Where is conflict zone in common life?

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Even most compatible couples will have conflicts. Small fights and discussions are part of life, especially when you share your space with someone. Who can handle years of life in common without arguments? Every conflict is indeed test for couples.

Small conflicts are constructive. You will say what is bothering you, he will say his opinion and you can met on half way. Also it can make your relation spicy and more exciting. You are fighting, soon you will kiss and make love with him. Sounds like in romantic movie.

What are most often subjects of conflicts between couples?

His or her parents. You can’t stand his annoying mother, she brings lunch every time she visit you, like you don’t have idea about cooking. Last time, when she went, you throw her meal into garbage. He can’t stand your bossy father, this man knows the best about everything, from football until how to paint wall.

Sex. You have headache, he is horny. He is busy, and you want to make love. How to find common language between sheets?

House work. Who will wash dishes, and who will make lunch? Why your man is so untidy, that you jump over his socks and shirts which are on the floor? Why your woman use bathroom as space for her makeover? When she will cook something tasty?

Friends. You don’t like her best friend. That woman is barking as dog. She come to drink cup of coffee and you must watch and listen her gossips whole afternoon. You don’t like his pals too. His friends are drinking buddies, they will drag your husband in striptease club and he will back drunk.

Television. Oh, why he must watch this Hustler every time? Why she is hanging on 24 Kitchen? And that stupid programs about baseball and handball? Who is watching this anyway? He can’t stand Oprah.

Kids. If you have children, you will argue about their behavior and education. Who knows the best? You think you must be gentle and soft with children. He thinks that paddle comes out from paradise. Why not to yell on your daughter? She needs to learn about respect.

Money. If you both earn money, you will pay your bills together. If you don’t have job, you are into problems. Every partner will complain after some time. What, i will work for you and your expenses? No way. I paid this phone bill, to whom are you talking so much? Did you call hot line? I know you called your auntie in Australia. I will not work for your barking on the phone.

Love relation is big complex, and lot of things must work out to be successful. This is like an orchestra. All instruments must sound good. If not, you will have incredible noise, and you will get out. You live with your love, and you can’t work by your own. No, you are not alone when you take decisions. Ask your partner for opinion and make a deal. That will be beautiful melody, you created this together.

Can you recognize control freak?

 

 

Surprises are part of life. We never know what expects us today or tomorrow, we can’t predict all possible situations and changes. This unpredictable life is beautiful because opportunities are everywhere. Surprises can be good or bad, but we can’t control them.

Rhonda had awful habit to check everything around her. She would lock the door twice before she went out. She was also calling her husband anytime when he did not come at home in expected time. The worst part of her personality she shown at workplace. Her colleagues were terrified of her emails. Every mail had option of confirmation, and if someone did not replied on her email, she was yelling why they did not do it. Her dream was big umbrella , that would be shelter for all people she knew , with purpose that they act accord their wishes.

Once her son teenager went to birthday party. She called him three times to check is everything all right. At the end her son said to her: “You are really annoying. Why don’t you leave me alone? I will be drunk so much that you will call the doctor.” She really upset him.

Rhonda did not understand that she is burden for people around her. She wanted to save the world, but it was impossible mission. Her husband broke leg and she did not have power under it. It was sign that her control freak behavior is not welcomed. That was kind of alert, she did not realize that is impossible to control events and people around her.

Control freaks are possessive and obsessive people. They want kind of power and their behavior is overprotective. If person expose mother’s instinct or jealousy in large amounts, control freak is on the way. Under that behavior is fear that something bad will happen, that things will run away from expected directions and what is the worst result, we can’t stop it. What if my son get drunk? What if my husband will cheat me around, that new girl in office is gorgeous? So i will stalk him or call every hour, he will not have chance to do it.

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How other people react on control freaks? 
Nobody likes it. You can get insulted from anybody if you will try to put him in chains. This is like you want to create invisible handcuffs. Did you expect that your beloved person will give you report about his activities? You are wrong.

Don’t try to cut someone’s wings, don’t spy in private space and also if you do it, control is the worst way. 

You will get an opposite result. People will runaway from you and they will hide things in front of you. You thought that someone will give you keys into their privacy? See what happened, your trespass in other privacy got an answer. Next time when you will try to open secret door, you will find double lock.

