He doesn’t care about your past if he is into you

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One of the most salty questions between women is about their sexual status. If you ask women do they masturbate mostly will say no and hide it from publicity. If you ask them about their fetish they will cover mouth with hand and say no. If you ask them are they promiscuous they will also say no. Here i am talking about representative , average woman as example . I was talking with many women on internet, from different countries, and despite of feminism, mostly women will not talk about their privacy unless they trust you as best friend.

If you ask women are they easy or hard target, of course every woman will say that she is not easy to get. What is the point is not their level of surrender, because in some stage of life every woman will obey to one man or to make something stupid which is not for bragging about. Being easy or hard don’t make differences, the point is how much you can hold to yourself.

If you think that being unavailable makes you hard target, or that being wild makes you easy, you are in deep illusion.

Let’s see in this example. Celia is a virgin, 35 years old. Accord her religious beliefs and traditional values in her family, every woman who sleeps with man who is not her husband is dirty woman. She finds them as easy and filthy. Celia is pure and she waits for her man, also her taste is very high, so she wants to get rich man, handsome as model, gentleman who will be faithful to her. She was not without admirers cause she is not ugly, indeed she is cute average woman. What was her failure, she is not interesting catch for man’s population on the way she wanted to be. She was dating with men but they can’t touch her properly. She runs even from kiss. Her heart was broken because she did not want to sleep with her big love, so he went to have sex with another woman. Celia said ” look at me, i am hard woman, i will wait for my husband and then i will sleep with him. ” Until now, there is not candidate for her. What she did was considered as hard, but her mind was very easy. A man promised her to visit her and get marry with her. He was from another country. He did not show up even she was waiting for him. Her virgin’s mind made her as easy target for illusions, as hard target for sex adventures.

There we got to another question, what is easy, and what is hard?

Hard targets are not by default virgins, religious women, those who are rigid and unavailable for men. They could be frustrated, but not so hard.

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Real hard target is this woman:

She has attitude. If you betray her, she might sex with you, but you will get dumped after this.

She is loyal. If she chose you, she will not chase another man. She expects the same from you.

She is silent and keep your secrets and trust.

She will reject other men.

Level of easy is not tightly connected with physical touch. You might see innocent virgin who is flirting with men and don’t give chance to anyone because she is playing. You might see promiscuous woman who will stand by side and wait for the right man. When some woman is yelling : “No, he will not get me, i am not a whore. ” , there is a doubt that she doesn’t stand by her attitude. If you know you are not easy, why to prove that and to whom?

In this relations the main role is in intuition. Your availability depends on your inner voice. If you feel that man is into you, that you can trust him and that he returns you love, it will not be important what you do for him. You can sleep with him and say goodbye if you don’t feel good, that will not make you cheap. You can call him and say that you want him and you will see in his eyes how much is good this idea.

Here is statement of one man , who said the point: “My girlfriend, i was expecting that she will jump into bed with me first week. I know she was with many men after me, but she did not sleep with me 3 months. I would not change my opinion even if she did it anyway, because i liked her at first sight. It was something in her wilderness which made me impressed. “

 

All shades of jealousy

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That sting will pinch you right into your heart. Your beloved partner is staring on other woman, and she is young, sexy and stunning. How do you feel? You wish to slap him or to make her vanish? Simply, you will swallow this bitterness or you will make a fight with him?

No matter how calm person is, it is hard to avoid jealousy. How does it happen? Jealousy is made of fear and envy. We afraid to lose our partner because of another person and then we feel envy toward our competition. Other followers of jealousy are insecurity, rage and anger. How much you did for him and he is acting like this? What will happen now, my relation is on insecure ground?

Jealousy might be spice to your relation if you use it properly. When couple is in long relation or in marriage, routine and boredom will attack your harmony and small dose of jealousy will help. It is good to remind your partner from time to time that you are still desirable, that other men are looking for you and you can return smile to handsome stranger. Sometimes it helps, when our partner have chance to see things with other eyes. 

Lisa and Brad were married about 10 years. Their sexual life had pattern, once in two weeks, when both found enough time between daily obligations and their work. They both chilled out. Lisa was still attractive but Brad did not notice her new skirt, new haircut or new underwear. One day Lisa met in the street her old friend from school days, handsome guy Timothy. She invited him to lunch at her home. While she was washing the dishes, Timothy said to Brad : “You are lucky man, i tried with Lisa before many years, but she was always looking friend in me. ” That words made Brad to think, when he was the last time that he imagined his wife as desirable ? In this case, Timothy helped without knowing.

