Are you grateful for the things you have?

 

 

Are you grateful for the things you have in your life? I don’t think about furniture or new plates, i think about your private and professional life. Sometimes, we forget to save gratitude in our heart because our mind is too busy by dreaming about something we still did not realize.

Gradation looks like this:

I don’t have boyfriend.

I have boyfriend but we are not married.

We are married but we don’t have kids.

We have only one child.

Our kid is not obedient, we have problematic teenager.

In professional plan, we can use same pattern:

I am studying and i don’t have job.

I have job but my salary is small.

I have good salary but i have no free time.

I have job but my boss is dictator.

It is about human nature, where all are rivals, competitors and opponents. Why your neighbor owe expensive car, and you are going at work with bus? Why your kids can’t have designers clothes? Why your friend has bigger flat then you?

We are dreaming because of our ambitions. It is not bad, i am also ambitious person. I think i deserve much more than i have in the moment. Just, also as other people, i am ungrateful. The root of happiness is in gratitude, and sometimes i forget how lucky am i to have things other people don’t have. I am healthy, but i was paying attention to my health only when doctor said to me to do blood analysis. Then, waiting with other patients in emergency, i felt gratitude when i got my results. Before that, i imagined all possible negative stories in my head. Later i was drinking, in the name of health.

So, this is key of human gratitude, that we appreciate something when our ground can slip under our feet. Simply, you have boring husband, you are arguing with him often, and one day you see him to talk so friendly with some other woman. Then you start to think, why i am so ungrateful? Or, you are struggling with your work, but one day new intern come to take your place and you start to fight for your position, like you wake up from dream?

That is why we should not sleep with open eyes. I am grateful even if i want more. Why rich people get on lottery? Because they are not in frequency of despair, they know it is possible to win money.

Today i will be grateful cause sun appears here , there is no flood, earthquake or hurricane. This is feeling of happiness, when you breath on fresh air and walk free.

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This is your race, don’t forget to participate

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Do you ever get tired to do things for someone who will hardly move little finger for you? Are you tired to chase dream which is unreachable? Are you tired to deal with problems which are bigger and bigger every day?

Sometimes, life is a tunnel which is so dark that we can’t see path. We are walking as blind trying to find where is a little ray of light. As much we are trying, it is getting darker. People are deaf at your requests and even the closest one will not understand you.

This make me question, what i have in myself that everything is so hard to reach for me? Others solve problems easily and i am torching with it. I invest a lot, and i get so little. If i were farmer, i would spend a lot of seed and at the end i would sow some grass in best case.

I am trying to understand life, why i have so weak cards in this game and why i have to deal with so much obstacles for small results? Maybe i pay some bad karma or i am ungrateful for things i already have.

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As i am kind of fanatic, i don’t want to give up from my aim, so i use my extra bonus sources.

I find inspiration in those who succeed.

I make humor from my problems.

I got rid of everything and everyone who slow down my progress.

I look forward for every new day as possibility.

I remember things which were impossible for me, but i reach them anyway.

I look at life as on race in roller coaster. We go up and down and abyss is near , and i can fall in this abyss or hold on so strong that i can’t fall down. I live for triumph , for achievement. One of my favorite quotes said “those who will not risk, never drink champagne”, and i want to hold glass of champagne high to make cheers and toast .

Aren’t we live and suffer for those moment which makes us happy? No matter is this new love, birth of child, new job or lottery won? When you get your achievement, you forgot hard road with stones, wounds and lost nerves. No pain, no gain, even sometimes there is a pain and also no gain. The point is in possibility, if you never try, you will never have chance even to participate in the race.

5 types of people you should avoid at social networks

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Social networks are relaxing place if you share your time with good people. Stranger from internet could be more interesting than your colleague at work or boring neighbor who knocks at your door every day. Another traditions, exotic countries and different views are real refreshment in boring daily schedule. Unfortunately, internet is not always place for enjoyment, so you can fall in trap of some freaks who forgot line between reality and virtual space.

This 5 types of people you should avoid and press NO button for friend request:

Spammer. This kind of person will spam your wall with tags and inbox with messages. He is not here for friendship, he desperately catch attention. Especially is odd when such person start to share your personal photos around, without your permission.

Lover boy. This person is hungry for love and sweet words fly over your page as butterflies, but also you can see the same story in other pages. Sweetie, darling or honey are his daily inspirational words.

Pervert. He is big fan of porno photos and videos and he can embarrass you in publicity, because naked bodies are his hobby. 

Hater. He hates everyone and world is undesirable place, accord him. He will ask for conflict and fight in every opportunity. When such person is leaving, everyone will be considered as idiot or jerk, because everyone hurt him badly.

Lonely soul. Yes, this is kind of person who yells “add me” in every group, because people must add him. Otherwise, he will open fake page and threat you why you did not accept his nice offer for friendship. 

