You can’t hide real love no matter how much you try, because signs will reveal your secret. Also, you can’t pretend that you love someone if you don’t feel it , because sooner or later heart will expose your intentions.
When friend asked me how she will know that somebody loves her, i said that she must follow signs.
Which are signs that somebody has crush on you?
He follows every your step and he talks much in your presence, just to be noticed by you.
He will tease you just to pay attention on him.
He will listen you even you talk without sense, because words came out from your mouth.
He will laugh on your stupid jokes.
If something is not alright with you, he will ask you what happened.
He is jealous on his competition, no matter are they your ex boyfriends or friends.
He wants to be in the same friend circle where are you, to make his approach easier.
Women will often make mistakes about words i love you. Such words are not proof of love if actions can’t support them.
The most often misleads about love signs are next:
He said i am love of his life. Bullshit, especially if he says this at the start of the relation. This is too serious statement for someone who just met you.
He said bad words to my ex boyfriend. He broke nose to my friend. It’s because he loves me.
Violence and bad manners are not signs of love. That are signs of insecurity.
He talked bad and dirty about his ex girlfriend. It must be love.
If he talked nasty things about his ex girlfriends, you will be next topic. Next whore, slut or bimbo will be you.
He buys me so many things, and he doesn’t let me to pay his drinks or tickets to cinema and club.
When someone try to buy your affection, he wants to mark his territory. Later he will not let you to go out without him, in dress which he bought for you.
He said that i am the best woman he had in his bed.
Sex is not measure of love, because be sure he said to other girls before you , the same things.
He confirm everything what i say.
That is only sign that he has no attitude.
Couples in love will be noticed at first sight, even they are not kissing and hold their hands every time you see them.
Harmony is like sun, it simply glows. Pamela and Sam often finished their sentences, they have common interests and they help each other with problems. They are not kissing in publicity like crazy, but when Pamela broke leg, Sam was every day in the market to buy food and make lunch for her.
Theresa and Ted were working in the same office and they had debates all the time. They were always on opposite sides. But one day someone saw them after work, they were kissing in coffee bar.
On other hand, Leonard and Rhoda were in long relation, but they were always quiet and formal. So after few years they separated. Leonard prepared this end for a long time, but he did not want to hurt her, even everybody knew that something is not alright. His eyes were always somewhere else, and Rhoda was alone in this relation.
So, if you not sure is somebody return his feelings to you, look at his eyes and you will find answer. Men world is maybe cruel, because if he did not choose you, he can be rough. You will know that you are not this one, and don’t try to push him because you will cause disaster. At least, elimination of one choice always leads to others.
As Stings sing : “Every step you make, every breath you take, i’ll be watching you.”
14 February, time to open your heart and let Cupid to hit you with love arrows. Hurry up and buy candies, roses, perfumes and all stuffs which can make your beloved partner happy. Imagine that you don’t buy gift and her friends got bunch of various flowers, how much your darling can be sad.
Someone marked this day as holiday of love.
Sweetheart’s parade and opportunity for salesmen to earn money on romances. Open radio and you will hear songs as “I will always love you” (Whitney Houston), “Nothing compares 2 U” Sinead O’ Connor, and maybe some death metal band will make naughty sarcastic song about this holiday too.
If you did not see “Romance in Seattle” or “When Harry met Sally” now is a chance to watch this movies. Or you can see “Case of you” with Justin Long, sweet boring movie about guy who wanted to be prince charming made by wishes of his girlfriend.
Girls, prepare for surprise, that you will maybe not find red underwear in malls, because someone grabbed this before for this special day. Guys will run for red roses and chocolates in hope to get something special for this day.
Gary and Martin had this conversation last year.
– Why you spent so much money on this perfume and roses?
– Because finally i have chance for sex with my girlfriend.
Red rose is good ticket to other’s bed. Bring bottle of champagne and you wishes can be realized. Also, if you had fight or breakup with your girlfriend, ask Cupid to help you with apologize. Every girl will check her inbox at Facebook to see how much messages she got.
Secret admirers are also welcome, who did not have guts to declare love during year, now is Valentine, and perfect chance to say what is in your heart.
Husband who insulted or slap his wife will also see chance in this holiday, so his wife with black eye can get bed of roses with promises. Next day her other eye can be black too, but why not to enjoy in Valentine?
If your name is Valentin or Valentine, you are the most popular person. You will be living legend and symbol of love.
Seriously, every day should be day for love.