Small dose of jealousy is spicy, but large amount is poison. Imagine that you are with man or woman who will complaint every day because you talked with someone at the street, because you have friends at work or you use social networks? This burden will be too heavy for you. In extreme cases, it will cause end of your relation.

We can make difference in jealousy , if we compare that feeling in colors.

These are some shades of jealousy.

White area. 

Your partner will not complain on your friends, he will allow you to drink coffee with them, to make lunch, even to make an innocent flirt with smile and sweet words. Here, kiss in cheek is the limit. So, your partner is not jealous, and maybe you want to make him jealous more?

Grey area. 

Your partner will be angry if you talk on phone with your friend from childhood, he will complain that you are too close with him. Also, why your male boss call you even in free time? You will try to explain that guys are harmless.

Blue area. 

Your guy will make conflict with other guys. Someone slap you in the butt until you were passing? Someone said nasty words to you? This is men pride, so it is not nice to comment to their girls. How would you feel that someone say to your girlfriend how hot is she, in front of you? Still you can avoid fight with ignorance or good joke as “too pity she is not your girlfriend.” In women case, only idiot women will slap butt of guy who is in company with other girl. That is filthy sign of despair. 

Red area

Your partner will make fight, without explanation. Your phone will be destroyed, your internet will not work and he will forbid you to talk with other guys, even with threats. Watch out, this is sick and paranoid. When you are into red area, runaway from there quick until you have whole teeth.

Sometimes, jealousy will be funny. You will enjoy to tease your partner because of his insecurity. This might be also your internal joke, how to make each other jealous . You can create limits. In other way, if you don’t respect wishes of your partner, if you have secret toward him and you are not cooperating, jealousy is not funny anymore. Secrets are followers of jealousy. You know how far you can go. He trusts you and he let you to drink coffee with this guy, but don’t kiss him because you are crossing the limits. The same with women, if your woman trusts you, don’t make her regret.

Jealousy is desirable spice until you increase the dose. In that case, jealousy is poison and her victims are random, she is not selective and she has no mercy.

Toxic relations – are you involved in one of those 3 types?

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Did you ever feel that you stand between love and hate toward one person? Your heart loves him, but you mind despise your choice. This happens when your partner  is humiliating you. In this way, that is Stockholm syndrome, when you are bonded with someone who doesn’t love you. This is relation between master and slave. He will not leave you, but you will give him your heart on the palm. That means, he will take from you all what he wish, and if you complain, it will get worse.
Chemistry is weird thing. Once when someone press right buttons, you will not ask what this could bring to you. That man makes you hot, you enjoy to make love with him, and you love him. If you scratch under surface, there are many failures. He is not obligated and not responsible for you, because you are the one who asked this, not he. He only accepted what you offered to him.
How you will know that you are involved in toxic relation?
 
This kind of relation could be covered with sweet words, promises, hot passion, so you will not have idea that you stuck in the trap. The more time you spent with such man, you are deeper in problems.
3 types of this relation will help you to find out are you in this danger zone.
Secret relation.
Nobody knows about you and him. He said, it must be secret because he is married, not ready or too busy for real relation. If you accept this, slavery is already here.
Relation on distance.
It doesn’t matter how many kilometers separates you. But, if he was in your city and he did not call you, he doesn’t care. If he asks from you to visit him, and he doesn’t want to pay expenses, or he never visited you, he is not interested for something serious.
Relation without guarantee.
He never talks about marriage. Until this is good , he is pleased and he doesn’t ask for more. After 10 year without guarancy , you might ask yourself, will you spend your whole life wondering. Or he will abandon you because of someone else?
Healthy relationship involves respect, loyalty, care, responsibility. By default, you don’t have to ask for this, because if he loves you, that is understandable. It is like you would ask him to bring you water if you are thirsty. If you are in toxic relation, he will make respect under question. Who are you anyway to blame him for infidelity ? He did not promise you nothing. You cried for him and wanted to be with him, so pay your price.
Darlene was in toxic relation with Bryan. They were lovers five years. He wanted to be free man, but still he wanted to have someone who will care for him. Darlene knew that they are not in classic relation, because he avoid to introduce her to his friends and family. In this case, she hoped that Bryan is just playboy who cannot change, because other women will be hurt too. But, Bryan was not the same toward every women in his life. He was gentleman when he wanted. Darlene got his bad edition. He asked her only for sex or when he was alone. She felt that it ruins her whole life. Her colleagues at work did not respect her anymore, her parents were worried and she lost some friends, because they could not listen her voluntary tragedy anymore. It was agony until the day when Darlene met another guy. Something broke in her heart when Bryan was not jealous. She realized, that Bryan indeed never cared.
Toxic relation is voluntary connection, and that is sad part. Nobody force you, but you are stubborn because only he makes you happy. Or, you are too big coward to ask something better or you think you deserve little passion and big disgrace?
In real love, heart is not poisoned with hate, revenge and jealousy. Toxic relation involves fight for survival. I am not sure, who will survive for a long time, because this is far from happy end.

