Why women judge each others?

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Women like to say : i am different, i am difficult, i am hard. This might sound as they want to justify their position when something happens to some other women. “It could not happen to me. I would never do that. ” We are able to judge each other cause it is in our nature.

If everyone is different, then we are all again the same. I would say that everyone can be easy target in some life situations. Sometimes you can’t help to yourself, when you expose your weakness.

Imagine situation. You are hard target when you are cold toward guys which are not your type. That guy is for you ugly, boring, you simply don’t want him and it is very easy to be unavailable toward him. Well, if man attracts you, it is not easy to pretend that you don’t want him, it is not easy to control your feelings, even you smell trouble. That is why we will make same mistakes, even we know how story will finish.

When woman is hard target?

If she is not in mood for relation, not in such phase, because she got over hard breakup or she is busy with her job or personal problems.

If she really doesn’t like guy.

If she wants someone else who doesn’t want her.

If her nature is calculated. Simply, she doesn’t want to waste time on temporary adventures or random flirts.

What is with other women, who are emotional, spontaneous, passionate by nature? Are they easy targets or just not cautious as they should be?

Should we judge them if they fail in relations? Should we give them advices ?

I think every woman has her crush and burn period in life. If she learn this , she will watch out and she will not look at men with same eyes.  Also, if you are person who likes risk, bigger are chances that you will burn your fingers.

I had friend who lived in golden cage. Her first boyfriend was her neighbor, other boyfriend was also neighbor and she got married for him. She never tasted adventures, because she was afraid of risk . She was saved on some way, but on other way she was limited because at her point she was always judging women who lived different.

It is easy to be closed in golden cage when you know nobody can enter. Nobody can hurt you, but nobody can surprise you either.

When woman says, i am different, i would not sit in his car, i would not show my face on internet, i would not talk with such guy, she is judging others on a way like they are childish or stupid. Like she discovered America, but indeed she build wall. Walls are not so resistant and one day one man can swap her on ground.

When you build bridge, when you open your heart, you are open target. You are not different from others , not easy to get, you are just ready to risk. This is only difference between women who live safely and those who live in troubles.

Curiosity killed the cat, as old proverb said, so you can only learn from your troubles. One day , when you get old, maybe you would regret because you did not live more. Or maybe you will be proud because you expose yourself.

My ex office mate once said : “Why to afraid to talk about sex? When i was young, i got laid in beach and everywhere. So, why to regret?”

Who is your friend with benefits?

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You are hungry for passion and you are not in relation? Relation is indeed obligation and it takes lot of attempts to find right partner. Sometimes we can be so busy that we have no time to focus on special person in our life, to reply on every SMS and every phone call, to support that person in the case of troubles or problems.

If we are not ready for relation, we must be honest. Here is an option if you don’t want to be alone but also if you don’t want to be bonded with someone. This solution is friend with benefit.

Samantha was excellent student, she was running for future career and education was her dream. She wanted to become successful lawyer. All her relations broke because she was so busy with exams, seminars and also she was working in library during her free time. Her partners felt that they are  unnecessary things and all gone from her life. This stressful life make her frustrated because she needed sex. She didn’t want to be promiscuous because of her reputation. So she had deal with her best friend Frank. From time to time, they had dates with sex. Frank was single, also not ready for obligations and he liked Samantha so they had casual sex once at week. But then Frank found girlfriend and Samantha became jealous. He was cheating his regular girlfriend with Samantha and that relation broke. Frank and Samantha involved feelings and they became real couple. This story had happy ending.

 

Melissa had no such luck. Her friend Ronald used her for sex, but she hoped it will be different. She realized after one year that it will never change, because Melissa was only sexual toy for Ronald. He was nice with other girls, but he did not know when Melissa has birthday, what is her’s sister name and so many things important to respect person. She took him benefits and broke that connection, with tears.

What is important if you decide to have friend with benefit?

check out is that person single

– accept that is deal only for sex

– don’t be jealous on his or her private life, your meetings are just for sex

– you can get out from that “relation” anytime, without explanation

– don’t judge or blame your friend with benefit, it was deal from the start

If you are not stable person, if you live in dreams or it is easy to deceive you, this kind of relation is not for you. This is game of nerves and your feelings must shut down. Even if that “relation” become something serious, it will not be with force or because you beg for real love. It will be spontaneous.

 

Think about that person, how much benefits he or she deserve , because you are master of your body. Also be sure that person knows to keep a secret, because some people are corny and traditional. Maybe your future partner could not accept that you had friend with benefit. Let it be your sweet secret.

