Temptations – demons on your way

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You made decision and that is your final word. Can you stand behind your attitude when temptation knock at your door? That is harder part. Accord experience, many circumstances will try to rock your plan. You said, i will never do it again, but then something or someone stand on your way.

No matter is your decision about love or friendship, private area is always tough task. You decided not to talk with your best friend because she hurts you. She came and cry, she will give you promise not to do it again, she offers you flowers and chocolates, just to forgive her. Then, if your heart is soft, you will give her another chance. Guess what? Probably, she will screw you again. The question is, how much you will tolerate before you can officially call yourself a fool?

If you are weak on your naughty lover, things are more harder. He will take you into bed and situation is solved, if you look at things from his angle. This is not even near to solution. He kissed you but still he is jerk able to cheat you with every woman, without regrets. He will look at your friends, even sister, in intention to show himself as fatal Casanova. Yes, he will hurt you again.

Your final decision has the biggest enemy, and that is so called temptation. Now you are on diet, but what happens when someone offers you an ice cream? Also, you swear that you will not answer on messages from your ex boyfriend, but he wrote so romantic note that you must reply to him.

What is magic formula, how to hold on your decisions and make it real?

Always check all circumstances around you. If you see anything suspicious, stay silent and wait.

Don’t trust to people who already screwed you. They need double check.

Don’t feel regret or sadness if you hurt someone who hurt you before. This is paycheck.

Jump into this situation if you have to. You will get burn and next time you will not repeat this again.

Advises are not desirable thing. I know i don’t like to listen advises, especially if i did not asked for it. Also, it is easier to judge from comfortable situation. The best adviser is person who was in your skin before. If someone passed similar or same path, listen to this person. Word final is always drastic. I know what you think, how is sad not to talk with someone again, not to give him chance. Or, how is hard to resist to temptation. This is rat race in the circle. You give chance to someone, he screws, you cry and then again. How much does it need before you felt totally exhausted from that evil demons?

Sometimes, destiny will decide instead of you. For example, Adele was crazy for Thomas, and he played with her 3 years, but when he found Isabel, he never called Adele back. In fact, he avoided her everywhere. She could win in that game when it was time, but she let him to win. She did not use her cards and Thomas used it against her.

It is hard to resist to temptations, but it is more harder to carry burden of humiliation, after you realize that someone laugh to you, behind your back. So, when you have bullets, shot. Stick on your final decisions, no matter how much it hurts. Result is joy and space for something better.

How much expensive are your mistakes?

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We are born clumsy. You try to walk and you will fall. Try to swim and you will swallow water. Your heart will skip beat from fear that you can get drown.
Nobody learnt everything about life immediately, in the first moment. Some people are learning fast, others are behind them. What is in common,  people are not robots and not perfect. This means, we will do plenty of mistakes on every fields.
I remember when i wanted to learn typing on keyboard with 10 fingers. This skill of typing i needed to make my job easier. I was in mess and very slow. Later it was very useful  so it saved my time.
Mistakes are part of your life. Who will  learn, work and participate in anything can’t avoid mistakes. What is bad is judgment and contempt.
Oh, you are retarded. You don’t know this? How you don’t know simple and basic things?”
Every skill starts with mistake. You will eat bitter meal when you are cooking for a first time. You will stand on foot of your partner when you try to dance. Also, if you are learning other language, you will do mistakes with grammar and spelling.
Some people are talented for particular fields. This talent is something born with them. Sergej Jesenjin was wonderful Russian poet. Isidora Duncan was dancer. Maria Callas was singer in opera. They had special gift and they used it.
Problem is when someone is pushed into fields where he doesn’t belong.
We can’t all be familiar and celebrities. Sound of bad voice or clumsy dancing will cause laugh and mocking. Such persons are inspiration for  stand up comedy from their attempts. We must know where we are standing and not to make shame from our attempts.

What is important, if we want to progress we must keep trying. If you never try, how will you know what is your limit? Also, if you give up after few mistakes, you are indeed weak. Cry because you got bad mark? Fall in depression because your boss yell on you? Someone spit on your work? Well, deal with this as with challenge. Show them that you can.

