He doesn’t care about your past if he is into you

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One of the most salty questions between women is about their sexual status. If you ask women do they masturbate mostly will say no and hide it from publicity. If you ask them about their fetish they will cover mouth with hand and say no. If you ask them are they promiscuous they will also say no. Here i am talking about representative , average woman as example . I was talking with many women on internet, from different countries, and despite of feminism, mostly women will not talk about their privacy unless they trust you as best friend.

If you ask women are they easy or hard target, of course every woman will say that she is not easy to get. What is the point is not their level of surrender, because in some stage of life every woman will obey to one man or to make something stupid which is not for bragging about. Being easy or hard don’t make differences, the point is how much you can hold to yourself.

If you think that being unavailable makes you hard target, or that being wild makes you easy, you are in deep illusion.

Let’s see in this example. Celia is a virgin, 35 years old. Accord her religious beliefs and traditional values in her family, every woman who sleeps with man who is not her husband is dirty woman. She finds them as easy and filthy. Celia is pure and she waits for her man, also her taste is very high, so she wants to get rich man, handsome as model, gentleman who will be faithful to her. She was not without admirers cause she is not ugly, indeed she is cute average woman. What was her failure, she is not interesting catch for man’s population on the way she wanted to be. She was dating with men but they can’t touch her properly. She runs even from kiss. Her heart was broken because she did not want to sleep with her big love, so he went to have sex with another woman. Celia said ” look at me, i am hard woman, i will wait for my husband and then i will sleep with him. ” Until now, there is not candidate for her. What she did was considered as hard, but her mind was very easy. A man promised her to visit her and get marry with her. He was from another country. He did not show up even she was waiting for him. Her virgin’s mind made her as easy target for illusions, as hard target for sex adventures.

There we got to another question, what is easy, and what is hard?

Hard targets are not by default virgins, religious women, those who are rigid and unavailable for men. They could be frustrated, but not so hard.

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Real hard target is this woman:

She has attitude. If you betray her, she might sex with you, but you will get dumped after this.

She is loyal. If she chose you, she will not chase another man. She expects the same from you.

She is silent and keep your secrets and trust.

She will reject other men.

Level of easy is not tightly connected with physical touch. You might see innocent virgin who is flirting with men and don’t give chance to anyone because she is playing. You might see promiscuous woman who will stand by side and wait for the right man. When some woman is yelling : “No, he will not get me, i am not a whore. ” , there is a doubt that she doesn’t stand by her attitude. If you know you are not easy, why to prove that and to whom?

In this relations the main role is in intuition. Your availability depends on your inner voice. If you feel that man is into you, that you can trust him and that he returns you love, it will not be important what you do for him. You can sleep with him and say goodbye if you don’t feel good, that will not make you cheap. You can call him and say that you want him and you will see in his eyes how much is good this idea.

Here is statement of one man , who said the point: “My girlfriend, i was expecting that she will jump into bed with me first week. I know she was with many men after me, but she did not sleep with me 3 months. I would not change my opinion even if she did it anyway, because i liked her at first sight. It was something in her wilderness which made me impressed. “

 

How to treat immature jerk after breakup?

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Wise quote says: “About ex’s and dead people talk the best. ” When everyone should support this, breakups would be easier. Breakup by itself is hard thing, no matter how much compromises you got and how much time you spent in relation. Even relation faded or you started to feel boredom, when this moment come, one part of your life is over and you need to turn another page.

There are few truths about breakups:

You will see with whom you were in relation after he gone.

You will see how much person respected you after he gone.

You will see who is your replacement and that will be sign how much you meant to him.

Mature men will never talk bad about women after their relation finished. Simply, accord their beliefs, that is private thing. It is not necessary to talk about this with other family members, with friends, or neighbors. Let’s forget and move forward. She was awesome, but she was not the right one.