Are you just his number?

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Some women are always satisfied with remains of man’s attention. Their legendary statements are: „let he comes home“, „now is all  right between us“ or „other girls are for sex and i will stay with him“ . That is confirmation that woman is pleased with part of love and attention, as someone who waits on the line. It is easier to fool yourself, lie to yourself or having a relationship which exists only in your mind.

We women are emotional species and it is hard for us to fake love with someone who is not our soul match. If you are not gold digger who cares only for money, you will not be with someone you don’t care about.  You can date with him night or two, but later is phase of pretending, acting and feeling of sickness, nuisance and conscience’s guilt because you use someone who doesn’t owe your heart.

Relations with men who are not in your heart or if they are just dear to you are indeed waste of time. You will sit with someone at coffee table and your eyes will be around, for better opportunity. He will introduce you to his handsome friend and you will regret why he sits next to you when he has so attractive buddies.  He will buy you gift, and you would like to throw this into garbage box. Really, relation with someone who can’t swap you on feet or make you to lose your breath is as raping of yourself.  It is dry love, without heart beats.

Men are on different side , they are another story. Indeed some men are sophisticated and they will not go in bed with every woman, or some will reject even beautiful woman because they are in love in someone else, but also many men will accept flirt offer even they don’t like particular woman. Many men will accept offer for one night to please their ego or that society not consider them as cuckolds. As man’s circle would say : „Why you don’t shag her, you don’t have to marry her. „

Here is time to soap opera because not every woman will recognize that she is on the way station. Some women will gain fake hope that they seduced beloved man. Other women will think , yes he slept with me and it means something. They will say, he would not accept to have sex if he did not care. If hot meeting repeats, their beliefs will be even deeper. Such women collect crumbs whole life and if they spent night with attractive man, they will say „at least he was hot guy“ or „it was night to remember. „

How to realize that you were on way station with your man? How to avoid repeating this mistake?

You were author of this meeting. You called him, sent him messages, and he replies after few attempts , after  you bored to him or he is just silent without many question .

You made plans about meeting and all details, maybe you paid expenses too.

He is quiet and he doesn’t call you after you met. You call him but he is busy.

You attacked him but he is silent again and try to get out from situation with short sentences as „forgive me, it would not work out, i am not guy for long relations. „

Woman in love is blind trophy. She is as one eyed cat and she sees only one side of story. His kiss, his gentle hug, few excuses and soft words. Even if it happens only once, she asks for explanations and blame herself because she did not make enough efforts or she could not keep a guy.

When Ellen was so persistent to stalk Andrew in night club and she came there every weekend just to kiss with him in dark corner, her friend Alison was so worried. She has rolling eyes while Ellen talked about hot Andrew who is so good kisser and she warned her that is not good way to be with guy. This was love by force, while Andrew was waiting Helen’s first step , but he never asked her to date. After three weeks Alison decided to talk with Andrew because she was tired of stories of broken heart.  Andrew accepted her call and gave his explanation : „Well, i am not with Ellen. She is with me, but i am not her boyfriend, she just came to me so i don’t want to hurt her. „

Men who use women as way stations are not enough cruel to say them straight into face real truth. They are charming players, they go on sideways, they wait until women realize the point or until it become boring.  They pull women to leave them because they ignore them, provoke them, underestimated them or they just use silence as answer.  Well, this situation has deadline and that is why is easy to define it. You can’t call someone ten times without feedback. You can’t repeat always the same to the guy without his attention or will to even listen to you and fix his mistakes. He simply doesn’t care.

Way stations are not final destinations. These are wrong turn, places before main path , so that is why that places are defined by deadline. If you are woman who was in his life 5 minutes and he doesn’t extend your deadline, say goodbye to him. Go on main destination with smile on your face and warn your female friends that way stations are not comfortable zones.

How wives deal with husband’s mistresses?

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You love him, but she also love him. Here is the crowd in this love circle, and one of you must get out. Love triangle with one man and two women is filled by pain and tears.
When you know that you share guy with other girl, you should gave up from him. Now , the main question is: “Why should i give up? Let other woman get out and leave him alone.”
This is ungrateful position. Wife and children on right side, mistress on left side. Wife can lose a lot. Stability, financial situation will be worse, children will suffer and divorce is not so good idea. This is not just matter of just one person, if wife has two children, we have three ruined lives, all because of fatal woman , sexy mistress of your husband.