Skeletons in the closet

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If you constantly live in past, you can’t focus at present and you don’t see the future.  I learnt to separate my present moments from past. Skeletons in the closet my stay there, cause every exhumation will make them smell more.

How i look at people who constantly live in past?

They can’t forgive mistakes.

They are not progressing.

They lost battle with time, cause everything was better for them, in “that time. “

They rarely give chance to new friends, new things and new love .

Living in past make us to regret, to remember or to be nostalgic. Imagine that you drive car, and you don’t drive forward. You drive back on the road you already passed. How you can expect change if you are constantly on the same road?

One of my qualities are forgiveness and tolerance. Yes, i give chance because i believe everyone makes mistakes and people can change in some circumstances. I am not rigid, so i don’t care if someone was hooligan, cheater, playboy, player or similar. Wounded people often have big heart and bunch of emotions, at difference from people who lived under golden cage with golden spoon in their ass.

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What kind of people judge others by their past?

People who live in comfort zone. No risk, no damage.

People who don’t like changes . 

People who aware to  make any cuts.

Sometimes i had ritual to make farewell with past. I burn old diaries, old notebook and old clothes. Gifts i got from ex partners and ex friends i thrown into garbage. If there is nothing left, i go forward. I don’t hate and i don’t turn around. I want to live free , that is why i can’t look at this skeletons.

People who live in past talk on this way : “Yes, i will never forget what he did. It was very sad , i remember as it happened yesterday. I still can’t look her into eyes. I remind myself every day that she doesn’t deserve to forgive her. I will remember this till the end of my life. “

Why is that bitterness when you have so much things in present to be joyful? Living in past is life on graveyard. All is still here, but nothing new.

Love birds at workplace

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Love doesn’t pick time and place. You can fall in love everywhere and anytime. People will tell the funniest stories about how they met and where they fall in love. Love is blind because romantic arrows will hit you in unpleasant time or in inappropriate place. 

One of places which is not recommended as love oasis is workplace. Don’t shit where you eat, it could be related to this. Melinda fall in love in his boss and even worse, she shared office with him. He was married and she felt as schoolgirl at first date. She was blushing every time when he gave her compliment, and her behavior was so clumsy. So she forgot to do calls to some important people, her files were messy and nobody was fascinated with her. They never realize relation, even sparks were visible. Her boss said that they work together and that is against rules. Some private companies will even have internal law about love relation between colleagues. It will be forbidden, for the sake of business. It is understandable, because workplace is not zoo, that two people can jump around and pinch each other whenever they like. They would look as monkeys.

Let’s see some side effect when you realize relation at workplace.

Boredom. If you spend time with your soulmate at work and then out of work, this is big potential for conflicts. 

Jealousy. Every other woman at work is possible threat to your relation, you can see this with different eyes. If he involved with you, why he could not flirt with others too?

Bad results. Your relation could be as roller coaster, full of ups and downs. Work will suffer and it will affect to your business success.

Gossips. You will not care what others think, but if you get promotion, people will not say that you deserve that. They will say that your skills in bed are amazing and that your boss promoted you because of this.

In extreme cases, you can be fired . You may have conflict with your lover and if he is able to do vengeance, when you break up, he will use this as reason against you. Two flies with one hit, you will lose him and job. 

Relation at work are not rarity. Stressful atmosphere will bring sparks and people become horny. 