If you had bad luck to involve with jerk, things are different. Immature men are the ones with big ego. It has not anything with love. He maybe did not give a fuck , but now when you are not with him, you are the worst creature in this Earth. He must seek revenge, to prove others that you are bad half of this story, and that he was good guy.

After Marc split with Ellen, he was silent at first. His last words were : “Don’t call me, don’t disturb me, don’t write me. ” Ellen accepted this even she had period of sadness , because they split on ugly way. Two week passed, and then she found message in her inbox , at her social page. It was a photo, Marc with two women who hugged him. They were older than he and not pretty. Marc wanted to hurt Ellen, to show her muscles , because he wanted to see her pain. Instead of this, Ellen hit him in his weak spot, it was money . Marc had money debts, and Ellen knew he borrowed money from older ladies. So Ellen wrote to him : “Please don’t disturb me, i am busy. I hope that ladies paid you drink, and i am glad you found your soul mate, so at least you will leave me alone.”

Marc was furious. It was not what he expected. After all, she should be angry or sad, she should sink in tears. Instead of this, Ellen had good fun, she was sarcastic. She laughed to him. He did not write her again.

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What to do when you have to deal with immature jerk after breakup?

Be silent, even he provokes you.

If you reply him , make it short, and walk away with smile.

Block him messages or profile on social pages.

Block his number .

Don’t talk about him with his friends.

If he is persistent, tell him that you are very busy.

Don’t drag other people in your conflict. 

This situation could be painful. You might believe that he wants to get back to you, but truth is different. Such man seeks revenge, because you did something wrong accord his beliefs, you hurt his ego or he could not put you into cage. Dominant men are like these, they wish to humiliate independent women who will not listen every his word.

You need to draw a line between ego and romance. If he wanted to get back to you, he would apologize at first. He would send you flowers, talk nicely with you, and he would be alone. Men who jump into other relation soon after breakup is just a player. Or he is so insecure that he needs shoulder for crying.

The worst thing you can do is to make a conflict with his present girlfriend. She has nothing with you. She is here now, who knows how long she will stay, and after all, she got your luggage. She will see by herself what kind of character is this man.

7 signs that breakup is near

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Once when woman caught man of her dreams she will focus how to keep him. That is not easy task, because as much is hard to find soulmate, it is even harder to save this relation forever. Butterflies in stomach are here for 2 or 3 years, and then situation is changing. Our relation is ready for next chapter, so love will be deeper and more mature or we will lost interest. What connected us together at the start of this relation is not so important anymore. If we don’t grow together with time, simply this love will get lost. You loved this man because he was so passionate and wild in sex, but if his sexual skills are everything he could offer to you, sparks will fade and you will look into lazy guy who is unable to understand you.

There are some signs that relation will break. 


Which kind of atmosphere is intro in breakup? When we will know what is not meant to be?

Battlefield in relation. Conflicts from time to time are healthy for relation, but if you fight with your partner day by day and if your every conversation ends with ugly words, this is not sign of love. You and partner are holding a rope, and everyone drag on their side. This will be very tense and too much conflicts will lead into breakup.

Too much secrets. You live with this guy but he is mystery to you? What kind of job he works, why he never talk about his father and where he disappears from time to time? If you can’t trust to your partner, you live with stranger. Who knows, maybe he has another family somewhere. 

Too much freedom. Everyone has right on own space in relation, but person in marriage or in serious relation can’t be equal to single person. If you do what you wish without asking opinion of your second half, you are not devoted. This relation is burden to you, and your partner live is constantly fear that one day you will go to buy cigarettes and that you will not come back. Probably it will be like that.

Lack of respect. There is no love without respect. You can have great sex with person who doesn’t give you respect, but this is far from love. If your partner did not introduce you to his family or friends, if he is dating with other women behind your back, he is disrespectful.

Despair. There is no relation which will have success if you beg or force partner to stay with you. You can’t blackmail partner with children , suicide or tears. Some women will say “i will forgive infidelity because he is always coming back. ” There are some women who will even pimp another women to his man, in hope that he will never leave them if they allow such freedom in marriage. That is pathetic and worthy of condolence. 

