Why women judge each others?

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Women like to say : i am different, i am difficult, i am hard. This might sound as they want to justify their position when something happens to some other women. “It could not happen to me. I would never do that. ” We are able to judge each other cause it is in our nature.

If everyone is different, then we are all again the same. I would say that everyone can be easy target in some life situations. Sometimes you can’t help to yourself, when you expose your weakness.

Imagine situation. You are hard target when you are cold toward guys which are not your type. That guy is for you ugly, boring, you simply don’t want him and it is very easy to be unavailable toward him. Well, if man attracts you, it is not easy to pretend that you don’t want him, it is not easy to control your feelings, even you smell trouble. That is why we will make same mistakes, even we know how story will finish.

When woman is hard target?

If she is not in mood for relation, not in such phase, because she got over hard breakup or she is busy with her job or personal problems.

If she really doesn’t like guy.

If she wants someone else who doesn’t want her.

If her nature is calculated. Simply, she doesn’t want to waste time on temporary adventures or random flirts.

What is with other women, who are emotional, spontaneous, passionate by nature? Are they easy targets or just not cautious as they should be?

Should we judge them if they fail in relations? Should we give them advices ?

I think every woman has her crush and burn period in life. If she learn this , she will watch out and she will not look at men with same eyes.  Also, if you are person who likes risk, bigger are chances that you will burn your fingers.

I had friend who lived in golden cage. Her first boyfriend was her neighbor, other boyfriend was also neighbor and she got married for him. She never tasted adventures, because she was afraid of risk . She was saved on some way, but on other way she was limited because at her point she was always judging women who lived different.

It is easy to be closed in golden cage when you know nobody can enter. Nobody can hurt you, but nobody can surprise you either.

When woman says, i am different, i would not sit in his car, i would not show my face on internet, i would not talk with such guy, she is judging others on a way like they are childish or stupid. Like she discovered America, but indeed she build wall. Walls are not so resistant and one day one man can swap her on ground.

When you build bridge, when you open your heart, you are open target. You are not different from others , not easy to get, you are just ready to risk. This is only difference between women who live safely and those who live in troubles.

Curiosity killed the cat, as old proverb said, so you can only learn from your troubles. One day , when you get old, maybe you would regret because you did not live more. Or maybe you will be proud because you expose yourself.

My ex office mate once said : “Why to afraid to talk about sex? When i was young, i got laid in beach and everywhere. So, why to regret?”

Are you just his number?

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Some women are always satisfied with remains of man’s attention. Their legendary statements are: „let he comes home“, „now is all  right between us“ or „other girls are for sex and i will stay with him“ . That is confirmation that woman is pleased with part of love and attention, as someone who waits on the line. It is easier to fool yourself, lie to yourself or having a relationship which exists only in your mind.

We women are emotional species and it is hard for us to fake love with someone who is not our soul match. If you are not gold digger who cares only for money, you will not be with someone you don’t care about.  You can date with him night or two, but later is phase of pretending, acting and feeling of sickness, nuisance and conscience’s guilt because you use someone who doesn’t owe your heart.

Relations with men who are not in your heart or if they are just dear to you are indeed waste of time. You will sit with someone at coffee table and your eyes will be around, for better opportunity. He will introduce you to his handsome friend and you will regret why he sits next to you when he has so attractive buddies.  He will buy you gift, and you would like to throw this into garbage box. Really, relation with someone who can’t swap you on feet or make you to lose your breath is as raping of yourself.  It is dry love, without heart beats.

Men are on different side , they are another story. Indeed some men are sophisticated and they will not go in bed with every woman, or some will reject even beautiful woman because they are in love in someone else, but also many men will accept flirt offer even they don’t like particular woman. Many men will accept offer for one night to please their ego or that society not consider them as cuckolds. As man’s circle would say : „Why you don’t shag her, you don’t have to marry her. „

Here is time to soap opera because not every woman will recognize that she is on the way station. Some women will gain fake hope that they seduced beloved man. Other women will think , yes he slept with me and it means something. They will say, he would not accept to have sex if he did not care. If hot meeting repeats, their beliefs will be even deeper. Such women collect crumbs whole life and if they spent night with attractive man, they will say „at least he was hot guy“ or „it was night to remember. „

How to realize that you were on way station with your man? How to avoid repeating this mistake?