The basic of every success is – learn from your mistakes. Update your masterpiece with this mistakes. Mistakes are warning and lessons, if you can listen and hear their message you got the score.
People who never learnt from their mistakes are still in stand by and pending position. They are frozen because they gave up or did not know what to do next.

Why some women stalk beloved men?

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Harassment is sign of despair. When person try to get with force something what he cannot get on nice way, that is call for help. In many cases women will talk about sexual abusers, pushy maniacs who disturb them in real and virtual life. So called male pigs are everywhere, starting from early childhood when guys pull on hair little girls, asking for their attention, and until nowadays when man whistle to sexy woman on the street.
For sure, every woman faced with unpleasant situation. You are walking and bunch of manual workers are yelling “Hey chick, come here sweetheart. Come to me baby , give me your number. ” I see smirk on your face because every normal woman would not fall on pushy man. Now, imagine yourself in different situation. You saw handsome man in the street and start to stare at him. Next step, you wish to know his name, number of his phone, place where he is living. Sit on the bench in park where he is sitting, just to talk with him. He might roll with his eyes, but he is polite and he will listen what you wish, before he shows you way out.
As much world is filled with pushy men, the same is on woman’s side. Men will say that is good to meet pushy women with open mind, because of easy sex. Also, in the times of despair, men will use pushy woman to fill their needs for talk, dating, feeding ego. Well, not all men are the same and if you are really annoying woman, you are turn off example.
Helen went with her new boyfriend in local night club. Paul was never there, cause he was from another city and he wanted to see place where Helen live. They went to have fun and that night was big crowd. Paul felt that local women stare at him, he was different from domestic guys, his clothes was fancy and he had gentleman’s style. Soon he felt hand on his butt . One of local “ladies” pinched his butt and smiled to him. Helen was very angry and drag his boyfriend on other part of club. Paul was equally surprised. His reaction was : “Don’t worry my dear, she is indeed ugly. And it never happened to me before. “
Maybe some other guy would think that is very cool to pinch him for butt, but Paul was gentleman and he had his standards. That woman was cheap in his eyes, and his girlfriend Helen raised her price. After all, Helen did not approached him first. He saw her mysterious smile and offered her drink and it was beginning of their story.
If you think guys are rude, if you had no success with guys, think about are you doing some mistakes.
This mistakes will rate you low:
You send your half naked photos to guys on internet, even you hardly know them.
 
You comment other photos as you never saw men. “Wow, gorgeous, perfect, masterpiece!”
 
You walk around half naked , inviting guys for a date or ask their number . 
 
You don’t mind if guy you wish is already taken or even married.
Now, imagine yourself in bar full of men, and you want to buy a drink. One man hug you around neck, other man push glass of beer next to your mouth. Third man slap your butt. Abusing, start of raping, violence, right? Well, in women world is also possible to get bad experience. Handsome guy might feel unpleasant when woman’s crowd scream his name as he is rock star. Woman could abuse on many ways, and still she will tell that she is a woman and that is allowed, because woman can’t rape man.
When man has soul, he doesn’t want to be raped on verbal way or emotional or any other way. When you push yourself as opportunity to particular man, you take him away his choice. Then, he will think in two direction : he might reject you and show you the door or he might use you for purpose, but i guarantee you that he will not call you again.
Maybe you enjoy to be woman on first line, but it is not nice if you expose yourself as bad example. You don’t need to beg, force or negotiate with man, if you want man. Some others might kill for your attention.

Shopping is not cure for broken heart

If you are sad, grumpy or your heart is broken, shopping will be your best friend. Women practice shopping as additional tool to forget all troubles and make yourself beautiful.

Look at your wardrobe. Accords some polls, every woman use only 30% of her closet. For sure you have trousers or skirt you will never wear. They are size 36, and you are size 40 and your strong belief is that it will fit you perfectly one day. Then you sit in McDonald’s to eat hamburger and you can forget about your dream.

Women can be superstitious. That skirt brings me luck, i had that blouse when i met my boyfriend. This shoes are your fetish, you were dancing whole night and you had many fans because you look so good in them.

