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When infidelity became source for earning money?

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Girl x cheated her boyfriend. He found out and brag about this in social media. He published her naked photos and video about their private moments. Girl is ashamed and crucified not just in her family and friend circle, now unknown strangers hit the rock. What a whore, slut and bitch, how dare she? Familiar story ?

Let’s go back in some old times, when cheating wife was exposed in public square and everyone should spit on her. Today, we brag about democracy and freedom of choice, but still we crucify open minded people, just on other way. We do it on social networks. So, poor women and poor men, before internet appeared, few friends knew that you are cuckold or woman with horns, now everyone knows and judge your lifestyle.

Internet brags about Becky with a good hair. That is Beyonce’s competition, so called mistress with whom Jay Z had affair. Does it really happen? Famous Beyonce sing about woman who steal her husband, but this story is good example of marketing. New album will be sold and they can clap their hands, because all what people wish to hear and see is one big scandal.

Now days we are witnesses of new fashion. Couples want to be participants in Big Brother. I never watch this, but you can’t avoid that shit in every internet portal so i read story about Croatian fiance Marina who crossed limits and became close with Roman, one of participants. Her boyfriend got mad and brag in internet that she is dead for him. Poor girl even doesn’t know that boyfriend will leave her. Or, this is just one good trick, to earn more money?

When we talked about infidelity in past, reactions were on this way:

Poor husband. He is good person, he doesn’t deserve marriage with this bitch.

Poor wife. She takes care of kids, house and works two jobs. And he is cheating her with waitress.

Poor couple. They were unhappy so one of them wanted to reach more happiness.

Now days, rules were changed. We became suspicious about infidelity.

What we will say now?

Who knows, maybe they dealt. They are both freaks.

Maybe they are swingers.

They did it for money, they go in Big Brother to fool people and earn money.

She just wanted to be more attractive to her husband, in a way to show him that someone else want her.

This transformation happens as prostitution of infidelity. This is not dirty secret anymore, this is not morning gossip between two ladies in morning coffee table. This is fun for masses. We are in Roman arena, and we wait until one slave will be thrown in lion’s paws. Tear this cheating husband, because we want big party. Tear this cheating wife, let she serves as bad example. We are hungry as Roman audience, just our victims are killed on soft way.

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Who is girl for one night?

 

On first sight one night stand looks ideal. No obligations, no promises, no tears. If both, man and woman decide about sex for one night, there is no complain later. Everyone should walk forward, without regrets.

Human heart is fragile thing and it is not always so simple. Maybe we can promise to follow the rules of this game, but shall we hold this promise after it happens? Our mind had a plan, but heart doesn’t follow that tips.

 

Here are some females reactions:

 

He did not greet me at the street.

– He did not call me, but he said he will call me.

– I saw him with another girl.

– He said that he is not ready for serious relation now.

– He said that i was just his comfort to get over ex girlfriend.

All is good when you are in the moment of passion, he kiss you like nobody before, you have so much pleasure, he whispers soft words in your ears, and you feel like his queen, like in dream. Then you woke up and fail on the ground. What a jerk, he has no feelings, he is an animal, moron and so on. But did not you deal with him? That is the worst part, when you promise something what you cannot hold on. That is in women brain, to make promises and to hope things will be different.

List of woman’s illusions:

 

1. i will be his best lover, after night with me he will leave his girlfriend

2. he just need a time for adjustment, i will wait for him

3. he has some problems and he can’t be with me now, but after he solve that problem, we will be together for a sure

4. he is too busy , i will have patience until he finds time for me

That is part of game of being easy or being hard. If someone date with you because of sex , sex will also be reason to break up when he please to his wishes. That is the point of one night stand, he will not listen your problems, because you are here to enjoy with him, not to discuss with him.

 

That is why flirts and relations are not the same. In flirt sex is the main part, but in real relations sex is one of elements. 