You were author of this meeting. You called him, sent him messages, and he replies after few attempts , after  you bored to him or he is just silent without many question .

You made plans about meeting and all details, maybe you paid expenses too.

He is quiet and he doesn’t call you after you met. You call him but he is busy.

You attacked him but he is silent again and try to get out from situation with short sentences as „forgive me, it would not work out, i am not guy for long relations. „

Woman in love is blind trophy. She is as one eyed cat and she sees only one side of story. His kiss, his gentle hug, few excuses and soft words. Even if it happens only once, she asks for explanations and blame herself because she did not make enough efforts or she could not keep a guy.

When Ellen was so persistent to stalk Andrew in night club and she came there every weekend just to kiss with him in dark corner, her friend Alison was so worried. She has rolling eyes while Ellen talked about hot Andrew who is so good kisser and she warned her that is not good way to be with guy. This was love by force, while Andrew was waiting Helen’s first step , but he never asked her to date. After three weeks Alison decided to talk with Andrew because she was tired of stories of broken heart.  Andrew accepted her call and gave his explanation : „Well, i am not with Ellen. She is with me, but i am not her boyfriend, she just came to me so i don’t want to hurt her. „

Men who use women as way stations are not enough cruel to say them straight into face real truth. They are charming players, they go on sideways, they wait until women realize the point or until it become boring.  They pull women to leave them because they ignore them, provoke them, underestimated them or they just use silence as answer.  Well, this situation has deadline and that is why is easy to define it. You can’t call someone ten times without feedback. You can’t repeat always the same to the guy without his attention or will to even listen to you and fix his mistakes. He simply doesn’t care.

Way stations are not final destinations. These are wrong turn, places before main path , so that is why that places are defined by deadline. If you are woman who was in his life 5 minutes and he doesn’t extend your deadline, say goodbye to him. Go on main destination with smile on your face and warn your female friends that way stations are not comfortable zones.

How much internet affects your real life?

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Secret is something hidden and we don’t want to reveal this to everybody. Now days, secrets have different meaning, because if you share secret to someone at internet, don’t be so sure that you will keep this safe.

Bertha was very surprised when her mother in law come into  her house . She was so angry that she attacked Bertha in the same minute when she opened door.

– What i heard about you ? That you will divorce from my son?

All was clear, because Bertha had small argument with her husband Roy and she wrote in her Facebook status “divorced.” She wanted to show him that she is still desirable because he was adding pretty girls into his page and commented their photos on nasty way. Bertha was angry so she changed status. Even she had this status only one night , she got many private messages from worried people and some new friend requests. Also someone with bad intentions called her mother in law to tell her bad news.

Bertha invited her on coffee to explain what is going on. Her mother in law is primitive woman. She raised on village, between pigs and cows and she has no idea about social networks, she even doesn’t know to turn on computer. But, she knows one fact, that people will talk bad about her son and his wife because they will divorce. How she will explain this to relatives and neighbors?

– Don’t worry, it was only a joke. Please calm down.

– How will i calm down? You embarrassed your children, how i will go to market and look people in the eyes?

 

Indeed, secrets and privacy are modified on internet. 

If you work at workplace with strict rules, don’t appear on social networks in provocative clothes or don’t put photos from parties. Especially don’t write name of your workplace and then gossips about your bosses. Don’t open page with your real name and your address. You want to tell the world who are you and that you are successful, but take care, not everybody will like you. Some people are malicious. For example, someone reported Lisa to her headmaster because Lisa was admin on one social forum about love problems. Lisa had big troubles to explain at work why she write on forum during work time. 