Lucy was very unhappy after her breakup. Her friends Sally and Brenda invited her to shopping mall. She had Visa and she joined to them. Lucy was not slim so after she realized that she can’t stand in size 40, she became depressed. Then Brenda started to pick clothes to make her happy. Lucy spent a lot of money, because at the end she just took some things randomly, even without testing. 

After one week she was ready to meet new guys . She was almost ready for Saturday evening party , her friends were at the door and suddenly her necklaces drop her. She bowed to pick it and her dress cracked on the back. That evening she was so depressed that she cancelled all her plans.

Shopping is nice thing, but extreme situations are not good. We are so sad that we want to be happy by force. We jump from deep anger to the highest joy. Some fake things can fascinate us and we will not even check is that real solution for our problems. I am so angry that i will spend money on new fashion collection, but my legs pain because shoes are so tight, and this coat is too big or too small for me. 

Every salesman will have good day when shopping addict come into shopping mall.

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That kind of persons are addicted and they are indeed collectors. They will grab things in any part of the day, and full bags will be result of this shopping mania. Later this person will be maybe hungry or full of debts. Also many people spent their money in online internet shopping.

How many people were cheated by shopping online? 1 from 3 online shoppers were fooled by fake websites who offer ideal conditions for shopping.

 

So, if you practice shopping as cure against sadness or depression, take a look into your wallet. Think about how big financial burden you can handle in next shopping season.

Put your lover on lice

You love him, but you are not sure on his feelings? He likes you, but words “i love you” are not on his mouth?

Love is not always mutual and balanced. We can meet some persons who will be amazing and stunning for us, but still something stops us to love them.

It is easy to have sex, but making love and sex are two different things.

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Main differences :

When you have only sex you don’t want to see this person few days, you need to be alone to clean your mind and heart, maybe you will feel guilt or shame.

 

When you make love you want to be with this person all the time, to make her happy with different things and on different ways because you shared something special together.


Having casual sex is like changing socks. One day with one partner, another day with second partner. Making love is like you buy expensive dress and you will care for this not to destroy something what is so special for you. You make love only with one person, and that person is owner of your heart.

There is an old trick how to recognize real love. Girls will often be fooled by sweet words but actions will make cold shower.

 

Some experiences.

He was great lover, it must be love. He treated my body so great, as real expert. I never enjoyed like with him. “

“We are making love every time when i see him. I think he loves me, otherwise he would not jump on me every time when we meet.”

After this.

“He did not call me, and when i called him he said that he is busy, but i saw him in coffee bar with friends two hours later.”

“I don’t know why his friends are laughing to me. How his friends know that i wear red bra and tanga?”

“He said that i must be a bitch when i enjoyed so much.”

When your relation has only one purpose, when you are not talking with partner, you don’t share nothing except passionate sex, that is not real love. You can test your partner. If sex is the only reason why he or she is calling you, then you can deny this. You will not lose nothing. Iced relation is cold weapon in this cold war.

Dominic and Marie had passionate, hot relation. She felt with him like in “Basic instinct”, just without killing. She could not reject him never. One day she found lipstick in his bathroom and she found out that he is cheating her. She did not say nothing, but when Dominic called her next time, she pretended that she is busy. Dominic did not give up so he called her again for few days. Marie opened door in provocative underwear and invited him on glass of champagne. Dominic started to kiss her, she pushed him and said to him that she is not in the mood. Then she put all cards on the desk, and Dominic was faced with the truth.

He could not say that he loves her. He was using an opportunity, but when Marie rejected him , it was not purpose for this relation anymore. She found out the truth, even on painful way.

 

If you touch partner without feelings of love, if you are just horny, this is like contact of two dead bodies. No sparks and no flame , just superficial instinct. It is alright if you have deal with your partner, but if you love, and he doesn’t love or opposite, then you have problem.

Put your lover on ice and your will know the answer.

Did you try to reanimate dead relation?