Wise woman will play on this card of women solidarity. Many won this game with ace of solidarity in their pocket. Two women, same gender, we should understand each other.

When Lydia found out that her husband is cheating her with Ingrid, woman from his office, she called her to drink coffee together. Lydia was not furious or rude. She was lady as always, and she said:
Dear, you have no idea what are you doing with my husband. We are married 20 years. Our children are almost adult, and of course we get bored from time to time. This routine can ruin all passion. But, he is not rich man, and if we will divorce, i will took him all money. You will earn money for him. Also, he is boss of department, if his business partners will know for affair, he will fall on low position. Divorce is big trauma and it will affect on his job, and job is his first love. He will hate you. But, if you love him so much you will be poor and happy. Also, do you know he still have sex with me? Think about next time when he will touch you.
Ingrid had just opened mouth and she stayed without words. She expected that Lydia will spill coffee on her or slap her, but really nothing like that happened. Lydia was coldblooded and kind, but her words were cutting her heart as knife. Ingrid was blushing from shame. She started to feel compassion toward children and she could not imagine herself in situation which Lydia described.
As Lydia said:
I don’t know you dear, but if you will be lucky to find husband, one day some women can do this to you. The same you did to me. Think about how would you feel on my place. 
Lydia finally shown to her photos of her children and Ingrid started to cry. She did not feel good and she left from coffee bar.
After this meeting,  with time, Ingrid learnt about women solidarity. She left his lover without explanation, even she asked to be removed from his department.
Sometimes, we must teach men that they are wrong. If you think that your men will never desire another women, you live in illusion. You need to find a way how to stop him, but without force and begging. One of ways is woman solidarity.

You will see on social networks many funny situations.

Men will write that they are married or engaged. Then they will add hot and sexy friends, and their wife will follow them. If you added man who is already taken, and his wife is on Facebook , invite her too and show her that you have no interest for her husband. Yes, i know, nobody can steal guy from computer monitor, especially if guy lives in another country. Just, this is a matter of pride.

Your guy has status in relation, and he is flirting on other walls? Let we kill this bitches. No, very wrong. You can add hot guys too and this game will be never ending. Or you can appeal on women solidarity. Any smart woman will not involve in other relations. It can be only humiliation, imagine you flirt with other husband and he kick you out from his page when he will get what he wanted. His wife can have password too, so if you send hot message, she will read this.

We are women, fragile, sensitive, but very dangerous and jealous when we love. Don’t touch my man, and i will not touch yours too.

Your partner is not your property

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You met someone and your heart tells you this is your soulmate. Hurry up to mark your territory , until hot sparks are in the air.

That is what some couples do. Few fast steps and their partner is already as dog, with necklace, and everybody know who is the owner.

Samuel fell in love in Nicole at first sight. She chose him between many guys and he was proud that he captured her heart. Soon, he introduce her to his family and they accepted her very good. Nicole was kind of lady, well mannered, elegant, educated and pretty. Who would not like her? Soon she was regular guest on all family dinners, every gathering and birthday was an opportunity for Samuel to promote Nicole as girlfriend.Nicole wanted to go on concert of Pearl Jam, but, gosh, it was anniversary of Samuel’s parents that Saturday so they skipped it.

They were just two months in relation, but everyone knew them as couple. Common photos at Samuel’s Facebook page were pop out every day. Nicole is having bath. Nicole eat sandwich. Nicole got period so she is so grumpy. Nicole did not put makeup, what a surprise today. Soon, friends of Samuel were confused, is that really his page? Of course, Nicole got password too. Samuel lost his identity in this relation, even Nicole did not asked for it.

One day all changed. Nicole announced that she got job in another city. It was great business opportunity for her and she said she will move to find flat there. Samuel had obligations on his work and he could not accept her terms to move together with her. He wanted to wait. But Nicole was stubborn and she made distance with him. They were still in relation, but she was with him just once at week. Samuel’s family asked where is Nicole, they gave advices to him, even his brother call her to give his opinion about this relation. They all interfere between them. Finally she lost nerves and left him.

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Why to rush in serious relation if you are not sure or you are not ready? 
What starts so suddenly it will finish fast. Nicole and Samuel were couples as from cover magazine, so popular and perfect, but they were irritating. They raised dust and when circumstances changed, all gone in few seconds.