Show your love with acts, honesty and devotion. I think about men who have wife and mistress. They are in bad position. Which one will get a gift and when? And how about both? Poor man will spend a lot of money.
If woman has lover, also she should be present on both places, husband and lover. That must be very organized person. All in the sake of love.
Valentine has advantage, maybe free drinks or bonus gifts in markets? Maybe your boss at work will melt with rose in her hands, or you will see witch who did not get nothing from her workers?
Be careful this 24 hours. People show more than they wish. One rose can talk more than words and one candle can bring you message about intentions of your partner.
Relax and close your eyes. If your relation is real and stable, Valentine will not change this. In opposite, don’t blame this day for misunderstandings.
It is first date and you want to hear good impression about yourself. Think before speak, and when you speak behave yourself. It is very different situation when you sit in front of person which you don’t know well. You can use profanity if you meet with your best friend because he got used to it. Well, if you say “hello hootie” to girl on first date, you will be labelled as jerk. In this case girl might feel cheap or as your number, and you sound as someone without manners.
Young guys are often not aware that girls are sensitive, and what sounds as joke could be bad echo in their ears, as mocking.
What she doesn’t want to hear?
– you look fat in this skirt
– these boots look cheap
– there is something in your breath, did you eat garlic for dinner?
– you remind me on my ex girl
– can you pay this bill, i have no enough money for tonight
Also, girls sometimes not understand that man is not their therapist, mother or shoulder for crying.
What he doesn’t want to hear?
– I have so painful period, i bleed so much.
– Do you like my makeup?
– What type of car you drive?
– My ex boyfriend is here, i feel so nervous.
– Do you think i am pretty?
This is story from real life.
Sandra and Darren went to date and he took her out of the city. This was small coffee bar with so loud folk music that she did not hear what he is talking. They waited for a waiter for a half hour and they were not alone, because Darren met his best friend with girlfriend so they shared table with them. That girl provoked Sandra that Darren is indeed womanizer and that he will not be faithful to her. She said she was joking, but Sandra felt very unpleasant.
Second date never happened.
If you wish to avoid date from nightmare:
– be alone with your partner
– don’t talk about ex
– try to choose quiet place
– focus on her or him
– don’t look at your cell phone every 10 minutes
– don’t stare in every good looking person around
You want to arrange second date, isn’t it? Think about things you said because first date can be the last if you do many mistakes.
Some people are flexible and they will forgive mistakes, but next time they will look at you with doubts. First impression doesn’t come twice and you can’t fix it. You might learn what you do wrong, so next partner will have more luck.
Once upon a time there was handsome knight who fought for honor of his lady. If someone insulted lady of his heart, he started a battle, with intention to win or loose his life.
As time is passing by, we forgot values of honor. Nowadays we have different choices, and we will not ask our men to die for us. But together with past times honor became something old fashioned. Some men will think: “My woman knows how to defend herself, she is swearing and drinking more than me, so what should i do, to stay without teeth because of her? No way.”
What happened with feeling of dignity and honor? And why guys loose respect toward women in some situations?
Here are examples.
1. woman opens profile at social network.
If she is not traditional, big chances are to loose respect, to be invited on camera for striptease show or to be insulted. But different attitude doesn’t means always that she wants sex or that she is promiscuous.
2. woman has sexy private video with her boyfriend, but when they split, jealous guy decide to publish that.
Nobody will ask is that private or only for him. Good example is Croatian singer Severina, someone stole her video with ex lover and she was subject of many public judgments and discussions. But everybody wanted to see.
3. in Saturday night young girls take bag with big bottles of alcohol and walk in the street without shame that someone can see them. Of course, guy will think about his chances for one night stand.
4. too open and provocative clothes can also give wrong signs. Walking alone in the middle of the night in short skirt , so you get surprise when maniac is stalking you?
Women will get surprise if men will not stand to defend their honor. But it is not easy for a man if woman makes his position hard. If you want knight who will defend your honor, you must be worthy of his efforts.
It is necessary to understand man too. It was easy to defend lady from the castle, but to stand up for a rights of promiscuous women is really not easy task. This pressure is bigger.
Every guy has choice to make his own list of values. What is honorable and respectable woman for him? This is individual. Some guys will value women accord her past relations, others will not care about past, just about present and future.
One thing is for sure, feeling of respect and dignity is bonded with feeling of love. And that is a difference. If guy wants you for one night stand, he will not care about your dignity, respect or honor. The other day his duty is not even to say hello to you.