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When people fall in love, someone is always in advantage. That belongs to person who love less on first sight. In this circumstances, such person has slow reactions, heart is locked and self control is on the highest level. Other half in this couple is more sensitive, fragile and more available as emotional target.
The same happens when people start to chill out from romantic blindness. Person who chill out first is also in advantage. Yesterday she was crazy about you and she did not notice your bad breath, short legs or not so slim belly. Today she said that you should wash teeth more often, that you are not so fit and that she can’t get horny on you. So when we love even monkey is beautiful. When we don’t love anymore, we see things as they are and our criticism blinks on every detail.
Remember your ex boyfriends or girlfriends from the past. Today you will smile or even regret why you did such choice. But on other side, maybe reactions will not be the same. Maybe person is still into you and they can’t forget or chill out.
What happens when person can’t forget ex love, even it is very clear that it will never come back again?
You stand on the same place. It is impossible to move on because you are frozen.
 
You blame ex partner for all failures in your love life, even he vanished from your life a long time ago.
 
You don’t notice new people around you.
 
You try to get revenge and to ruin other life because of pain you feel inside.
Person who can’t forget made damage to yourself. 
 
Imagine that you try to get back person who forgot you a long time ago.

 
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She will laugh to you.
 
If you disturb to your ex partner , she will call police or someone who will make your life miserable.
 
She can sue you for hurting her privacy and also is possible to ask access barring.
Now you think about, is that worthy, that people feel sorry for you or make jokes with you? Just because your ego is suffering?

My general opinion about people who can’t accept word no is that they never loved this fatal person. 

When you love someone and when relation broke, you will walk your way and let person to be happy, even without you. We all lose some battles in life and we can’t have it all what we imagined. Why to keep someone in fear just because our ego can’t stand defeat? This is obsession, not love.

Naomi had big problems with her ex boyfriend Ted. Long time after they broke up her phone was ringing in the middle of the night and she could not sleep well because she was disturbed by this calls. Ted was following her in all places where she went, but she was persistent in her decision. She ignored him and she was cold as an iceberg. Ted soon realized his nonsense so he left her alone.

When you are stalking person who left you a long time ago, you are catching shadow. 

That shadow will be around you, but you can’t touch her because it is forward you. Also, you are wasting your precious time which will never come back again.

Remember when you had beautiful rose . After few days that rose faded. Even you changed water in vase , that rose was without color and smell. Soon it was dry plant and all you could do is to put this into trash box. The same is with love from the past, you need to close this chapter because it ended a long time ago.

Who is dating online?

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One of prejudices about virtual relations is that only ugly and desperate people get involved in relations over computer monitor. If you ask some people who is dating online, they will see teenage boy who is 100 kilograms weight and live in the basement, so his mother brings him pizza until he is surfing on his new PC. Or, maybe they will see old woman with cats and thick glasses who watch soap operas and meanwhile her computer is opened 24 hours. 

You would be surprised by fact that everyone of us can fall in love in virtual space. What is common to us who fall in virtual love trap is lack of something from real life. In the moment when you find yourself staring into some profiles , you are already there, as sober man who is going to pub and start to drink big bottle of  beer. 

What are reasons to spend much time in virtual chat rooms?

Asking for a friend. Your real friends were assholes or you are so busy with work that you can’t find time for them, so it is easy to find friend in virtual space.

Attention. Nobody listen to you and your problems, but in internet you can post awesome status and pull attention on yourself.

Admiration. Nobody gives a shit for you in reality, but on internet you may surprise people how special you are, so they will admire to you.

Sex. Your real sex life doesn’t exist, or is boring or lame or you have no appropriate partner, or you are too picky or shy. But in internet pages, you can enjoy to watch striptease of some women and to do masturbation.

Love.  There is a long time as you did not feel sparks, and if you are talking with special stranger on internet, you can feel it.

In movie “Her” guy fall in love in his operative system. That is only computer voice, (in movie voice of Scarlett Johansson) and guy lose all contact with real world. When she admits to him that she is connected on such way with thousand users, he is jealous. That is negative side of virtual space, you never know if your special virtual darling shares fairy tale with other people too. You can say to him or her delicate details about your privacy, but how can you be sure that somebody else will not found out this, too?

Internet is big trap. If you are handsome, smart, powerful, ambitious and respectable person in reality, lies will not spare you anyway. Joan was successful manager, but she fall in love in stranger from Greece, and she was doing cyber sex with him even during pause in her office. All until the day when confused client came earlier and reveal her privacy, with red face and blouse on the floor. Joan get lost herself just like that, because Dimitris from Greece had special way to make her mind horny. She was busy, her body was not in action a long time ago, her ex husband left her because of nurse, and she was perfect target for manipulative guy who will give her magic moments.

