10 ways how to test your trust in people

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It is very easy to get fooled. Someone cheated you, you are misguided? Don’t blame yourself, it could happen to everyone. Difference is in way, how to get out from this and avoid future disappointments.

Naivete is sign of trust, just in extreme form. If you believe in everything, you are naive.

Life would be boring without risks. If you are too cautious, you step into paranoid area. Wow, everyone is against me, i am on black list and for sure this is again my bad luck. On that way, you close yourself into golden cage, and nobody could harm you. How to open your soul to others? Who can make guarantee that you will find treasure, and that you will not stuck in the trap?

Here are the most often traps for naive people, and you are not the only one who will fail. 

1. salesman and his skills 

You bought something what is not necessary and you spent big money, because salesman persuaded you in value of his products? Look at your wardrobe, there are dresses you will never wear. Here is jewelry without values, fake pearls and cheap necklace, but it looks good on first sight.

2. big chance for easy money

Many advertising about earning big money on easy ways fooled many people. Everyone will think “but i will be the one who will really earn.”

3. masters of tarot, black magic, love spells

This woman saw that you will get marry next year? You are still single but you gave her 100 euro? You are not first and not the last.

4. virtual marriage proposal

Your prince charming promised you to get marry and then he disappeared after you lend him money? Call someone who have similar experience.

5. big lottery won, roulette, slot machines

Las Vegas, Monte Carlo, expensive casinos over the world, and everyone dream about jackpot. You think you are the one who will win? But others think about this too.

6. meeting with agent who promised you to make star from you

You want to be famous and this man promised you this? Suddenly you are victim of human trafficking, porno industry or you simply got fooled. You enter into twilight zone.

7. online shopping

Cruel stats and numbers are black evidence, how many people get fooled with online shopping. Empty pockets and wallets are reality.

8. liberty movements, sects

You wish to escape from reality, and spiritual person promised you better world? Suddenly, you are without passport and money, but you are member of sect and they can do with you whatever they want.

9. politicians promises

You are member of political group and they promised you good job, when they win on elections. Nothing for you, still? Keep searching.

10. pills for losing weight

You paid big money to lose your weight, but you are even more fat than before? At least, your wallet is thin.

Everyone who wants success in life must develop sense for reality.

It doesn’t mean that you need to give up from dreams and hopes, but you need info. Numbers don’t lie. If 90% people slip in some area, will you enter into 10% who did not? Maybe your neighbor won on the lottery, but it doesn’t mean that you are next. Your cousin got married for rich man after they know each other 2 months? She got luck, but exceptions doesn’t make rules.

Big decisions are investments. First you need to study your situations, otherwise you will buy cat in the bag. There is no guarantee that you will protect yourself from bad surprises, but at least don’t jump on first offer. Also, if you did mistake, your knowledge will help you to get out faster from this. If you see cat in the bag, throw this bag and runaway.

Shopping is not cure for broken heart

If you are sad, grumpy or your heart is broken, shopping will be your best friend. Women practice shopping as additional tool to forget all troubles and make yourself beautiful.

Look at your wardrobe. Accords some polls, every woman use only 30% of her closet. For sure you have trousers or skirt you will never wear. They are size 36, and you are size 40 and your strong belief is that it will fit you perfectly one day. Then you sit in McDonald’s to eat hamburger and you can forget about your dream.

Women can be superstitious. That skirt brings me luck, i had that blouse when i met my boyfriend. This shoes are your fetish, you were dancing whole night and you had many fans because you look so good in them.

Lucy was very unhappy after her breakup. Her friends Sally and Brenda invited her to shopping mall. She had Visa and she joined to them. Lucy was not slim so after she realized that she can’t stand in size 40, she became depressed. Then Brenda started to pick clothes to make her happy. Lucy spent a lot of money, because at the end she just took some things randomly, even without testing. 

After one week she was ready to meet new guys . She was almost ready for Saturday evening party , her friends were at the door and suddenly her necklaces drop her. She bowed to pick it and her dress cracked on the back. That evening she was so depressed that she cancelled all her plans.