 

So if you accept one night stand, this is risk and you must be ready that you will never see that awesome person again. You can’t blame him or judge him because he disappeared. There were signs you did not want to see, and he was not obligated to stay. Mature women with experience will easier handle one night stand because life taught them that hot moment doesn’t mean eternal love. If girl is a virgin, and without experience it will be harder to believe that awesome guy is not prince on white horse.
He got what he wanted and he doesn’t need you anymore. You can dream about him or forget. Use it as lesson next time when someone try to repeat this adventure with you. There is golden rule : you can’t keep man who doesn’t want to be kept.

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He is younger than me and i am mature woman

If you are the one of women who likes younger men, you like challenges. People might stigmatize you as seductress or cougar , because you are going against wind of society. Recently i watched Facebook profile of Croatian model Vlaho Arbulić, who put photos with his girlfriend Tatjana Dragovic. She was married for famous tennis player Goran Ivanišević, and now she is in relation with handsome model Vlaho, who is much younger than she. One woman wrote nasty note under photo : “Young guy and old granny, it doesn’t fit together.”

I wonder, if this was opposite, if man had 50, and woman had 30, would people comment at the same way? Probably, women would say that he is mature man , financial independent and still able to have family, and she is woman who fits accord standards. Once, i heard so called advice from older man, who said to me : “man must be at least 10 years older than woman, because men grow up slow. ” I am the one of women who likes younger men, and all my ex boyfriends were younger, as my husband is also younger than me. So i heard a lot of comments, even one diagnostic sentence as “something is not alright with your personality”. Everything this made me smile, because love picks randomly, and when personalities fit together, there is no moral majority which might stop this.

If you are woman who likes younger men, your obstacles will be next:

His mother might not like you. 

His friends could make nasty comments, as “are you teaching him sex?”

Your female friends could be envious or mock you, if their attitude is traditional.

Younger competition is dangerous, so watch out younger girls who try to catch your man. They will be cruel and say ” you are too old for him, are you his mother maybe?”

You can back off if you are insecure, or you can use your advantages. 

You have experience and it makes you interesting for young guy. He will be proud cause he caught woman who still looks sexy . She is not obsessed by her look as some young girls and she can wear it with style.

You know how to pick clothes and makeup. You will not do teenage mistakes in choice of too short skirts, copy others because that is trendy, or to put lipstick which reminds on clown who came into your city.

You have diplomatic skills. You know how to talk with his mother, as woman with woman. Young girls often don’t know how to respect boyfriend’s mother. You can’t tell him that his mother is a witch.

You are financial independent . It means, he will not have problems to travel with you in other country , because you can share travel expenses. If you were 18, you would expect that man must pay you all. Be honest, men are not so fascinated to spend their money on girl who can’t give nothing for return.

You have job and there is no need to call him every moment or to check him. 

In this situation, women will face it with moment when they wish to marry. What if he is not ready because he thinks he is too young? Shall you wait for him?

Until you wait decision about marriage, think about next:

Don’t pressure him, it will make you desperate.

Say what you expect from him.

Don’t blackmail him, that you will find someone else. Instead of this, say that is all up to him and that you will respect his decision.

Let’s enter into mind of young man. He wish experience, his life is spinning in front of his eyes when he realize that he must settle down. That is double cross. He must take time, and think, what is more important for him? Bunch of young women who wait to take them into bed, or one special woman , in which he falls in love? Once when he miss that special woman, he could replace her with many others, but maybe he would regret. That is similar as shopping, you see that expensive purse and you wish to see others, but meanwhile someone bought your expensive purse and you can’t find it anymore.

The important is, young man must enter into marriage with clean head and firm attitude. Don’t let others to tell you what to do. For example, Max had many comments about Lana, older girlfriend of his friend Kyle. He said: “You will marry with her, could not you find younger?” When Max found girlfriend, she was younger, but uneducated and not so pretty. Kyle was too decent to comment , but grateful to see his wife, who had successful career and sexy appearance.

When people see something different, they comment from envy and jealousy. Grey person is never interesting, but all will notice something unusual. If you look behind lines, you can almost read: “Oh why her, but not me? She is my ages, and her husband is younger, and mine is older and fat. Lucky bitch.