Silence and closed mouth. Some marriages are based on secret pledge. Man is master of the house, and woman will shut up her mouth. He gives order, she is here to listen and do accord his wishes. During years, women will suffer more and more and one day she can decide to leave this community where is no freedom of speech.

Abusing. In this world is much abused women, but not every of them will complain or try to get out from this situation. This is not rare that woman will talk about how she is clumsy that she falls and hit herself at the door. Black eye and broken mouth are sign that you need to leave. You are in danger, not only your self respect, you can be in life danger too.

Love relation is house, based on safe material. If you built your love with trust, honesty, mutual respect and patience, this result will show up as crown with years. But if you deceive yourself with lies, promises and expectations without any good reason behind that, you are actor in own delusional theater. This is circus, and you are clown. At the end, when your relation is over, this is not surprise. This crowded house exploded in the air. This booby trap is activated a long time ago, just you were blind to see that.

Are you mate poacher?

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Did you lurk someone who is taken? Or someone lurked your partner, even that person knew that he is taken? Mate poaching is developed strategy how to make distance between two person in relation and to sit in other’s place, with time. Imagine that you want to sit in VIP seats in cinema, but they are booked. So you can start fight that you reserved the same number and if you are enough aggressive maybe you win this seats. Similar thing happens with mate poaching, try to push other person in intention to get her partner.
When relation got tempted, it depends on partners how strong is their love. It doesn’t make difference is your opponent more rich, smarter or more attractive. The point is, how many holes exist in your relation.
Why mate poaching is not rarity? Why to chase person who is already taken?
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There are few reasons.
Person who is taken looks happy . Happiness attract people, and some of them think, i could be happy with her because she has ability to cherish relation.
Person who is taken has experience. It is hard to make new start, so if you sleep with virgin, that is much harder than with someone who is already experienced.
Person who is taken is popular. It is like a brand of new clothes, which everyone wants to wear.
Person who is taken is safe target. So, if it works with his partner, why not with you also?
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I had experience with mate poaching. When i start to date with my husband, he had good friend. That woman  Y was his class mate and at first sight i did not doubt that she has bad intention. But, when number of messages on his phone start to rise, i realized that she ask any excuses to talk with him. She was careful so she commented my pictures as “nice girl”, because she wanted to get some points by his side. In the same time, i was very nervous. Her messages became part of our day. We were eating, and his cell phone was ringing. Y passed hard exam so she wanted to share this with him. Y had good meal so she sent him message to notify him. Then we started to argue. I was nagging and he called me jealous. I could not persuade him that she is disturbing us. Then i changed strategy and waited her mistakes. I was silent but my face was grumpy all the time. He saw that i am unhappy and he said that he will say to her to stop. That happened, he called her and said on polite way that her behavior is not right, that i am angry, and he did not wish to see me upset. She started to back up, and her last sentence was ” i did not mean nothing bad really. ” We never saw that women after this . Probably she is busy to chase another man who is taken.
Did you experienced situation when more girls want the same guy? This moment when fatal guy comes into night club with his girlfriend and other girls drool for him. They wish to sabotage his relation, even hundred other guys wait for soulmate, even they are single.
If you are mate poacher, have this on your mind:
Sometimes, it can work out. But only if you involve between couple who would break up anyway. You will just put final nail in their coffin.
You can be target of revenge. If you wish to poach, another side will not sit and wait how you are stealing her partner. You can get embarrassed or even physically hurt.
Your target can reject you. If man is taken and if he is smart too, he will say NO.
Friends and relatives of your competitor could hate you. It is not good when crowd turns against you. Egg in face is just a little part of this show.
If person is married, you can fall into legal hole , as participant in their divorce.
Your inner peace will be ruined. 
My ex friend was poaching taken man. He was in marriage and she was calling him on phone. When his mother in law found this out, she called her on her workplace. Soon all her workmates knew how she tries to break marriage. She was subject of gossips few months.
Relation with single person is piece of cake.
There are two of you and nobody stand between. When you want relation with person who is taken , you have ticket for  trouble. If he isn’t decide yet, maybe he sits on two chairs, and you will suffer with his decisions. Why not to have both? That is quote of some men. Mate poacher is animal without protection, and when hunting season begins, all kind of weapons are allowed. Don’t get surprise if you get out with wounds.