When we are angry, sad, excited, even drunk, computer is good as tool to throw out feelings from ourselves. Let’s write, send messages, post photos. Later, we can regret. Someone will be hurt. Someone wants to get revenge. Some people are waiting in ambush for victims, busybodies want to dig into other lives because they don’t have own problems. 

When you log in on internet, it is like you are guest on radio or television reality show. What you had for breakfast? Which sexual pose you like the most? What is your middle name? Don’t worry, everybody will find out. 

Even worse, you are under virtual magnifier. Everything you said or did might have double meaning. 

Is it always necessary to speak the truth?

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Playing with other’s feelings is very cruel game. Manipulative people know very well how to use fragile heart as target to get their score. Deceived person is a victim, and every bitter experience means that you lose faith in love.

Human nature is far from perfect, so sometimes we will hurt others without intentions, just because we were on wrong place in wrong time, or we said something what we should not say. In some situations we are in doubts: speak truth, keep silence or say a lie? Love relation needs good balance between truth and things we keep in our privacy, under lock.

Some kind of lies will be discovered at first sight. 

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That are things you can check very easy and it is not worthy to say different than truth.

Lies about ages. If you said you have 30, and indeed you are 45, sooner or later your real ages will be exposed.

Lies about profession. You said you are successful manager, model or singer? Indeed you work as waitress and you sing only under shower.

Lies about financial situation. You said you are rich, but your credit card is empty for a days? Let me see how you will pay expensive dinner.

Lies about expert skills. You know self defense and karate? Hmm, let me check, how you will face it with my nasty neighbor who is involved in street fights every weekend?

Lies about your roots. You relative is Justin Bieber? Your grandma was Russian princess? Sounds nice, but how can you prove this? You wish to belong to jet-set, but your parents are manual workers and they work in the factory, so you don’t have to shame of this.

Also, there are things which should stay hidden, at least until you get know your partner very well. 

What you will not tell in first date, or even you will shut up forever?

Your story about sex with two guys in one night. I don’t think that is something anyone brag about. If this happened, better to close your mouth forever. If that story can’t be discovered, you don’t want to be first to expose that. If someone try to brag about this, deny. 

Your unusual sexual habits. You used whip during sex? Ex partner made camera show about your hot night with him? If he can keep secret, you can do it too.

Your ex relation with married man. Also this is not something to be proud of. That is over, why to dig out this sad story?

Sexually diseases. That night with stranger, without condoms, was too expensive for you. If it is not aids, better to keep secret about this. That is over, you have no anymore HPV, chlamydia, herpes, etc. Things happened before few years, you got medicine, be careful next time and don’t talk. Don’t expect your partner would understand you at first sight.

There are many things which happened in one moment when our sense was not awake. We were young, under passionate moment, or simply we put too much risks on our back. This are situations “live fast, die young” and when this happens you don’t want to die and you regret because you did it. The last thing you need is judgement, because it would be flash back, you can pass this again over and over.

Truth is very powerful weapon, and there is a time and place when you can expose naked truth. Who will be hurt, how does it affect on other lives? Count your victims and be sure is it good to open that Pandora box. 

Some people live in mislead that everyone is innocent, perfect and pure, and those who are not are ready to be burned in hell. That is not human, because we can’t predict situation when something will happen to us. Sam was business man and also member of politic group, role model for his children and beloved husband. He spent few days in hotel at business trip. He met sexy woman and she was prostitute. He thought, why not to use opportunity, but she diseased him with gonorrhea. He refused sex with his wife when he came home, for a month. His excuse was business stress. Wife never found out. He stayed in her eyes as beloved husband and perfect father.

Before you search for a truth, ask yourself are you ready to hear this? Can you face it with every dirty detail about your partner or friend? There are some things on which we build trust. Also, other things are here to stay buried, because other’s won’t be hurt and nobody get satisfaction from this. If you decide to slap someone with truth, think about side effect, and other side of the mirror. Things will never be the same after your story.