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Why some people believe in lies?

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Tell me lie and i will feel cheated or hurt. If you found out that someone is a liar, you will judge him and for sure that person will not be desirable friend. Now try to look at this from different angle, so then you will know why lies are popular and why liars can survive. As long in this world are naive and weak people, they will be excellent food for liars. Liars are sharks, and naive people are small, tasteful fishes, ready to be someone’s meal.

Reality is not beautiful fairy tale. Even when life praise you with gifts and rewards, there is always a catch. This is as cake with flies , so sweet at first sight but you can’t eat this because when fly sits there, it will be disgusting. For example, one day you finally found job . You were unemployed for a long time, and suddenly you have well paid job. Are you happy now? Now you have annoying colleagues, bitch sits with you in office and talk loudly at phone, radio is playing and you can’t stand that music, and when you go to lunch pause someone will sit at your table and brag with screaming voice about work. So your ears will pain because you can’t stand this. But you have job.

Now here are some situations, when people like to hear lies, not naked truth.

Patient who is seriously sick would like to hear that his situation with health will get better.

Woman fall in love in man, he doesn’t love her, but she wish to hear that he loves her. She would like to hear this sweet words even it is not true.

You are chubby and you want new dress, even you can’t breath, you will believe to salesman who said that you look perfect as model.

You don’t have idea about singing, but when you are in karaoke party, you wish to hear that everyone enjoyed in beautiful sound of your voice.

In the time of elections politicians will say many fake promises, and people will swallow this as candies.

Your parents will tell you that you are successfull, pretty and smart, even you don’t feel like this and this is not everytime true. 

Here we come to the next point. If we wish real truth, we should ask objective people for facts. Don’t ask for real opinion someone who is crushed in you, someone who is addicted to you at financial side or someone who wants to use you for purpose. Ask someone who doesn’t know you so good, and you will get right answer, because that person is free from guilt and fear that he will hurt you.

The most resistant fans of lies are those who cannot handle the truth because they are insecure in own abilities. They need to hear sweet words because that is their wall against all troubles.

Walter is average man with average work and average life. Everything in his life is in the middle. He can’t find girlfriend because he likes those who don’t like him, and girls who would like to date with him are not desirable from his side. He prefers kind women , and he aware of open minded ladies, because they are threat to his weak self esteem.

So he  started to search for a soulmate in internet. His profile page got unexpected number of women, he became popular. All women suddenly wanted to be with him.

His friend Ian laughed to him and told him this:

Did you checked that profiles? Half of them are fake and old. Some are maybe transvestits or gays. And some of that women have double or triple pages. So, when you eliminate your fans, at the end here is maybe one or two who is real.

 

Walter was furious , especially when Lara, woman with beautiful photos, started to talk with him every day. She was obsessed and she followed him everywhere. After one month she was revealed as fake. Other friends said that she was woman in fifties, with two children and husband. She was ugly and Walter was not first man who was fooled with her.

Life is not love story.

The main heroes in life are not knight, princess or king. Real winners in real life are people who can take things as they are, without need to make them better in fake sense. If you can accept that your lover is sometimes grumpy, that your girlfriend is not so pretty without makeup or that your friends are not always sweet and kind, you are winner.

Otherwise, you will swallow every lie on your way, because you were not enough brave to deal with the facts.

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Put your lover on lice

You love him, but you are not sure on his feelings? He likes you, but words “i love you” are not on his mouth?

Love is not always mutual and balanced. We can meet some persons who will be amazing and stunning for us, but still something stops us to love them.

It is easy to have sex, but making love and sex are two different things.

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Main differences :

When you have only sex you don’t want to see this person few days, you need to be alone to clean your mind and heart, maybe you will feel guilt or shame.

 

When you make love you want to be with this person all the time, to make her happy with different things and on different ways because you shared something special together.


Having casual sex is like changing socks. One day with one partner, another day with second partner. Making love is like you buy expensive dress and you will care for this not to destroy something what is so special for you. You make love only with one person, and that person is owner of your heart.