5 signs that your friend is a mole

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Word friendship is overrated. If you are naive, easy going person, you will call everyone your friend. There is classification, in which cases someone grows enough to be your friend.
1 level : acquaintance – person you met recently, and you like it at first sight
 
2 level : colleague – person who works with you, but you don’t know nothing at first sight about him
 
3 level : roommate – someone who lives with you by certain circumstances, if you are in dorm or rented flat, someone you share office because you work together
 
4 level :  friend, because you both want it
 
5 level : best friend, someone you can trust more than others
People often mix friendship with rivality. Rival or competitor is person who pretends friendship with you, but indeed she wants to compete with you and to do everything better than you. The trouble is, if you are better in some area, person will show envy and jealousy . She will try to sabotage you, and having such person in your circle is similar as you live with mole in your garden. So, here is flowers and green grass, but somehow it doesn’t smell like you expect. Something ruins that flowers.
As example of real rivality i will mention girl i knew before many years. Recently she met my mother and asked for me, even we did not see each other 15 years. Still, she wanted to know details about me, my partner, my job and what is going on. When we were friends, she was always comparing herself with me. If some guy would be interested for me, she would say : “He was flirting with me too. ”  If someone talked bad about me, she would pass me information with apology that she sorry for hear this. If she heard something good, she would make it as meaningless information. We broke our friendship when i realized that i don’t need this in my life. I had more respectful enemies, at least they did not pretend that they like me.
Even you maybe think that someone is your good friend, circumstances will show different view.
You will see is this connection between you and x person rivality or real friendship.
 
 
Your friend is close with your enemy. 
Ok, we have choice to whom we will talk, but if your friend spend more time with person who hurts you than with you, think about friendship.
Your friend is too spontaneous in company of your boyfriend.
If your friend wants to hug and kiss your boyfriend, and she says that she do this because of some “brotherly love”, think about real motives.
Your friend always forward you gossips.
“She talked bad about you. He laughed to you. I heard he doesn’t like you. ” Ok, it is not bad to know what others think about you, but if your friend constantly forward gossips, she maybe enjoys to make you sad.
Your friend is not here when you need him. Never.
Friendship is alley with two sides. You will do him favor, he will do it for you. Well, if you constantly give, and never take, if he is making excuses why he can’t help you, this is not real friendship.
Your friend is not happy when you are happy. 
More, he ask some tiny things to make your happiness smaller. For example, you got job in another city, and he says : “You will be so tired, by travelling every day. “
Moles are animals which do damage. Mole is symbol of cracked, ruined friendship, because someone doesn’t like you as you thought. Be careful when you deal with mole, because on long terms, this friendship is much worse than war with enemy.
With enemy, you know clear that he doesn’t like you. Mole will make your sight foggy, and you can get lost in this blind alley.

How wives deal with husband’s mistresses?

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You love him, but she also love him. Here is the crowd in this love circle, and one of you must get out. Love triangle with one man and two women is filled by pain and tears.
When you know that you share guy with other girl, you should gave up from him. Now , the main question is: “Why should i give up? Let other woman get out and leave him alone.”
This is ungrateful position. Wife and children on right side, mistress on left side. Wife can lose a lot. Stability, financial situation will be worse, children will suffer and divorce is not so good idea. This is not just matter of just one person, if wife has two children, we have three ruined lives, all because of fatal woman , sexy mistress of your husband.

Wise woman will play on this card of women solidarity. Many won this game with ace of solidarity in their pocket. Two women, same gender, we should understand each other.