Shopping is nice thing, but extreme situations are not good. We are so sad that we want to be happy by force. We jump from deep anger to the highest joy. Some fake things can fascinate us and we will not even check is that real solution for our problems. I am so angry that i will spend money on new fashion collection, but my legs pain because shoes are so tight, and this coat is too big or too small for me. 

Every salesman will have good day when shopping addict come into shopping mall.

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That kind of persons are addicted and they are indeed collectors. They will grab things in any part of the day, and full bags will be result of this shopping mania. Later this person will be maybe hungry or full of debts. Also many people spent their money in online internet shopping.

How many people were cheated by shopping online? 1 from 3 online shoppers were fooled by fake websites who offer ideal conditions for shopping.

 

So, if you practice shopping as cure against sadness or depression, take a look into your wallet. Think about how big financial burden you can handle in next shopping season.

Love birds at workplace

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Love doesn’t pick time and place. You can fall in love everywhere and anytime. People will tell the funniest stories about how they met and where they fall in love. Love is blind because romantic arrows will hit you in unpleasant time or in inappropriate place. 

One of places which is not recommended as love oasis is workplace. Don’t shit where you eat, it could be related to this. Melinda fall in love in his boss and even worse, she shared office with him. He was married and she felt as schoolgirl at first date. She was blushing every time when he gave her compliment, and her behavior was so clumsy. So she forgot to do calls to some important people, her files were messy and nobody was fascinated with her. They never realize relation, even sparks were visible. Her boss said that they work together and that is against rules. Some private companies will even have internal law about love relation between colleagues. It will be forbidden, for the sake of business. It is understandable, because workplace is not zoo, that two people can jump around and pinch each other whenever they like. They would look as monkeys.

Let’s see some side effect when you realize relation at workplace.

Boredom. If you spend time with your soulmate at work and then out of work, this is big potential for conflicts. 

Jealousy. Every other woman at work is possible threat to your relation, you can see this with different eyes. If he involved with you, why he could not flirt with others too?

Bad results. Your relation could be as roller coaster, full of ups and downs. Work will suffer and it will affect to your business success.

Gossips. You will not care what others think, but if you get promotion, people will not say that you deserve that. They will say that your skills in bed are amazing and that your boss promoted you because of this.

In extreme cases, you can be fired . You may have conflict with your lover and if he is able to do vengeance, when you break up, he will use this as reason against you. Two flies with one hit, you will lose him and job. 

Relation at work are not rarity. Stressful atmosphere will bring sparks and people become horny. 


When two colleagues are too close, when they have common language which is understandable only to them, you can bet on affair. Body language is also good proof. They hug each other too often and they exchange too much tenderness. 

Everyone knew when Josephine fall in love in new man at work. Craig was so charming and they were all the time together, their lunch pause was extended only for them. Everyone who wanted to join to them had feeling that he is disturbing to love birds. Soon they declared their relation, but Josephine got new business offer. They dealt that it will be better to separate their job from romance.

Imagine scene when you spend hot night with your colleague from work. Next morning you are coming at work and he is waiting in office with cup of coffee in his hand. Sounds perfect? Then, you wish to cuddle with him in office chair, but phone is ringing or nervous clients are behind your door. You are going to toilet, and he grabs your butt, while someone is looking at you. Maybe is cool at first sight, but later it will be unpleasant for both. If you disagree about project with him, he will not get your ideas serious. He will ask you did you like what he did to you last night or you wish to try something different. 

It is different when you start common business with your partner. Then you know each other very well because you share life with him. But, if you meet man of your life at work, that is situation where you hold rose with thorn. Squeeze it too tight and you will bleed.

Treat lady like a whore (and opposite)

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This old proverb found place in minds of some men who like to control every woman. Cheap opposite psychology is their way to seduce woman who is not obey to them on a way they wished.

