybe you would regret because you did not live more. Or maybe you will be proud because you expose yourself.
My ex office mate once said : “Why to afraid to talk about sex? When i was young, i got laid in beach and everywhere. So, why to regret?”
I wish to all my followers happy Friday.
Here I share some of my positive, inspirational thoughts which helps me in hard moments:
If you wish to survive, you will not afraid of challenge.
The biggest risk is to do nothing.
Don’t call past, there is nothing new to hear.
People who criticize you are kind of injections. Take this needle as motivation for your progress.
Don’t underestimate yourself, that is not your job. Others will try to sabotage you anyway.
Haters are just your followers from other side of mirror.
Never lose your sense for humor. Jokes might help you to survive the day.
For the end, this is me. My virtual friend spelled my name wrong, I am Kristina. He made this photo as sign of friendship, but he forgot to spell it right.
In ancient fairy tale Cinderella is sober girl who came to dance with king, dressed as queen. When midnight come, she will lost shoe . As it is predictable, king will try to find awesome girl who lost shoe because she captured his heart. Good girls never get drunk, as moralists say, so she left this place with sober mind.
Nowadays Cinderellas would like to capture man’s heart, but it takes courage and liquor could help to kill shame and to make them braver. Let’s approach him drunk, all chains will fall.
Being woman has an advantage. When my friend celebrated birthday in night club, he was undressed. During party he did striptease on half way, so i broke glass, in the moment of excitement. Really it was nice to see all that pieces of glass on the floor, and i was nervous because of crowd. Other drunk people didn’t want to move from my way, so i broke glass. Bodyguard saw my friend and warned him to wear the shirt. He did not say nothing to me, even i smashed glass. I had only innocent smile and confused face.
Reasons for being drunk are various:
More self confidence,
more sex appeal,
more courage to do things you would not
or you even dance better with influence of liquor.
As in story about Cinderella, when midnight gone, she is again poor ordinary girl. And all that glamorous things went away, just vanish in front of her eyes. And what if she get drunk in this fairy tale? Prince would get sex before marriage and she would be declared as easy girl. It would be story for adult, not for kids without life experiences.
The only reminder on previous drunk night is headache. Oh yes terrible headache, and toilet is the best friend. You will only recognize bottle of water near bed, because you will be very thirsty after alcohol kills all vitamins.
You will make just one promise “Do not do it again.” Now guy is not important. What is important where is your money, why your clothes is full of stains and did you maybe fall somewhere because you have scratches. If tomorrow is your working day, you will need bunch of coffee to stay awake.
Some men still believe that this is man’s world. How does it look like? Women should not work, her place is in the kitchen, she must be virgin or have one partner for a lifetime. This woman is a lady, with pure soul and worthy to be a wife.
It is hard to handle that woman can earn money, but it is more harder to handle that woman can use man only for sex and change partners. This is against nature, as hens are slaves of cock, he can’t be their slave.
Yes, women move the limits. Famous model Carla Bruni confessed that she was promiscuous and that she doesn’t believe in monogamy. She is leader , alpha woman and she needed man who will understand her and support her no matter what she was.
You want to move limits too, to be Super girl in this men world?
Be careful , you can stand on bomb.
What will happen if ordinary woman says that she used man for one night stand?
– she can be subject of big gossip
– man can blackmail her with video or naked photos, if she shared this with him
– other women will judge her too, she is not “lady”
– she will be considered as slut
– she can lose job and good reputation
Standards for women and men are not the same. Men will be popular after he had sex with many women, after he broke hearts around. Woman will be dangerous seductress and even men can consider her as potential lesbian, as kind of woman who indeed hates men.
Women also want to enjoy in life on different ways. Sometimes, we will do mistakes, as choose wrong guy for comfort, to forget other guy who hurt us. In this situation we can find “personal bitch” , even this is against ethic and this is indeed cruel. If woman is honest about what she want, man must respect this. It can’t be shock. Real guy can handle this if he is strong enough.
I think this is a test for real man. If man can accept that woman want only sex, if they made a deal, he should respect this without sharing their dirty secrets with others. This is between them, not for publicity. Only spoiled brat and egomaniac will cry and try to make revenge after woman used him.
Mature man will act like nothing happened, after this they can even drink a coffee together, because they had enjoyment and pleasure. Even this was short and sweet, but this should be a good memory.Man who can’t handle one night stand will also have problems with relations. Rejections are part of life too, and if you accept early that you can’t get all what you want, you will be happier.
This woman was your gift, she was your dominatrix in high heels, and you cannot be her brat, you are her equal partner. She maybe stole your soul, but you got life lesson.