Book and review

 

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Recently i wrote book about outsiders, cause i made group at Facebook and it inspired me to write something about this phenomenon. When i created group, i got requests of many people, and some of them thought that they will chat there cause they felt lonely. Program in their head was totally wrong, cause i had no intention to open dating site and chat service. I wanted people who think out of standards, who see beyond social conventions and who are able to make progress. So all these loners, pests and rigid people i rejected.

I don’t know how someone can get an idea that outsider is lame creature who beg for friendship, relation, attention? So i wrote a book to explain my view.

In this book i got awesome review from British author Patricia McDonald .

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By Pat McDonald
Oct 12, 2017
This is a book to make you think. I found myself pondering introspectively about my childhood and developmental years. Whilst it reinforced some of my beliefs about myself, it made me reassess others; it even made me look again at why I took the path to become a bullying activist during my working life. The author has an extraordinary insight for one so young and a rare understanding of human behaviour. Having just discovered the truth that in hardship you discover just who your friends are, to read it here hits home. I thought I had friends until two years ago and a brain tumour was discovered; it still amazes me that only one person has come back since I survived and all the others disappeared. They say the ‘Truth will set you free’ – sometimes it is hard to take! This is well worth reading. I heard today that the petition I signed to lobby Parliament for including teaching mental health in schools in the UK has just been accepted and the debate is scheduled for November 2017, one small step! Always believing myself a black sheep, and I tick so many of her boxes to confirm it, it is the why that has been challenged. You are indeed never too old to learn especially about yourself. This may have helped me sooner had I read it years ago, as it was it took me 55 years to like myself! Well done Kristina Gallo! Pat McDonald British Crime Author
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5 types of people you should avoid at social networks

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Social networks are relaxing place if you share your time with good people. Stranger from internet could be more interesting than your colleague at work or boring neighbor who knocks at your door every day. Another traditions, exotic countries and different views are real refreshment in boring daily schedule. Unfortunately, internet is not always place for enjoyment, so you can fall in trap of some freaks who forgot line between reality and virtual space.

This 5 types of people you should avoid and press NO button for friend request:

Spammer. This kind of person will spam your wall with tags and inbox with messages. He is not here for friendship, he desperately catch attention. Especially is odd when such person start to share your personal photos around, without your permission.

Lover boy. This person is hungry for love and sweet words fly over your page as butterflies, but also you can see the same story in other pages. Sweetie, darling or honey are his daily inspirational words.

Pervert. He is big fan of porno photos and videos and he can embarrass you in publicity, because naked bodies are his hobby. 

Hater. He hates everyone and world is undesirable place, accord him. He will ask for conflict and fight in every opportunity. When such person is leaving, everyone will be considered as idiot or jerk, because everyone hurt him badly.

Lonely soul. Yes, this is kind of person who yells “add me” in every group, because people must add him. Otherwise, he will open fake page and threat you why you did not accept his nice offer for friendship. 

Even every social site has block button, you are not finished once when you block unpleasant person. He or she can open another page or gossip you around, or even try to hack your account, because you did not want to hangout with them. Some cultures are not based on rejections, for them is rude to say NO, and they will hard understand that you pick your friends.

Internet offered exit for every lonely person on this Earth, but some of them mixed reality and dream. Even when you add someone who is not accord your standards, you can soon regret this, because such person will ask daily chat with you and you will have stone around your neck.

Virtual space is not substitute for reality. This is bonus , additional gift together with reality, vacation with keyboard. If your workplace allows access to social networks, you will join to some site to get rest from daily pressure. Maybe you will rather exchange your experience with strangers than drink coffee with your idiot boss or boring cooperators. Person with healthy and sober mind should understand boundaries, that you can’t ask your virtual friend about their ages, statuses or personal life, if she or he feel uncomfortable.

Word choice is magical word but some people on internet are deaf , because they see only what they wish to see. Extreme cases will call you bad person, because you ignored their messages or blocked them, after annoying virtual treatment.

If you are lucky to meet alive person from internet, your perception will be complete and maybe you will find new friend. In any case, limit your expectations. People from internet are not fairies or magicians, they can’t change your reality or pay your bills.

