Temptations – demons on your way

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You made decision and that is your final word. Can you stand behind your attitude when temptation knock at your door? That is harder part. Accord experience, many circumstances will try to rock your plan. You said, i will never do it again, but then something or someone stand on your way.

No matter is your decision about love or friendship, private area is always tough task. You decided not to talk with your best friend because she hurts you. She came and cry, she will give you promise not to do it again, she offers you flowers and chocolates, just to forgive her. Then, if your heart is soft, you will give her another chance. Guess what? Probably, she will screw you again. The question is, how much you will tolerate before you can officially call yourself a fool?

If you are weak on your naughty lover, things are more harder. He will take you into bed and situation is solved, if you look at things from his angle. This is not even near to solution. He kissed you but still he is jerk able to cheat you with every woman, without regrets. He will look at your friends, even sister, in intention to show himself as fatal Casanova. Yes, he will hurt you again.

Your final decision has the biggest enemy, and that is so called temptation. Now you are on diet, but what happens when someone offers you an ice cream? Also, you swear that you will not answer on messages from your ex boyfriend, but he wrote so romantic note that you must reply to him.

What is magic formula, how to hold on your decisions and make it real?

Always check all circumstances around you. If you see anything suspicious, stay silent and wait.

Don’t trust to people who already screwed you. They need double check.

Don’t feel regret or sadness if you hurt someone who hurt you before. This is paycheck.

Jump into this situation if you have to. You will get burn and next time you will not repeat this again.

Advises are not desirable thing. I know i don’t like to listen advises, especially if i did not asked for it. Also, it is easier to judge from comfortable situation. The best adviser is person who was in your skin before. If someone passed similar or same path, listen to this person. Word final is always drastic. I know what you think, how is sad not to talk with someone again, not to give him chance. Or, how is hard to resist to temptation. This is rat race in the circle. You give chance to someone, he screws, you cry and then again. How much does it need before you felt totally exhausted from that evil demons?

Sometimes, destiny will decide instead of you. For example, Adele was crazy for Thomas, and he played with her 3 years, but when he found Isabel, he never called Adele back. In fact, he avoided her everywhere. She could win in that game when it was time, but she let him to win. She did not use her cards and Thomas used it against her.

It is hard to resist to temptations, but it is more harder to carry burden of humiliation, after you realize that someone laugh to you, behind your back. So, when you have bullets, shot. Stick on your final decisions, no matter how much it hurts. Result is joy and space for something better.

When she is the master of bedroom

 

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Some men still believe that this is man’s world. How does it look like? Women should not work, her place is in the kitchen, she must be virgin or have one partner for a lifetime. This woman is a lady, with pure soul and worthy to be a wife.

 

It is hard to handle that woman can earn money, but it is more harder to handle that woman can use man only for sex and change partners.  This is against nature, as hens are slaves of cock, he can’t be their slave.

Yes, women move the limits. Famous model Carla Bruni confessed that she was promiscuous and that she doesn’t believe in monogamy. She is leader , alpha woman and she needed man who will understand her and support her no matter what she was.

You want to move limits too, to be Super girl in this men world?

Be careful , you can stand on bomb.

What will happen if ordinary woman says that she used man for one night stand?

she can be subject of big gossip

– man can blackmail her with video or naked photos, if she shared this with him

– other women will judge her too, she is not “lady”

– she will be considered as slut

– she can lose job and good reputation

Standards for women and men are not the same. Men will be popular after he had sex with many women, after he broke hearts around. Woman will be dangerous seductress and even men can consider her as potential lesbian, as kind of woman who indeed hates men.

Women also want to enjoy in life on different ways. Sometimes, we will do mistakes, as choose wrong guy for comfort, to forget other guy who hurt us. In this situation we can find “personal bitch” , even this is against ethic and this is indeed cruel. If woman is honest about what she want, man must respect this. It can’t be shock. Real guy can handle this if he is strong enough.
I think this is a test for real man. If man can accept that woman want only sex, if they made a deal, he should respect this without sharing their dirty secrets with others. This is between them, not for publicity. Only spoiled brat and egomaniac will cry and try to make revenge after woman used him.

Mature man will act like nothing happened, after this they can even drink a coffee together, because they had enjoyment and pleasure. Even this was short and sweet, but this should be a good memory.Man who can’t handle one night stand will also have problems with relations. Rejections are part of life too, and if you accept early that you can’t get all what you want, you will be happier.

This woman was your gift, she was your dominatrix in high heels, and you cannot be her brat, you are her equal partner. She maybe stole your soul, but you got life lesson.