It is nice to declare your love because you wish that everyone confirm and know about your happiness. But, if you don’t know person very well, why to rush? You can involve your friends and family in something misty and they will also pay price for you. Who is that girl? Who is that gorgeous young man? What you know about them? Our ego will feed with their appearance , because other people will be envious.

Sometimes that is matter of our vanity. Let’s expose our better half because she is gorgeous. Finally, i have something to talk about . Samuel had average look and bad job, but Nicole was a star. She was his ticket to showtime. He found horse for race and his friends could finally shut up and stop to think about him as a loser.

That love was on the stage, something what makes others to talk about. Also, it did not end well, because she did not have enough space for her freedom. If you rush to catch your soulmate, to hold her too tight, it will break in pieces.

If you love someone let it go. If that person returns to you, that love is real. If not, it was just relation in your fantasy.

Put your lover on lice

You love him, but you are not sure on his feelings? He likes you, but words “i love you” are not on his mouth?

Love is not always mutual and balanced. We can meet some persons who will be amazing and stunning for us, but still something stops us to love them.

It is easy to have sex, but making love and sex are two different things.

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Main differences :

When you have only sex you don’t want to see this person few days, you need to be alone to clean your mind and heart, maybe you will feel guilt or shame.

 

When you make love you want to be with this person all the time, to make her happy with different things and on different ways because you shared something special together.


Having casual sex is like changing socks. One day with one partner, another day with second partner. Making love is like you buy expensive dress and you will care for this not to destroy something what is so special for you. You make love only with one person, and that person is owner of your heart.

There is an old trick how to recognize real love. Girls will often be fooled by sweet words but actions will make cold shower.

 

Some experiences.

He was great lover, it must be love. He treated my body so great, as real expert. I never enjoyed like with him. “

“We are making love every time when i see him. I think he loves me, otherwise he would not jump on me every time when we meet.”

After this.

“He did not call me, and when i called him he said that he is busy, but i saw him in coffee bar with friends two hours later.”

“I don’t know why his friends are laughing to me. How his friends know that i wear red bra and tanga?”

“He said that i must be a bitch when i enjoyed so much.”

When your relation has only one purpose, when you are not talking with partner, you don’t share nothing except passionate sex, that is not real love. You can test your partner. If sex is the only reason why he or she is calling you, then you can deny this. You will not lose nothing. Iced relation is cold weapon in this cold war.

Dominic and Marie had passionate, hot relation. She felt with him like in “Basic instinct”, just without killing. She could not reject him never. One day she found lipstick in his bathroom and she found out that he is cheating her. She did not say nothing, but when Dominic called her next time, she pretended that she is busy. Dominic did not give up so he called her again for few days. Marie opened door in provocative underwear and invited him on glass of champagne. Dominic started to kiss her, she pushed him and said to him that she is not in the mood. Then she put all cards on the desk, and Dominic was faced with the truth.

He could not say that he loves her. He was using an opportunity, but when Marie rejected him , it was not purpose for this relation anymore. She found out the truth, even on painful way.

 

If you touch partner without feelings of love, if you are just horny, this is like contact of two dead bodies. No sparks and no flame , just superficial instinct. It is alright if you have deal with your partner, but if you love, and he doesn’t love or opposite, then you have problem.

Put your lover on ice and your will know the answer.

Why relations from comfort are not good to get over someone?

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Space between breakup and new relation is still unfilled. You think about your ex, but he is not coming back and now new guy is in the game.

Sometimes we need comfort, tight hug and shoulder for crying. We are weak and savior is here to rescue us.

The problem is when we are not fall in love, we are just grateful. New guy in our life, he spread hands to catch us, he falls in love, but we are cold and unready. 

Old saying recommended : if you want to heal from previous love, find new love. Like, put new safe bandage on this wound. What if we hurt someone in this attempt to forget?

Sylvia was broken after relation with Richard. He left her because of younger woman, and she was in pieces. She did not go out for a months. Brian was beside her, to make a comfort, because he knew her from childhood, they were neighbors and he was “man for all.” She leaned on him in every trouble. She wanted human touch now, soft kisses, smiles and passion, all what she had with Richard. 

Brian loved Sylvia a long time ago, but he waited her to be single. He could not interfere in her relation, but when she had breakup he was so happy, like his deep prayers realized finally. Sylvia accepted his offer for dating, to turn this friendship into love relation. 