Even every social site has block button, you are not finished once when you block unpleasant person. He or she can open another page or gossip you around, or even try to hack your account, because you did not want to hangout with them. Some cultures are not based on rejections, for them is rude to say NO, and they will hard understand that you pick your friends.

Internet offered exit for every lonely person on this Earth, but some of them mixed reality and dream. Even when you add someone who is not accord your standards, you can soon regret this, because such person will ask daily chat with you and you will have stone around your neck.

Virtual space is not substitute for reality. This is bonus , additional gift together with reality, vacation with keyboard. If your workplace allows access to social networks, you will join to some site to get rest from daily pressure. Maybe you will rather exchange your experience with strangers than drink coffee with your idiot boss or boring cooperators. Person with healthy and sober mind should understand boundaries, that you can’t ask your virtual friend about their ages, statuses or personal life, if she or he feel uncomfortable.

Word choice is magical word but some people on internet are deaf , because they see only what they wish to see. Extreme cases will call you bad person, because you ignored their messages or blocked them, after annoying virtual treatment.

If you are lucky to meet alive person from internet, your perception will be complete and maybe you will find new friend. In any case, limit your expectations. People from internet are not fairies or magicians, they can’t change your reality or pay your bills.

Don’t be delusional about breakups

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Breakups, we all know everything about it. Someone kick you out from his life or you cut off someone from your life. That should be the end, isn’t it? Can you break up after break up? Like you bury the same dead man twice.

 

Abandoned person sometimes live in illusion that everything will again be the same. The worst part of this sad story is denial. What if person can’t let you go? Here comes the situation when you are smiling again, breath again without rock in your lungs, when you can walk without chains in your feet.  Suddenly, he appears again in every corner.

Even when he found someone else, he says “she is not like you, it is not the same”, but he doesn’t want to admit that he did wrong thing , he has no courage to start it again. He wants to sit on two chairs. One chair is safe, this sweet girl who will care for him and wipe his ass, and the other, this is you, the other who were challenge for him and he could not forget.

 

One of excuses is that you don’t fit into his life. You are not appropriate. I think that every guy who choose girl by his conscience, to please society, is very unhappy guy. When heart made choice, it will accept only one person as loving one.

World is full of people who got married because it was practical idea, it was wish of his mother, society or financial agreement. Who cares for the heart?

 

That kind of losers wants to have both, wild mistress and cute wife, so that they can please their wishes on both side.

 

I believe in old truth about love. The one who loves you truly will never stop loving you because of some interest, because it was not good time or his nerves were broken.

Love doesn’t recognize excuses, apologies, terms. You love or you not love. Every other feeling might be sorrow for something you missed, desire, unfilled dream.

So be careful when you love, and don’t make yourself or other person to play role of victim. Be brave and face it with love.

Real love is naked and simple. That is why we said “i love you.” Not “but i don’t know what to do, give me time, time will show”.

When you love someone, do not hesitate. There is word “not now”, and next following words are “too late.”

Are you loser between winners?

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If you have mentality of winner, you will wish full taste of victory. In this case you are aware that victory is not just an opposite from defeat, this is indeed confirmation of your strength. If your rival is weak, injured and dead, if he lies on the floor, it is not funny to hit him. Who wants to play with dead dog? Who wants to make final kick in open target ?

I will use sport dictionary, so if you play tennis, Novak Đoković would be the most desirable opponent, and if you are footballer , Barcelona and Real would be big snacks for you. Victory as David against Goliath is crown of victories, so try to prove that you can push the biggest from their thrones. When Pir, king of Epir, won battle in Rome, he said that he doesn’t need this victory, because more victories like these will make them lost. He got much damages and this victory was similar to defeat.

We are competitors to each other, our life is made from victories and defeats. Who will get better job, bigger salary, more kids, prettier wife or richer husband? Whose chances will fail, and who will pick only what is left?

Jessica wanted Colin since they were kids. Jessica followed him everywhere but he thought about her as cool school mate. She was watching him with many women, and she was never one of them. One night he was drunk and they slept together. Then, she was in relation with Sharon, his biggest love. Jessica did all to ruin that relation, she bragged about night with Colin. Result was not as she expected, because even Sharon left Colin, he did not want to start relation with Jessica. Even more, he started to despise her. They never talked again.

Even word defeat sounds as label for losers, sometimes is better to let it go or give up, than to make one of Pir’s victories. For example, imagine that you steal someone’s car. Later, you noticed that car needs many repairs and that missing parts are expensive. Also, police might catch you. In private area this kind of victory is more painful. Mistress ruins someone’s marriage but her lover’s kids hate her. They make her life unbearable.