Your virtual partner is personification of someone who miss in your life. 

Maybe you wanted to date a model? In internet are many fake models. Do you want to date with gang leader? Here is new Al Capone for you. Maybe you just want old fashioned gentleman, he will come with right words for you. They will promise, someone will give you numbers, even send tickets to travel to them, and some will meet with you.

The moment you meet with your virtual mate is moment of truth. Sasha met with Peter who was cool guy on photos, but she revealed that his fingers are hairy, what a shock. He was midget, too. When virtual curtain falls down, actors are on the stage and they represent themselves, but they will show what they real are, not what they played until now. So until now this person was your sweetheart, and now you may update your heart, to compare your perception with reality. 

If you still like what you see, you are winner in this love lottery.

When libido takes over

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Do you feel excited today? If you feel hot, horny and you want only one thing with special person, your libido is at the top and you are ready for action. Even in 21’s century people are sometimes ashamed to say that they are horny because it could be wrongly understood.
When man is horny, that is sexy and desirable, this will increase his masculine power. Well, if woman is horny, she is easy, filthy or vulgar , and she gives right to every man to be close with her.
What kind of reaction could produce naked woman on photo? What will you think if woman start to use words with double meaning in conversation with you? In general, that woman is following her libido. Word libido had its first mention in Dante “Inferno”, where he had described queen Semiramida. Her appearance is allowed  “by law” and libido.
Sigmund Freud defined libido as sexual energy, but Carl Gustav Jung expanded that word, as kind of psychic energy. Accord Jung, libido is moving from one content to another. You can feel libido as magical phenomenon, when you desperately want to touch particular person, because something attracted you as magnetic field.
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In general, the most often turn on’s in women area are:
 
Scent. Person with pleasent scent will be more desirable.
 
Smile. Sound of smile and expression of happiness are aphrodisiacs.
 
Elegant walk. Marilyn Monroe is famous about her walk and rocking with hips.
 
Pleasant voice. Not too loud, not screaming, little deep and slow. 
 
Silence. Closed mouth are sexy , but also mysterious. When you are silent, he will not know which is your next step. This is more exciting.
Also, some things are guarantees that your man will chill out.
Nagging. If you constantly complain, if everything is bothering you, man will escape from you.
Your cell phone is always on your ears. Turn of your phone if you want special meeting with your man. Your mother, your boss or best friend and her gossips are not important in this moment.
Talking about ex partners. Red alarm, never compare your ex boyfriend with present partner. Especially if you talk about size of his penis or skills in bedroom.
Don’t talk that you are fatty or chubby. If you don’t like your body, for sure he will not like it either.
Talking about your period or sexual disease as HPV or herpes is also not desirable. 
 
Don’t panic if you are without makeup or your underwear is not sexy.  
All right, you have no lipstick, eye bags are visible from the plane and your bra is too tight or wrong color, but you should not warn your man about this. You are sex bomb now and think only about this.
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Here are some examples about situations which made people hot, for just one moment. It was spontaneous reaction, and libido was in the top.
 
“I was hitchhiking, and that man drove me in his car. He was so sexy , and i accepted sex with him. He did not force me..it was something in his behavior , it was risky and dangerous situation, so we did it.”
 
“Me and my boyfriend, we were arguing that day for so long. At the end, we rip our clothes and made sex.”
 
” I could not stand my business partner. He is an asshole. But, when we were alone in office and worked at mutual projects, we were so tense. And that happened.”
 
“He was my ex boyfriend, and when i heard that he is in new relation, i seduced him. I could not bear that other woman will sleep with him.”
Her attitude was so bossy. I could not stand her bitching. But we did sex during business journey, in hotel. I wanted to break her resistance.”
 
You can call it devilish feeling, chemical reaction or magical spell. When libido takes over, mind is out of power.

How we handle reality?

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Daily routine is silent killer. You are somewhere in the city, meeting with thousand undesirable people, their faces insult you with their existence.

Do you wish to see beggar who ask you money, drunk kid who is crawling with bottle of wine in his hand or poor old granny with vegetables in bags, asking desperately who will help her to carry her burden.

