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Judge me by my outfit

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How many jokes we heard about blondes? What is on our mind when we see Chuck Norris? That is beginning of every stereotype.

Blonde woman is so dumb that if policeman stop her car and ask her identify card, she will look in the mirror and say “Oh, we look like twins.” Indeed jokes are funny, but also offensive. If we can consider every blonde woman as stupid, soon stupidity will be recognized by the color of hair. Look at Sharon Stone, her intelligence is over 140 and she is almost genius. Ivana Trump is successful business woman and Hilary Clinton is politician.

These are only examples how people judge us by the look. Why such approach? It is superficial and not complete, but this is easier. If you have business interview and you put too much make up or you are dressed as you go to football match, you can miss a chance to get job. Unfortunately, your employers can judge you by the look.

 

If you have big breasts and style of Pamela Anderson, you will not be welcomed in business circles. Simply, people will not get you serious. Glasses will made you more intellectual, straight hair more serious and if you add black suit and tie , you are perfect for business meeting. Try to copy style of Linda Fiorentino in “The last seducing”, and you will have an authority.

In many situation people don’t want to dig under surface. Impression which you leave with your clothes will be unforgettable. This is unfair, but stereotypes are in every corner of life. You don’t need to obey, but it will be easier to understand why you are not accepted in certain circles.

Many women want to look younger . Also, this will bring you some negative points. If you are in 40, and you look like 25, really young guys can approach to you and annoy for flirt. You are boss of department and your male partners can treat you as kiddo. Try this look of Ellen Page in business meeting. People will put you in kindergarten.

As glasses don’t make intellectual person and blonde hair don’t make stupid woman, mustaches will not make man from you. But, some details can deceive people. What lawyers recommend to criminals when they come out in front of jury? Wear serious and decent clothes. Let your hair be smooth and tidy. Don’t put too much makeup, wear black or grey. Lindsay Lohan had this nerd look when she was in court.

Imagine victims of raping. Their lawyers will not recommend them high heels or short skirt in the court. Accord prejudices, they will be reserved and their clothes will be conservative.

You want to impress guy on first date?

For sure, your breasts will not jump out from the shirt, unless you  want sex for one night.

Or, your panties will not be visible when you cross legs.

Or you go without panties and wish to be taken seriously?

Some stereotypes can be useful, even you don’t feel as person you represent, it will help you to be step forward.

As in Canadian makeover show Style by jury, people will see side you represent. If you wear casual, untidy clothes, you will be rejected in some important events . If you are elegant person with good manners, door will be opened to you.

Stereotypes are chains, but you can use it to unlock secret gate. It will be fun to see some faces when you show that you are not so stupid as you look like.

communication · cyber space · drama · dreams · ego · envy · erotica · illusion · internet · jealousy · relations

Why women should not propose their partners?

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Not everyone is thrilled by idea of marriage. Men especially want to prolong this time, until they can. One woman since death till us apart, that sounds terrified for many men. Especially when proposal did not come from him, man will think that he lives in nightmare.
Long relations are danger zone. After 5, 10 or even 15 years, woman will ask where is she standing. Or, where this relation goes? In kind of despair, woman will get an idea to propose his man, because he did not do this. I would say, don’t do this , ladies.
Here are 5 reasons why you should not propose your man.
He will feel as half a man.
You do his tasks? You took things in your hands? Well, be sure he will not be fascinated if you buy ring and ask him : “Yes or no?”
You will lost part of your dignity.
Every woman should know when to step back. This is in that case. Instead of force your man, back off.
He might say yes, but later this will be main reason for your conflict.
“This was your idea, not mine, remember?”
His friends, mother and his ex girlfriend could laugh to you.
This kind of things always swims out. Who proposed whom? If that was you, it will be subject of jokes.
You will lose this magic moment to make him in uncertainty.
So you will not see him what he really could do if he is afraid of losing you.
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Women have vision about guy with ring who will crawl to propose them. It will not be always like this. Cool proposal, without much noise, is good way for every man who doesn’t want to sound as cuckold. Ask her is she ready to spend life with you, kiss her and wait for reply.
I understand women who were many years alone or in frustrated relations, until their friends got married. Always maid of honor, never bride. Well, you can make influence on this, but you need to know the way.
If you decided to make him rush with proposal, do it on next way.
 