There is an old trick how to recognize real love. Girls will often be fooled by sweet words but actions will make cold shower.

 

Some experiences.

He was great lover, it must be love. He treated my body so great, as real expert. I never enjoyed like with him. “

“We are making love every time when i see him. I think he loves me, otherwise he would not jump on me every time when we meet.”

After this.

“He did not call me, and when i called him he said that he is busy, but i saw him in coffee bar with friends two hours later.”

“I don’t know why his friends are laughing to me. How his friends know that i wear red bra and tanga?”

“He said that i must be a bitch when i enjoyed so much.”

When your relation has only one purpose, when you are not talking with partner, you don’t share nothing except passionate sex, that is not real love. You can test your partner. If sex is the only reason why he or she is calling you, then you can deny this. You will not lose nothing. Iced relation is cold weapon in this cold war.

Dominic and Marie had passionate, hot relation. She felt with him like in “Basic instinct”, just without killing. She could not reject him never. One day she found lipstick in his bathroom and she found out that he is cheating her. She did not say nothing, but when Dominic called her next time, she pretended that she is busy. Dominic did not give up so he called her again for few days. Marie opened door in provocative underwear and invited him on glass of champagne. Dominic started to kiss her, she pushed him and said to him that she is not in the mood. Then she put all cards on the desk, and Dominic was faced with the truth.

He could not say that he loves her. He was using an opportunity, but when Marie rejected him , it was not purpose for this relation anymore. She found out the truth, even on painful way.

 

If you touch partner without feelings of love, if you are just horny, this is like contact of two dead bodies. No sparks and no flame , just superficial instinct. It is alright if you have deal with your partner, but if you love, and he doesn’t love or opposite, then you have problem.

Put your lover on ice and your will know the answer.

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When libido takes over

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Do you feel excited today? If you feel hot, horny and you want only one thing with special person, your libido is at the top and you are ready for action. Even in 21’s century people are sometimes ashamed to say that they are horny because it could be wrongly understood.
When man is horny, that is sexy and desirable, this will increase his masculine power. Well, if woman is horny, she is easy, filthy or vulgar , and she gives right to every man to be close with her.
What kind of reaction could produce naked woman on photo? What will you think if woman start to use words with double meaning in conversation with you? In general, that woman is following her libido. Word libido had its first mention in Dante “Inferno”, where he had described queen Semiramida. Her appearance is allowed  “by law” and libido.
Sigmund Freud defined libido as sexual energy, but Carl Gustav Jung expanded that word, as kind of psychic energy. Accord Jung, libido is moving from one content to another. You can feel libido as magical phenomenon, when you desperately want to touch particular person, because something attracted you as magnetic field.
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In general, the most often turn on’s in women area are:
 
Scent. Person with pleasent scent will be more desirable.
 
Smile. Sound of smile and expression of happiness are aphrodisiacs.
 
Elegant walk. Marilyn Monroe is famous about her walk and rocking with hips.
 
Pleasant voice. Not too loud, not screaming, little deep and slow. 
 
Silence. Closed mouth are sexy , but also mysterious. When you are silent, he will not know which is your next step. This is more exciting.
Also, some things are guarantees that your man will chill out.
Nagging. If you constantly complain, if everything is bothering you, man will escape from you.
Your cell phone is always on your ears. Turn of your phone if you want special meeting with your man. Your mother, your boss or best friend and her gossips are not important in this moment.
Talking about ex partners. Red alarm, never compare your ex boyfriend with present partner. Especially if you talk about size of his penis or skills in bedroom.
Don’t talk that you are fatty or chubby. If you don’t like your body, for sure he will not like it either.
Talking about your period or sexual disease as HPV or herpes is also not desirable. 
 
Don’t panic if you are without makeup or your underwear is not sexy.  
All right, you have no lipstick, eye bags are visible from the plane and your bra is too tight or wrong color, but you should not warn your man about this. You are sex bomb now and think only about this.
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Here are some examples about situations which made people hot, for just one moment. It was spontaneous reaction, and libido was in the top.
 