Soon, she acted like spoiled brat. Nothing was good enough for her. She wanted to make new Richard from Brian, he was her punching bag. When Brian said “i love you”, Sylvia replied “thank you.” She did not give love back. After some time, she make wish to spend night with Brian. She wanted sex, and Brian wanted to please her. When he started to kiss her, she pushed him away. She saw that wall , Richard face in front of them. Richard gone, but still he was in every corner of her life. 

If we did not get over previous partner, it is wrong to start something new. 


Some time of adjustment, pending phase will be more practical. Find out what makes you happy. Better buy new dress than find new partner. Clean yourself from poison inside you. If you rush in new relation , you can hurt someone who is innocent. Simply, that is chain of unhappiness and you are member of this chain. Someone hurt you, now is your turn to hurt somebody else. That someone must pay, does it matter who is he? Heart and ego must regenerate. 

You have zero situation. Now you feel even worse. You are not just a victim, you are sadist. Are you better than your former boyfriend?

Partner for comfort is not partner for love. Being someone comfort is not grateful position. You are just passenger in this relation. You are travelling with free ticket , in unknown destination. When your ship gone, you will stay alone again. 

Love advices with expiration date

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Every woman was once a little girl. Naive child can swallow everything, and elders are here to teach her life lessons. That is how Nancy had distorted vision about love, when she adopted knowledge by her grandmother. Her granny lived in harmonious marriage with grandfather and they stayed together for a forty years. Nancy dreamed about such husband, who will love and respect her forever.

Above all, Nancy got next lessons:

He will love you as you are. So, you don’t need makeup and fancy clothes.

Right guy is chosen for you by destiny. His name is written in the stars.

Everybody find somebody at the end. For everyone exist someone.

Be good and listen to your husband, so he will return you on the same way.

The right one will change himself just for you.

As teenager, Nancy fall in love in Simon. She went on first date in simply shirt, without makeup and with stain on her trousers. Simon laughed so much when he saw her, and they were dating because she made him smile. But when Nancy continued to wear her casual clothes even in front of his parents, he called her messy girl. She gave him sign, that she doesn’t care for herself, so he was not obligated to care for her too.

Next boyfriend was Raphael. Nancy met him in front of night club, when she was vomit after she drink too much beer. She believed that it was hint of destiny, because he puke in another corner. Their relation was trade of alcohol and competition in sickness. When Raphael went to emergency one Saturday, Nancy realized that it is not gift of fate, it was only punishment.

When she was thirty, she got married for Paul. She was good wife, and she accepted all what Paul asked from her. He was businessman and she was constantly cooking dinners for his friends, because he wanted to introduce her as kind of Stepford wife. Always in nice skirt, with tied hair and eternal smile on her face, Nancy was his personal servant. Paul left her because of his business partner Adele, they involved during business meetings.

Now Nancy is divorced and alone. Her grandmother died a long time ago, but Nancy realized that old wisdom doesn’t work in new age. She was constantly chasing a wind, and that wind blown her into unknown direction.

She made an important conclusion, that it is not necessary to stick with someone who doesn’t want to do things for her. Love is not one sided feeling, and for mutual relation both sides are participants. It is not true that everyone will have happy end , because world is full of single people who never found their partners, because of many different reasons.

Until you are in the game, there are still chances for you. It is not the same if you spent life between personal walls or if you collect some negative experiences. Some people will finish alone, but they will have story behind themselves to talk about, to remember that once they were happy.

Granny did not tell her that she must to jump in the water if she wants to learn swimming. If you constantly use swim belt, you will never swim alone. Also, love is not fair play, and if you play accord rules and blocks, it is not guaranteed for good result. When you feel that you stuck in blind alley, change your strategy and forget all what your grandmother teach you. You are responsible for yourself and nobody else will save you, so turn your brain when your heart start to beat faster. Love through granny’s glasses looks different now days, with some updates and changes.

Too much dominant woman is a burden

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Strong attitude is sexy, because you know what you wish and how to ask for it. You don’t afraid to approach to guys , to express your desires and to take control in relationship. If you do some steps more, you are into men area, and this is negative for you.
Ask any man, would he like to date with vixen? Mostly, they will say yes for one night stand with vixen, but no for relation, especially for marriage.
Who is indeed vixen or harpy? 
Woman with hysterical approach. “If you don’t do what i asked from you, you will pay for this.”
 
Woman who will always complain on anything. “You did not call me on time, you did not wash dishes, you are generally idiot. “
 
Woman who is ready to use physical force to get what she wants. Yellow press wrote about Slavica Ecclestone , as about woman who beat her husband Bernie.
 