Is it possible to change man’s nature?

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I wish he stops drinking. I wish he stops staring at another women. I wish he stops smoking. I wish he is different.

Since childhood woman has vision about her man. He should be handsome, kind, rich, smart ? He should be wild and brave, her hero? Reality faces us with different men, and many of them will not fit into our standards. What if you wished hero who will stand at your side, and he is a chicken? What if you dreamed about faithful guy, and he is so flirty that you can’t handle this?

We women wish to have magic stick to correct failures in some men, to fit them accord our wishes , but it is not real. Even if you manage to change guy for a while, will you like him then? Maybe this change won’t fit him, as some clothes won’t fit to you, or he will stop to be your challenge?

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What kind of guys are candidates for woman’s frustrations?

Playboys.

Drinkers.

Immature men with Peter Pan syndrome.

Mama’s boys.

Skimpy guys.

Women wish to believe in some myths how certain man can change. Women love to hear stories about guy on emotional rehab, who was big fucker and suddenly he settled down. So, while some women will be fascinated with changes, others will be sad because they did not manage to do this in their time and competition won.

For example, X guy said:

“I knew she was the right one because i was stop drinking with her. “

The same X talked many years the same story:

“I am not for serious relation. I am fucker. “

Women will wrongly think that they can change men , but real truth lays in man’s character. Ladies, he will not change because you told him, he will change when he wish and when circumstances ask this from him.

Man Y was bad mannered, he was fucking girls in basement and left many broken hearts. When he got married with local rich girl, he wanted to capture her father’s affection so he started to read, go to courses to learn foreign language and this change was unbelievable for everyone who knew him.

Another point lays in opposite psychology. Ladies, man will not change because you told him, and when you force him or beg him, he will do opposite and things will get worse. Instead of pressure you put him, make opposite. Let him to do what he wish until he face it with own bad habits .

Man Q was smoker and his girlfriend wanted from him to quit this bad habit. He was hiding in front of her, but when she was not there, he was smoking again. Once his girlfriend saw him from her car, he was walking with cigarette in mouth. She said him: “I am leaving you, you lie to me”, and that relation was over because Q did not want to be her slave.

On other hand, man W had lot of flirts, his eyes was always staring in women . His girlfriend was angry and desperate, but then she decided to stay calm. They were at party together, she let him to talk with women, she pretend that she is not mad at all. She let him to kiss her friend into cheek, to give them compliments. When she started to do the same with her male friends, man W changed his focus. He kept asking “who is he, and what is he to you”, and his girlfriend enjoyed in this situation. Soon man W became more careful and gentle to her, because he was afraid to lose so patient woman.

Ladies, your man is investment. You need to invest in  him, your time, your patience, your wisdom. Sometimes is good to be silent and close eyes on his mistakes. Next time you will have joker in your hands. Persuade him that you are worthy of change, that you understand him. Then, when he shows cooperation with your wishes, change direction. Tell him that he made you happy with his change. Then do something for him. Make him happy with your change, prove him that you will not nag for every tiny reason, that you will not yell if he doesn’t wash dishes every day and that you will watch with him his favorite sport channel.

Change is indeed exchange. You wish he change for you? Good, give him reason why.