Imagine dominant, conservative man who has raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and to do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soon, Harry start to abuse her and became violent. Their marriage finished after their argument had bad end. Harry hit her with fist into eye, she was injured. That was good reason for divorce. Now, Harry sees his daughter once on month, accord court decision .

Did you expect that Harry regret his actions and became more soft? No, this trauma made him worse. He became playboy, but special kind of man who is focused on old , lonely women in fifties, even sixties. He is money hunter. As he said : “I can make every woman beautiful. Even if she is the ugliest at world, i can make her feels in heaven. ” He seduces them by sweet words , he talks on their languages because mostly they are tourists which visit his city. After few nights with him he is going forward on next one, because his business is done. Some women handle it with silence but other attack him and call him gigolo, especially after he doesn’t return him money.

He got involved with Olga, woman 20 years older than him and claimed that she raped him, but after she gave him money he changed story and treat her as his girlfriend. He doesn’t love her, but he loves power he got in his hands, to make her as slave and use her for his purposes.

As Harry is just a human, he falls in love recently. His heart shown him way to woman near his ages, who doesn’t want to obey to his wishes and who make joke of his traditional , rigid values. She was mocking him and even insulting, so she became real challenge for him. Problem is, that woman is married and she can’t be his love. Harry dreams about her , he even offered her to visit him, but she rejected his offer as cheap attempt to join into his circle of poor, used women.

How Harry treat his ex wife, and how he treats Olga? Olga is old slutty woman, in a mood to have sex with everyone because her quote is “life is short. ” Harry gave her kind of honor by appearing with her on public places. How he treats his ex wife, mother of his daughter? He was beating her and lied to police that she falls on stairs. If you mention his ex ,he will got mad and say that her character is not good. If you talk about Olga, he will say that Olga is not bad, even Olga is old slut and pay for sex with money to young guys as Harry.

His values are distorted, as he treats lady as whore, and whore as lady, just to save his power and raise his ego.

Social media – truth and lies about Luka Modrić

When i talk about Croatian football, Luka Modrić is the most famous name nowadays. As Davor Šuker in the past, Luka Modrić is somebody who is the most popular in this area. When i was at stadium Maksimir , during football match Croatia-Norway, audience supported him as leader of victory. Luka Modrić started his career in football club Zadar and continued in football club Dinamo, so together with Dinamo they won 3 championship title in Croatia. Nowadays, he plays for Real Madrid, famous spanish club.

Luka is not typicall footballer, he has no model look as Cristiano Ronaldo, he is not star of scandals as Maradona, and he is not playboy. Luka is modest guy, married with one kid, and he is not star of parties as Neymar, he is more guy from neighborhood, but his talent is limitless. Recently he was chosen as the best footballer in Zagreb, he got reward from children, and he was in gathering, between children, as their role model.

People will say : “Wow, really golden guy, everybody must love him, isn’t it?” But, world is not nice place, he was object of jokes during World championship in Brasil, when Croatia lost match against Mexico, their newspapers were full of jokes about Luka, because he is not sexy macho man. Also, american portal fusion.net recently talked about him in article as about someone who is bad example for kids.

Luka said : “I wanted to be a barman, if i was not footballer.”

Author of article Miriti Murungi twisted his words and explained that Luka has bad influence on kids, because in this case he supports alcohol and bad behavior in bar. This superficial way is double negative, because barmen are , accord this words, group of people who don’t deserve respect and this job is discriminated, and on other hand, Luka should be someone who need to stay away from kids. Also author of this text talked about his hairstyle, as Luka is model for Vogue or on the cover of Playboy.

Luka Modrić is one of rare footballers who is not connected with affairs. He is not cheater and he lives in stable marriage, he is not involved in scandals and corruption, he lives healthy sport life and every famous football club would like to have him. His wife is not famous model, she is ordinary girl and her photos are not theater for audience, as some football wives do. She is certainly not Victoria Beckham and publicity knows her as girl who worked in administration of football club Dinamo.