What happens in undefined relation?

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“I don’t know what i feel. ” “My feelings are mixed. ”  This kind of answers you will get when you fall in love in guy who is not into you. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you, he is just not in the same level as you expected.

When you crush in someone, your heart will give you wrong view, because everything he said or do you can understand as sign. He touched your shoulder and you think he wants you. He was kind with you and you think he cares about you. Unfortunately, love is not always fair, and sometimes we will fall in love in someone who is not able to give love back, because he simply doesn’t feel the same.

What kind of options you can expect in this situation?

He doesn’t like you at all, but he will reject you on gentle way.

 

He likes you, but as friend.

 

He wants to make love with you, but he doesn’t want relation.

I know women very well, and we all want to change men, to be the last love of some men. We believe that our situation can change if we play well. So if he calls you friend, this is indeed something, because many friendships turn into love. For example, Jadda Pinkett and Will Smith started as friends, they were long time friends and later their relation became love.

Here you must be an expert lady and if you ask golden piece in this bunch of stones, act slowly.

Some signs will help you to see do you have chance for something more than friendship.

He has no girlfriend, and every his relation broke, but you are still here as friend.

He spent much time in your company, and ask your opinion about everything.

He said some compliments about your clothes, body or face.

He is jealous on your male friends.

He asks you about your past and he is jealous on former boyfriends.

You have arguments with him, you both insulted each other, but he is still talking with you even you give him hard time.

If you see some of these signs, go in action, seduce him, because love is not fair game and this is lottery, but worthy of risk. You can lose friend, but if you love him and he doesn’t want to be with you , loss is here anyway. For sure you will not feel better if he doesn’t know about your feelings and suddenly some girl take your place.

Another part of this story is different. Some men are not fair players. They will not define their feelings, or they will call you friend, but with first opportunity they will ask sex from you.

Here, don’t let him to cross this line.

If you are in undefined relation, make some rules and remind him that he wanted this kind of game.

Don’t make love with him.

You can spend time with other guys, without asking his permission.

Don’t sacrifice your free time and favorite activities to listen his problems. He doesn’t deserve that.

If you are still not sure what is undefined relations, my male friend said to me this : “I found girl and we are not declared relation yet. We are dating three times at week, and meanwhile i got numbers from other girls. I am not ready yet.” Who can blame him, for game takes two.

Girls, if you doubt in nature of your friend/boyfriend, ask some confident male friend what he thinks about this. Men know the best other men and sometimes you will hear cruel truth from their mouth, because women are too romantic and sensitive to see things clear.

How is it feel when love is platonic?

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“I love him as best friend and brother. We understand each other as twins. He touched my spirit. But, i have no desires toward him.
This is definition of platonic love, relation about two persons based on friendship, without passion. When people make excuses why to stay together in relation which is not hot, they talk about platonic love. They will talk about stars which lose light with years. They will talk about common bills instead of kiss. Also, they will see family and relatives every time when they wish to make love. This kind of love should be free of every spontaneous reaction, anger, jealousy or rage. Platonic couple is connected with blood relation, and there is no jealousy because they have mutual roots.
I could mention many couples who fit into definition of platonic love. So, some of my female friends talked about this feeling, even they have no clue that is platonic.
” I don’t know am i fall in love or just loved by him. I mean, my ex, we were so hot, but my husband gives me safety. “
 
” We are not hot kids anymore. But we will grow old together. “
” Sex doesn’t matters anymore. We trust each other “
 
Platonic love is relation with weakness. There is always danger, when one person is more hungry for passion. Imagine Jean and Gavin. She was wild girl, and he was cool, flegmatic guy. Jean had power to excite Gavin, and he had power to make Jean calm. Butterflies were not around them after few years, but pure love was there. One day Jean fall in love in Marco, guy from internet. They connected through social network, in chat. First, she hated him because he was arrogant and rude, with ironic sense for jokes, he was mocking her on first sight. Later, they were fighting as warriors. How she could not stand him! Suddenly, they kissed and revealed new part of themselves. They wrote thousand hot messages, Jean explode as bomb. She was dry wood , and Marco made big flame, just with few steps. In the moment, Jean is flying between her marriage and virtual affair.
When two people share platonic love, they should be honest.
Some promises are necessary.
I can’t stay with you forever.
 