No, for sure you will wish young girl who will bring you cocktail with cheery or man with muscles who will do unforgettable massage. Or you wish to swim in the swimming pool where only you have access.

The biggest freedom is indeed financial freedom. When you don’t need tram to get on time because your driver will take you. When you don’t need to share your office with old boring hag, and wake up in 6 in the morning, to catch bus where driver will listen terrible folk music.  When your neighbors will not ring on your doors in the moment you just came from work. this world which you created is much better than reality, because here you follow your own rules.

 

Fantasy and reality are in eternal conflict. One world you will need to survive , and other you will need to stay normal and balanced. Dreams will feed you in critical moments.

Sometimes cruel reality breaks people. They leave in mental hospitality,  drink alcohol or even take drugs. Frustrations are sometimes too big and nerves can’t handle this.

I know woman who order daily pills for nerves just to handle reality. She is smoking and drinking and this cocktail of vices is her defense. 


If you feel that you are tired of life, listen loud music just to block sounds of screaming kids in your neighborhood.

Each of us has own twilight zone. We can walk into the edge of reality. We should be careful. Once when you step out from safe zone, everything is possible. Maybe you win at lottery game so you will be rich and creator of your dream life. Maybe your investment can bring you more money, so you are step closer from your realization.


Walking drunk, get high or complain about your unhappy life will not get you any result. You will crawl as snail, surrounded by misty curtain , created by your unfilled wishes.

Love advices with expiration date

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Every woman was once a little girl. Naive child can swallow everything, and elders are here to teach her life lessons. That is how Nancy had distorted vision about love, when she adopted knowledge by her grandmother. Her granny lived in harmonious marriage with grandfather and they stayed together for a forty years. Nancy dreamed about such husband, who will love and respect her forever.

Above all, Nancy got next lessons:

He will love you as you are. So, you don’t need makeup and fancy clothes.

Right guy is chosen for you by destiny. His name is written in the stars.

Everybody find somebody at the end. For everyone exist someone.

Be good and listen to your husband, so he will return you on the same way.

The right one will change himself just for you.

As teenager, Nancy fall in love in Simon. She went on first date in simply shirt, without makeup and with stain on her trousers. Simon laughed so much when he saw her, and they were dating because she made him smile. But when Nancy continued to wear her casual clothes even in front of his parents, he called her messy girl. She gave him sign, that she doesn’t care for herself, so he was not obligated to care for her too.

Next boyfriend was Raphael. Nancy met him in front of night club, when she was vomit after she drink too much beer. She believed that it was hint of destiny, because he puke in another corner. Their relation was trade of alcohol and competition in sickness. When Raphael went to emergency one Saturday, Nancy realized that it is not gift of fate, it was only punishment.

When she was thirty, she got married for Paul. She was good wife, and she accepted all what Paul asked from her. He was businessman and she was constantly cooking dinners for his friends, because he wanted to introduce her as kind of Stepford wife. Always in nice skirt, with tied hair and eternal smile on her face, Nancy was his personal servant. Paul left her because of his business partner Adele, they involved during business meetings.

Now Nancy is divorced and alone. Her grandmother died a long time ago, but Nancy realized that old wisdom doesn’t work in new age. She was constantly chasing a wind, and that wind blown her into unknown direction.

She made an important conclusion, that it is not necessary to stick with someone who doesn’t want to do things for her. Love is not one sided feeling, and for mutual relation both sides are participants. It is not true that everyone will have happy end , because world is full of single people who never found their partners, because of many different reasons.

Until you are in the game, there are still chances for you. It is not the same if you spent life between personal walls or if you collect some negative experiences. Some people will finish alone, but they will have story behind themselves to talk about, to remember that once they were happy.

Granny did not tell her that she must to jump in the water if she wants to learn swimming. If you constantly use swim belt, you will never swim alone. Also, love is not fair play, and if you play accord rules and blocks, it is not guaranteed for good result. When you feel that you stuck in blind alley, change your strategy and forget all what your grandmother teach you. You are responsible for yourself and nobody else will save you, so turn your brain when your heart start to beat faster. Love through granny’s glasses looks different now days, with some updates and changes.