People use to say: “You live in illusion. ” “You need reality check. “
What is indeed illusion?
Absence of real beliefs.
Flying on cloud instead of walking on the ground.
Too big expectations.
Reality check is cold shower, something what people need when they fly too high. There must be a difference between vision and dream. Vision is based on real expectation, but dream is based on imagination.
I wish to get marry for Brad Pitt. This is dellusional example.
I wish to buy new dress, which is too expensive for me but not impossible to buy.
Sometimes, people with manipulation skills will hold dellusional people in traps , because on this way they can feed their ego.
Woman X lives in USA. She promised man from Turkey that she will come to visit him. She delayed her arrival first for 6 months, then for a year. Then she said she will come in summer and later in winter. He is still waiting for her but she hesitates and wants to get on time. He is afraid to travel to see her so both are in ungrateful position. Their illusion is more beautiful than reality so they stick on safe ground of their dream because reality is insecure.
Did you stuck in kind of illusion?
How you deal with this?
These are consequences of life in illusion :
Awakening in tears.
Cuts of some connections which were based on dreams.
Loss of trust and confidence.
Loss of hope.
Black white insight on life.
Why people hold on their imaginary hopes, even deep inside they know it will not work out?
Well, i remember movie “The escape from Alcatraz. ” Man was painter, and he knew he will not get out from prison but he will make his life easier by drawing. When headmaster of jail took him his tools and material, he made suicide.
If you want to kill person inside, kill his dream. Kill hope that something is worth living or that some day will be better.
Reality check is not for all people, some are born to live in dreams because they don’t know how to walk on the ground. Mama’s boy will rather live with his mother than to ask woman to marry. Unemployed guy will rather sleep at home than ask for a job. Woman who is unhappy in love will rather hold on her problematic marriage or relation.
Illusions feed us, the same way as they made us damage. Who wish to get out from that poisoned circle must be aware that this is not healthy life.
I was in illusion that one friendship will last forever. Guy said me : “Life can separate you and your friend. ” He was in right, once when she gone in another city she never asked for me.
After you break illusion, there is something brighter. Empty space for someone special, for something special, but this time you wear safe glasses and you know where you will go .