If you want to let go, i will agree. I don’t hold you.
 
If i sleep with someone, i take this piece which i miss. 
 
I am sure we will talk and deal about everything. We don’t bring quick decisions, we are reasonable duo. 
 
We care for each other health, we worry about each other but we have control. We will not make love in beach as crazy couple.
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Platonic love is flower without smell, or this smell disappeared with time. If you want to be spared of pain , platonic love is ideal for you because all is clear at beginning. Once when you start to accept things with heart, you will get out from platonic zone.

How you deal with obstacles in your life?

When you have to deal with problems, usually you will get advice: “Be strong.” Our characters are different and we will handle our hard moments on different ways.

 

Someone will cry and breakdown is possible.

You pass through tough breakup or divorce? You will need hand, but the main decision is on you, how you will handle this situation. If you are strong person, you will not ring on the door of your friends every time when you feel sad and when your ex is missing you. Very important part is your pride. Face it with problems because they will not run away over night.

Life can be as earthquake, ground is shaking under your feet when bad things start to ruin your safety. Time of crises is an explosion. Bomb is here, your life will crush, you will collect small pieces , behind of you is sound of rattle and you are lost. Strong person will consider this situation as challenge. Well, life is testing me, so let me see how i can deal with this. I am fighter, so my odds are not big, but i am in the game. That moron left me and i will find better guy. In fact he do me a favor. I had no power to leave him, but i will be enough strong not to call him back.

If you are weak, you will think about suicide, because for you now is end of the world.
I will not love anyone as i loved him, he was everything to me and my life is over, so i will start to plan my funeral. This pathetic elegy is the main problem of weak people, they give up even they still have chance to fix things. We can see this difference in childhood. Little weak boy lose in monopoly game. He will cry, he is furious and next time he will not play, because he afraid of defeat. His friend is brave guy. He will also lose, but he can’t wait next time. This is adrenaline, challenge. He is very happy to get this kind of revenge. Now i will smash him and i will win, this is how he thinks.

 

When you got bad mark at school, will you give up from studying? Let’s leave school, all this is shit and i don’t want to bother anymore. Or, you will prove to teacher that you are not idiot. You are candidate for excellent mark next time.

 

Life is not fairy tale. If anyone thinks that life is just unwrapped gift, that person is very wrong. We can see in movies that some people can get anything because they are benefited, powerful or simply lucky. This is not realistic view. Behind every victory and happiness is a background. If you dig into other’s life, you will see pain, grief, struggle. Ask reach businessman how he gets success. His money doesn’t come from the sky right into his hands. It was hard battle, and way to success was full of thorns.

Darwin said: “Only the strongest survive.” The strongest people are not those who are over 100 kilograms weight . They are not wrestlers or kick boxers. Real strength came out from clear mind. You might beat everyone if you are resistant, if you don’t give up and if you believe in yourself. If someone thinks opposite, make a challenge. Real fighter will respond on your challenge. Coward will hide in the rat hole and eventually, he will gossip you behind your back.

Did you want to get rid of bad partner?

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A bird in hand is better than two in the bush. Can you base your relation on this proverb? If you can, your keyword is safe zone. Now here is another extremity. What would you say that someone gives you partner as gift? You think that is impossible. Well, this gift is Trojan horse, but you are not aware of this yet.

When you fall in love, you are able to do anything for person who captured your heart. Some actions will be insane , because steps in love are made by blind and deaf person. You don’t care what others say because in front of you is just one aim – person you love. In this searching, you will refuse to see humility, dishonor and mocking by third parts. This is price you pay, and nothing is expensive for your soulmate. Or you think so.

 

How is possible that your  partner is gift with suspicious content?

You are second choice. Or third or fourth.

Guy came in night club and ask for a girlfriend. After 3  girls rejected his offer for drink, you might be forth, and he will pay attention on you because your friends rejected him.

His ex abandoned him, and he desperately seeks for replacement.