But if guy want you for a lifetime, or at least for serious relation, than you must think about your behavior, make compromises with him. The same as we don’t want guy who cry more than us, guys don’t want women who swears and fights more than them.
Why women like heroes and why man fall on women in troubles? That is instincts from ancient times, when man was hunting beasts to protect and feed his family. Fragile woman waited him in cave with his children who were proud on their dad. Time has changed, but this phenomenon stayed as factor of attraction between genders.
Let me ask you something, women. Would you love guy who always save your back? Would you fall for friend who is here for you even you hurt him ? Would you start to get close with man who accepts your failures even others stay away from you?
Now the same question for men. When you see lady who constantly get into troubles and fight with windmills, is this attractive to you, at least that you want to get her into your bed?
Woman who stuck into troubles is indeed dangerous. She asks for troubles because she know that here will be always kind of guardian angel who will save her. She also enjoys in this adventure because she is adrenaline addict. Did you look on this way? Imagine girl who runs in high heels and fall . Imagine how she got late on bus and stuck in the traffic. Imagine how she pick wrong people who try to stab her into back because she gather lot of attention. Some will call her drama queen, but this kind of woman wants to find her place under sun. She is often victim of misunderstanding because only strong man will deal with her. It is easier to pick plain, boring woman who will not cause mess. Little trouble girl is causing mess, but also good show.
When Diane went to night club , she had intention to find her lover Peter. Things between them were not good a long time ago, so she wanted to face it with him. She found him on bar’s chair, in company with other woman. She started to talk with him, but he felt like in trap. Before 3 days he got laid with Diane, and now he is sitting here and drink with another woman. Diane did not want to stop this awkward situation, she started to talk with a woman. “Who are you and what are you to him? ” Other woman was shy and introvert, so she just said that she is a friend and left her place. After she has left, Diane took glass with drink and spill it over Peter. He was so furious that he almost slapped her. On the other side in this club, another guy watched situation. He knew Diane from before and he heard lot of rumors about her. His name was Arthur. They involved few weeks later. She was irresistible for him. The way how she was talking, walking and expressed herself was stunning for Arthur. Diane was also charmed by him.Arthur was very strong but also calm man. Rarely something would make him to lose control. He was listening Diane, and offered her advice. Also, he criticized her without limits. Diane was angry at first, but she realized Arthur was the right one. The one who make her calm and feel worthy, and the one who will not let her to get drown.
When you meet your hero, you will recognize him because he doesn’t care what others think or talk. He pick his woman and work on her to keep her. He likes challenges and he will kill the beast for you. Just to keep you , he will break fence.
Once you met a guy who made your voice tremble. His kisses were the best you ever tasted, and he was realization of your dreams. You hold his hand, he buys you gifts and his words are poetry, suddenly you feel as you are on the top of the world. He was perfect, but your romance had black side.
That was story from fairy tale and Tracy experienced this. All her friends were jealous on her, they envy because Albert was really gorgeous and well mannered guy. When Tracy came grumpy on birthday party of her best friend Sally, she asked her:
– Come on, what is going on with you? Troubles in paradise?
Tracy could not be quiet anymore , and she discovered her secret. Her prince charming Albert was bad lover. In fact, they just tried to make love, but every attempt fail. Tracy was six month in nightmare, because she felt like she is not desirable anymore.
Albert had impotence problems. He was angry and sad in the same time, and as time was passing by, he started to avoid sex with Tracy. It was like prison punishment for him, because he knew he will again be embarrassed, weak, all what every man is aware of. They talked, and little by little, Tracy found out his problem. He had sexual experiences only with escort ladies and prostitutes. Tracy was first normal woman he wanted to have sex, because he loved her and he respected her. But, he used to deviant skills in bed, and Tracy was not professional as prostitute. Albert separated love from sex, and indeed sex was something dirty for him. Why to make dirty such pure feeling as love is? They visited therapist to help them, and Tracy had much patience. Albert was indeed new in this world where sex and love are not separated, he need to learn that making love and feeling love are connected things.
Impotence is big problem for couple in relation. Woman will feel undesirable and she will be suspicious, and man will feel without power and without tools. Some couples simply doesn’t fit in sex and it can be reason for breakup.
There are more kind of impotence, because every guy can be in situation that he sometimes fail.
What makes difference between temporary impotence and impotence?
Sometimes, men will not feel hot.