When Lydia found out that her husband is cheating her with Ingrid, woman from his office, she called her to drink coffee together. Lydia was not furious or rude. She was lady as always, and she said:
Dear, you have no idea what are you doing with my husband. We are married 20 years. Our children are almost adult, and of course we get bored from time to time. This routine can ruin all passion. But, he is not rich man, and if we will divorce, i will took him all money. You will earn money for him. Also, he is boss of department, if his business partners will know for affair, he will fall on low position. Divorce is big trauma and it will affect on his job, and job is his first love. He will hate you. But, if you love him so much you will be poor and happy. Also, do you know he still have sex with me? Think about next time when he will touch you.
Ingrid had just opened mouth and she stayed without words. She expected that Lydia will spill coffee on her or slap her, but really nothing like that happened. Lydia was coldblooded and kind, but her words were cutting her heart as knife. Ingrid was blushing from shame. She started to feel compassion toward children and she could not imagine herself in situation which Lydia described.
As Lydia said:
I don’t know you dear, but if you will be lucky to find husband, one day some women can do this to you. The same you did to me. Think about how would you feel on my place. 
Lydia finally shown to her photos of her children and Ingrid started to cry. She did not feel good and she left from coffee bar.
After this meeting,  with time, Ingrid learnt about women solidarity. She left his lover without explanation, even she asked to be removed from his department.
Sometimes, we must teach men that they are wrong. If you think that your men will never desire another women, you live in illusion. You need to find a way how to stop him, but without force and begging. One of ways is woman solidarity.

You will see on social networks many funny situations.

Men will write that they are married or engaged. Then they will add hot and sexy friends, and their wife will follow them. If you added man who is already taken, and his wife is on Facebook , invite her too and show her that you have no interest for her husband. Yes, i know, nobody can steal guy from computer monitor, especially if guy lives in another country. Just, this is a matter of pride.

Your guy has status in relation, and he is flirting on other walls? Let we kill this bitches. No, very wrong. You can add hot guys too and this game will be never ending. Or you can appeal on women solidarity. Any smart woman will not involve in other relations. It can be only humiliation, imagine you flirt with other husband and he kick you out from his page when he will get what he wanted. His wife can have password too, so if you send hot message, she will read this.

We are women, fragile, sensitive, but very dangerous and jealous when we love. Don’t touch my man, and i will not touch yours too.

Middle solutions are not good deal

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Life is big tasty cake. People will gather around table to grab the best pieces. Some will take the best parts, others will take only what is left. Who will be the winner? Winner is not person who is faster than others. This is person who reject to take crumbs. 

Everyone wish the best for himself. Beautiful woman, good job, lot of money, nice house. Do you wait granny with plate and cookies or you take some efforts to realize that? Or, you are satisfied with middle solutions? We can’t have everything, but some things we deserve.

Love is area where middle solutions are just comfort. Sometimes, our heart is willing to accept middle solutions because we love someone too much to let him go. We can’t take this eraser because we will suffer.

 

What are middle solutions in love?

I don’t love you so you can be my friend.

I like you but i don’t love you so you can be my mistress.

I want you in my life but not in the way you wish so call me sometimes.

Middle solutions are crumbs. They are destroyers of pride and dignity. Why you take this from guy who underestimates you, if other guy would offer you much more?

Besides, if you are satisfied with crumbs, you will live whole life with pieces. Others will realize their dreams, you will watch other ‘s success and something inside of you will make you frustrated. This little worm is digging into your soul, why you let yourself to live like this?

Big changes need big cuts, the same as you need to throw crumbs if you wish to get whole cake. It is familiar feeling when you love someone so much that you will accept him in every circumstances. 

When you will wake up?

When you see that he respects and love other woman. 

When he is ready to take stars for her, and you are just number for him.

When he is rude or cruel with you, because you are his nothing.

Life is movie, and you are one of actors. What is your role, on the stage or in background? Do you wish to watch others eternally how they take things in front of your nose until you are in the corner?

When someone say to you “life sucks”, be sure this is person who missed his best opportunities. They disappeared in cloud of smoke. So close, and yet so far away, because he had no guts to take whole cake.

Patience is overrated

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Mabel is taking her little daughter in the market. She always did the same scene. Bunch of chocolates are in her hands and she wants to open and eat immediately. Mabel is gentle mother and she knows that little Tara will cry if she will not get her favorite candies. But her teeth are not in well condition and too much sugar is not healthy for child. So this time she said no. Tara started to scream, and she did not shut up until Mabel slapped her. She did not hit her hard but it was useful. Tara stopped to cry and her face was just grumpy, but next time she did not ask for a candy.

Patience is wonderful thing. Some people have ocean of patience and you can move their limits into the sky. Your friend came at your door every day when you came tired from work. How to reject her, she is so kind. You want to take a nap and you said to her that she came in another time, but she said she is busy later. 