When he thinks that you are undesirable chick

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It is big humiliation for woman when guys take an advantage of her. Any woman doesn’t like to be used as piece of flesh. Imagine that you love someone so much, and all what you got is trade of fluids. So if you are man, and you ask woman : “Do you want to have sex with me?”, think about who is she and what she means to you.
As much any woman despise to be a number in big chain of sexual partners, there is something worse. If woman feels that guy doesn’t desire her, she will be frustrated too.
So now guys are in confusion, what women really want?
 
This is a story about Helen. When she was young, all guys from her city were crazy for her. Blonde, blue eyed and tall woman was their Barbie girl and she changed many sexual partners. She was hungry for men and they were thrilled by this. Later she got married and had two daughters. Years and life ruined her good look, she got diabetes and her body changed. Suddenly she was too skinny, too wrinkled and her blue eyes got dark shine, and bags were visible from the far. Her husband lost interest for her and she caught herself hungry for hot love. She tried to find a lover, but it was not simple as she taught. Men were looking at her young daughters, because Helen was over 50. The other men, who wanted her, were too old or not on her taste. Also, she was married women and nobody wanted problems. So one day Helen got idea to make profile at internet. She posted her photos from youth, and bunch of young guys followed her.
Helen had success in cyber sex and she changed many partners. But soon she got bored to everyone. It was not easy, because guys wanted to see younger women. Helen fall in trap and fall in love in guy who was 15 years younger than she. Barry was sweet guy from Scotland. He accepted her as friend and he even had funny time with her, because Helen still had this young spirit. But soon she became obsessive and Barry got mad. When she opened camera, he was definitely disappointed. He saw older woman in untidy clothes, too skinny and with bad teeth. She reminded him on his granny. So he said to her to leave his virtual life. She disturbed to his other friends too. Finally, he blocked her page and she learnt lesson on harder way.
How horny woman feels when she can’t get man in her bed?
She is nervous and jealous on her competition.
 
She will spread her negative energy at work. Not without reason, some women often make jokes about female bosses. They say: “For sure she did not shag too long.”
 
She will quick try to find partner, just to improve her attraction. 
 
She will make her standards lower. Now she will give chances to someone who was not her choice before.

Meaning of sex is different for women. 

We give part of us to special man, we share our private secrets. Rejection is kick for ego and for heart. Woman will stand in front of mirror and think what is wrong with her, especially if she is in certain ages. Suddenly, she will feel ugly. She will hate young girls who can chose anyone.

In this situation, every woman should have dignity. If you go out with young cousin or younger friend, be ready that men will compete for her attention, not for yours. If you try to push yourself in center or if you insult your friend, this is wrong step.  As sport tournaments have competitors, you are now in senior race. You can do your best and ask for your match.
Smart woman will never stay without her admirers. You know where is your place, that you will not catch Leonardo di Caprio , but it is not end of the world, for sure it is not worthy to sacrifice your pride. There is no bigger fool than old woman who is catching young guy. As in movie “Bel ami”, where Robert Pattinson rejects Kristin Scott Thomas , with explanation : “I was sick when i touched you. “, and she is crying for his young lover even she is married a long time ago.

The most desirable women are mysterious. 

They don’t offer body to everyone and in every opportunity. They smile, give hint and go to save their time. They will say word with double meaning, and if guy doesn’t understand, he is a moron. And, who wants to make love with moron?

How to recognize drama queen?

 

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Life will punish us with bad experiences on one way or another, but our reactions are not the same. Some of us will keep problems inside, suffer quietly and nobody will know about this. Others will yell and notify world about their “tragedies”, as it is event number one.
If your better half is drama queen, you are victim of emotional flood and every word you say can be understand on wrong way.
“Why you look at me like that? My haircut is bad? Oh i know i look fat in this trousers. But you should tell me this into face. “
 
Clint was in relation with Sandra and he was walking on the ice all the time. Few times she embarrassed him in publicity because she could not hide her moods. She was witch with broomstick and her friend circle was very small.
Drama queen is usually woman, but also some guys are very good in that.  It happens especially if there is connection with their career and promotion. Gordon got new job and his boss was harsh with him first few days. He complaint to Union after few weeks, even he was new in that workplace. He left very bad impression on others, because it was something what people remember. This drama king could not stay quiet even when he changed job.
Internet is great place for drama queens. See what happens when someone is angry and wish to delete page.
“I am sad. Someone piss me off so badly. Sorry people i am going. Forever. Go to hell.”
After this, the same person opens fake page or watch around for reactions. This kind of person wish to die, but also she wants to be notified who will come at her funeral. Wow, so much people. What, nobody care? Bastards and idiots never cared for me.
Drama queen could be easy recognized in 5 characteristics.
Immature person who cries for everything. Bad mark at school, bad day, broken nail.
 