When two colleagues are too close, when they have common language which is understandable only to them, you can bet on affair. Body language is also good proof. They hug each other too often and they exchange too much tenderness. 

Everyone knew when Josephine fall in love in new man at work. Craig was so charming and they were all the time together, their lunch pause was extended only for them. Everyone who wanted to join to them had feeling that he is disturbing to love birds. Soon they declared their relation, but Josephine got new business offer. They dealt that it will be better to separate their job from romance.

Imagine scene when you spend hot night with your colleague from work. Next morning you are coming at work and he is waiting in office with cup of coffee in his hand. Sounds perfect? Then, you wish to cuddle with him in office chair, but phone is ringing or nervous clients are behind your door. You are going to toilet, and he grabs your butt, while someone is looking at you. Maybe is cool at first sight, but later it will be unpleasant for both. If you disagree about project with him, he will not get your ideas serious. He will ask you did you like what he did to you last night or you wish to try something different. 

It is different when you start common business with your partner. Then you know each other very well because you share life with him. But, if you meet man of your life at work, that is situation where you hold rose with thorn. Squeeze it too tight and you will bleed.

Your fatal friend for benefit

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It is hard to make definition of love with one sentence. Physical contact, understanding, loyalty, respect, appreciation, all these are elements of love. If you have only sex and silence after, it is pretty clear that is not love.

Well, what happens when you start relation as friends with benefits which turn into something more? Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis started their relation on such way, and nowadays they are married.

Sometimes, life will make joke with you. It will happen something which you did not planned or you wanted to avoid this. Your energy will motivate space to give you exactly this you runaway from. You wanted friendship with benefits, because you don’t want to commit, you run from obligations and you are not good in showing feelings? Maybe past scarves make emotional monster from you, or you just think you are too young, too messy, to immature for serious relation, so you chose just sweating between four walls?

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Whatever reason is, this signs will show you that your hot adventure became more:

You can’t handle 24 hours without contact with your sex mate.

You ask her opinion about everything.

You want to share your daily events with her.

You want to drag your sex mate with conflict with other people, to have her support.

You are interested what she is doing when she is not with you.

You are jealous on every man in her life.

You are sad and empty if she did not reply on your messages.

There is no immunity toward love, and if you feel good with your fuck buddy, if you smile in her presence, if you want to poke nose in every part of her life, you are busted.

That happens when girl is not crazy for you, or at least she did not show this.

She did not reply on your message after sex?

She went out with girls after day in your room? She is kind with you, but she is not melting?

This things will make guys to fall in love, because even girl was sleeping with you, she is not easy as you thought.

She gave you an opposite opinion about something you thought she will stand by your side?

 

This is power of an opposite psychology. She did not run for you, she let you to do what you wanted, she did not bother you, and now she woke up your curiosity. You want to keep your fatal friend for benefit, before she slips from your hands. Maybe another girls cried for you, called you and declare love for you, but you only want to see where is your fatal fuckbuddy. Now you are staring at your mobile and wait for her message.

Why smart women pick bad guys?

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She is pretty, smart and successful. She is well educated and from good family. Yet, she constantly pick wrong men and on that way leaves impression as she is stupid woman. Her emotional intelligence falls down when she is dating a guy. 

Do you know such women? Maybe she is your friend, sister or someone you care about. She is in relation with men who doesn’t deserve her, but he is not first man she failed. Simply, her choice is disaster.

People wonder why some smart women can’t read bad guys and why they finish in bad relations. Why they are humiliated, abused , damaged by guys who are under their level. By default, they have all terms for great romance. Still, they pick guy who make them miserable.

The answer is : adrenaline. This feeling when your blood pressure raise and heart beats faster because he is near you. You will ask, why good guy can’t give you adrenaline you wish?

If you are this type, there are 80% chances that you will date bad guy:

Problematic childhood.

Woman was bullied, abused by men. Unsolved trauma left scarves, she will face with bad guy to make final fight with her past.

Teacher syndrome.

She is smart, but her ego thinks she can change him for a better. So she pick guys who are less educated, less stable, much younger or maybe in conflict with law.

She is not ready for commitment.

Some women will fear of marriage and children. Her conscience doesn’t want obligation. Randomly, she will chose guy who is not marriage type.

Hot tempered woman.

She likes fights, discussions, conflicts. She feels alive during quarrel. 

She likes challenges.

