Why women judge each others?

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Women like to say : i am different, i am difficult, i am hard. This might sound as they want to justify their position when something happens to some other women. “It could not happen to me. I would never do that. ” We are able to judge each other cause it is in our nature.

If everyone is different, then we are all again the same. I would say that everyone can be easy target in some life situations. Sometimes you can’t help to yourself, when you expose your weakness.

Imagine situation. You are hard target when you are cold toward guys which are not your type. That guy is for you ugly, boring, you simply don’t want him and it is very easy to be unavailable toward him. Well, if man attracts you, it is not easy to pretend that you don’t want him, it is not easy to control your feelings, even you smell trouble. That is why we will make same mistakes, even we know how story will finish.

When woman is hard target?

If she is not in mood for relation, not in such phase, because she got over hard breakup or she is busy with her job or personal problems.

If she really doesn’t like guy.

If she wants someone else who doesn’t want her.

If her nature is calculated. Simply, she doesn’t want to waste time on temporary adventures or random flirts.

What is with other women, who are emotional, spontaneous, passionate by nature? Are they easy targets or just not cautious as they should be?

Should we judge them if they fail in relations? Should we give them advices ?

I think every woman has her crush and burn period in life. If she learn this , she will watch out and she will not look at men with same eyes.  Also, if you are person who likes risk, bigger are chances that you will burn your fingers.

I had friend who lived in golden cage. Her first boyfriend was her neighbor, other boyfriend was also neighbor and she got married for him. She never tasted adventures, because she was afraid of risk . She was saved on some way, but on other way she was limited because at her point she was always judging women who lived different.

It is easy to be closed in golden cage when you know nobody can enter. Nobody can hurt you, but nobody can surprise you either.

When woman says, i am different, i would not sit in his car, i would not show my face on internet, i would not talk with such guy, she is judging others on a way like they are childish or stupid. Like she discovered America, but indeed she build wall. Walls are not so resistant and one day one man can swap her on ground.

When you build bridge, when you open your heart, you are open target. You are not different from others , not easy to get, you are just ready to risk. This is only difference between women who live safely and those who live in troubles.

Curiosity killed the cat, as old proverb said, so you can only learn from your troubles. One day , when you get old, maybe you would regret because you did not live more. Or maybe you will be proud because you expose yourself.

My ex office mate once said : “Why to afraid to talk about sex? When i was young, i got laid in beach and everywhere. So, why to regret?”

What we say in silence?

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I am talkative person, but once when i get silent, i can be numb forever. With years i learnt about power of silence, especially in situation when someone hurts you. Before i thought that silent people are weak and fragile, and i underestimated silence as tool of cowards.

Recently one person hurt me. We were close friends, i gave him my trust, loyalty and confidence. He mixed this gifts with toys, and he acted like kids with borrowed dolls, he broke it. We had conflict , lot of insults were in the air, and it finished with silence from my side. I used silence and ignorance as my answer, because it would be endless conflict. Simply, i decided to finish this story with my poker face, while insults dropped as raindrops , i was standing and smiling in the storm of bullets.

I know i won and this is what i said in my silence:

I am busy with my success and i have no time for your frustrations.

I am busy with people who love me, and i don’t have time for people who hate me.

I burnt this bridge, why you still walk on remains? 

I am on my throne so high that i can’t see you, so i can’t hear you very well too.

What i got with my silence?

Peace. I don’t think about his insults because i don’t interact with him anymore.

Freedom. I don’t think what he said, so it gives me space for valuable thoughts.

Smile. I know he can fall very low so i turn his insults into bad jokes.

I know this is not the end and he can appear somewhere to continue our conflict. In this case, i have bulletproof wall. It is better to hit knife in open target, than try to break the wall.

Person who can’t say magic words : i am sorry, thanks for being in my life, forgive me is not a gentleman.

This is just narcissist who asks for applause and audience who will obey to him. This  is not matter anymore, because i learnt magic power of silence.

How is to feel like uglier half?