This are examples:
– if guy is cheating his girlfriend with another woman, he can feel guilty and he can have problem in sex
– when guy is drunk, it can cause problems
– if guy is not experienced, he can have fear that he will fail, especially if woman has more experience
– when man don’t feel hot accord particular woman, simply because that woman is not attractive enough for him ( some men are sensitive and they will get cold if they don’t like woman body)
– dating with prostitutes can make different perception, as in Albert example
When man has health problems, as diabetes, it can cause permanent damage in his sexual life. Smokers are also in risk group. Accord scientists, smoking can make problems in blood wrists and it has influence on erection.
If you and your partner are not in harmony as lovers after long time of trying, what to do? Decision is only yours, and don’t let that others involve in your personal problem. He can take pills as Viagra, but it is question how much it can damage his health and this is also not natural instinct. Like you force man to desire you.
This decision is not about moral question, if you leave your partner because he is not good lover for you, this is your choice.
Sex is as money. Only sex can’t make you happy, but if you are without sex long time, you will not feel happy too. Some women find lovers, others stay in such relations, and some simply leave to find man who will please their wishes. As quote says : Carpe diem – Enjoy until you can.
Heart and reason are in a endless, inexhaustible conflict when it comes to love, and that is particularly emphasized when it comes to an inappropriate choice. Sometimes we can see from a distance that a particular person is not good for us, yet we cannot get them out of our head because they are anchored in the deepest corner of the brain and they refuse to get out, they turned into an unwanted tenant who does not pay the rent but who stubbornly refuses to get out. Speaking with popular language, it is what one calls the unfortunate love.
Many of us are the victims of the wrong choice, without even being aware of it. If this were the betting place, one should calculate the odds each time one of us starts with a problematic guy. Let’s think a little, what are the chances that a relationship with someone who lives very far away from us will succeed, or with someone who is ten years younger, who tends to be unfaithful or who is a criminal, or with the lazy loser depending on his parents’ directives? Unfortunately, the problem is that some persons have an amazing talent for self-promotion. Therefore we cannot see hundred faults by a certain bastard because he packed it all into a big charming smile, he is so humorous and so amazing in bed. Once we are trapped, it is late. Then we become a victim of our own emotional masochism and only then we can see where the limits of our patience are. In other words, what occurs is the already well known symbiosis between the sadist and masochist. Not a single sadist would survive a day if he weren’t fed by the masochist and therefore given the reason to his existence. Sadist is cold, he has a huge power of control, an enormous ego and a pallet of selfish demands. If the masochist asks for something, he is labeled as aggressive and whiny monster that only nags and cannot face the partner’s problems. Manipulations in it s original form. Then we are stuck in limbo because we are actually facing two choices. We can either stay with the sadist and pay the price of life in such a community, or simply leave and suffer since he ‘was the one and we will never find someone like him again.’
What really happens when a person is too emotional? She becomes an easy target for all those who can manipulate emotions, she becomes a vampire’s target. Tell her that you love her and that you’ll do anything for her, be passionate in bed and the girl with emotions is all yours. As a matter of fact, you will never get rid of her. It is precisely for this reason that there is a difference between the teenage relationships and those where the protagonists are two grown-up. It is easy to be crazy, unstable and nicely spontaneous when you are at the age when parents take care of your existence, think for you and advise you, and all you have to do is play the music loud when something doesn’t suit you or cry with the bottle of beer over the weekend. However, when you are working and when you must bring decisions on your own, when you are holding the reins of your life, then the emotional vampire is not a good choice anymore. Imagine that you are working on an important project that requires concentration, and you found your husband at home with a young neighbor, and then the image of it haunts you at the business meeting. Of course, it is all life, we are not vaccinated against the unpleasant surprises, however, some situations can nevertheless be avoided.
A relationship between the sadist and the masochist functions well in teenage age because girls then like having a street thug around. Later, they will turn away their heads from those and then those same guys will say that they turned into whores since they found someone with more class and with a thicker wallet. Some of us grew up and learnt our lesson. Emotions are not always a virtue. They can become a dangerous enemy when it comes to a choice of a partner, if the emotions are the only guidance. Grandmas would say ‘listen to your heart’, but heart needs a compass. One needs to be able to read the signs that imply whether a certain relationship will succeed or not. If we closed our eyes over something that was important, that warning comes back lated like a boomerang when our friend gives us an I-told-you-so.