What is the point ? Finally we have someone who did not build his career on scandals so in the lack of ugly stories, newspapers must imagine fairy tales about Bad Luka, as he is Grinch who stole joy to kids. Many Croatian kids will wear shirts with his name and they will be proud on it. In his statement, Luka said something very modest and positive, that he appreciate money and he doesn’t make a difference between rich and poor. He did not changed, he stayed guy from neighborhood, simple and ordinary as we remember from the start.

He gave lessons to human ego and stupidity on the first place. We are not all born to be rich and stars, but we should not underestimate anyone, no matter is person waiter, carpenter or footballer.

Dirty cash – things which money can’t buy

Sound of money is favorite music for many ears. Who would not like to be rich? Imagine what you can buy with money, but also imagine what is still unreachable, despite of your big wallet?

When Sam was angry, his mother would buy him chocolate. When he was crying, she would give him money for ice cream. As teenager, Sam got new car because he broke up with girlfriend. His parents were rich and they wanted to make him happy, with money. As adult man, Sam did big success. He is boss in one successful private company , his wife has own fashion line and they are rich couple. It looks perfect, but during one of his business trips he found mistress and he bought her flat , just to meet with her from time to time. When Isabella, his mistress wanted to cut her wrists because she was lonely, Sam bought her plane ticket for Tahiti, to travel and clear her head. He has solution for everything. 

One day Sam got new neighbor. She was separated woman, with small kid. She was attractive, and he did everything to get close with her. Even that woman had financial troubles, she rejected his help. She also rejected to have sex with him. First time in his life, Sam did not buy something with his money. 

Some people grow up as rich, and money spoil them. For them it seems impossible that in this world are things which money can’t buy. 

Money is tool in your hands and symbol of power, until you can get everything what you wish.

What will be your possible obstacles? 

Where you can’t use money and where is money worthless?

Pride.

 If person has high level of pride, he will not take money to sell himself.

Education.

If you parents taught you that you don’t receive money from strangers or suspicious sources, you will not take it.

Caution.

If you are careful and full of doubts, you will not risk your life for big money.

Shame. 

Some people will not take money cause they feel unpleasant or embarrassed.

Loyalty.

Loyal person has no price and such person will not betray friend or love for money.

Love.

Place in heart cannot be filled by money. 

If you based your relation on money, your partner can find another person who has lower price. Once, when he realize that you will do everything for money, it will be easy to manipulate with you. Empty pockets are something you can change. It is more difficult to fill empty heart, especially if you lost precious piece a long time ago.

Reality with domino effect

 

Every misery ask for company. Trouble never comes alone. In the time of recession many people are unemployed or with small salaries. That problems spread deeper into society. As octopus, their shanks are on many places.

Poor man will became beggar or criminal. Beggars will be social problems, and criminals will fill courts and jails. Streets will be battlefield for social mess and someone can get hurt during demonstrations. Unemployed people have no money to shop. Shopping malls will be closed or empty and country will have debts. That debts will be on international level and country will fall into debt slavery. 

Domino effect has terrible consequences. Problems are part of big chain, everything is crushing down. If you want to solve this situation, go on election and choose another government. Ask yourself if your voice can help. 

The same thing is in private area. So many times we can hear “all troubles stick on my back.” I have spell because everything is going wrong.

When you get divorce this is not an end. It opens door to another problems. Financial side, lost trust to other possible partners and if you have children they lose mother or father. So in this way we observe problems as an album with black and grey photos. Small problem can grow into big problem. You get drown deeper and deeper.

This happens when you don’t discover causer from the start. What made your situation so bad? Let’s go back at the beginning. Now, when everything is crushing down, you can see that it didn’t come over night. Or maybe you did not want to see, you intentionally closed your eyes?

Sabina complained that her husband left her. She was in marriage 10 years. Then she dig into her memory, how she forgive to him all affairs and how he treated her. He did not show her love as she expected. She wanted to keep him so her eyes are closed. That was pink delusional view, not real picture of this situation. So why she was surprised when he declared end of their marriage? 