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Do you know the meaning of word DUFF? That is Designated fat ugly friend, by urban dictionary. So, now you expect creature about 100 kilograms weight, with thick glasses or pimples on face, who wish to be in your company?
Or, maybe you wish to find someone similar, to pull more attention on yourself, because two good looking persons will look better with third, plain or ugly person, who is walking with them?
Society is cruel, especially when you are young. Everyone will talk about inside look, about beauty of personality, but these things came out when you get older. When you are young , there is possibility to collect crumbs from your pretty friends, because you are duff.
Saturday night is here and you wish to go out, to meet awesome guys. You focus your attention on one, but he is too handsome, too cocky or just unavailable. Lucky for you, he has duff friend.
What is the task of this duff?
You can talk with duff friend, to collect info about your guy.
 
If you are familiar with duff friend, you will be invited on party where is your guy.
 
Duff will not be rude toward you. He is happy because he talks with pretty girl.
 
Duff is intro in big game. If you talk with duff, now you are ready for next phase. 
In society everyone plays roles. Soon, some guys will realize that they have power because of their natural benefits.
Sean was handsome guy with 3 ugly friends. Timothy, Ryan and Wesley were cool guys, but they were virgins even they had 25. If you look at them, they would remind you on Adams family. Girls called them Team Gethaldus because they had glasses . Even Sean was rude to them, they did not want to leave him. When Sean dumped girl, she would cry and complain to Team Gethaldus, they were shoulders for crying. Sometimes they would even get kiss or hug from that abandoned girls. Also, they learnt a lot about women psychology from Sean, and once when he was in good mood, he gave them some advices. Later, when they created own business their luck turned over.
For sure many girls felt like the duff , in the company of their good looking friends. For comfort, everyone can be in the role of duff. Imagine yourself as friend of Scarlett Johanson. You are pretty, but she is a star. Or, maybe to be friend of Paris Hilton? She is famous, and everyone will ask about her, you will maybe drag her bags in shopping time.
Some girls will avoid company of popular friends, because they don’t want to be in the background. Other will intentionaly find ugly friends, just to feel superior. In any kind of such friendship, this reasons are bad. You can’t underestimate person, because she is maybe ugly, but she could be smart, talented and creative. You might hurt someone and regret it later.
There was time when i was average teenager, with my sexy friend. She was in short skirts and high heels even she was 16, and i was as nerd kid. Everyone asked for her, and i was kind of postman, until i quit this. Guy interested for me even i was her duff. She wanted to give me advice about him but i wanted to get out from her shadow. Later, i broke with her and with this guy, but i learnt about myself. Lack of selfconfidence will indeed make you the duff.
If you are person who sits in the corner in the night club, if you reject everyone who try to approach you, if you are grumpy all the time and you make conflicts from nothing, you are the duff. This label is something what you stick on yourself. Society is sometimes ugly , but members are here to change the rules.

When your partner makes you embarrassed

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You are crushed into your partner over ears. Will you let him to do anything, no matter what people say? Opinion of others is not important, but if you don’t wish that people laugh to you or pity you, your partner will behave properly. What if you found partner who makes you embarrassed?
This is nightmare for every relation, someone you love is your shame. Men and women will afraid of partner who will get them into uncomfortable situation and in this case there is a choice : stay with partner or leave him.
On first sight, some characteristic will look cool in the eyes of people in love. Two teenagers are crazy in love, he said to his teacher to go to hell, he abandoned her class and shown middle finger. Later, when couple grows up, he might leave his workplace with swearing. Then he will send his mother in law to hell.
Heather cried in relation with her ex boyfriend Thomas, he was great lover, but he ruined her reputation. All her friends started to avoid her, because Thomas used nasty jokes about chubby girls and stupid blondes. He found it hilarious even he was the only one who laughed.
Boundaries between jokes and manners are very thin. Some things could be funny, but not appropriate.
Let’s see situations which women hate, and what will make them feel ashamed.
Partner who stinks. 
Untidy clothes, bad breath, sweat. Your friends might tease you, how you handle Mr Stinky?
Partner who try to flirt with your friends and female relatives.
It is all right if your partner is kind toward your friends, but when he start to comment their boobs and booties, that is not funny anymore.
Partner who talks about his ex’s in front of your friends or in publicity.
That is not nice, to be compared with past lovers.
Partner who ask you money, to pay drinks and food everytime when you sit in restaurant.
 
Partner who disrespect your parents and who doesn’t try to hide this. 
 
Aggressive macho man.
 
He is the one who will yell on you in front of people, because you make your lunch with too much salt. 
 
 
On other hand, men are also terrified that their better half should make them ashamed.
 