Love is like measles, the older the person gets, it’s going to be more difficult for her to get over the break-up. It’s true, it’s not the same when the teen-age girl cries over the heartbreaking hits by Justin Bieber because of her failed relationship or when a forthy-year-old woman suffers because she failed to keep the man of her life. While the adolescent sufferings are instructive and cute, a middle-age crisis provokes at least sorrow and mocking. Those are the masochists who do not learn from their mistakes, who do not learn that the married guys do not leave their wives just like that, that the aggressive guy and a cheater cannot become a man of our dreams with the help of a magic wand and that mom might be a woman of his life.
Therefore, if we really learnt that the ragamuffin from our neighborhood has never been a marriage material and that the married colleague from work is not worthy of our tears, then we’re making progress. Each step forwards opens the new world full of beautiful surprises. It is up to us whether we will lock ourselves in the zone of masochism and prepare the package of handkerchiefs or travel to a new unknown destination.
Sparks are in the air and our heart made choice. Every romantic soul will say: “Listen the sound of your heart. Heart know the best.”
Heart is not always wise and choices made by heart are not always in harmony with logic. We can fall in love as teenagers or mature persons, but wrong choices will not avoid us. Our love path is not always the right one.
Who can be our love target?
Celebrity person. It happens to teenagers, fall in love in their idol. Throw your panties for Justin Bieber. Ask for signature of Miley Cyrus. Your heart skip a beat because of Miss universe? It happens, and the craziest fans will write letters to celebrities and try to make close with them. Jody Foster had problems with crazy fan John Hinckley Jr. who attempted assassination of Ronald Reagan because of madly love toward her.
Married person. Woman in forties, two kids. Teenager has fantasies about her , she can be his teacher or neighbor, he fall in love and try to capture her heart. Result of this love would be disaster.
Your relatives. What if target of your heart is your cousin? It happened to Matej. He did not see his cousin Majda because she lived in Slovenia, and he was in Croatia. She came to holidays to visit her aunt after many years. Matej fall in love and they slept together, even they know about their blood connection. That relation ended up when their family stand between them. It was shameful.
Virtual person. Yes, it happens, people connect on internet pages. Hot messages, camera appearance. Then problems are taking over. She lives in Serbia, and he lives in India. They are not rich, and how they will travel to each other , how they will make relation or marriage? Also different cultures, tradition, rules, habits. That obstacles could be too big and love will not exist after some time.
Person in jail. Convicted criminal, 20 years of prison punishment. He did criminal act, he is going to jail, will this love survive on letters or visits such a long time? Not to talk about murder or robbery he did.
Too young person. Pedophiles are not rare cases. Cute girl from 13 years, and adult man who has 35 or 40. This child is caught in trap, even if she accept this love, she cannot have healthy thinking and she is not aware of consequences.
Love appears in many shapes.
Choices of heart are made by lust, despair, loneliness. Heart and hormones can make big mess. Can we say about sick minded persons or it can happen to anyone? Love thunder will give different effect. You made impossible choice. It is not just that your community will not approve it , this is matter of logic. How you see life in future with your fatal love?
There is a line between real love and fantasies. Our imagination is not limited. We can dream about Arabian prince, tough criminal man, striptease dancer or mafia boss, and enjoy in our erotic dream. This is our secret. Who should know if you make fantasies about mother of your friend or your own cousin? Or you like that little teenage girl and you are just her teacher?
When you want real relation, things are different. Blind choice of your heart is not always clever. You will get out from your fantasy and open your eyes more wide.
Once when you are connected with your partner, fantasies are not on the first place anymore. Nobody will forbid your dreams, you can still masturbate in your room on some famous actress as Scarlett Johansson, but now you have real life.
Don’t get lost in love subway. Spooks are here to stalk you and to take your soul, but your mind is here to show you the right way.
They are asking partners with one key, one pattern.
Sue: I will find guy who will take care for me. Enough to be boss and mother in this relation.
After this troubles, they had only one thought, how to avoid same examples in the future.
If you change the view, new chances and new circles are opening. If you stuck in the same crowd, you will hardly get out from something what is indeed not for you. You might think that you can change someone, or that you need to change yourself to be perfect match. No, you are looking in wrong direction. Think about why some people are together , and what’s connect them. They did not train to be bonded. It simply happened.
So, what you really need to change is your love pattern. Stop run for wrong guys, because remember that something is similar to all them. Did not they all made damage to you in past? How about that you try something new? This is the same when you vote for same politicians every years and they disappoint you.