When we dig hole for our problems, we forget about solution. 


Well, no big deal, i will not pay my bills immediately, but for sure i will pay. Now my bills are bigger, i did not pay last three months, how so? 

It is better to prevent, than to heal. 


It can be too late, damage is already done. Then we can accuse others why that happened. It is better to kill the wasp than to deal with cluster. Let’s cope with that problems until they are small, because later you will be too weak to solve this alone.

Twisted morality

Do you know who is Portia Surreal? She is DJ and her show is in topless. Simply, she did performances during her advents, and it made different reactions. She is pretty blonde woman who likes to show her breasts to audience. The last updates i found on internet about her was from 2008, but i still remember her burlesque show in Zagreb, in night club “The best”. Many would agree with me that her music is not worthy, but on parties everyone can have fun, even DJ is not quality. What captured my attention then was not music, even not her half naked performance, it was behavior of the audience.

Portia was sharing chocolate candies and sending kisses, also she kissed everyone who approached to her. Bodyguards were watching around, because her acting was risky, you never know which kind of maniac you can meet in night club. I heard words, on Croatian language, from guy behind me. He was yelling: “Whore. American whore.” Even she could not understand it or hear from loud music, that was really rude.

I was thinking what makes guy to go on this party together with his judgment. Maybe brothel was too expensive for him, maybe he had problems with impotence, or simply he has no luck with women? If you are notified what kind of show is this, you will not expect prayer, isn’t it? He maybe wanted to go in church but here was more fun.

Later i was listening interview with Portia, she was talking about her experience with audience. Sometimes she got marriage proposals, sometimes even women wanted to kiss her. Her show made different reactions, but for sure, everyone could recognize their secret instincts in that moment. Maybe she scared people , to reconsider their values. Maybe she excited them or shocked them. What she did was somehow brave, because she provoked people.

Another example is Niki Belucci, who was real porno star in hard core movies is now house DJ, is also provoking audience, but she put silver stars on her breasts , and she is more popular. Maybe she better sold her music and show.

This two women make me think, what is indeed moral these days? Moral is tool of marketing. How some people became moral policy , when they inside wish taste forbidden fruit?

How we can judge someone as whore, accord artistic performance, no matter how bad is? What we know about other’s privacy?

In the year 2005 Niki Belucci got AVN award nominee as female foreign performer on the year. That should close many mouth to people as guy from party. Mean people will say, sex is selling everything. I would say, you are what you represent. If you believe in yourself, there is no ethic principles which will ruin your aims.

Who was guy from the audience at party ? He said “whore” but he did not talk about Portia. He talked about himself, his education, his mother and his unfilled wishes. Otherwise, he would just shut up and listen to the music.

Celebrities behind bars

Break the rule, it can be very exciting and funny, but break the law is not so hilarious. Unless you don’t want to pay big money or spend life behind prison bars, conflicts with law are not recommended. As every rule has an exception, here are examples of famous persons who avoided justice very successfully.

So, if you want to play with system, you should be famous. If you believe that all are equal in this world and that ordinary person will get equal punishment as famous star, you are very wrong.

In the year 2011 Serbian singer Svetlana Ceca Ražnjatović was accused because of illegal possession of money from transfer of football players . That footballers were playing for football club Obilić and she was president of that club. For those who doesn’t know, Ceca is widow of familiar criminal man Željko Ražnjatović Arkan. She took 2 million euro and over 300 000 dollars on illegal way, she took money for herself. What court said? She got 8 months of house arrest together with her sister, who was cooperator in her act. She also got bracelet with bipper around her leg, as insurance that she will not try to escape.

This was not the end, so 2 years later she was accused for threats and her advocate wanted to deal with court , he suggested that Ceca could pay money in humanitarian purposes, but court denied that. Can you imagine that ordinary person would avoid normal prison for stealing other money?

Paris Hilton was arrested because of possession of drugs, and she was in prison, but her treatment was much better that with other prisoners. She was only 23 days in jail.