During life we will need large doses of patience. When you wait for your turn into market and moron in front of you is counting small coins or his master card is not valid. When you go to the dentist and old granny is there for an hour, without intention to get out. When your husband don’t want to throw garbage even it smells for a days. 

What to do when your patience is over limits?

You can do things which other don’t want to do for you, alone. 

Remember this when someone will ask favor from you, and don’t do it for that person, for return.

You can force person to learn on hard way. 

Use aggression if you need. Violence is not the way, but sometimes is effective when other tools will not work out.

Get out from situations which makes you frustrated. 

You don’t need friend who will not respect your free time, stalkers, pests who don’t understand your needs and wishes.

Use joker. Find person or occupation who will replace others. 

Ok, i have no luck with this job and this guy, but there are other people who loves me and i will spend more time with them. Also i have hobbies which can make me happy, i play tennis, i play bridge and there people appreciate me, so i don’t need to spend time with boyfriend or friends who are always stubborn when i ask something from them.

It is very familiar that nice words will open every door. When kindness is not more effective and when patience is at the end, another options are in the game. Time is money, and having patience means you are wasting your time. Why wait this jerk to call you and he is always getting late? Why work at this job for a years and they can’t say even thanks for all what you do for them?

When you are treating someone with patience, you give benefits to that person. He is testing your nerves. You will see how much is easier to deal with someone else, when patience will not be even option. Someone who will do things for you without you even ask. How easier is now, when someone do special things for you, and you don’t have to spend hours and nerves to get what you want?

People are as ground. You can seed everywhere, but flowers will not grow in dry landscape. 

Why some people act like fake saints?

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Angels are not always how they look like. Woman with flowers in her hands and nice smile is not always person with pure heart and good intentions. As angels could be only demons in pink suit, so called innocent woman is indeed spoiled seductress.

Women will play rough games against each other when it comes time to catch real man. They will set traps for their competition, with gossips and fake friendships, just to prepare territory for their games. One of the ways how to eliminate rivals is to make damage to their reputation. Make yourself saint, and make others dirty, this is first step in this war. Naive men will fall into this spider net, because when guy has no experience, you can sell him cat in the bag and he will not notice that.

Astrid and Nicholas had nice relation until they did not start to talk about her past. He heard something about her and he wanted to check details. Astrid was honest woman so she admitted to him that she slept over 10 guys in her life. His reaction was : “My stomach can’t handle this.” His image about pure woman crashed, and he could not bear the truth. 

We are all bloody under skin, so as humans we will do some sins. Some of us will hide it, some will expose that, and some will try to forward attention on others, to talk bad about others , because that is easier than clean own mess. World is not fair, so if you play fair that is not guaranteed that others will play fair for return. 

If you want to fool men that you are angel, all what you need to do is next:

Smile in his presence so he will think that you are always in good mood to listen him.

Stay silent when he is mad on you, because he must have right.

Be a woman from fairy tale. Talk sweet as sugar is comes out from your mouth.

Confirm his words, you are not here to think, especially not to think different.

Stay out from fights, because this is not feminine. Ladies never debate with others. They sit in the corner during the war.

Weak, conservative and inexperienced men are mostly victims of fake saints. 


Such men are not able to accept that women are not here just to please their wishes and that they are not first men in their love life. They wish to see princess and virgin from the story and often they forget that such woman doesn’t exist, except in their fantasies.

When such men reveal the truth about their favorite women, they are disappointed. 

What is the truth about fake saints?

Their smile is not always kindness. Sometimes woman smile because she fooled you. Sometimes this is professional smile.

She is not silent because she afraid of you. She prepare her territory for misleads.

Her sweet words are not true words. She said this already, to many guys before you.

If she agrees with you on first sight, actually her opinion is different, but she melts because you wish to see that.

If she is not arguing, it doesn’t mean that she is peaceful. She could be hypocrite and double faced.

It is better to accept truth about woman if she tells you this in confidence, because that means she trusts you. She told you about her past because she doesn’t want to hide things in front of you. Is it better that you hear this from others?

Myriam had internet profile on social network , with lot of friends. Her smile is familiar and men considered her as angel, because she has only nice words for everyone. Then story about her jumped out, as shit from the flowers. She involved with married man, she was his mistress, and in the same time she cherished friendship with his wife. All were shocked, especially poor wife, because Myriam was so saint and pure. Her knife stabbed many in the back.

