Are you cautious person?

When you get burn, you will blow on cold. Bad experience is alert, and your red alarm will open light anytime when troubles are on the way. This is kind of warning, don’t repeat the same mistakes again. Even repeating is mother of knowledge, if we stuck in the same traps, we are wasting our time. How do you feel screwed from the same person or with same situations again? Like fool.

Roxanne learnt from past experiences. She had violent boyfriend and her blue eye or broken nose were reminders. Many time she justified how she hit into door or how clumsy she was , but once when she get out from this, apologies were unnecessary. Her next boyfriend try to hit her during conflict, and she left him another day.

Somehow, when we pass through boomer situations, next similar event will cause our flash back. I was hitchhiking and i had unpleasant experience, so there is no chance that i would do it again. It was before 10 years or more, and i surprise to myself how i was brave or foolish. Then i lost fear, but now i got warning. This happen in maturity, when you start to feel that is not recommended to put yourself into troubles, if there is easier way to solve problems.  Playing role of hero is not always brave act, sometimes is stupid. If you see that two men are in street fight, will you involve into this if you don’t know them? If you don’t want to be damaged, better not.

When we are careful, we will protect ourselves.

What does it mean?

Sometimes you will refuse to help your friend because it is against your interests.

Sometimes you will not give second chance to people who hurt you already.

Sometimes you will give up from some opportunity, for the sake of someone else. You like this guy, but you are not single so you will not accept his invite for dating.

 

When you are careful, it doesn’t mean that you afraid of risk or that you are closed in the box. Simply, you need time to think about and reconsider this offer. If you think that is smarter to stay away, do it. People can say : “You are coward.” That is not true. For example, i don’t want to travel alone in foreign country to meet with stranger who invite me from internet. I am just careful.

Some battles are not worthy of fight, others need time and adjustments, and sometimes is the biggest victory to stay calm until storm pass. That is difference between childish behavior and maturity. Kids never think about consequences, and mature persons will have kind of Libra, to think about good and bad sides of the same situation.

If we accept everything what this life offers, it is like we are walking around with binding eyes. We can crash with bad people if we act like blind mouses. Careless person is like bat, flying around until she hit into wall.

Our inside alarm should be always turn on. Look at this red button , this is your alert, that you are not doing something right.

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Mouse trap for adults


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We are all victims of some kind of illusions, because life is more beautiful in dreams. It is better to drink and watch movie about perfect life, than woke up with alarm in early morning and go to work which you don’t like but you need money to survive.

Viral mouse traps are in every corner. Bunch of people sharing adds about better job, easy way to get money and perfect business chance. If you buy newspaper you will see page with predictions about better future, about tarot cards, crystal ball and similar kind of misleads, from Zodiac until cup of black coffee with hidden messages for you.

The biggest trap for any kind of misleads and deceptions is internet. There adult people dream about perfect love, perfect business opportunity and generally, about big escape from routine and reality. Well of course there are nice examples , people who were following their dreams and turn them into reality, so everyone thinks that is what they will get, too. Another Bill Gates, Steve Jobs or similar discovery?

Some are more modest and they are asking only love from their dreams. Mysterious person to change their life, to solve all problems with only one touch. 

First step is to open web camera, but then you can be disappointed. Oh, that is not he or her, picture were more beautiful? Expectations fall into water, what now? 

Then it happens, real meeting.

Here are impressions : Oh , i did not expect that he is so boring or that she is so complicated woman? She was asking only for money to escape from her poor country. He was asking only for sex because he got bored with his fat wife and marriage full of obligations.

 

What happens in the worst case is more serious. We could read about missing persons, crime cases, all troubles which appeared only with the one click of mouse. This stories had start when we log into some social network.

Once upon a time only children believed in fairy tales. After kids found out that Santa Claus doesn’t exist and that Tooth fairy is not real, some cried. Others laughed for being so naive.

Today, adults are also victims. They suffer from another kind of fictional stories, mouse traps for adults. Should we cry or laugh when our illusion gone? No, we should learn and realize that in every age is possible to get fooled. 

If you are too emotional, if you love risks and you just hate boredom , this traps will be still for you as kind of black angels. Walk through this battlefield with gloves and play carefully not to get burn.

Crocodile tears

Crying sometimes is in human nature. We are not robots that our emotions can shut down when we wish to do this. Simply, river of tears will flow if something happens to shake our nerves.

In other hands, tears are kind of manipulative weapon. It will test how soft are people connected with us. 

Lana realized a long time ago how to get what she wanted. It was difficult exam and she was third time in front of professor, confused because she did not have a clue. He said that she fails again, and then she started to cry. 

Please, let me pass. My best friend died this weekend, from consequences of car accident. I couldn’t focus.

Her professor was in unpleasant situation. This girl for sure lies. If he will trust to her, she will made fool of him and other students will use the same pattern. But if he deny her request, he will be cruel monster. He decided to give her few more questions. Lana was blushing and crying and finally he could not watch her. She passed this exam with a help of tears.

Indeed, how to react if someone start to cry in front of us? We can give hug and comfort. Say that everything will be alright even this is not true. Make this person smile if that is possible. Or simply pretend that we don’t see what is happening.

Tears are worse that anger. When person is angry, we have equal opponent. That man is aggressive so you can slap him or show him that you are not afraid. When person is sad she shows weakness. You can feel that you are cruel, without mercy. How to hit opponent who is on the floor? You can feel guilty.

Guy is leaving his girlfriend, he can’t stand her tears. She can’t handle breakup. If he saw she is crying, maybe he will change his mind. That will be crocodile tears because she manipulated him. 

Tears could be tool of promotion in publicity. Make yourself a victim. Audience will have compassion. Everybody in Croatia felt sorry when Croatian  singer Vlatka Pokos has divorced from her husband Josip Radeljak , indeed he throw her from his flat, and she cried in TV broadcast. It is easier to believe that tears are real, than to check this background.

There is saying that crocodile has tears when he swallows his victim. That is symbol for people who cry not because they are sad, they cry with purpose. They are more cruel than those who had no understanding for other’s tears.