She likes to gossip, because there is seed of possible drama.
 
She is never quiet. If she doesn’t cry, she laughs loudly.
 
If she has boyfriend, everyone knows about this in next 24 hours.
 
She is author of haunt stories. She lives life with full lungs, but also she imagine things and exaggerate with details.
Drama queen never heard for balance. So if you wish to get rid of her, don’t show any reactions. This movie you don’t want to see, and she needs audience.

Don’t touch his heart if he is not into you

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The biggest lie which man can say to you is “I will never fall in love.” Translation of this words would be: “You are not the right woman for me. ” It sounds better if you think that guy is simply cold or without heart, and your ego will be less hurt if you think that he can only have sex with women, without feelings. This trap is often , as an excuse when guys want to break some relations or avoid obligations.

Love is unpredictable and it is impossible to resist when arrow hits your heart. Eric was one of big players in his youth. He broke hearts of many girls. They were running for him, crying, even one of them threat him with blackmail, but nothing could force him to fall in love. Then he met this girl Diane. She was independent and busy with so many things, she did not have time for relation. They were friends but nothing more. Once they even had sex and other morning Diane left him a note that she is in rush, she went to business seminar in other city. First time in his life Eric lost power and control. Where she left and why she left, it was kick into his ego. He realized he falls in love, and he did many efforts to win her heart.

Love makes people more fragile and without control. Until we are single, our views are not misty. Under influence of love, weakness will come out to rule with our actions. Love will melt even the most coldest heart. When woman is not the chosen one, she will try to believe in her own lies.

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What kind of excuses women wish to believe, when guy is not the right one?

He is not ready for love relation because he is dedicated to his work.

His ex girlfriend hurt him too much.

He just want to have sex with women and nothing more.

He is asexual and spiritual type. Love doesn’t exist for him, he is religious and he loves only God.

He said that i am too hard to get for him.

Men who wants to avoid women tears will use nice words as explanations why they don’t want to stay with some women. They wish to get rid of feeling of guilt, and to sleep peacefully. In this case, honest and tough guys will give more favors to women, if they admit that they are simply not interested. Smart woman will know the real meaning of this sentences. They kindly say to you that you are not the right one.

The truth is that some men will fall in love harder and not so often. Some men are on distance with feelings, but it doesn’t mean they will never fall in love. As much you wish to get key of his heart, when he starts to make excuses why he is not ready, make it easier and say that you understand all. Give him wink and go forward with your new love stories.

Can you introduce yourself as black sheep?

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Society is covered by rules. Don’t do this, be careful with this, you should not do this. Conformists will follow this rules without complaining because they need this as orientation. This is like compass for them, how to behave if you don’t write tips. They would be lost.

An opposite, rebels make own rules which are not in harmony with rules of society. It doesn’t mean that rebels will behave against law, they will simply not fit in .

It was end of school year and children in class decided about celebration. In former Yugoslavia, all parties were with folk music, and singers as Lepa Brena were very popular. Everybody in class accepted to make celebration with bellows, but Maja said no. Sound of bellows was awful for her ears. She did not come that day in school, simply she stayed at home. They said to her that she is an awesome sausage, in Yugoslavia it was symbol for black sheep.

Maja was fan of Metallica and she stayed by her taste and attitude. Her friends were gossiped her, but she did not care.

– Why you did not come? Everybody talks about you how weird you are.

Strange, weird, odd, just some of description to mark different people. Especially in socialism, there was principle of equality. All people should be modest and equal. Just, some were more equal than others, that was real truth.

Next case happened in prom night. Sandra did not want to dance, and guys were laughing to her. Girl, and you don’t know to dance? Let me teach you. Sandra did not accept this. She simply wanted to sit and talk. Why to force her for something she did not want?

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Black sheep lives on different way.

Childhood –  i will not play with Barbie dolls because i don’t like them

Youth – i will not smoke, drink or have sex because everyone else do this

Maturity – i will not listen my boss because i have right to ask other opinions or i have my ideas

Old age – i am not sick so i don’t want to go to medical center

If you are black sheep, you are not sensitive on critics, you don’t have much friends , but you have the biggest choice. Be sure, others are envious and jealous because you have guts. You paid your price, but you got an award, to authorize your personality as brand.