Why some women need alert to chill out from guys?

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Popular man will capture much attention. Many women will try to catch him , on various ways. If you are famous model, i believe that is not easy for you. Probably, you got tired from women because they are on every corner and waiting for you. Leonardo di Caprio once made love with 3 women in the same day, he did not want to reject their offer. When you are guy who jumps out from the crowd, when everybody wants to touch you , it must be exhausting. Even worse, you will try to find ways how to get rid of boring women.

You don’t have to be famous to be in the center of attention. Some guys have charisma, and women will stalk especially them. That is in women psychology, they want guy who belong to someone else, who had many relations and adventures, and who is popular. It doesn’t mean why this guy is popular. This could be his sexy look, intelligence, money or originality. He is simply different than others, as golden bracelet from the bunch of stones.

I understand that such guy will not have an easy life. He wish to reject women, but his manners will not let him, and they will use this as their advantage.

Randy was target in woman world. Boss of private company, handsome and unmarried. His phone was ringing all the time, his colleagues wanted to sleep with him, even his business partners. He was in uncomfortable situation when one project failed because he rejected to have sex with woman who was in charge for this. She set him up when she get out from his office with ripped blouse. He had much problems when she accused him for rape. Lucky, he hired good lawyer and he solved this problem without court.

Guys will be in more uncomfortable situation than girls when it comes time to reject some women. She could be your best friend, and how you will avoid to hurt her? She could be your supervisor, so you can lose job. Also, she could be sister of your best buddy and you will have problems because he will trust to her.

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What is cold shower strategy and how to persuade women to chill out from you?

Recognize signs. If she ask any excuse to talk with you all the time, she is into you already. Your phone constantly rings and her number is always on screen, so she wants to be your shadow. Don’t answer on every call or message. You need to make a distance.

Be official, but not rude. You have no time, you are busy. This could tell her that you are not interested.

Use short words or messages, as no, sorry or thanks, i don’t want. Long explanations will lead into conflicts and you don’t need this.

If she tries to touch you or seduce you, tell her that this is unacceptable and that you feel disturbed. You see friend in her, but nothing more.

Talk about other women in her presence. Ask for her friends, sister or cousins. That should chill her out, nobody likes competition.

Be clear. Don’t use games, because she can wrongly understand your signs.

If woman is normal and healthy, she will understand that she has no chance. If she is stalker or insane, you are in trouble, but it is not unsolved problem. I read about girl who called his ex boyfriend over 10 000 times , so he notified police. That is criminal act and law will deal with this.

As much women are on target of stalkers and maniac, men are also not spared of craziness. Rejection is hard and it breaks hearts. In this situation is very important to have cold mind and nice manners. Don’t yell as savage man, don’t swear and don’t use fists. There is no need to insult woman because she crushed into you. It happens, Cupid is not always fair. Sometimes, you will be crazy in love, and your choice will be person who is not interested at all. It could be also opposite, that you don’t like person who wants to date with you.

Rejection is not against good manners, this is just an attitude that you have right to choose. You want your space for someone else, and others should be notified. Also, on that way you will get good points from other women, because you are guy with standards and principles. You know how to say no, and you don’t date with women due to wrong reasons.

He was temporary in your life

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Knife in the back is the most painful tool of suffering. That is double scar: we are betrayed by someone who had our trust and we are fooled by our visions. Don’t blame yourself, you are not the first neither last who experienced this.
Once i meet someone who gave me love, at least it looked like this. That person kissed ground where i was walking. Until our relation was place for harmony, everything was perfect. Situation changed during the first conflict. Suddenly, i was not beautiful woman of his dreams. I was smug , bitch and devil. Then i noticed pattern : it happened everytime when i had different opinion about something. That relation turned on real war and we finished as enemies. All we could agree in the end, was to break every connection between us.
People will ask : “How wonderful love can turn into incredible pain? “
If you can turn back movie , you will look at things with different eyes. Real love can’t transform into hate. It will happen only with so called love.
Let’s compare real love with “so called ” love.
 