“I wish it never happened. ” “If i can back on the beginning, i would never do this. ” This is description of this useless victory. Our vanity will despise victories without results. If you are woman, you want to push away more beautiful woman. If you are man, you want to compete and win in race with richer man. Our ego will declare war to Pir’s victory because that is wasting of time.

If you are Pir’s vinner , you probably do next things:

You date with girls whose are rejected by other men.

You eat food out of deadline.

You work on jobs which others avoid.

You collect things which other throw into garbage. 

One of the points in victory is that you will never accept comfort and remains. You are not little kid who will smile after big guy gives him piece of chocolate.

Why women like naughty guys?

 

 

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Forbidden fruit is sweeter. Grass is more green around your neighbor’s house. That is logic of some human minds. They see things what other’s have and they want to involve in this.
Such women are imitators and insecure in own choice. This is more safe, to try something what is already proved as good. Accord this logic, some women will pick only married men or men who are already taken and popular.
George is handsome man, he is working in bank, his salary is big because he is leader of one department. He is well mannered and girls love to hang out with him , at team building. Problem is, George was never in relation. Girls will say, George is wonderful, but somehow boring. There is no sparks, adrenaline, excitement with him. Girls would like to go in shopping with him, but not on date. He is not hot.
His friend Lewis is what women say hot guy. He is heartbreaker and never alone. One woman left him, he is already with another. He was married twice, and divorced. Lewis has magnet and women adore him.
If you ask women, why they pick Lewis, and not George for date, they will say that Lewis is confirmed as interesting choice. George needs good promotion and marketing, this is something what is missing in his behavior.

Women like to compete with each other. It is not rarity that two best friends will compete, they will even steal guy from each other. Married woman and his best friend, this is not always safe area when husband is here. It is like in movie “All about Eve.” Two women, one is role model for other, but indeed that friend who show admiration to you is your rival. She wants to take what is yours.

What is an advice for George? 

He needs so called hunter stories. 

He should lie about his reputation.

Women heard about him as good son of his mother, this is not cool and hot. Women tremble when they hear about Lewis, because he is so good in bed, he is passionate and this is hot area. When George is here, women will see scene with family and boring dinner. Lewis will take them in Wonderland. They can travel with him, he will suggest even roller coaster and they will feel young and desirable. George will take his woman at home, and his mother will judge them. This is what women want to avoid.

George needs woman who will break ice.

Once when other women hear that he had sex with someone, they will be curious too. Nobody wants to be his teacher.

Lewis is hunter and his trap is always full of trophies. Women will suffer and cry with him, but he will never be alone. He is enough smart to recognize when he needs to stop and settle down. Some women will reject him too, but he has joker in his pocket. As long women like to compete in this game, Lewis will be popular.
Women like naughty guys because they are unpredictable, you never know what he will bring at table. Maybe you did not want to marry with him, but for sure you want to meet some of them at least once.

Did you meet emotional vampire?

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Imagine that you are sitting in your favorite chair, in warm room and you are ready to watch your favorite movie. You have popcorn, coffee or juice and you feel relaxed after hard working day, and your beloved partner is next to you. Suddenly your cell phone rings and this is beginning of nightmare.

Crying voice: “Hello, this is me. Am i disturb? You know, Leo again insulted me. He said to me that i am fat and old. He will leave me..do you think he will leave me?”

Deep sigh, because this is million times that your friend is calling you and interrupt your peace with the same story. Indeed, such people don’t need friends. They need a shrink.

They are emotional vampires. This kind of person will not drink your blood, but he or she will spend your nerves and your time. This creatures are so resistant and denial has no way in their heads.

This is monologue.
Usually it looks like this:

“Oh, you are busy? What are you doing? When you will have time for me? Oh, did not you said that you are free now? I know you hate me. Everybody hate me. It would be better that i die. Everyone will relief.”

It is not necessary that you must be close with this person. You can meet such vampires in bus stations, at work, at dentist, in shopping center. That are different places, but intentions are the same. Vampire wants that you are listening his or her problems. Vampire has no shame and no limits. If you are harsh, vampire will start to play a role of victim.

Oh, you are so rude. Your words break my heart really. You are selfish, i just wanted someone can help me. I hate you.”

 

 

Don’t feel responsible and don’t fall in this trap. If you see that  someone you know has such symptoms, don’t feel sorry. You have right on your free time and you are not vampire donor.

Every healthy relation is based on understanding and respect . There is a line. You are were not born to please other wishes anytime they want. Real friend will understand this, the same as every normal person on the street will not expose privacy to unknown people.

Yes, some people are unhappy, hungry for love and attention. But, more you ask for other compassion, people will runaway from you. Happiness and love come to those who are ready to accept this with healthy mind.

So you can continue to watch your favorite movie with your beloved partner because normal person will wait when you will be free for phone call.