 
Make it as joke.
Tell him, you look gorgeous in white dress and his mother adores you anyway. If he is silent, don’t force this conversation. He will understand the point.
Don’t go directly. Make it as indirect way to proposal.
Tell him that you got many compliments from colleague, but that you said him about your serious relation, which leads to commitment.
Make a sentence : “once when i will be married for a guy”, and wait his reaction.
Men are not blind. They understand hints and symbolic way. They pretend that they are dumb, but be sure your man knows what he should do. If he doesn’t do this, he has a reason, because he is not sure.
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What is the worst thing you can do?
This is proposal on internet. You can make yourself ashamed, because this is something what others see. It will not be erased so easy. Especially, if your man is someone you did not meet for real.
Leslie did this with Douglas. They met online, on chat. They had virtual relation for a few months, and she felt this is it. Leslie was single so many years, she had some failed relations before, and she was lady in certain ages, over 30. So, what can happen worse? She proposed him on his page. She thought, it will be cool and she will make an impression as independent woman. Ooops. Douglas said short yes, but after this, he did not talked with her. He became silent as someone who got punishment. He was little boy in the corner, terrified from his older teacher. Of course, he was younger than Leslie.
Remember, what is so cool for us women, is not the same for men. You might think you look as Cat woman, Lara Croft  or some other  action heroine who took things in her hands. In his eyes, you look as kidnapper. Someone who stole his power to decide. You deserve to go away from him.
business · career · internet · moral · psychology · relations · society

My first book

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For those who are interested to post review, here is my first e- book.

This book talks about internet world. Suitable for young generation who open their internet accounts without knowing where they enter and for older people who lived in different times, when like was not measure for values.

This book has purpose to make you smile but also to warn on some things which you might not noticed .

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behavior · character · couples · egoism · erotica · internet · jealousy · lovers · men · relations

Are you in relation with robot?

 

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Painful experiences are our teachers, but also executioners. After someone broke your heart, you cry in silence of your room and then your mother or friends will tell you “I warned you.” You will say that nobody has label on forehead  with title “Bad guy”, but if you know to read between lines, some signs will tell you what kind of person is boy you fall in love.  Even you believe that nobody can’t be cruel if you show love to him,  progress of technology makes people different, and your beloved guy is maybe emotional robot.

The main problem of every teenage girl is how to make difference between guys who want to take an advantage and guys who take care for you. Even it looks so fine on first sight, suddenly moron broke you in pieces, and you did not recognize him.

Here is small guide for beginners, how to recognize emotional robots.

He will know his rights, but never his obligations. So, he will ask sex from you, but if you want to introduce him to parents, he will suddenly find million reasons not to do it.

He will not call you every day. He wants you sometimes, not always. 

When he wants you, and you reject him because you have no time, he will be furious. Then you will be guilty for everything, because you don’t run on his call.

He has a lot of female friends, with everyone of them he will exchange kisses, hugs, compliments, and if you show jealousy, you are idiot.

He will talk about your private details to his friends. Beware of this, because now days he can use your internet photos or videos against you.

Search his internet profile. If he has many naked or half naked girls, he is a hunter . You are not his exception, you are his number. 

If you are sensitive person, if you think with heart and not with mind, you are in big trouble. Rational girls always have better results. If you are person who doesn’t fall so easy, you will be desirable target but you will know how to deal with this because your priorities are different. You have friends, hobbies, work, and if your guy doesn’t fit, you will simply erase him from your life.

We can compare love stories now days and from the past. As technology is progressing, as we are surrounded by cell phones, tablets, laptops and all that miracles , with cable or wireless, we are getting colder and colder. Look at some couples when you visit coffee bars. He will write sms, and she will change statuses on her social network. After half hours they will remember that they came together to drink coffee.