Real love:
Partner accepts your opinion, even he disagrees.
Partner forgives your mistakes and admits his mistakes too.
You are both progressing together.
There is no envy and jealousy on personal success between partners.
 You are not his competition, you are his soulmate.
He try to understand your bad mood and you cheer him up in every opportunity.
So called love:
Partner try to push his opinion as rule.
Partner blames you for old mistakes in the past , he is judging you.
You can’t progress with him, because he drags you down.
He is jealous if you have bigger salary or better job.
He see you as his rival. 
You are doormat for his bad mood.
He is your big love today, and he will be your bigger enemy tomorrow. How does it happen? At first sight, you forgot to see holes in your relation. This holes become with time bigger and bigger. Lack of trust, seed of doubts, sting of jealousy. When all this connect into big circle, poison is ready. If you don’t heal this on time, you will get sick.
Yesterday he kissed you, you made love. Today this kiss is kiss of death, because he doesn’t love you anymore. Who was indeed in your bed?
How you will find out the truth? Do you want to know did your ex partner really loved you?
When you break up with him, some fact will tell you about your love.
 
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What bad guy says?
He brags bad things about you.
Everyone knows details from your bedroom.
He try to manipulate with your friends to get them on his side.
He is following you around, together with his new girlfriend.
What good guy says?
He will be silent, and if anybody ask , he will not give explanations.
All private things which you said to him will stay secret.
He will not follow you around, and if he has new girlfriend, he will not involve her in your story.
He will stay out from your friends. They are not topic of your conflict.
 
Your ex love could be wonderful memory or bad burden from the past. At least, you learnt what you don’t need in your life anymore.

Are you heartless woman?

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Feelings are not automatic buttons that we can press right ones to act as we wish in this moment. It would be good to press delete or shut down in some opportunities, because it would spare us from pain. Modern woman will say : “I can make love with man and after this i will leave him if he is not what i wanted”, but that is part of theory. In practice, things are different, because if you are not porno star or prostitute, your feelings will be involved.
Some women will try to copy men, for revenge. Just, men are not built from the same materials as women. Man can enjoy in sex and after this he will not date with woman, because it was part of his pleasure, and she is not in his heart. Women are more sensitive, and this planet is full of women who cried because they did not learn difference between sex and making love.
Black widow is a spider. She will eat her man after reproduction. That is good role model for dissapointed women who wish to swallow partners after pleasure. Pain is sometimes so hard feeling that is not enough to cry or yell. You wish to destroy someone in a way to forward him your pain.
Here are some stories about women , how they acted after painful breakups.
“I pick guy when i was hitchhiking. We had sex and after this i did not ask for his number.”
“I went to his flat even i did not know guy as well. After this, i told him that i wanted only sex.”
” I used his friend for sex, and he bragged about me as bitch later. “
 
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If you wish to act like black widow, remember this rules:
1. Look at his eyes and remember he is here for purpose, to give you pleasure.
2. Don’t call him later, because your feelings will involve.
3. Don’t get jealous because he is not your love.
4. Smile if you see him, say hello or thanks, but don’t get into deeper conversation.
5, Don’t talk around about him, because that story can turn against you.
Some women are rational and flegmatic, and they can control their feelings when they need this. If you are too sensitive woman, if you could not kill even mosquito, this kind of business is not for you. Playing role of vixen is for strong lady, who is aware of consequences.
Keira was romantic woman, and when her boyfriend Malcolm left her in tears, she asked for advise from her best friend Helen. So, Helen suggested her to make love with Malcolm , but just for revenge. It was killer plan, because after sex the main task of Keira was to get out from flat in early morning , until Malcolm is sleeping. Later, in the case that Malcolm ask for her, she would just wrote him SMS to fuck of from her forever. Keira did first part of this plan, she made love with Malcolm, because he still wanted her, but he already had another girlfriend. In early morning Keira started to cry and asked for a hug. But Malcolm got up from bed and said to her that it was last time and that he is in love in new girlfriend. Keira got double kick in the ass.
If you are not player, don’t participate in the game.
Yes, you watched Linda Fiorentino and Sharon Stone in role of fatal seductresses, but maybe you are not hot fatal woman. If you can’t swallow part of your heart, you will not swallow and spit your ex partner. Even worse, you will hurt yourself. Don’t blame yourself because you are not black widow. You have feelings and it makes you wonderful woman, because someone will accept your romantic nature as gift.