Middle solutions are not good deal

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Life is big tasty cake. People will gather around table to grab the best pieces. Some will take the best parts, others will take only what is left. Who will be the winner? Winner is not person who is faster than others. This is person who reject to take crumbs. 

Everyone wish the best for himself. Beautiful woman, good job, lot of money, nice house. Do you wait granny with plate and cookies or you take some efforts to realize that? Or, you are satisfied with middle solutions? We can’t have everything, but some things we deserve.

Love is area where middle solutions are just comfort. Sometimes, our heart is willing to accept middle solutions because we love someone too much to let him go. We can’t take this eraser because we will suffer.

 

What are middle solutions in love?

I don’t love you so you can be my friend.

I like you but i don’t love you so you can be my mistress.

I want you in my life but not in the way you wish so call me sometimes.

Middle solutions are crumbs. They are destroyers of pride and dignity. Why you take this from guy who underestimates you, if other guy would offer you much more?

Besides, if you are satisfied with crumbs, you will live whole life with pieces. Others will realize their dreams, you will watch other ‘s success and something inside of you will make you frustrated. This little worm is digging into your soul, why you let yourself to live like this?

Big changes need big cuts, the same as you need to throw crumbs if you wish to get whole cake. It is familiar feeling when you love someone so much that you will accept him in every circumstances. 

When you will wake up?

When you see that he respects and love other woman. 

When he is ready to take stars for her, and you are just number for him.

When he is rude or cruel with you, because you are his nothing.

Life is movie, and you are one of actors. What is your role, on the stage or in background? Do you wish to watch others eternally how they take things in front of your nose until you are in the corner?

When someone say to you “life sucks”, be sure this is person who missed his best opportunities. They disappeared in cloud of smoke. So close, and yet so far away, because he had no guts to take whole cake.

Are you busy queen bee?

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Every woman dream about to express yourself in private life and in business. Some of us are really successful because they have luck or they are organized and surrounded with people who can help with obligations.

Woman with 3 children and successful business career needs help of her family. Husband , her mother, mother in law are here to help her with daily burden. This happens if everything is alright inside of her family. Ordinary woman is not celebrity as Angelina Jolie and she can’t effort to pay babysitters and bunch of servants. She needs lot of ideas and creative mind how to handle with this busy life.



What happens when things go wrong? 

Angela had big plans. She wanted to have kids, rich husband and successful career as judge in District court. During years, her husband was too busy because he was doctor , a surgeon. Kids were sick and Angela did not have help of her mother in law because she lived far away from her. Soon at her workplace came new intern, to learn about job. Angela saw this opportunity to spend more time with kids and she took free days but also she connected this with so called sick benefit. Her husband gave her support that she can pretend sickness, just to be with her 3 kids. New intern got all business burden on her back. Bunch of files, appeals, hard cases and nervous clients were in front of her office. She did her best, but when Angela get back after one month, she started to complain on her mistakes. That client should not pay so small money penalty. That case of inheritance should not finish on that way. New girl almost got breakdown and she had big conflict with Angela, especially because she was employed to do voluntary work at court, for symbolic money.

 

Sometimes women are very selfish in their desires to take everything. 


The same as queen bee, they want to rule with private and business life, without thinking about others who can help too. When Angela said “but my kids had flu”, she was thinking about her family, but not about girl who worked for her. There is a line. It will be the moment in life when everything is crushing. Then, we can’t blame others. We must know balance between our wishes and desires.

Besides, when woman thinks she can do all by herself, others will not help her properly. Maybe husband will not take care of kids because his queen bee knows this the best. Maybe mother in law will not cook lunch because she feels it will not be good enough.

When woman have career and big family, she must slow down and accept help of others. Only on this way she will avoid to judge or blame others for her mistakes.

Patience is overrated

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Mabel is taking her little daughter in the market. She always did the same scene. Bunch of chocolates are in her hands and she wants to open and eat immediately. Mabel is gentle mother and she knows that little Tara will cry if she will not get her favorite candies. But her teeth are not in well condition and too much sugar is not healthy for child. So this time she said no. Tara started to scream, and she did not shut up until Mabel slapped her. She did not hit her hard but it was useful. Tara stopped to cry and her face was just grumpy, but next time she did not ask for a candy.

Patience is wonderful thing. Some people have ocean of patience and you can move their limits into the sky. Your friend came at your door every day when you came tired from work. How to reject her, she is so kind. You want to take a nap and you said to her that she came in another time, but she said she is busy later. 