 

Makeup sex

15095077_1358561900823096_3544870188036048831_nThey were arguing whole day, and they could not make agreement. She was stubborn, and he was macho type, who believed that man should be boss. Suddenly he kissed her, she fall in his arms  and they made love whole night. In the morning they start to argue again, about the same things.
So called makeup sex is one of ways how to solve problems with your partner. When two different characters fall in love, their relation will often look as battlefield. Especially if that differences are expressed in important areas of life, couple will make many efforts to create harmony. Here is the question, what will win in the end, their love or ego?
Sean and Paula met each other in the shopping mall. They were in crowd and Sean had problem with credit card, so he caused big line at the pay desk. Everyone was furious, and Paula send him to hell. He invited her in coffee bar as sign of an apology and their relation started at this way. Soon they realized that they are as dog and cat. Paula was liberal woman, and Sean was traditional and conservative. He complaint even about her clothes, that she should change her style, because her skirts were too short and accord him, she was seducing men on such way. Also he never wanted to admit his mistakes, and many times Paula apologized to him, even he was wrong one.
Paula had weak spot, she adored sex with Sean. When they made love, all differences were vanished, their bodies made understanding so clear. It was not important who is right, and who is wrong. Paul erased all conflicts with his kisses and Paula was blind on his failures. One day, Paula found track of lipstick on his shirt and it woke up her doubts. When he was showering, she checked his cell phone. There were bunch of romantic messages. She was quiet, but next time when Paul started to complain about something, she was cold toward him. She even rejected sex. Then she got the point how makeup sex was temporary solution, because problems were still here. She caught moment to sit and talk with Paul, and he accepted. They made progress by talking and in the moment their relation is on transit zone, because Paul realized that he did something bad.
You can see in romantic movies how man will rip clothes and push his beloved woman on the bed, as in “9 and half week” or “Basic instinct”. Later, that passion will not solve problems, they will still be in stand by position.
Women are especially sensitive after sex, so they will made some questions.
How could he insult me after sex?
 
How could he call her after sex with me?
 
Sheets are still warm from our passionable night, and he went without explanation.
 
How it doesn’t work out? I thought, after that night, everything will be allright.
 
Men will think different, because sex is field of their power. If you can’t win woman with words, take her into bed and show her who is the boss. They will separate love from sex and if they don’t love women who are their sex mates, it will be tough.
Makeup sex is not good way to solve problems with your boyfriend or husband. That is good intro, but never solution.
If you don’t have mind connection and understanding with your darling, even kama sutra will not help you .

Forbidden love with spouse

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Many articles talk about women who fall in love in married men. They are considered as victims, delusional or marriage breakers. Words are not saved, so slut, whore or bitch is not rare name for mistresses.

What happens when situation is an opposite? When single man falls in love in married women, how society look at this? Famous Richard Branson waited one year that his present wife divorce from her former husband. He loved married woman.

What kind of men can fall in love in married woman and got involved with her?

Men who had no luck in love. His partners are always wrong, and he is already so disappointed that he gave up from love.

Playboys. He ask perfect opportunity for relation without obligation, and married woman can’t commit to him cause he is already obligated to her husband.

Teenagers and young man in twenties. Their fantasies in bed starts with married teachers, neighbors or his friend’s mother.

Man with Peter Pan syndrome. He is afraid to commit and married woman is ideal for this.

Men in midlife crises. He is already divorced or he never got married, but he needs warm body next to him.

Now, this kind of affair has some rules, and if mad husband will not catch you , you need to stick to some rules:

As married man, spouse will not divorce in mostly cases. She needs refreshment, not commitment.

Husband is in first plan, so forget about spending holidays and vacation with her. 

Don’t make her feel guilty. You knew she is married so you have no power as her husband.

Don’t be jealous. She will sleep with her husband too, at least she is a wife.

Expect messages and calls in unpredictable time. She can’t know when she is free. 

In such situation, society will pity for man who got involved with spouse, and judge her who is cheater and marriage breaker. In situation where man is cheater, society will judge his mistress. In both situations, women are in worse positions, because mistress is a slut as cheating wife is a slut.