In past, women had dance list of partners, men were singing under windows and they got many love letters. France poet Cyrano de Bergerac wrote love letters for fiance of his friend, because that friend wanted to impress her. If you ask modern guy to write you some sweet words, he will ask google or laugh, because that is so turn off.

Modern technology has influence on feelings, so people will act like robots. It is so easy to fall in love in internet and to delete person after you flirt with her. You can block her and you will spare yourself of tears.

New bad guys are not those who will hit you immediately or insult you on first sight.

Their methods are more complicated and sophisticated. They are emotional robots. That guy will send you virtual flowers and then you will see that he did the same to many women. You will get forwarded message about his flirting or some nasty woman will send you his message about you. Remember, that guys grew up in a way that they played video games . They are interested to reach higher level, and you could be their victim.

How to fit emotions in new age?

Be careful who is your virtual friend, don’t get close before you check him.

Remember, this is just computer and if you don’t meet him alive, you are safe from bad lessons.

Be silent if you know what kind of guy is he. Show poker face, he will not know what is behind your mask.

Modern guys don’t sing in front of your window, they don’t write love letters and they search google to learn how to declare love.

Your mother probably used to say before : “Beware of guys who paid your drink, beware of those who wants to slap your butt. ” Now days mothers will say : “Take care of guys in internet space, if they send you request and you never hear for them. ”

behavior · character · cyber space · internet · jealousy · life · men · relations

Which categories of men you should avoid?

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Some men will always walk away with short sleeves from love relations. It is not that they are cursed, ugly or stupid, they are not even poor. Simply, they are in category which is hard to love and women will runaway from them as they are diseased.

I was doing small research between men i know, with different statuses. Interesting thing is, the men who were in relations in past are just temporary alone, and soon they will find new love. They get out from relation, they are between two relation or in front of marriage. That are privileged members in x group. The other group are men who are single a long  time, and they are always rejected. These are members of y group. Between x and y, women will always choose x group.

Members of y group, men on black list:

Narcis. Type of man who is in love in himself. Handsome, elegant, but still alone. Women are avoiding him, they considered him as dull.

Cleaner. Man who lives alone, he is used to do all housework for himself. Flat is clean as drugstore, he cooks as master chief and his guests must follow his order. Women said that he doesn’t need partner. Who would clean and cook better than him?

Nerd. He knows all about computers, he is kind of geek, but his conversation doesn’t go further. Everyone yawn in his company.

Pussy boy. Man who has voice as woman. Sound of his voice is mix of Susan Boyle and Justin Bieber. It is nobody fault if his voice doesn’t have good sound, but you can help yourself with ice cube or smoking. Women like deep male voices. Or at least pleasent whisper, not screaming boy.

Gigolo. He will hunt only rich women, because he is without job. He needs financial support.

Man without standards. If you see guy in nightclub who is going from one woman to another and offer them beer, he is desperate to catch anybody. And woman can’t feel special. 

Virtual freak. Man who is behind his computer all day. He doesn’t know what kind of weather is outside.

Son of his mother. Your biggest rival will be his mother. He lives with her and he will probably still live in the same flat till the end of his life.

Pupil. That kid doesn’t have clue what to do with women. He expect teacher or nanny.

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Another group, with x members, was more successful.
Accord fact i know and stories i heard, they are in relation or married.

Financial independent men, with own flat and own job.

Men with life experience. If he knows what to do with women, they will have easier job. 

Rebels. Guys who are able to say no to social requests. Rejection in right place and on right time is always sexy.

Bodyguards. Not professional as David Hasselhoff or Jason Statham, but woman can lean on them if she falls into trouble.

Potential husbands

That man talks that he wish to marry one day. If guy denies marriage all the time, he is not desirable candidate for relation. Someone who talk about marriage as ebola cannot be good partner for common life.

Guys who can make you smile. Good sense for humor is hot stuff. It is very sexy when you have man besides you who knows to cheer you up.

The point is, there is no guarantee for love. You can be perfect and you will still be alone. But, if you have thousand failed attempts behind you, it is time to research your reasons. Change your perspective and reveal why women is avoiding you.