Bad guy is good example for challenges. He despise authorities and doesn’t care for society rules.

An opposite to general beliefs of bad luck, this kind of woman is not someone without luck. She was born to meet with someone who will make her unhappy, because her roots and her DNA invited him. You are what your thoughts do to you. 

This is how this looks like, when woman X talked about her type of guy:

I despise boredom. I will not gave birth to child, i don’t want wash dishes and clean. I want sex every day. I want to be always in love. “

The solution would be in the middle. Such woman in youth has chances to pass through many experiences. After 10 or 15 years, she will get a point. She will understand that adrenaline is not sourced only in bad guys. When good guy wants to leave you because you don’t appreciate his love toward you, your fear will raise until the end. This kind of adrenaline, you might lose someone who is your great partner will make you think. 

Woman who was once on bad path will ask herself does she want to pass again in this road. If she is really smart, she will not.

Smart woman will get sober when her bad guy breaks relation with her, because of other woman, who is under her level. Now, he chose her, and she is so ordinary, not glamorous, not educated, but she got him, right? And you can get everyone you want but you wanted him, because he did not get you serious. 

5 ways how to deal with playboy

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When Bryan walked into room, every woman has eyes on him. He was charming, talking with everyone and had nice words for all. Until the end of the year, Bryan slept with many women from his workplace. He broke hearts, but still all wanted to be with him. Stella had big decision, to catch him for herself. He should be only hers.

That kind of plan is draft when you wish to catch playboy. Some boys will wonder, why their rude, promiscuous and nasty friends change girlfriends so fast, and they barely find someone to date? On other side, women will ask how to stop playboy and how to be the last station for him?

So, you crush in him, and he has many affairs. He is nice with you, he gives you chances, but soon you realize that you are only number and that you can’t stop him. 



In this case, women do some basic mistakes. If you wish to stop playboy, don’t do this:

Don’t try to prove him that you are special. He will notice by himself.

Don’t insist to date with him if he already say no.

Don’t use sex as weapon. He is on familiar ground.

Don’t let him to use you for his purposes. Men ego could be very big. Once he realize that you love him, he might play with you.

Don’t confirm all what he says. He doesn’t need shadow.

How Stella caught Bryan at the end, it was mystery which everyone wanted to know. She was ordinary woman, not so pretty, older than him but smart. She found his weak spots, that he wanted someone who will treat him as human, not as sex object. He did not want woman who will cut wrists because of him. He wanted someone who will be enough cool not to call him every day but still support him in everything. Until other women skipped intro, Stella wanted to know all about him . They wanted to catch him for bed or for marriage, but Stella first focused to deserve his trust. She was arguing with him to prove that she is not impressed by his sweet appearance. 

You will be surprised maybe, but men are also in fear that women will use them. Women can use men for money, sex and selfish interests, the same as men do. Just, women are more complicated. You will understand very soon when guy wish to use you for sex, but men will understand slow how they were used, when woman drag him into marriage from interest. Until you found out, you are already around table with your mother in law who ask you to taste her domestic cake. 

What are basic fears of all playboys?

She will catch me with pregnancy.

She will make jealous scene in publicity.

I could not get rid of her.

She will make suicide and i will be responsible.

Her friends will gossip me and i will be crucified as jerk.

Too much experience is burden as lack of experience. In second case, you walk through the dark, in first case you are blind from too much light. When man have sex with too much women, all are the same for him and he doesn’t make difference. 

What are signs that guy is playboy?

He will seduce all kind of women. Ugly, pretty, young and old.

He will talk sweet with everyone.

His compliments are copy paste. “Your eyes are dangerous. ” How many times you heard this?

Every girl knows story about him. No, they are not jealous on you, they wish to warn you.

He will say that he had no luck and that women hurt him. He is broken every month and he asks for comfort.

If you expect that he will totally change, you are wrong. He will be faithful to you, but you will close one eye to his love reminders. Every time when some girl will smile in his presence, you don’t need to start questions. Playboy is someone who will be accepted, not transformed. He decided in one moment to stop his way of life, because he got tired. This is kind of journey. You are travelling without pause , but then you see safe harbor and you wish to stay. This happens in moment when you feel peace in soul and when you don’t afraid of sharing. Your fear is now different, this is fear of losing something valuable.