“I was hitchhiking, and that man drove me in his car. He was so sexy , and i accepted sex with him. He did not force me..it was something in his behavior , it was risky and dangerous situation, so we did it.”
 
“Me and my boyfriend, we were arguing that day for so long. At the end, we rip our clothes and made sex.”
 
” I could not stand my business partner. He is an asshole. But, when we were alone in office and worked at mutual projects, we were so tense. And that happened.”
 
“He was my ex boyfriend, and when i heard that he is in new relation, i seduced him. I could not bear that other woman will sleep with him.”
Her attitude was so bossy. I could not stand her bitching. But we did sex during business journey, in hotel. I wanted to break her resistance.”
 
You can call it devilish feeling, chemical reaction or magical spell. When libido takes over, mind is out of power.
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How to get rid of mistress?

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Sparks are cruel tool. At the beginning two people will fall in love and they can’t explain chemical reaction between them. Why they want to rip each other clothes, why they want to kiss all the time, and why everything is less important than their love, answer is somewhere in the heart.

When this situation chills out, love is discarded, person is rejected and it could be obstacle to your future. What we can say, that all what happened wasn’t real? Or it was just magical moment with deadline?

Some men are simply promiscuous. They will get marry and once when they feel comfortable, hunter zone is again opened for them. What they need is mistress. They will find mistress, but then , after some time, mission is accomplished, and what now? They need new flesh, but how to get rid of old flesh?

Stephan is one of the bosses in high position, he works for government. He is in happy marriage, with two kids. His secretary, Alice, is sexy young woman. Once, in business trip, they involved and slept together. This relation continued and Alice started to believe that he will leave his wife. That was fake hope. Stephan soon realized that Alice is similar to his wife. Passion moments became annoying moments. Alice was ordering, complaining and nagging. She took role of wife, even she was not in position to to this. When Alice replied on important business call, without asking, Stephan got mad and broke up with her. Alice was desperate. She was stalking him, and Stephan fired her. She lost everything, and Stephan did not even apologize to her. Simply, he wanted to avoid drama and to erase her from his life. Few months later, Stephan hired new secretary, Betty. He involved with Betty , but she was not instant adventure. She was mysterious and not easy to get. She gave choice to Stephan, to leave his wife if he wants to continue with her. Stephan left his wife and kids. He really fall in love in Betty and he chose life with her.

Men will often ask, how to leave previous love , and not to hurt her? In Croatia, we would say, you can’t be fucked and fair in the same time. 

When man fed up with his mistress, he is cruel, even without intentions. 

What men usually do in this case?

They stop send messages.

Avoid every conversation.

They stop to call.

They find many excuses not to meet with this women.

They are constantly in rush, busy and without free time.

If you are man who wish to be fair, gentleman with good manners, if you don’t wish to hurt ex love , you should do next:

Explain in few words your reasons, why you can’t be together more. 

Tell her that you don’t want scenes or scandals.

Show respect and say thanks for time you spent together.

Tell her that she deserve someone who is better for her.

When you see her , after breakup, don’t turn your head. Say few polite words.

If she will need favor from you, if she might ask you for help later, do it. 

Do not underestimate her, don’t make her miserable. Especially don’t insult her. 

You can find out about person many things after breakup. Even women will say, pain is the same no matter about way of breakup, it is better to say goodbye on nice way, than to be kicked out in the ass, like the last trash. 

After time, things will look different. You might walk with your husband in front of your ex lover. This ex lover can talk with you, with respect. At least it will not be uncomfortable situation for you. You are someone who is respected. Maybe your husband work with your ex lover? Better that he is gentleman.

Imagine situation that you broke up on terrible way with your ex, and you did not want to leave him alone. Your present boyfriend heard roumors about you, something as “take care of her, she is insane.”  This label you don’t need really. 

Walk like lady if you had deal with trash. Walk like lady if you had deal with gentleman. In both cases, you can win. In first case you had no luck, and in second case your luck was with deadline.