Khloe Kardashian was driving drunk, and she got 30 days of prison. Instead this, she spent only 173 minutes behind prison bars in Lynwood jail, famous as place for celebrities. Her sister even made party for her before she went there , party was named as “Girl, you are going to prison.”

So, it is not easy to be ordinary man. If you are not celebrity, and if you drink over 2 glasses of alcohol and police stops you, and you have over 1.5 promil (in Croatia), you will stay without drive licence for one month, you will pay about 1000 euro for penalty and you must go to test at shrink for your abilities. All this, and if you even did not drive fast or make damage or hurt someone at road. Unless you know a policeman to make deal with him, but even then you will have hard time to avoid punishment. 

Nomen est omen. Name is a sign. If you are in trouble with law, just tell what is your name. The other part is history.

Mateo and woman with mustaches

 

Every footballer has dream about playing in big club as Real, Barcelona or Manchester United. Many of them never realize that dreams,  but Croatian footballer Mateo Kovačić did it. He is now playing for Real Madrid even he is only 21 years old. As every successful, young, handsome and talented footballer, Mateo is on the target of publicity . Who would believe in this, because that modest, religious guy who is 5 year in romantic relation with beautiful girlfriend Isabela was role model for teenagers.

Mateo got some haters because of two things:

He kissed emblem of Real Madrid.

He said that his woman need to cook and that he is the one who will earn money for decent life.

Croatian supporters attacked Mateo cause they think he should kiss only national emblem, not Spanish symbol. They considered this as treason. Well, i disagree with this. Imagine that your dream became true and you are so fascinated that you want to jump from joy? Mateo probably felt gratitude in this moment so he kissed emblem , as he felt in his heart. Also , he wanted to show respect. He did not burn Croatian flag, he just shown his nice manners in another country. Is it more nicer when supporters make mess on stadiums, as it was in Milano, in football match Croatia against Italy, when whole world saw hooligans?

Another thing, feminists attacked Mateo that he lives in stone age. Omg, his woman must cook, how he could say this? I don’t know why is the crime if Mateo wants woman who will cook for him. If she will be his wife, why she could not cook? Imagine that Mateo is playing important match with Barcelona and he should make his lunch or dinner alone, until his wife will paint her nails? Sound awkward, isn’t it? Evil tongues forgot that he will earn big money. So, it would be better that his girlfriend is working in factory or as cashier, to come home tired from work, because she needs to earn own money? It is not always solution that woman must necessary work. Maybe she is more useful as his support, housewife at home. These days i read about girl who is dating with footballer of Manchester United. She works as saleslady, and he earn big money. Maybe is modesty good value for her, but she is not so smart. At least, he could help her to find better job.

People who never experienced mobbing, abusing at work and small salary can’t know how is hard to work on workplace which makes you frustrations. If you must wait nervous and frustrated boss to sign your documents at office and correct mistakes which never existed, if you must hang out with idiotic clients and listen their threats, or if man who is your colleague wants to drag you into bed, that is really humiliation. That is much worse than woman who cook lunch for his husband and clean house. Besides, footballer’s wife , so called wags, have so much possibilities. They can go on social events and promote their country or help their husbands to donate money in causes. That is also kind of work, and useful. 

If i say that i work 12 years and that i would change for life of wags, many would judge me that i am lazy. Yes, i despite extreme feminism, i shave legs, and i don’t want to drive truck. What a disaster! I know to cook also and if i cook lunch for my husband who came from business journey, it doesn’t mean that i am his slave. 

Mateo is young guy who is now subject of judgments, but he bravely goes against crowd. He could say that he cooks as Jamie Oliver and everyone would support him. Well, he said what he thinks. In 18th century,  people would clap their hands for this words, but now he comes into modern society, where is more acceptable that woman has mustaches or change gender, than cooking. Maybe he disappointed some supporters and some women, but guy with honest attitude is more valuable than family man who kiss his wife in publicity and then make sex with mistress in hotel.