Woman who make scenes in publicity, because she needs audience for approval.
 
Woman who involve in everything, so she will know what is the best for her man. Choice of friends, job and hobbies are in her hands. She takes over.
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Men will make mutual jokes about friends who are married with vixen.
Something like this:
“Did you hear about Gary, he went to job in the morning with black eye. His wife has hard fist.”
 
“I called Max on mobile, to invite him on my birthday party, and his wife told me that he is not available for me. She said that i am not good company for him.”
 
 
Love sparks will increase because of our differences. It is not by accident, that woman are more soft and gentle, and men are strong and firm. When you act like man, your man will have bad feeling. It doesn’t mean that you must cry all the time or that your man must earn money for you. You can find sophisticated, female ways, to prove that you have right. There is nothing less sexy than screaming voice or hysterical cry.
Some things will do only vixen, and it will chill out men on the level zero.
Force man for sex when he is not in the mood. 
 
Blackmail to your man, that you will do something bad, if he doesn’t act accord your wishes.
 
Humiliate your man in front of other men. He will remember if you dance with his friend and if you acted as slut in his arms.
Fight with another woman in front of him. For sure, your rival will deserve role of victim, especially if you are the first who attacked her.
Talk open and without limits about your sexual past. You don’t have to consider yourself as sexual machine.
 
Compare your present boyfriend with your ex partner, who was great lover. And if you do deep sigh, be sure your man will remember this.
 
Many teenagers will think that is so cool if they act like Milley Cyrus and talk dirty, or if they call boyfriend as “their bitch.” This is maybe cool in movies, but not in reality. Absolutely, men will not get you serious. He will have fun with you and next day you will not receive call from him. He is a man, why should he needs another guy?
If man is hugged by vixen, other guys will laugh to him. He will be labelled as milksop, because his woman takes control over him. Even worse, if woman cheat him, he is loser of the year. Woman with gun is maybe sexy, but woman with rose is love of his life.  In symbolic way, what you show it will come back to you.

He wants friendship – or more?

I want to be your friend.” – first lie which man tells to woman if circumstances between two of them are hard.

How to be friend if you like person more than a friend? When is friendship between man and woman possible?

1. if woman is much older than man, friendship is possible , she can be as his mother or life teacher, or if man is much older he can be her guide as father figure

2. if there is no physical attraction between man and woman, simply she is not his type, or he is not her type

3. if  both are in happy relations with other people

Friendship and love are as two neighbors. There is limit. If you do one step more, you cross the limit. If you have sex with friend, he is your fuck buddy. If you are jealous on other girls in his company, you love him.



To be a friend, you must be sure that you want friendship and nothing more. Because if you do wrong step, you will suffer. Wrong signals can lead you to nowhere. Talking about friendship, and doing opposite things can be a reason to lose person forever. If you feel more, let he/she know. If is too painful to be near that person, let it go.



Don’t force yourself to be a friend to someone who will just use your affection to build ego. This is wrong reason . The basic of every friendship are loyalty, devotion and dignity. You are his friend and you will support him to find woman of his life. If you are envious and jealous, you can’t be his friend, just an obstacle and he will hate you.

When you are in relation, lot of problems develop because of his best friend or her’s best friend. When you are spending much time with best friend, and ask for a reason to avoid your boyfriend or girlfriend that means betrayal. Your limits must be very clear. That woman you know since you were kid is your friend. She is as your sister, so you have no sexual thoughts about her. She is someone without gender. You can imagine yourself to drink coffee with her, but you will not have fantasies about color of her bra. She will not visit you in your sexual dreams. You dream about your girlfriend when she is absent, you miss her. If you don’t think so, you have problem with definition of friendship.

Sometimes you will be in situation that your friend wants more from you. If you are single and she is single, just squeeze her hand more tight and kiss her in lips instead in cheek. Read her signs, she will spend much time with you, she will find excuses to call you few times on day and every important event in her life will be next topic of your conversation. 

There is saying that the best love relations start from friendships. This is good background, because you know this person very well before physical contact. You can predict her or his reaction. Also, you know that your relation with that person will be based on trust, loyalty and devotion. 

Friendship can turn into love. But love can hardly turn into friendship. After breakup, friendship is very hard. We can have mutual respect and agreement after breakup. Friendship in real sense is not possible to develop, because after you split with someone, trust is broken and devotion is ruined. 

That is why is friendship good start of every relation, but not so good end.