I wish to say, man can also found out himself in difficult situation. What started as sex can finish as broken heart. Man’s heart is also not from stone, he can really fall in love in spouse who is already taken. Then, what’s next? Do you want this woman because she is forbidden or you really want to steal her to be your wife?

In some situation fooled women fails and chose donkey instead of horse. She got divorce, but her lover is not interested for her anymore. It was great until here was drama and forbidden space. Now, when here are dishes and bills, all is routine, too much obligations and this is not funny anymore.

That happens with affairs, you never know when it could be worse. If you cut of affair and your husband still doesn’t know anything, you are saved. If you continue this road to hell, you can expect everything. Two or three broken hearts or another marriage? Time will show until you still have it enough guts to wait.

 

7 type of relation’s killers

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Some couples looks so perfect at first sight that you could never believe in their breakup. What could separate them, they fit so perfect? As time is passing by, and if you scratch under surface, you will see how tiny things can ruin good relation and you were not pay attention on this.

What kind of things can separate one couple?

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Ignorance.  That is cold killer. Silence is lethal.  Things whats left unsaid hurt the most.

Secrets behind back. Something what is important, you never said to your partner, and you should say it on time.

Return in past. Go forget past mistakes and leave it behind you. If you warn your partner all the time because of something what happens many years ago, you are torching him.

Avoiding serious conversation. If you don’t want to hear what your partner wish to say, you disrespect him.

Constantly nagging, make your partner’s faults bigger than it is. 

Never say compliments.  We all need praising, our ego needs cuddling, especially from person we love.

Never show gratitude for things what partner did to you.

Relations are like sea. On first sight, it looks beautiful blue, crystal clear and nice for enjoy. If you look into depth you will see dangerous sharks, jellyfish ready to burn you and unpleasant sea plants. That are problems in your relations, which you did not pay attention at first sight. You look as excellent couple. Both sweet, both nice and with good manners, both educated, without stain on your reputation. How many of us are like that? Then, one day , someone got hurt. She cheated. He beaten her. Nothing is the same anymore. How this happen, from where troubles arrived? It was in front of our nose, the fact how one partner started to feel alone in this relation. Now, you look at partner as on your rival, not as on your second half. How to get revenge? Will you roast him?

We forgot about love, that we started because we felt love. When love died and when hate took its place? If we wish to heal, we need to get back on moments which makes us happy.

You and your partner were dancing, listening music, making jokes together, even mock another people together. Now you are only silent, each one in their corner, waiting for a miracle to recover your relation. That miracle is hidden in you, inside.

Love birds at workplace

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Love doesn’t pick time and place. You can fall in love everywhere and anytime. People will tell the funniest stories about how they met and where they fall in love. Love is blind because romantic arrows will hit you in unpleasant time or in inappropriate place. 

One of places which is not recommended as love oasis is workplace. Don’t shit where you eat, it could be related to this. Melinda fall in love in his boss and even worse, she shared office with him. He was married and she felt as schoolgirl at first date. She was blushing every time when he gave her compliment, and her behavior was so clumsy. So she forgot to do calls to some important people, her files were messy and nobody was fascinated with her. They never realize relation, even sparks were visible. Her boss said that they work together and that is against rules. Some private companies will even have internal law about love relation between colleagues. It will be forbidden, for the sake of business. It is understandable, because workplace is not zoo, that two people can jump around and pinch each other whenever they like. They would look as monkeys.

Let’s see some side effect when you realize relation at workplace.

Boredom. If you spend time with your soulmate at work and then out of work, this is big potential for conflicts. 

Jealousy. Every other woman at work is possible threat to your relation, you can see this with different eyes. If he involved with you, why he could not flirt with others too?

Bad results. Your relation could be as roller coaster, full of ups and downs. Work will suffer and it will affect to your business success.

Gossips. You will not care what others think, but if you get promotion, people will not say that you deserve that. They will say that your skills in bed are amazing and that your boss promoted you because of this.