Truth is not always sweet. Men will swallow bitter pill about their women, but it depends how strong is their attitude, and which ego will allow true facts. 

If you can’t stand honesty, you will live in lie. It is better that someone talk bad into your eyes, than to smile behind your back.

How to get rid of mistress?

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Sparks are cruel tool. At the beginning two people will fall in love and they can’t explain chemical reaction between them. Why they want to rip each other clothes, why they want to kiss all the time, and why everything is less important than their love, answer is somewhere in the heart.

When this situation chills out, love is discarded, person is rejected and it could be obstacle to your future. What we can say, that all what happened wasn’t real? Or it was just magical moment with deadline?

Some men are simply promiscuous. They will get marry and once when they feel comfortable, hunter zone is again opened for them. What they need is mistress. They will find mistress, but then , after some time, mission is accomplished, and what now? They need new flesh, but how to get rid of old flesh?

Stephan is one of the bosses in high position, he works for government. He is in happy marriage, with two kids. His secretary, Alice, is sexy young woman. Once, in business trip, they involved and slept together. This relation continued and Alice started to believe that he will leave his wife. That was fake hope. Stephan soon realized that Alice is similar to his wife. Passion moments became annoying moments. Alice was ordering, complaining and nagging. She took role of wife, even she was not in position to to this. When Alice replied on important business call, without asking, Stephan got mad and broke up with her. Alice was desperate. She was stalking him, and Stephan fired her. She lost everything, and Stephan did not even apologize to her. Simply, he wanted to avoid drama and to erase her from his life. Few months later, Stephan hired new secretary, Betty. He involved with Betty , but she was not instant adventure. She was mysterious and not easy to get. She gave choice to Stephan, to leave his wife if he wants to continue with her. Stephan left his wife and kids. He really fall in love in Betty and he chose life with her.

Men will often ask, how to leave previous love , and not to hurt her? In Croatia, we would say, you can’t be fucked and fair in the same time. 

When man fed up with his mistress, he is cruel, even without intentions. 

What men usually do in this case?

They stop send messages.

Avoid every conversation.

They stop to call.

They find many excuses not to meet with this women.

They are constantly in rush, busy and without free time.

If you are man who wish to be fair, gentleman with good manners, if you don’t wish to hurt ex love , you should do next:

Explain in few words your reasons, why you can’t be together more. 

Tell her that you don’t want scenes or scandals.

Show respect and say thanks for time you spent together.

Tell her that she deserve someone who is better for her.

When you see her , after breakup, don’t turn your head. Say few polite words.

If she will need favor from you, if she might ask you for help later, do it. 

Do not underestimate her, don’t make her miserable. Especially don’t insult her. 

You can find out about person many things after breakup. Even women will say, pain is the same no matter about way of breakup, it is better to say goodbye on nice way, than to be kicked out in the ass, like the last trash. 

After time, things will look different. You might walk with your husband in front of your ex lover. This ex lover can talk with you, with respect. At least it will not be uncomfortable situation for you. You are someone who is respected. Maybe your husband work with your ex lover? Better that he is gentleman.

Imagine situation that you broke up on terrible way with your ex, and you did not want to leave him alone. Your present boyfriend heard roumors about you, something as “take care of her, she is insane.”  This label you don’t need really. 

Walk like lady if you had deal with trash. Walk like lady if you had deal with gentleman. In both cases, you can win. In first case you had no luck, and in second case your luck was with deadline.

How to control hot temper?

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Hot temper is a bomb. Every harsh word and provocation will make fire and person can explode . System will simply collapse and all what is left are remains. You can be smart, beautiful, genius, but if you can’t control your reactions in important moments, your life will be hell.

Arthur is famous as very hasty man. His rage is worse than flame, he destroys everything on his way. One day he returned earlier from business trip. His wife had unknown male guest and before she had chance to say anything, he got mad and smacked him into face . He was shocked, until his mouth were bleeding, he explained that he is new colleague from work and that they work at common project. Damage was here, and Arthur regret his action, but this man never visited them again.

It is easy to get angry. If you let your emotions to lead you, you are in trouble.