Too open minded women.
She talks openly about your penis, sex skills, and her sexual experience.
Smartass woman.
She knows everything better than her man.
Overprotective woman.
She is mother and partner in the same time. She is the one who wipe your mouth after meal.
Woman who poke nose in male business.
She knows all about cars, football, Formula 1. She will correct you, who is the best player in Brazil.
Control freak.
She is the one who watch over you, like policeman. She will give you advices about job and friends, because she knows what is the best for you.
Jealous bitch. 
Woman who will make scene every time when you talk with opposite gender.
Shame is opposite from pride. If you have partner who make your pride under question, that is bad for relation. Partner should work on relation together and make deal. You can yell on each other between four walls, but why should everybody know about your dirty laundry?
Some couples are masters to hide their skeletons in the closet. They are as queen and king, and nobody knows what is behind this. Others are actors in theater, for audience, and that kind of people are subjects of gossips.
It is not matter what people say, but why to give them materials for rumors? After all, everyone likes to talk about others, more than about themselves. When partner says : “I know you don’t like my sister, but for my love, talk with her kindly”, listen this. It is not hard to pretend sometimes. You don’t like your mother in law, but you can say to her that she has right. She will shine, and her son will be grateful to you. Better that, than you make him blush.

What we ask in chat rooms?

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We wish to share some secrets with others, but lack of trust will stop us in the moment. Maybe we feel ashamed and insecure. Maybe we can’t handle expression of other’s faces when we say shocking story. Or, we afraid of boomerang effect, that all what we say can be used against us.
In past times friends were gathering to share problems. We would drink coffee and talk about bad ex partners or hard exams. We were gossiping teachers and bosses. Material is now the same, but place for share moved on. We share our secrets in chat rooms.
Word “trust” has new dimension. That is not situation when you look someone familiar in the eyes. You can open camera, but you are looking in the eyes of strangers. Also you don’t know who is that person, from where is coming from, what is her past. This sounds freaky, isn’t it? If stranger asked you, before 10 years, to tell him story of your life, you would label him as idiot. Now, we are sharing our stories between strangers with nicknames, and that is normal.
Why people love so much internet chat rooms or inbox?
Effect of mystery. It is cool to talk with someone who doesn’t know you. You can lie about yourself and person can’t know the truth. 

Safety. He is far away and he will not come at your door. Unless you give him address. 

Attention.Finally someone is listening you. You have no attention from your friends, colleagues, relatives, but stranger with nickname is listening your problems. 

Feeling of love.You might feel loved. Someone is talking with you whole day, send you messages, and your day is passing between computer monitor and phone. Otherwise, you would cry in dark angle of your room.

Brooke works at office . She is civil officer and her day is covered with calls and papers. All around her is boring, speaking about her office mate who is numb and introvert, until hysterical boss. Brooke found her comfort in chat room. She is talking with Murat, awesome man from Turkey. Her time is passing so soon with him, because everything what he says is different and interesting. Another country, another habits and another culture. Also, Brooke feels special with him, he is listening what she has to say.
People will say that we became strangers when internet appeared. An opposite, internet took place because we treated each other as strangers. Internet did not separated people, because people were lonely before. Imagine this situation. Person x is coughing at office for a half hour, and nobody cares. Unless person collaps and die, nobody will ask you do you need help or medicine. Boss will ask you did you finished your work for today. If you wish to get out because you don’t feel well, you will need licence for exit. Colleagues will have noses in their job, and they will be angry because your coughing is interrupting their work. Strangers in chat rooms will ask you how you feel and they will give you advice.
Strange fact is, when we are enough far way from each other, we start to care more. Distance will break routine, and we will start to ask for other people. We did not notice that our colleague change her hairstyle, but we noticed new profile picture.
Special part of this problem is human character. Bohemian people will hardly fit in. We are not all made for social rules. We don’t want to associate in common lunch in business restaurant. The truth is, reality is limited.
When you are in virtual space, you are totally free. You can delete and block. You can pick with whom you will talk. You will turn off computer when you wish. Well, if you sit in business restaurant with your colleagues, you are not so free. You can’t get up from the table just like that, because someone said something unpolite to you. There are your office mates. Yes, they are assholes and you can tell them open, but other day all will gossip you. Maybe you can lose job. In chat room, you can flag person or simply delete your account. Then you will walk away where you wish.
The biggest freedom starts when we are not aware of obligations. In this case, we don’t have stone in our stomach. We are not obligated to be in internet, but we wish to be. Even it looks that we are slaves or addicted, internet has special way to keep us together on one place. That is reason why strangers are now in our workplaces and neighborhood,  not in chat rooms.
Someone , somewhere  cares about you more than your colleagues next door.