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Too much dominant woman is a burden

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Strong attitude is sexy, because you know what you wish and how to ask for it. You don’t afraid to approach to guys , to express your desires and to take control in relationship. If you do some steps more, you are into men area, and this is negative for you.
Ask any man, would he like to date with vixen? Mostly, they will say yes for one night stand with vixen, but no for relation, especially for marriage.
Who is indeed vixen or harpy? 
Woman with hysterical approach. “If you don’t do what i asked from you, you will pay for this.”
 
Woman who will always complain on anything. “You did not call me on time, you did not wash dishes, you are generally idiot. “
 
Woman who is ready to use physical force to get what she wants. Yellow press wrote about Slavica Ecclestone , as about woman who beat her husband Bernie.
 
Woman who make scenes in publicity, because she needs audience for approval.
 
Woman who involve in everything, so she will know what is the best for her man. Choice of friends, job and hobbies are in her hands. She takes over.
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Men will make mutual jokes about friends who are married with vixen.
Something like this:
“Did you hear about Gary, he went to job in the morning with black eye. His wife has hard fist.”
 
“I called Max on mobile, to invite him on my birthday party, and his wife told me that he is not available for me. She said that i am not good company for him.”
 
 
Love sparks will increase because of our differences. It is not by accident, that woman are more soft and gentle, and men are strong and firm. When you act like man, your man will have bad feeling. It doesn’t mean that you must cry all the time or that your man must earn money for you. You can find sophisticated, female ways, to prove that you have right. There is nothing less sexy than screaming voice or hysterical cry.
Some things will do only vixen, and it will chill out men on the level zero.
Force man for sex when he is not in the mood. 
 
Blackmail to your man, that you will do something bad, if he doesn’t act accord your wishes.
 
Humiliate your man in front of other men. He will remember if you dance with his friend and if you acted as slut in his arms.
Fight with another woman in front of him. For sure, your rival will deserve role of victim, especially if you are the first who attacked her.
Talk open and without limits about your sexual past. You don’t have to consider yourself as sexual machine.
 
Compare your present boyfriend with your ex partner, who was great lover. And if you do deep sigh, be sure your man will remember this.
 
Many teenagers will think that is so cool if they act like Milley Cyrus and talk dirty, or if they call boyfriend as “their bitch.” This is maybe cool in movies, but not in reality. Absolutely, men will not get you serious. He will have fun with you and next day you will not receive call from him. He is a man, why should he needs another guy?
If man is hugged by vixen, other guys will laugh to him. He will be labelled as milksop, because his woman takes control over him. Even worse, if woman cheat him, he is loser of the year. Woman with gun is maybe sexy, but woman with rose is love of his life.  In symbolic way, what you show it will come back to you.
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Who want to date with mama’s boy?

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In old Greek legend Edip killed his father Laj and married with his mother Jokasta. Too much devotion accord one parent, and lack of feelings for other is basic of Edip complex. His affection toward mother is part of Freud theory , for men who seek women with the same characteristic as their mothers.
For sure you met single men who are connected with their mothers on close way. This pattern is always the same. He lives with mother, she is cooking and washing his laundry, and he can’t find woman who will take her place. Even when he finds her, his standards are so high that she gave up from him.
Dave is one of them. He has over 50 years, good job as manager in private company, he was travelling around world. His life is full of adventures with many women, but he never wanted to settle down. His mother is in the role of housewife, and other women are in the role of mistress. He feels less obligated to mother, than he should be to his potential wife. She supports his way of life, because his father died a long time ago, and she doesn’t want to feel alone. It is easier when her son lives together with her.
In this kind of relation, two persons are connected on selfish way.
Man: “I don’t want wife who complaint on everything. I don’t want to feel limits when i will go home if i stay in the club with friends. For sure i don’t want jealousy if i talk with other women.”
Mother: “I still feel important. If he gets marry, i will not be part of his life as before. I will be old annoying granny.
Mama’s boy is not always single. He is also married or he has girlfriend, but their women live in the shadow of big authorities. Mother is role model for every future wife.
What mama’s boy wish?
She must cook good as my mother.
She can’t wear slutty clothes, my mother is an angel.
She must be educated as my mother.
She can’t embarrass me in publicity. She must be lady as my mother.
She must listen tips from my mother, about kids, house work and everything else.
Mother in law is often old school, especially if you compare her with women now days. If your mother in law is conservative lady who had only one man in her life, and if you were promiscuous wild woman, you will have problems with her. Then you can pretend that you love her attitude and that she has right, or you wish conflicts in every area.
What you can do?
Find common interests with your mother in law. She is maybe old fashioned, but she loves the same movies as you. Go in cinema with her.
 