The way of anger and rage is full of thorns. You can hit someone who is stronger than you, he can sue you or his friends can make pancake from you. Life is not cartoon and when you get up things cannot be fixed. If you feel large amount of rage, if you act like fury, find alternative way to chill out. If you need to break glasses, do it in your house, when nobody is watching this, or hit into punching bag. Your anger is boiled water, and bubbles are around you, ready to make a flood.

Stella had love relation with Roman. During this relation she found out that he has another relation with Ashley. He was very wise guy who was sitting on two chairs. Girls were fighting, but nobody wanted to stay away. One day Stella decided to let go this impossible situation. She was tired of threats, paranoid phone calls and conflicts with Ashley. Simply she stopped to answer on Roman’s messages, he was asking for her but she was not there. In the same time, Ashley was his shadow, she was following him everywhere and he felt rope around his neck. After two months Roman left Ashley, and Stella did not move even little finger. She won in this battle, but she make things harder for Roman. He was very persistent in his attempts to win her heart again. She accepted him after he propose her.

If you are silent, calm , if you use ignorance, you will not lose. 

An opposite, your view will be more clear, finally you give chance to your brain to think about. Instincts are hasty, if you do actions accord your feeling in one moment, you will lose. Yes how much i want to strangle this girl who try to flirt with my boyfriend, but i will not give her a credit. She doesn’t exist, and if she wish to prove an opposite, my mind will bring calm decision.

The best revenge is cold meal. 

Put your opponent on pending time. Until someone is waiting your next move, you will get advantage. The best methods are similar as in chess game. Wait until you move your king, start with pawn. Protect your queen, don’t go naked into battlefield. Save your best ways for the end. In the moment when your opponent think that game is over, you will stand up from the floor and fight back. This will be your victory, because you gave chance yourself to calm down.

5 myths about friendship with ex partner

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Broken glass is not available for drink. Broken plate is not available for food. What is with your broken relation? The moment when you broke up , your relation finished. Stay tuned, because maybe your partner doesn’t think so.

After breakup women will cry, throw anger and maybe make revenge. It will happen immediately, cause broken woman’s heart is fragile and our mind could be crazy. Men are different, they will be quiet , enjoy in their new freedom or try to focus at work and friends. Suddenly, 3 weeks passed, you are brand new woman, and he called you. Now his time of suffering started, so he wants to be in your life again.

Here is a trap. 5 myths about friendship with ex boyfriend might fool you, because his intentions are not clean.

What kind of traps women fall the most?

He used sweet words as bait. He wants you in his bed, but not again in his life.

He wants to use you because he has some problems. Financial, maybe he wants money from you. Or he lost support of your mutual friends, and he wants back in your circle, over your back.

He wants contact with you because still he respects you, but he doesn’t love you anymore.

He is not used to erase people in his life. What he do, is because of his good manners.

He realize that he is not sure about his feelings. Breakup was his cold shower, but he is still in dilemma and he asks your help.

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Here is problem with attitude and feelings. You might still love him, but he just still likes you. It is hard to be friend, especially if he found new woman, cause as his friend you will hard accept this. You inherit will be ugly, stupid, bitch, no matter how good is she, you don’t want to surrender yet.

Also, here is problem with ego. Why she, why not you? Why he did some things for her which he never did for you? For example, he stops drinking alcohol in her company, and you were the one who pick him from the floor when he was drunk?

Next problem is in your future. Undefined relation is obstacle on your way. You might meet someone new, but this old one is still disturbs you, even he doesn’t want you back?

The biggest mistakes you can do:

Having sex with ex. Don’t do it, it will be point for him, but not for you.

Call him back, even he was the one who left.

Ask him another chance, even he did not even mention this.

Now, let’s not be so pessimistic so let’s assume that he indeed still loves you. Well, why he hurt you then? Be hard target. Don’t let him in your life again just like that. Close and lock your door. Let he does trespass , because men like challenges. Let he yell, cries, call, until you decide to give him hint. That hint should never be invitation in your bed. Smile, say hello, talk as friend, drink coffee with him and walk away. Let he catch you again.

In the case that you decide to be just his friend, remember you will never be best friends. You will be as reminders on your mistakes. As the time will pass by, you will be happy to reach new level with new partners. It will fade and your ego will be saved.