During life we will need large doses of patience. When you wait for your turn into market and moron in front of you is counting small coins or his master card is not valid. When you go to the dentist and old granny is there for an hour, without intention to get out. When your husband don’t want to throw garbage even it smells for a days. 

What to do when your patience is over limits?

You can do things which other don’t want to do for you, alone. 

Remember this when someone will ask favor from you, and don’t do it for that person, for return.

You can force person to learn on hard way. 

Use aggression if you need. Violence is not the way, but sometimes is effective when other tools will not work out.

Get out from situations which makes you frustrated. 

You don’t need friend who will not respect your free time, stalkers, pests who don’t understand your needs and wishes.

Use joker. Find person or occupation who will replace others. 

Ok, i have no luck with this job and this guy, but there are other people who loves me and i will spend more time with them. Also i have hobbies which can make me happy, i play tennis, i play bridge and there people appreciate me, so i don’t need to spend time with boyfriend or friends who are always stubborn when i ask something from them.

It is very familiar that nice words will open every door. When kindness is not more effective and when patience is at the end, another options are in the game. Time is money, and having patience means you are wasting your time. Why wait this jerk to call you and he is always getting late? Why work at this job for a years and they can’t say even thanks for all what you do for them?

When you are treating someone with patience, you give benefits to that person. He is testing your nerves. You will see how much is easier to deal with someone else, when patience will not be even option. Someone who will do things for you without you even ask. How easier is now, when someone do special things for you, and you don’t have to spend hours and nerves to get what you want?

People are as ground. You can seed everywhere, but flowers will not grow in dry landscape. 

Why some people act like fake saints?

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Angels are not always how they look like. Woman with flowers in her hands and nice smile is not always person with pure heart and good intentions. As angels could be only demons in pink suit, so called innocent woman is indeed spoiled seductress.

Women will play rough games against each other when it comes time to catch real man. They will set traps for their competition, with gossips and fake friendships, just to prepare territory for their games. One of the ways how to eliminate rivals is to make damage to their reputation. Make yourself saint, and make others dirty, this is first step in this war. Naive men will fall into this spider net, because when guy has no experience, you can sell him cat in the bag and he will not notice that.

Astrid and Nicholas had nice relation until they did not start to talk about her past. He heard something about her and he wanted to check details. Astrid was honest woman so she admitted to him that she slept over 10 guys in her life. His reaction was : “My stomach can’t handle this.” His image about pure woman crashed, and he could not bear the truth. 

We are all bloody under skin, so as humans we will do some sins. Some of us will hide it, some will expose that, and some will try to forward attention on others, to talk bad about others , because that is easier than clean own mess. World is not fair, so if you play fair that is not guaranteed that others will play fair for return. 

If you want to fool men that you are angel, all what you need to do is next:

Smile in his presence so he will think that you are always in good mood to listen him.

Stay silent when he is mad on you, because he must have right.

Be a woman from fairy tale. Talk sweet as sugar is comes out from your mouth.

Confirm his words, you are not here to think, especially not to think different.

Stay out from fights, because this is not feminine. Ladies never debate with others. They sit in the corner during the war.

Weak, conservative and inexperienced men are mostly victims of fake saints. 


Such men are not able to accept that women are not here just to please their wishes and that they are not first men in their love life. They wish to see princess and virgin from the story and often they forget that such woman doesn’t exist, except in their fantasies.

When such men reveal the truth about their favorite women, they are disappointed. 

What is the truth about fake saints?

Their smile is not always kindness. Sometimes woman smile because she fooled you. Sometimes this is professional smile.

She is not silent because she afraid of you. She prepare her territory for misleads.

Her sweet words are not true words. She said this already, to many guys before you.

If she agrees with you on first sight, actually her opinion is different, but she melts because you wish to see that.

If she is not arguing, it doesn’t mean that she is peaceful. She could be hypocrite and double faced.

It is better to accept truth about woman if she tells you this in confidence, because that means she trusts you. She told you about her past because she doesn’t want to hide things in front of you. Is it better that you hear this from others?

Myriam had internet profile on social network , with lot of friends. Her smile is familiar and men considered her as angel, because she has only nice words for everyone. Then story about her jumped out, as shit from the flowers. She involved with married man, she was his mistress, and in the same time she cherished friendship with his wife. All were shocked, especially poor wife, because Myriam was so saint and pure. Her knife stabbed many in the back.

Truth is not always sweet. Men will swallow bitter pill about their women, but it depends how strong is their attitude, and which ego will allow true facts. 

If you can’t stand honesty, you will live in lie. It is better that someone talk bad into your eyes, than to smile behind your back.