Make a balance between her and yours attitude. Middle solutions are good for your peace in marriage.
 
Tell your husband if she became impossible. On this way, you will check his devotion toward you.
Be nice and kind with her. If it doesn’t work out, tell her honestly what you think.
Every mother is protective toward her son, but problem starts when she pokes nose everywhere. 

That is why some mama’s boys will never get married and why some will get divorced. It is funny to see when some women use mothers to get certain man in her arms. Mothers are targets, even they are not aware of this. Bribe his mother, and he is half way yours. If he says : “Wow, this lunch is so great, last time i ate such meal when my mother were cooking”, victory is yours.

Now, there is a catch. If you take a role of his mother, if you will be her twin, your man will feel double pressure. He will see two nightmares with broomstick. “Be careful what you are doing”, that is usual warning to poor man, when he is going out with friends or on business journey. Now you have partner, his mom. This poor guy is only yours, because if he tries to escape, you will know whom to call.
Independent men are different, because they don’t drag tails from childhood as mama’s boys. He cares for his mother, but he has own life. When Celia involved in life of her son Marc, she was unbearable. She wanted that her son leave his wife. Marc draw a line, he said to her to back off. After all, that was his problem, not hers.
My old neighbor said very good: “If this woman is good for my son, who am i to complain? After all, he will live with her, not me. So i wish him good luck, he is big boy.”
character · communication · cougar · egoism · moral · passion · playboy · relations

Fake solidarity – why i will not support some women?

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He doesn’t respect me. I wish to kill him.  When woman doesn’t succeed in her intention to get man, she will first talk about respect. As respect is not blind alley, it is not enough that you ask respect, you must give something to be respected.

Recently i got unpleasant message in my inbox. Unknown woman warned me on my dear virtual friend. She said nasty things about him.  My first reaction was rage. I hate when unknown people, especially women, write to me. I hate filtered messages, because i know they have no good intentions. In many cases these are perverts or weirdos, or just jealous people who have nothing to do. So, that woman is from Russia, married or divorced, mother of one daughter. She pretend as angel of solidarity, to warn me on man.

Next things i found out about her (from my other sources) is that she offers money for sex with strangers. She likes kind of sex tourism. Wow. So, when i talked with my friend, he told me that she called him on Skype and shown to him naked body. Then she offered him to spend holidays together. After he said no, she started to spread lies about him.

So, when i said to her not to bother me, because i don’t know her, and also i don’t want to hear lies about my friends, no matter real or virtual, she changed her tone. She said that i am enormous kind of bitch. I said her to pay for sex as she used to. And blocked her.

Not every woman deserve respect. It is not because we are not all equal. It is because of their actions. How i can show solidarity with such woman, who attack people around , just to make revenge?

I will never blame a man who used opportunity. If woman offers him sex , no matter real or virtual, and he accepts, he is not obligated on relation or any obligation. She offered herself, so he did not rape her. It is his decision what he will do next. If he says, it was only sex, dear ladies, why to make revenge or gossip him later? You have choice to walk away and ask for a man who wants more from you.

In life of every woman will be wrong men. Those who don’t want you, hurt you or leave you. So, what? I am enough proud to respect their decision or to walk away alone. Revenge is waste of time, and for sure i will not hold a handle to someone who burnt because of own mistakes.

That woman fall right into my trap. She did not say “sorry for disturb”. She started to insult me, because i did not accept her invitation for public crucifix. Personally, if woman offers herself , i don’t see where i should dig respect for her.