Bryan got wife and small daughter and he found new sense. All this sexy girls from his past became irrelevant because they had nothing to give him more. He was even afraid not to lose Stella. 

Some naive women think that they are better than others, chosen or benefited. In fact, they only came in the right moment . He was too old, too tired or ready to settle down. The main thing was that he insisted to stay with particular woman. She could be his friend from childhood, office mate or neighbor, but she was his last chapter. 

Treat lady like a whore (and opposite)

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This old proverb found place in minds of some men who like to control every woman. Cheap opposite psychology is their way to seduce woman who is not obey to them on a way they wished.

Imagine dominant, conservative man who has raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and to do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soon, Harry start to abuse her and became violent. Their marriage finished after their argument had bad end. Harry hit her with fist into eye, she was injured. That was good reason for divorce. Now, Harry sees his daughter once on month, accord court decision .

Did you expect that Harry regret his actions and became more soft? No, this trauma made him worse. He became playboy, but special kind of man who is focused on old , lonely women in fifties, even sixties. He is money hunter. As he said : “I can make every woman beautiful. Even if she is the ugliest at world, i can make her feels in heaven. ” He seduces them by sweet words , he talks on their languages because mostly they are tourists which visit his city. After few nights with him he is going forward on next one, because his business is done. Some women handle it with silence but other attack him and call him gigolo, especially after he doesn’t return him money.

He got involved with Olga, woman 20 years older than him and claimed that she raped him, but after she gave him money he changed story and treat her as his girlfriend. He doesn’t love her, but he loves power he got in his hands, to make her as slave and use her for his purposes.

As Harry is just a human, he falls in love recently. His heart shown him way to woman near his ages, who doesn’t want to obey to his wishes and who make joke of his traditional , rigid values. She was mocking him and even insulting, so she became real challenge for him. Problem is, that woman is married and she can’t be his love. Harry dreams about her , he even offered her to visit him, but she rejected his offer as cheap attempt to join into his circle of poor, used women.

How Harry treat his ex wife, and how he treats Olga? Olga is old slutty woman, in a mood to have sex with everyone because her quote is “life is short. ” Harry gave her kind of honor by appearing with her on public places. How he treats his ex wife, mother of his daughter? He was beating her and lied to police that she falls on stairs. If you mention his ex ,he will got mad and say that her character is not good. If you talk about Olga, he will say that Olga is not bad, even Olga is old slut and pay for sex with money to young guys as Harry.

His values are distorted, as he treats lady as whore, and whore as lady, just to save his power and raise his ego.

Strategies in love relations

What is love without fantasies and strategies? Sometimes it is real race, and we compete who will win. Men are simple, they give us simple signals. If man says “i like you”, he likes you. If he wants to marry you, he will ask you.

Many women are misguided by thinking that men give us double signals. Maybe when they are teenagers and immature, until they have no experience. Little kid will tease girl because he likes her. When mature man wants to seduce woman, she will know it because he will clear expose his intentions.

Women are different. Indeed our nature is more confusing. That is theory of seducing, how we seduce man by words . We want to give them message, that we are not easy and that they must work hard to get us.

Girl likes guy and he invites her for a date.

Possible answers:

i don’t know for today, but i will let you know soon

– now i am busy , i will tell you later

– yes i will go with you, but don’t take it as relation immediately

– maybe

– ask me again and you will know

Games are made by women. 


When guy asks for sex, then game goes to higher level.

Women will reply:

i am not ready

– i have headache

– it is not the right time

– if you are serious, you will wait

– do you want to take advantage?

– do you love me?

Women will hesitate, make excuses,  buy time to get a guy for long relation. Every woman has game with more levels. The one who pass all levels wins award.

Bad player will quit in first step. Average player will try and give up. But the best players will be resistant until they got a score. It also depends about wishes and expectations. Some guys are lazy and they will rather choose more available woman, because they think their odds are better if they play on safe. Others will deal with challenges, no matter how much time they need. Man with experience will not give up on the first sight.

So what kind of player you want? 


If you deal with little boy, he is insecure and it is easy to break him. Some women like to play teacher and student game, because they feel superior in this situation. Weakness of this game is that you never know what to expect, and soon as he will get bored, you will lose. When two people are not on equal level, it is hard to make harmony.  Follower must take a step to be closer. Breakup is here when one person stayed on first level, and other is already far away on level 50.