Typical example of speech which will use desperate guys:

“My life sucks. I am so poor. I will never find true love. In fact i hate women. I stopped to believe in love because women are liars. They are devils . The only purpose is sex and after that nothing else left. You did not reply on my message. You are so rude and bad girl.”

Desirable man will say this:

“I can’t promise you fabulous love story but i love to risk and if you dare to take challenge, try with me. What are your plans for tonight? “

drama · dreams · illusion · internet · lies · lovers · relations

What to expect from virtual relations?

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The biggest paradox of modern time is sharing our feelings with mechanic tools without emotions and expectation of love for return. Computer is our messenger, internet is our voice. Many people will fall in love through virtual space, where love makes various choices.
When you date with person who is available to you in reality, rules are different than in social networks.
As real couple, you will pass through usual problems, but conversation eye to eye will make things easier. This possibility is limited in virtual space, because you can’t touch person, sometimes even not hear or see , and your partner is a ghost.
As much how internet make strangers from people, in other hand it connect us with strangers. So in this situation, we are now strangers for our friends and family, and we connect with unknown people as friends, even lovers. This is double cross, because once when you give trust and confidence to person in virtual space, she will expect something from you.
Unhappy lovers on internet often ask, why virtual relations fails.
Especially, if love birds are from another countries, and why they must come through pain.
Why is virtual relation hard for partners?
If you live in other cities, even countries, money will be big obstacle.
You need to prepare full wallet for all expenses , with purpose of travelling and visiting your love.
 
You never know are you the only one.
Virtual network offers many possibilities, and if your John or Jack gives you heart, don’t be so sure that you are the only soulmate for him.
Jealousy makes new meaning.
You will think about likes or comments from other women. Is she only his friend or more?
You can’t check facts. You don’t know is that real name, ages,  nationality or real profession of your partner.
Recently, i read about story, young woman trade messages with man who had 63 years and grandchildren. She did not know this for 12 years.
 
You can’t expect from person to close all options, because you are far away.
If you think that guy who send you sweet messages will sit at home for weekend, you are wrong. He is maybe in hunting zone, in his real life.
Promises and realizations.
If you did not meet for real, you are not obligated to be faithful.
Some unhappy lovers will go so far, until revenge. Imagine that your virtual relations failed, you are tired from messages, web camera and what’s up, you wish to dance and kiss with man who is near you, and your lover is not available. Suddenly, your virtual lover can’t accept this and he decide to give you lesson.
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What to expect from discarded virtual lover?
If you wrote kinky messages to him, he can share with his friends.
 
He can share photos and videos around. 
 
He can block you because his heart is broken. 
 
He can gossip you to make your reputation bad. 
 
He can disturb to your friends and family, asking for justice.
 
 
Virtual lovers often forgot real basic. They lost in their dreams and fantasies, but real plans are the first thing which they should make. You should know with whom you are dealing. Foreigner , from another country is person with another habits, culture and tradition. Your values and his values could be very opposite.
Romina, as young Romanian girl met guy from Turkey, for chat. They talked 9 months and then she decided to visit him. It was successful meeting, they liked each other and she stayed there and marry for him. It was nice marriage, but she continued to chat with other men on internet. She is still married, but her marriage rocks, because she can’t stop flirting around. She claims that her husband is too conservative man and she did not know this until she met him for real.
Sometimes, friend option will be the best. If someone falls in love in you in internet, and he knows your status, he knows that he is not for you, it is not bad solution to stay friends. Friendship shows respect and loyality. This person appreciates you even you can’t be in love with him. It is cool to make friends from another countries and spread your views.
The funniest thing on virtual space is statement from unknown people, when you don’t want to talk with them or to accept them as friends. “You hurt me, why you don’t add me?” How someone could feel pain from person he never met? Pains enter from expectations, not from people. If you think that some strangers from internet space will be free for you every moment, you live in world of fairy tale.
Why virtual stories are ballads? There are lot of lies, many versions and masks. That is why virtual couples must talk face to face as fast that is possible. You can’t live in internet, to buy virtual flat and make virtual children, to marry and expect every night when your lover will be online.
Virtual story is great refreshment, as cocktail. After ice is melted, that is just warm water , with not so good taste.
couples · drama · egoism · freedom · internet · passion · relations · responsibility

Where is conflict zone in common life?