In extreme cases, you can be fired . You may have conflict with your lover and if he is able to do vengeance, when you break up, he will use this as reason against you. Two flies with one hit, you will lose him and job. 

Relation at work are not rarity. Stressful atmosphere will bring sparks and people become horny. 


When two colleagues are too close, when they have common language which is understandable only to them, you can bet on affair. Body language is also good proof. They hug each other too often and they exchange too much tenderness. 

Everyone knew when Josephine fall in love in new man at work. Craig was so charming and they were all the time together, their lunch pause was extended only for them. Everyone who wanted to join to them had feeling that he is disturbing to love birds. Soon they declared their relation, but Josephine got new business offer. They dealt that it will be better to separate their job from romance.

Imagine scene when you spend hot night with your colleague from work. Next morning you are coming at work and he is waiting in office with cup of coffee in his hand. Sounds perfect? Then, you wish to cuddle with him in office chair, but phone is ringing or nervous clients are behind your door. You are going to toilet, and he grabs your butt, while someone is looking at you. Maybe is cool at first sight, but later it will be unpleasant for both. If you disagree about project with him, he will not get your ideas serious. He will ask you did you like what he did to you last night or you wish to try something different. 

It is different when you start common business with your partner. Then you know each other very well because you share life with him. But, if you meet man of your life at work, that is situation where you hold rose with thorn. Squeeze it too tight and you will bleed.

Why smart women pick bad guys?

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She is pretty, smart and successful. She is well educated and from good family. Yet, she constantly pick wrong men and on that way leaves impression as she is stupid woman. Her emotional intelligence falls down when she is dating a guy. 

Do you know such women? Maybe she is your friend, sister or someone you care about. She is in relation with men who doesn’t deserve her, but he is not first man she failed. Simply, her choice is disaster.

People wonder why some smart women can’t read bad guys and why they finish in bad relations. Why they are humiliated, abused , damaged by guys who are under their level. By default, they have all terms for great romance. Still, they pick guy who make them miserable.

The answer is : adrenaline. This feeling when your blood pressure raise and heart beats faster because he is near you. You will ask, why good guy can’t give you adrenaline you wish?

If you are this type, there are 80% chances that you will date bad guy:

Problematic childhood.

Woman was bullied, abused by men. Unsolved trauma left scarves, she will face with bad guy to make final fight with her past.

Teacher syndrome.

She is smart, but her ego thinks she can change him for a better. So she pick guys who are less educated, less stable, much younger or maybe in conflict with law.

She is not ready for commitment.

Some women will fear of marriage and children. Her conscience doesn’t want obligation. Randomly, she will chose guy who is not marriage type.

Hot tempered woman.

She likes fights, discussions, conflicts. She feels alive during quarrel. 

She likes challenges.

Bad guy is good example for challenges. He despise authorities and doesn’t care for society rules.

An opposite to general beliefs of bad luck, this kind of woman is not someone without luck. She was born to meet with someone who will make her unhappy, because her roots and her DNA invited him. You are what your thoughts do to you. 

This is how this looks like, when woman X talked about her type of guy:

I despise boredom. I will not gave birth to child, i don’t want wash dishes and clean. I want sex every day. I want to be always in love. “

The solution would be in the middle. Such woman in youth has chances to pass through many experiences. After 10 or 15 years, she will get a point. She will understand that adrenaline is not sourced only in bad guys. When good guy wants to leave you because you don’t appreciate his love toward you, your fear will raise until the end. This kind of adrenaline, you might lose someone who is your great partner will make you think. 

Woman who was once on bad path will ask herself does she want to pass again in this road. If she is really smart, she will not.

Smart woman will get sober when her bad guy breaks relation with her, because of other woman, who is under her level. Now, he chose her, and she is so ordinary, not glamorous, not educated, but she got him, right? And you can get everyone you want but you wanted him, because he did not get you serious.