When you fall in love in chicken man

Love stories are unpredictable, Cupid arrows hit unknown targets and in relations are possible with many various combinations. You can see people on first sight, and think: “How they finished together?” When you scratch under surface, you will understand why some couples split very fast, and why others are inseparable. 

One of bad combinations is relation between weak man and strong woman. No, i don’t think about relation between wrestler woman and man who dance ballet, i talk about their characters. It would be natural that man is firm, bold and stable, and that woman can count on him. Especially if woman is sensible, fragile and gentle lady, that kind of man would be great match for her. Sometimes, life plays cruel games, and strong woman will involve with milksop. 

If you think that this is relation where woman rule, you are wrong. This woman has many problems because such man is unstable, undecided and unable to take important decisions.

What would be milksop?

You can recognize him in few steps.

He asks from you to pay your bill when you are in coffee bar.

He expect that you drive him in your car. If he lives in another country, you should take a plane and fly to meet with him.

If his friends don’t like you, try not to upset them. They are so important to him , and their opinion can bury you.

If someone attack you, he will runaway, so you will deal with your enemy alone.

If his mother don’t like you, try to please her wishes. He is usually favorite son and masterpiece of his mother.

He is usually passive, so if you need to take decision, he will let it to you.

In such relation, woman is usually abandoned in her beliefs and she feels alone. This relation is boat, and you will drive this boat, if you quit, you will drown together with your milksop. He can disappoint you even in bed, because as real puppy he will expect that you make him horny. The best thing you can do is to wake him up. Leave him somewhere in unknown city to see will he find way out. Let he goes out with your aggressive brother or friend, to see how he can handle this.

This kind of men you can often meet in virtual world. They will create many pages , they are romantic on first sight, they use sweet words and nice approach, but if you expect action from them, you are on wrong address. They expect granny with cookies, because they are unable to do significant steps. 

What can happen to them is to meet much older woman who will be kind of mother for them. On such way they can continue with lazy life, where they don’t need to do nothing, because everything will be done for them. They need big bear who will carry them as little kids, because they are made from sensitive materials. Lioness use too much hard ways and it can ruin their peaceful life.

Strategies in love relations

What is love without fantasies and strategies? Sometimes it is real race, and we compete who will win. Men are simple, they give us simple signals. If man says “i like you”, he likes you. If he wants to marry you, he will ask you.

Many women are misguided by thinking that men give us double signals. Maybe when they are teenagers and immature, until they have no experience. Little kid will tease girl because he likes her. When mature man wants to seduce woman, she will know it because he will clear expose his intentions.

Women are different. Indeed our nature is more confusing. That is theory of seducing, how we seduce man by words . We want to give them message, that we are not easy and that they must work hard to get us.

Girl likes guy and he invites her for a date.

Possible answers:

i don’t know for today, but i will let you know soon

– now i am busy , i will tell you later

– yes i will go with you, but don’t take it as relation immediately

– maybe

– ask me again and you will know

Games are made by women. 


When guy asks for sex, then game goes to higher level.

Women will reply:

i am not ready

– i have headache

– it is not the right time

– if you are serious, you will wait

– do you want to take advantage?

– do you love me?