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Even most compatible couples will have conflicts. Small fights and discussions are part of life, especially when you share your space with someone. Who can handle years of life in common without arguments? Every conflict is indeed test for couples.

Small conflicts are constructive. You will say what is bothering you, he will say his opinion and you can met on half way. Also it can make your relation spicy and more exciting. You are fighting, soon you will kiss and make love with him. Sounds like in romantic movie.

What are most often subjects of conflicts between couples?

His or her parents. You can’t stand his annoying mother, she brings lunch every time she visit you, like you don’t have idea about cooking. Last time, when she went, you throw her meal into garbage. He can’t stand your bossy father, this man knows the best about everything, from football until how to paint wall.

Sex. You have headache, he is horny. He is busy, and you want to make love. How to find common language between sheets?

House work. Who will wash dishes, and who will make lunch? Why your man is so untidy, that you jump over his socks and shirts which are on the floor? Why your woman use bathroom as space for her makeover? When she will cook something tasty?

Friends. You don’t like her best friend. That woman is barking as dog. She come to drink cup of coffee and you must watch and listen her gossips whole afternoon. You don’t like his pals too. His friends are drinking buddies, they will drag your husband in striptease club and he will back drunk.

Television. Oh, why he must watch this Hustler every time? Why she is hanging on 24 Kitchen? And that stupid programs about baseball and handball? Who is watching this anyway? He can’t stand Oprah.

Kids. If you have children, you will argue about their behavior and education. Who knows the best? You think you must be gentle and soft with children. He thinks that paddle comes out from paradise. Why not to yell on your daughter? She needs to learn about respect.

Money. If you both earn money, you will pay your bills together. If you don’t have job, you are into problems. Every partner will complain after some time. What, i will work for you and your expenses? No way. I paid this phone bill, to whom are you talking so much? Did you call hot line? I know you called your auntie in Australia. I will not work for your barking on the phone.

Love relation is big complex, and lot of things must work out to be successful. This is like an orchestra. All instruments must sound good. If not, you will have incredible noise, and you will get out. You live with your love, and you can’t work by your own. No, you are not alone when you take decisions. Ask your partner for opinion and make a deal. That will be beautiful melody, you created this together.

business · career · communication · internet · psychology · relations · responsibility

Thank you 600 followers

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Before i continue with new posts, i wish to say thanks to my followers. Thanks for your attention, comments, suggestion and inspiration.

I am not typical blogger, i don’t write kind of diary as ” i had this for breakfast” cause i am not Beyonce that someone would be interested for that. I write stories from my experience and always protect my sources. Also, i don’t like when someone put link under my blog, i will always moderate this because i think promotion is good only when is allowed. If i want to follow your blog, i will do it by myself, i don’t need push button. Also i never put my links on other blogs, unless is theme about promoting blogs.

I like constructive comments, critics, also i comment under blogs which got my attention. Here are wonderful bloggers, it is also inspirational sourcing for me, cause i can learn a lot from other bloggers, especially cause English is not my mother tongue and i do mistakes in spelling or grammar. What i would never do, to hire professional translator. That would not be me. Also i am not expert for psychology and i would never interfere into professional area, to give some expert advices. My profession is law and i have rich life experience, so what i write, i write from my heart.

I hope my number of followers will increase more with time, and i wish you great inspiration on this start of new week.

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How much internet affects your real life?

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Secret is something hidden and we don’t want to reveal this to everybody. Now days, secrets have different meaning, because if you share secret to someone at internet, don’t be so sure that you will keep this safe.

Bertha was very surprised when her mother in law come into  her house . She was so angry that she attacked Bertha in the same minute when she opened door.

– What i heard about you ? That you will divorce from my son?

All was clear, because Bertha had small argument with her husband Roy and she wrote in her Facebook status “divorced.” She wanted to show him that she is still desirable because he was adding pretty girls into his page and commented their photos on nasty way. Bertha was angry so she changed status. Even she had this status only one night , she got many private messages from worried people and some new friend requests. Also someone with bad intentions called her mother in law to tell her bad news.