Men who talk hunter stories

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Do you know about kind of guys who always gossip women after they slept with them? For sure , if you are woman you will possibly judge them and think that they are monkeys or social trash.
Imagine man’s circle with few guys who are joking and laughing, and certain woman is subject of their topics.
“She was screaming as pig. “
“She had hanged boobs. “
“She did not wash her teeth. “
“She was psycho, she called me hundred times after we broke. “
Hunter stories are familiar to men species. When someone asked Harry when he got laid last time, he said : “It was prostitute, i met her at club in Budapest. ” After him, Billy said : “She was married and her husband was often at business trips. He was broker, so we got laid while he was not at home. I forgot my watch there so i had troubles later. “
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How to recognize hunter story?
Guy can’t prove that his lover girl even existed.
 
Guy repeat the same story, but with different details.
 
If someone ask where is the girl now, he will say that she moved from city or visited relatives in foreign country.
Details are exaggerated. 
(Boobs as Pamela Anderson. She was model , but nobody saw her appearance in show business. She approached and asked sex at first sight, but she was not prostitute.She picked just him, ordinary guy. )
One of my friends made name for girls which supposed to be subject of hunter stories, but nobody saw them. These are drawn girls. So, when male friends know about guy who never date with girls, and he suddenly talks about dating with bombshell, they will say that he fall in love in drawn girl.
Why some men love to brag about their sexual adventures, and even lie about numbers of their sexual partners?
Well, man’s circle is cruel. Guys have habit to mock members who never got laid, especially when they are already in certain ages. You have over 30, and you are still a virgin? That sucks. So some men will brag about fake lovers, just to save their pride and ego.
Women could be cruel, too. Women love to date with guy who is already experienced, even popular. When some woman hear about virgin, she will say “i don’t want to be his first experimental rabbit. “So, guy will sell her story, just to save his backbone.
Men want to save their manhood. If you did not get laid when it was time, you are not a man. Society has some standards, so you must prove that you are worthy.
Pressure of society. Virgins will ask company of playboys, just to meet with more women. If you are virgin and your friend is popular playboy, he is your ticket into sexual paradise.
Fear from isolation. If you did not have sex, you can be isolated. Your friends are all fuckers, and you did not even touch a woman. What a shame.
Everything has two sides. If you hear hunter story, don’t judge guy too quick. He had social pressure, that you will not like him if he says truth about himself. He is afraid, that he will be boring and loser in your eyes.

Writer out of stereotypes

 

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When we talk about some professions, for sure in our heads is vision about how some persons should look like. So you will imagine cop as tall and strong man, teacher as woman with glasses, butcher as fat man etc.


That is just our superficial view and draft about person . But things are different. 



What if person doesn’t fit in stereotypes?

Nives Celzius is woman who won award for best selling book in Croatia and region, name of book “Naked truth.” That book is about scandals and affairs, erotic events in celebrity world in Balkan. So nothing strange indeed, but that book was the main subject of Croatian readers and Nives got award with name “Kiklop.” Talking about history this award was established by the name of novel of Ranko Marinković, famous Croatian writer, dedicated to him and honorable for all future writers.

So, who is Nives? Nives Celzius is Croatian singer, pin up girl , wife of Croatian footballer Dino Drpić, Croatian celebrity girl who became famous outside of Croatia because of her sex appeal, she was on cover of many international magazines. She is not writer who can fit into stereotypes. So, old fashioned closed mind in Croatia decided to take away “Kiklop” award from her hands. Scandal was even bigger when Mrs Vodopija, Director of the Book Fair in Pula Magdalena Vodopija , responsible for award decided to shut down all future rewards. Simply, Mrs. Vodopija found shameful that Nives can get award, so she wanted to destroy all future possibilities that kind of writers as Nives can get award in future.

Of course, Nives found satisfaction in District court in Pula. There, accord to verdict, final decision was, she must get “Kiklop” right into her hands. Justice won this time, but shadow of shame stayed in background.