Women will hesitate, make excuses,  buy time to get a guy for long relation. Every woman has game with more levels. The one who pass all levels wins award.

Bad player will quit in first step. Average player will try and give up. But the best players will be resistant until they got a score. It also depends about wishes and expectations. Some guys are lazy and they will rather choose more available woman, because they think their odds are better if they play on safe. Others will deal with challenges, no matter how much time they need. Man with experience will not give up on the first sight.

So what kind of player you want? 


If you deal with little boy, he is insecure and it is easy to break him. Some women like to play teacher and student game, because they feel superior in this situation. Weakness of this game is that you never know what to expect, and soon as he will get bored, you will lose. When two people are not on equal level, it is hard to make harmony.  Follower must take a step to be closer. Breakup is here when one person stayed on first level, and other is already far away on level 50. 

Intelectuals or just snobs?

Night of museums is big cultural and intellectual event in Croatia. It happens usual at January. Museums are opened since afternoon until 1 hour after midnight and entrance is free. 

During year everyone can visit any museum in Croatia with ticket about 5 Euro. Mostly, there is no crowd and we will see old people or students who need to make homework about exhibitions, or curious tourists who will pass there , searching for an excitement. 

This night was crowd like in football match at stadiums. Everyone wanted to see Egyptians mummies and sarcophagus in Archeologic museum at Zagreb, also to take a look at coin collection from history time and pictures of famous painters. 

Looking into that crowd, when i was waiting in line to enter, i noticed interesting things around. Young girls were dancing on music from earphones and singing Jason Derulo song “Talk dirty to me”, laughing hard like they just came to the party. Young woman was carrying kind of cradle with small baby, about 4 months old, so any social service would ask her few question, why she went in museum with baby, when there is such crowd without fresh air and with limited space. Some parents came with their kids who were running around sculptures so it was real miracle that nothing was broken.

It makes me to think, how many snobs and pseudo intellectual people went on Night of museum? Who went there only to appear, without real interests for exhibitions?

Some kind of people are upstarts

Once famous Serbian writer Jovan Sterija Popović wrote about woman from village. Her name was Fema, she went to big city and wanted to be lady with fashion lifestyle, but she became ridiculous as clown. Her peasant manners were visible even she tried hard to introduce herself as lady from big city.

The same is with so called intellectuals. What makes person real intellectual? This is not person who is sitting in the corner of library with bunch of big and heavy books, with glasses and in black coat. This is not carnival, because at carnival we can wear masks and pretend that we are pirates, monsters or kings, but after this party finish, we will be again ordinary people.

Sometimes, everyone can deceive others with this image. Few words as “Ave Caesar, morituri te salutant”, or “Alea iacta est” can hit dust in other’s eyes. So people will say “Wow, you are so smart and educated.” You can be curious and ask them what does it mean, and who was Caesar? Or you can go step forward, to ask this person about history and meaning of that quotes.

I can understand that sometimes guys want to impress girls about their education and intellectual and mental skills, because this sounds sexy

Guy who knows answers on all questions, wow, he is living dictionary, he knows more than google. He will put glasses even his sight is very well and start to dig in library to find the biggest book covered with dust, just to impress some cute women at library.

What is in the background of this behavior? If you are real bookworm, you will enjoy in silence. You will not laugh loud to disturb to others, you will not dance in museum and for sure you will carry for small baby at home or someone will care for your kids until you are on intellectual events. Parents want to make their children educated, but frankly, kids would rather watch Spiderman in movie or to play with virtual monsters at play stations  than to visit museum. Children will get bored and the result is big noise, jumping around , looking at gate, when this event will finish at least. Older  people will complain on their behavior even kids are not fault.

The main question about this event is, from which reason people went there, to expose themselves or to learn something about history? No doubts, there were also real intellectuals from educated circles and they enjoyed to expand their knowledge. The others were just passing by, to fill atmosphere of something what they considered as good reason to kill their boredom.