Fresh breakup is cruel thing. Time to recover his ego, and the best option is another girlfriend.

His mother recommended him to date with you, and he is not in situation to say no.

 

Maybe your parents are best friends, business partners of your possible soulmate or they just like to pick instead of you.

His ex wants to get rid of him but her all attempts fails.

 

Sometimes, guys don’t want to listen word no. They run for their ex, as “it is not over until i finish this. ” So, maybe his ex wants to forward him to other women.

Think about your ex relations. Would you do favor for your ex, who is still in love with you, just to bury feeling of guilt, would you help him to find someone else? That is not easy task. Sometimes, he can compare new person to you, and this woman could be in situation “if she wants him back, i will be kicked out as shit. ” Some girls are selfish. They break up with guys , but still they wants to be part of their lives. So, they will call them even they don’t want to date with them again. They will ask for help even they can ask someone else. Simply, they don’t want to break the last connection between them and ex boyfriend.

Travis was in turbulent relation with Rose. They were split few times, and meanwhile he was with another girls. Every time when Travis started something new, Rose involved to ruin him this. Travis was Trojan horse. They could not be together, but also separation was hard for them. New girl came on scene in this story. Helen was in love in Travis and they were two months together. Rose decided to let him go, they had mutual deal not to talk and not to meet again. On New year’s Eve Travis broke that deal. He was in the same night club as Rose, but with Helen. In midnight, Travis wanted to wish happy New year for Rose. Helen was following him and stand next to Rose, to talk with her. Rose was furious. She was angry more on Travis, who broke the deal. She said some bad things to Helen, it was not pleasant night. Few days later Helen broke relation with Travis. She did not wanted to stay with guy who did not cut his past.

There is statement about men, who will harder fall out from love than women. Some women are fatal for them.

Is that broken heart or broken ego, or just wish to prove that they can have that girl, but they don’t want? Proud girls, wild girls and girls with strong attitude are always the most greatest trophies. Sometimes guy will feel humiliation when such girl say that is over.

If you think that some guy falls too soon for you, if he wants to marry you after few months, if he is down on his knees and full of sweet words, think about is he maybe Trojan horse. Maybe in his background is woman who broke his heart, and you are just replacement behind curtains.

Why i don’t like Monday?

 

In year 1979 , at Cleveland Elementary School in San Diego, Brenda Ann Spencer was shooting and killed two people. Eight were injured in this terrible event, and when police ask her why she did it, she replied :”I don’t like Mondays. ” She was only 16 and she surrended immediately , without resistance. She inspired Bob Geldof to write song “Why i don’t like Monday”, and Boomtown Rats made music, so it was favourite song on top lists, as reminder on this terrible crime.

Monday phenomenon is not an exception, because many of us will say “i hate Monday.” No matter if you get up early for school, or you are travelling on the road to your job, you will notice traffic jam or crowd and it will upset you, especially because you realized that weekend is over. Our body and mind are in shock, because after relaxing we must back to reality and daily obligations. You will not shoot nobody, but you will be furious , nervous and frustrated.

It is not recommended that you have exam or business meeting in Monday morning. Your mind is still sleepy and even bunch of coffee cups will not help you. Remember how many times you did not sleep well at Sunday, because tomorrow is damn Monday and your duties are waiting for you.

Accord this statistic, mostly car accidents, 1072 happen between Sunday and Monday, at midnight and 3 a.m.

Results from researching in Hong Kong, from 1989-2001 shown that Monday is suicide day. 22% of suicides were committed at Monday. They made conclusion, suicides happens because of family arguments, which started at weekend and continued in Monday.

Why is Monday such notorious day ?

You realise that your problems start again, even you may forgot it at weekends.

If you delayed something, Monday will remind you on deadline.

If you started diet and broke your rules at weekend, you must start again from Monday.

You are unsleepy after party nights with lot of alcohol.

Your vacation is over and you must back to work.

 

Monday is indeed cut from fantasies and return to reality. This day is useful as alert. Brenda Ann Spencer made terrible action to pull attention on herself.

Did she choose Monday randomly or with purpose? We can guess.