Who should be ashamed? Not Nives, she fight fair and she won this game. She wrote a book, Croatian publicity accepted her and she deserve award. But Mrs. Vodopija who told that woman like her doesn’t deserve award because she is not traditional writer, she should be ashamed. So what if Nives had scandals, that is her personal life.

Maybe some people are disappointed with taste of Croatian readers. Yes, we read yellow stamp and scandals, not boring books about war and politics, because we want something to make us smile, that we can feel alive. It doesn’t mean that we are people without taste, we know about famous writers and many of us will like Hemingway, Proust, Dostojevski. But we choose. In this way, Croatian publicity show up that closed minds must stay in box and not to attack other people because they were enough brave to jump out from the box.

Nives is one good example.

Manners and middle finger in football

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Human ego is fragile as flower. Once when something touch it, ego is full of rage and person will make things out of control. If person is connected with any kind of sport, ego should be in background. How many times we saw crazy John Mc’Enroe who throw racket on the ground, or Goran Ivanišević who was swearing? They lost control when their game was not valued, as they thought.

Football is place for various drama. Zinedine Zidan hit italian player Materazzi with his head, Gonzalo Jara put his finger into ass of Cavanni, but in Croatia we also have our gamer for race. His name is Paolo Machado. He is from Portugal, but he plays in Croatian football club Dinamo. I am supporter of Dinamo a long time ago, even this club needs good injection to show some results. In the moment Dinamo is on the way to reach Euro champion League , but they need to change strategy. 

Their coach Zoran Mamić was accused for criminal acts, as corruption and fraud, and he spent 10 days in Croatian jail Remetinec, until someone paid huge bail for him. His brother Zdravko was also with him in prison, and he is vice president of football club Dinamo. They are notorious duo, and people in Croatia don’t like them, especially supporters of Dinamo, Bad Blue Boys, so you can often hear from stadium : “Mamić, fucking gay”, or “Mamić, Gypsy”. As sign of defiance, north side of stadium is empty, there are no supporters, and they appeared only during Croatian derby, football match Dinamo – Hajduk, while brothers Mamić were in prison. 

Fotball match between Norwegian club Molde and Croatian club Dinamo shown interesting things. Result was 1:1, Dinamo played fade game, and Norwegian defense was very good. This game will not be remembered, but Paolo Machado will come into football history. In second halftime, coach decided to replace Machado with Marko Rog, perspective young footballer. Machado got whistles from audience , accord opinion of supporters his participation was not enough. He did not  played as they expected, and people were whistling. Machado put his hand on ear, like he did not heard well. After that, he shown middle finger to audience. Referee punished him with red card. Then he shown both hands as sign of rebellion, and went out. After match he was also punished, coach threw him out from first team.

Ok, we all understand frustration and rage when someone is laughing to you, and especially if that is public shame. I would be furious too. But, he is professional footballer, and he must give an example. Lucky, his red card was out of game, but next time he can get red card in game, and Dinamo could play with 10 footballers instead 11, so that would be damage for team. Also, many are furious on brothers Mamić, because they gave bad example with their behavior. Zoran Mamić hit supporter with fist in one football match, and Zdravko is familiar of scandals with his hot temper. 

Dinamo should change coach and vice president, supporters might came back in bigger number, but will things change? Middle finger is not part of football game. If you can’t give good score, don’t make it worse. Dinamo is already notorious and hooligans already made mess in Luxembourg during match Fola Esch – Dinamo, so Machado is not player who can make good impression. 

Ego or result, now is the question. Better to throw ego out than to show middle finger, because this is not symbol of victory. Middle finger is symbol of defeat, and ego is bad replacement. 

7 sentences which hurt women

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Women are as glasses. If you don’t hold them carefully, they will fall and break into pieces. As much woman is strong and independent, she is gentle creature, and choice of wrong words might hurt her. When guy ask : “What is said wrong?”, he is confused that he mistaked with his approach. Some guys are really nasty and they will intentionaly hurt woman, but others are just clumsy and without tact.
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This 7 sentences will hurt woman, so don’t use it if you care about her.