Bertha invited her on coffee to explain what is going on. Her mother in law is primitive woman. She raised on village, between pigs and cows and she has no idea about social networks, she even doesn’t know to turn on computer. But, she knows one fact, that people will talk bad about her son and his wife because they will divorce. How she will explain this to relatives and neighbors?

– Don’t worry, it was only a joke. Please calm down.

– How will i calm down? You embarrassed your children, how i will go to market and look people in the eyes?

 

Indeed, secrets and privacy are modified on internet. 

If you work at workplace with strict rules, don’t appear on social networks in provocative clothes or don’t put photos from parties. Especially don’t write name of your workplace and then gossips about your bosses. Don’t open page with your real name and your address. You want to tell the world who are you and that you are successful, but take care, not everybody will like you. Some people are malicious. For example, someone reported Lisa to her headmaster because Lisa was admin on one social forum about love problems. Lisa had big troubles to explain at work why she write on forum during work time. 

When we are angry, sad, excited, even drunk, computer is good as tool to throw out feelings from ourselves. Let’s write, send messages, post photos. Later, we can regret. Someone will be hurt. Someone wants to get revenge. Some people are waiting in ambush for victims, busybodies want to dig into other lives because they don’t have own problems. 

When you log in on internet, it is like you are guest on radio or television reality show. What you had for breakfast? Which sexual pose you like the most? What is your middle name? Don’t worry, everybody will find out. 

Even worse, you are under virtual magnifier. Everything you said or did might have double meaning. 

behavior · character · egoism · flirt · gossip · internet · relations

Men who talk hunter stories

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Do you know about kind of guys who always gossip women after they slept with them? For sure , if you are woman you will possibly judge them and think that they are monkeys or social trash.
Imagine man’s circle with few guys who are joking and laughing, and certain woman is subject of their topics.
“She was screaming as pig. “
“She had hanged boobs. “
“She did not wash her teeth. “
“She was psycho, she called me hundred times after we broke. “
Hunter stories are familiar to men species. When someone asked Harry when he got laid last time, he said : “It was prostitute, i met her at club in Budapest. ” After him, Billy said : “She was married and her husband was often at business trips. He was broker, so we got laid while he was not at home. I forgot my watch there so i had troubles later. “
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How to recognize hunter story?
Guy can’t prove that his lover girl even existed.
 
Guy repeat the same story, but with different details.
 
If someone ask where is the girl now, he will say that she moved from city or visited relatives in foreign country.
Details are exaggerated. 
(Boobs as Pamela Anderson. She was model , but nobody saw her appearance in show business. She approached and asked sex at first sight, but she was not prostitute.She picked just him, ordinary guy. )
One of my friends made name for girls which supposed to be subject of hunter stories, but nobody saw them. These are drawn girls. So, when male friends know about guy who never date with girls, and he suddenly talks about dating with bombshell, they will say that he fall in love in drawn girl.
Why some men love to brag about their sexual adventures, and even lie about numbers of their sexual partners?
Well, man’s circle is cruel. Guys have habit to mock members who never got laid, especially when they are already in certain ages. You have over 30, and you are still a virgin? That sucks. So some men will brag about fake lovers, just to save their pride and ego.
Women could be cruel, too. Women love to date with guy who is already experienced, even popular. When some woman hear about virgin, she will say “i don’t want to be his first experimental rabbit. “So, guy will sell her story, just to save his backbone.
Men want to save their manhood. If you did not get laid when it was time, you are not a man. Society has some standards, so you must prove that you are worthy.
Pressure of society. Virgins will ask company of playboys, just to meet with more women. If you are virgin and your friend is popular playboy, he is your ticket into sexual paradise.
Fear from isolation. If you did not have sex, you can be isolated. Your friends are all fuckers, and you did not even touch a woman. What a shame.
Everything has two sides. If you hear hunter story, don’t judge guy too quick. He had social pressure, that you will not like him if he says truth about himself. He is afraid, that he will be boring and loser in your eyes.