You look chubby or fat. 
No matter how much overweight is your girl, don’t tell her on this way. She will be insulted, especially if you make bad jokes about that.
Someone told me that you change guys as stockings.
Never brag about her reputation. Don’t say this into her face, she will hate you. Besides, her past is not important.
Your daddy is rich. You have a lot of money.
Ooops. Double sword. She will think that you want her money or that you considered her as rich brat.
You remind me on my ex.
Red alarm. Never compare woman with your ex, women are rivals and it is not desirable at all.
Where you learn those skills in sex?
If you talk about her sexual expertise, you are jerk. Be happy and quiet.
You look older, how old are you indeed?
This is simple and traditional rule, don’t ask lady for her ages.
Why you don’t believe in God?
Choice of religion is only her’s. She could be an atheist and that is not your business.
Man with experience will hold his cards as in poker game. He knows which button to press, how to seduce any type of woman, but yet he can do mistake, if that woman is not what he expected. Immature guy, greenhorn will be nervous, because he has no experience. General mistake appears if guy put all woman in the same basket.
How does it look like?
“Buy her flowers, tell her sweet words and take her into romantic dinner. Make love with her and after that she is yours. If she is grumpy, she is not feminine. That is evil bitch and don’t hesitate to slap her.”
Some men have no patience and nerves to seduce right woman. They will give up on first sign of misunderstanding and then they will wonder why she chose another guy. Man must learn to read between lines, because sometimes is not easy to figure it out, what she wants indeed. Some men will use power and violence to get what they wish, but this is not a way.
Words of  my friend,  about how her husband got her attention:
” He did not listen others what they talked about me. He said, it is important what you say or do to me now, not what you did before. I don’t have time to listen gossips and stupid people, i want your loyalty and honesty. If you break my heart, you will never see me again.”
What makes difference between kid and real man is just in his attitude. Boy will yell or cry, man will think and decide. That is whole story.

Virtual friend – Trojan horse or diamond?

Do you have lot of friends? If you are popular person, probably everyone will call you on birthday, party or any kind of celebration, because you are necessary part of such events.

Now, another question is: Do you have lot of virtual friends?

Together with appearance of internet, friendship got new meaning. Virtual friendship is turn on, and people try to add more and more unknown persons, just to be popular in virtual space. So, you will see around girls in swimsuits , how they have lists of about 3000 “friends”. 

Let’s make an analysis of this kind of friends. Woman x has big Facebook list , because her photo is under avatar of some popular actress or she posted half naked photographs , to pull attention on herself.

Who are these people, and are they really friends?

50% of this list are people who never talked with her. They are collectors of numbers.

25% of this list are people who sent her messages because of her photos. They are searching for sex or flirt.

10% are colleagues from work or school mates. They talk with her or gossip what she wears that day.

5% are her relatives, including brothers or sisters. 

10% are her real friends, they care about her or maybe not, depends of situation.

One day woman x got virus and asked for a culprit. That virus arrived from 50% group of friends. She never talked with sender because she did not saw his messages , her inbox was full of spam. 

When people talk in public ” i want to be your friend”, they often doesn’t know the meaning. Friendship is not based by invitations for applications, boring games, liking boring pages or posting tags around. People who ask for that are interested for attention, not for real friendship. 

Did we forget what friendship really is, when internet appeared as technological tool for gathering people? When we started to ignore people from our real life, because some exotic stranger posted awesome profile photo which capture our eyes?

Imagine situation that you have a flu. You will not be able to post on internet, or you will shortly log in, before you go to bed. You will cry ” i am sick” and expect condolence from people. Some will use an opportunity to post behind your back and spam your wall with tags, others will gossip you around, and minority will send you message to get well. 

Why is this happening?

Virtual friends are strangers. If you don’t know them well, especially if you never talked with them, you can’t expect their loyalty and respect. They came from different countries, cultures and traditions. Even their law is different. What is rude for Asian people is maybe polite for European people. If your virtual friend is person who never came out from his city, it will be hard to understand your habits , if you are open minded creature.

This 5 signs will show you if your virtual friend is person with good intentions:

When you are not here, he asks about you, your health, your problems. He sent messages because he cares.

He will not leave your page if you had conflict with him.

He will not post things without your permission.

He will not share your personal photos, unless you allow this.

He will not flirt with your girlfriend, and she will not flirt with your boyfriend.

 

Virtual people are team. If you can feel their loyalty during years, if they don’t change their opinion about you, you are on the right way. It is not matter do you have 20 or 500 friends, or you can’t add more people because your quote is 5000 already. The point is, that you found right people for trust. One day you can meet some of them or they can help you in hard times.  Depends to whom you give hand. You can get Trojan horse or real diamond.